It's why I've never used it even though my Rheumatologist thinks I should try.
I used to sleepwalk. I'm afraid I'll do some really wild/dangerous stuff if I use a hypnotic.
I sleep walk. Not since I had kids. But in college I used to wake up in different rooms all the time. I had to have my roommate wake me because my alarm was in my room and I usually wasn't by morning. My SIL's mom was taking ambian and she cooked in the middle of the night. That scared her, she could have cut herself or burnt the house down. Totally freaked her out.
Yep.
My mom and sisters have stories of me cooking, showering, getting them up in the middle of the night to drive me to school because I was late, etc.
As far as I know, I haven't done in at least 10 years.
We have a small house so no baby monitor needed when we're all upstairs 😉. Dd sleeps in our room and her white noise app is on the entire night, dh and I joke that we've been in a womb for 9+ months ourself and that it's time to get out! I need to get into the mindset that she's is going to cry and that that's okay. It's a good thing I have a few days to prepare myself.
Can you transition her out of your room? I am sure smelling the milk doesn't make avoiding it either. Even if she shares a room with DS, the weekend will be the best time for it. It is just like the pacifier, a few hard nights and then a new routine is worked out. Maybe lay her down in the other room and bring her in for feedings this week then YH does all of it over the weekend? Also, don't get set in the "he works so he needs his sleep" mindset. You are working too, he can get up and go to work sleepy just like the rest of us working women, don't feel like you are burdening him to take regular evening wakeups. If you don't want to transition her I don't think there will be any changes lasting effect (due to sensing the milk) but you should at least take some melatonin and sleep on the couch for the weekend.
The bolded took me a long time to get to. And I don't know why. It's absurd! Why is his sleep more important than mine... It's not! But I think we as women are somehow programmed to believe this.
I am much happier since I realized this. And MH still sleeps through much of it. But now I just wake him up and say "your turn! I'm going back to sleep!"
Post by klongoria11 on Mar 20, 2017 14:47:45 GMT -5
nam2013, just make a schedule. That helped at our house. MH now gets night duty on Wednesday, Friday and Saturday nights. Since you don't want to interfere with his work schedule, maybe just start off with Friday and Saturday nights. Just that small break will do wonders for your sleep and health.
Wasn't it Ambien that people were taking and sleep eating? I seem to remember news reports of people gaining weight on it and it turned out it was because they were binge eating in their sleep.
I'm quite possibly dating myself here, but hey, getting older happens.
Post by klongoria11 on Mar 20, 2017 16:01:51 GMT -5
+1 to sleep walking. My parents used to put chairs in front of the doors so they could hear me trying to leave.
Cadence sleep talks and when she slept with me she would stand up in the bed and clap(before she could talk). She still crawls across the bed at times when we sleep at my Dad's. Scares the crap out of me.
Post by mamabear13 on Mar 20, 2017 17:43:28 GMT -5
nam2013, hugs. As others have said, I think getting more sleep, however you can , will help immensely. And although I was not in the same situation with L, I remember going to talk to someone a few times when he was about a month old helped a ton, just to get feelings off my chest.
Post by wineallthetime on Mar 20, 2017 19:20:32 GMT -5
Catching up!
nam2013, oh huge hugs. First off, you say you feel bad mentioning your struggles because you are fortunate to have 2 amazing kids, a great marriage, ect. Yes, it's great you recognize that, but that doesn't mean your problems aren't problems. You are allowed to feel frustrated, sad, defeated, ect even though others may have bigger problems.
You are always able to vent here! Does J have a room? I only mention because I noticed L started sleeping better once we moved her. I think our noises were bothering her. Could be worth a shot, though I know it's a hard step. She can always be moved back!
I'm so glad it sounds like you have a great and supportive H and the two of you are trialing some things in hopes of some better sleep.
So they are taking my dad for a CT scan because they are concerned about the possibility of a pulmonary embolism. Apparently his dr recently switched his blood thinner to a different one. He's prone to blood clots...so hopefully that's not it.
It's the ever present assumption of knowing exactly what to do. It's rude. No one is in her house except for her and her husband. Telling someone what to do and writing 'do it' over and over again is self..whats the word I'm looking for here...self satisfying.
I think it was telling her to do something about the situation. There were several scenarios posed all with the intent of not letting the current status of sleep deprivation or being overwhelmed. Also with the understanding of the small living quarters and family near by. I am concerned for and reacted in return. But I also thought I posted that I know she hasn't wanted to spend time away from them. I just wanted to do more than hair pats
No clue how nam is feeling about anything, so these are my own thoughts to this. I think there is a difference between offering suggestions and blatantly telling someone what to do when you don't know their story. I saw a lot of suggestions and support flying around which is great. I also saw some "you need to do this" comments which frustrated me, and REALLY would've frustrated me if I had been the one struggling.
So they are taking my dad for a CT scan because they are concerned about the possibility of a pulmonary embolism. Apparently his dr recently switched his blood thinner to a different one. He's prone to blood clots...so hopefully that's not it.
I think it was telling her to do something about the situation. There were several scenarios posed all with the intent of not letting the current status of sleep deprivation or being overwhelmed. Also with the understanding of the small living quarters and family near by. I am concerned for and reacted in return. But I also thought I posted that I know she hasn't wanted to spend time away from them. I just wanted to do more than hair pats
No clue how nam is feeling about anything, so these are my own thoughts to this. I think there is a difference between offering suggestions and blatantly telling someone what to do when you don't know their story. I saw a lot of suggestions and support flying around which is great. I also saw some "you need to do this" comments which frustrated me, and REALLY would've frustrated me if I had been the one struggling.
Thanks for your perspective. I'll be sure to be more aware of my wording. I definitely didn't intend to put out a 'you must do this' message.
No clue how nam is feeling about anything, so these are my own thoughts to this. I think there is a difference between offering suggestions and blatantly telling someone what to do when you don't know their story. I saw a lot of suggestions and support flying around which is great. I also saw some "you need to do this" comments which frustrated me, and REALLY would've frustrated me if I had been the one struggling.
Thanks for your perspective. I'll be sure to be more aware of my wording. I definitely didn't intend to put out a 'you must do this' message.
I definitely wasn't talking about you and I thought your comments were fine. Also, in reading back I realized I missed the post about your mom. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Post by klongoria11 on Mar 20, 2017 20:48:20 GMT -5
I think everyone was just trying to be helpful, no one is forcing options down anyone's throat. I know I've been given advice in the past that just doesn't suit me or my lifestyle, but I don't get offended by it. I know everyone lives their lives differently and what works for some might not work for others. We were just letting her know some things that have worked in our homes. I missed the "go do xyz" post, since I mostly skimmed today due to watery blurry vision, but I'm sure no one was trying to be rude, just helpful.
I need a bug zapper. There are mammoth mosquitoes banging on our glass door. I swear they are as big as hummingbirds this year.
It did not get cold enough for long enough to kill the bugs here. This summer is going to be brutal.. 😑 and I attract them. I get bit within seconds of walking outside.
Yes, we had practically no winter and they are loving the random bouts of rain we've been getting.
Post by klongoria11 on Mar 20, 2017 21:34:17 GMT -5
mwhipple77 I hate news like that. I purposely don't watch the news because of all the sadness. I open a news website for local news and all I see is horrible people doing horrible things, or horrible accidents. Cadence and I are moving to a deserted island!
Girls I feel like I posted and ran yesterday, which really wasn't my intent at all. I need to get my kids ready to go to preschool/grandma, but I'll procrastinate at work and write a response later.
Not at all. You didn't post and run and even if you had, we all know your in a totally different time than us!
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