Wednesday brags

[akafred]

Let's hear them!

[greysonsmom]

Took DS for a haircut Monday he was able to sit in the chair himself, he still cried but I didn't have to hold him. Baby steps.

[akafred]

We lost my MIL's husband. He had been battling Stage.4 lung cancer for 2.5 years so we knew it was coming, though his QOL had been good until recently so we didn't expect it quite so soon. Anyway, DH went to his mom's on Sunday and I have been solo parenting while WFH. I can't say WFH has been that successful, but I have managed to get a lot of estimates on the minor stuff we need to do to sell the house, get DD to school and OT, med and fed and in bed. So yay me, that's a me brag. Charlotte has been incredible. She is handling his death with wisdom and grace but without drama and anxiety. She is beyond helpful both in mornings and evenings. IDK if it's the guanfacine or what. Last week was meh but we were on spring break in Pigeon Forge and the world revolved around her pretty much, and she didn't SEE a vegetable for a week. So this week being so cooperative and low drama has been really nice.

Oh, and I suggested she find a coloring book and crayons for the funeral because it isn't appropriate to take the iPad etc, and she said, "NO, I will be focusing on the funeral and not playing."

[greysonsmom]

Sorry for your loss akafred

[mamaturtle]

I am sorry for your loss akafred,

I only "liked" because of the brag of yourself and charlotte

[akafred]

Mar 22, 2017 17:32:46 GMT -5 mamaturtle said:

I am sorry for your loss akafred,

I only "liked" because of the brag of yourself and charlotte

I understand. I know you don't mean you like the loss. Although in a way I do because he had a lot of pain in recent months, but it didn't drag on as long as it could have. So that is good.

[cam]

akafred, sorry for your loss.

[namastebiotches]

sorry for you & your family's loss akafred

[namastebiotches]

I haven't checked in here in a while, sorry!
This is a late one but DS had his first ever playdate last Saturday at his apparent "best friend"'s house & he wasn't a total embarrassment.
A somewhat me brag is he's on spring break this week & it's Thursday & I haven't lost my mind just yet! I won't lie, I have heard a few 'I hate yous' & slammed doors but the end is near.
:happy dance:

[spooko]

akafred, I'm sorry. I'm glad Char's doing ok with it. I know that was a big concern for you.

[spooko]

My big brag is actually on my NT DD. She's very reserved/shy in a lot of ways and often hesitant to try new things. At the beginning of the school year she didn't eat a lunch I had packed because she was too scared to go up to the regular lunch line and get a fork! So when she reported on this past Monday that she went up and bought a milk for herself in the line, it was a HUGE step. So proud of the progress she's made!

[Cnon]

akafred, sorry for your loss.

[mrsbuttinski]

I'm sorry for your family's loss akafred.

Kudos to Charlotte for recognizing the right thing to do and for setting it as a goal for herself.

And yay! for namastebiotches's , playdate and spooko's trip to get milk.

One of my nephews on DH's side has been bit by the genealogy bug. He sends DS updates through facebook regularly. DN has heard tales of family being here in the colonial era on his paternal side, but has been unable to flesh out the who what where. DS was killing time waiting for an appointment at his internship yesterday and came across pension applications from the revolutionary war and found 3 contenders for the "missing link" and followed the most likely duo (a father and son) back to a town in Scotland. Nephew was concentrating his look in the south, but it turns out they came through Boston and NH.

[akafred]

I have to say that Charlotte has been absolutely incredible this week. One week ago we were recuperating from spring break in Pigeon Forge, which was pretty much 24 hours of the world revolving around Charlotte and I don't think she SAW a vegetable all week, so she was rightly a bit of a hot mess. Then we found out that sFIL had passed and DH left to go back to Knoxville while I stayed with DD. She was really cooperative mornings and evenings getting to school and bed. Maybe not NT cooperative but better than usual cooperative. She mourned about her grandpa but didn't dwell. We went to Knoxville for the funeral Thursday and she was magnificent. Great in the car, not overmuch obnoxious with cousins, etc. We went to the funeral and she sat with a cousin for a while and was incredibly awesomely quiet and attentive, and she walked over to MIL *just* before she lost it. MIL said she "saved" her, she wasn't sure she could hold it together, but she did. The only thing disruptive she did is clap after the hymns. Oops, guess I should take her to church more and concerts less. After the service at church was 2+ hours of greeting people. DH stood in the receiving line with his mom and I walked her through the food line FOUR times. She has been eating SO MUCH since she has stopped Strattera. I expect a growth spurt any day now. She was absolutely fantastic in the meeting area until *just* the very end, but *I* was about to lose my shit at that point. I am so incredibly proud of her.

The next day everyone else went to bury the ashes, but we didn't think 3 hours round trip (more like 5 as they all went to lunch) was necessary for C. So she stayed with me at MIL's house. She was just wonderful, coloring and playing with me calmly, watching tv, playing outside while I read a book. It was a nice morning. Only glitch was Friday night when a group were going to see Beauty and the Beast and I had to say no because they were not preordering tickets and instead saying they would just go to a later show if it sold out, and it already would have kept DD up too late. So I promised to take her friend Molly today. She cried but appropriately so. I even got comments from a few people on how well she handled that disappointment.

[luvboston]

Sorry akafred

Ds pooped and peed on the potty!!!

[URMySunshine77]

akafred, I'm so sorry about your loss. C's maturity through it all is really impressive.

A year ago, DS was very combative at the playground. He would push kids who got in his space and didn't understand how to set boundaries. At the playground these days, he is showing me a compassionate character. He gave a 2-year-old girl a hug at the sandbox last weekend. Yesterday he tried to help out a 3-year-old who was scared of going down some steps. Then he was policing the slide because some other boys were being a little dangerous. I'm really proud of his sweetness and sense of justice and hope to keep encouraging it.

[mrsbuttinski]

I paid my very last tuition payment. Ever.

[mirandah]

mrsbuttinski , whoa. Does that mean you have a graduation party to plan this spring as well??

We entered unchartered waters yesterday. A (newish) friend of DS's texted ME (mustof found my # in the school directory) and asked to have DS text him back. I almost replied in some snarky way that I'd have DS send him a text on his Etch a Sketch, but refrained. We talked about it with DS and agreed he could text his friend on my phone, for now, so long as I can review texts sent. This new friend of his is a handful; I'm almost certain ADHD or something like it. Months ago we had him for a playdate and he informed me that my bathtub was filthy and declared the playdate "lame" when his mom picked him up.

So anyway, I let DS type out a text and it read something like "I want you to keep training me on how to have a 4-pack." Huh? I helped him rewrite with some appropriate salutations and they agreed to FaceTime. I let him talk in his room and when I peeked in, they were doing ab crunches together When he got off the phone he told me how excited he was to "work on his core" like his friend who is really into sports and working out. He then went downstairs with DH who showed him all his weight-lifting equipment and they did some exercises together. DH was an athletic trainer for a college football team in a former life, so he was pretty surprised that our low-tone kid was excited about core work. DH said "I guess it's good for him to have a variety of friends." Later that night DS showed us some new dance moves his friend had taught him (DH and I laughed until we cried), and then DS had us help him make a playlist of songs he wanted to listen to- and he has NEVER been interested in music. So yes, it is nice to have a variety of friends!!

[mrsbuttinski]

mirandah,

DS would prefer not to have a big party. After high school graduation we did dinner out; DS didn't love it. The community college commencement went on for hours; we ended up doing pizza take-out late.

So far he's agreed to my parents and my niece and her +one. Maybe I'll make a nice dinner and have cake and champagne.