Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 27, 2017 5:33:49 GMT -5
Baby got up and toddler thought he needed to be up. Baby screamed through me making toddler cereal. Get cereal sat in front of him and sit down to feed the baby. Toddler lays down to go back to sleep.
Dh said yesterday that he thinks I'm struggling a bit more this time. Last night I asked him to elaborate on that a little and he said I'm short tempered and no matter what he does it's wrong. I'm also quick to yell at ds. After a few minutes he did apologize for focusing on all the negative things and not talking about anything positive I'm doing so that was nice. I need to try to be better this week. I hate feeling like a shit mom to DS and bad wife even though I just had a baby.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Mar 27, 2017 5:48:49 GMT -5
erinshelley21 I've been feeling the same way and can feel my short fuse these days. Hang in there and try to cut yourself some slack!! I know it's easier said than done. Hugs!
erinshelley21 I've been feeling the same way and can feel my short fuse these days. Hang in there and try to cut yourself some slack!! I know it's easier said than done. Hugs!
I really felt like I had a handle on things until the other day. It's definitely harder this time around since we have DS to worry about in addition to the baby. That wasn't an issue last time. I saw something the other day that said toddlers are "walking talking middle fingers" or something like that and it's so freaking true. I need to laugh at his ridiculousness more and maybe that will help.
(((Hugs))) erinshelley21. Adjusting to two is really, really hard. I'm really fighting to have patience with my 3 year old, too. I'm finding there's only so much I can give and it's going to be almost impossible to meet everyone's needs all the time right now. Be gentle with yourself. This will pass.
erinshelley21 this shit is hard. Don't be so hard on yourself. You don't have to be perfect. IMaybe ask your h to cut you some slack. Things are still new and it's ok to get frustrated.
Post by moutonrouge on Mar 27, 2017 7:05:53 GMT -5
Last night the baby somehow peed out of her diaper while I had her in bed to nurse her, then right after DH changed the sheets and I laid down with her again she spit up on my chest and hair. Good times.
@erinshelly21 I just wrote out this long winded reply only for my toddler you grab my phone and it dissapear. Ahhhhh!
Basically I'm right there with you. Motherhood has brought out a temper in me I didn't know I had. And then pp hormones make me feel personally attacked by the bad behavior and then remorse and guilt for feeling the rage. Rollercoaster.
I just want to give you a big hug and eat a pan of brownies together while we take a break from reality and our kids play perfectly together.
Eta my second response was probably just as long winded. Sorry. I suck at brevity.
My BFF is supposed to visit today until Thursday but some family stuff came up and so she will need to keep me posted. I am not disappointed because I am sofaking tired and my house is a mess.
How does my house explode every weekend when my H is home? I don't understand. I can keep up with it all week but add my H to the mix and it is impossible. He isn't even a slob. It's just like he has never put a single thing away before.
Hugs @erinshelly21. I am having a hard time with just my one. You are doing a great job. You both are probably just really tried and exhausted and things get said, tempers are shorter, etc. This is not easy!
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 27, 2017 9:26:12 GMT -5
Oh I forgot I got a summons for jury duty on Friday for April 11. DD will have just turned one month old. I'm sure it's a long shot but I'm really hoping having a newborn gets me out of it.
Oh I forgot I got a summons for jury duty on Friday for April 11. DD will have just turned one month old. I'm sure it's a long shot but I'm really hoping having a newborn gets me out of it.
I *think* if you are BFing you can get out of it. Don't quote me on that though.
erinshelley21 hugs. I don't even have a toddler, and I've had a really short fuse with my husband. My H basically said the same exact thing to me last night minus the part about the toddler.
My Mom keeps telling me that I can exercise even though the doctor told me to wait 6 weeks.
It's like 1.5 weeks til my 6 week appointment, I don't know why we go through this everyday. I think I'm going to throw on my work out clothes and walk the track just to appease her.
Oh I forgot I got a summons for jury duty on Friday for April 11. DD will have just turned one month old. I'm sure it's a long shot but I'm really hoping having a newborn gets me out of it.
I *think* if you are BFing you can get out of it. Don't quote me on that though.
God I hope. I can't imagine the courthouse having somewhere other than the bathroom for me to pump, or be too thrilled about me needing to pump every 2 hours.
The only other time I've been summoned was 6 months after I turned 18. I was still in high school, so both sides threw me out pretty quickly lol.
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 27, 2017 9:52:28 GMT -5
glb30 it's comforting to know we are all in this together. And do not go walk around that track for your mom. If you do it, make sure it's for yourself. Your mom needs to back off and you need to enjoy and take your time.
glb30 I worry my H will be like your Mom and push me to get moving more than I ought to, too soon. I'm feeling the stress of getting my body back and I haven't even had the baby yet.
My Mom keeps telling me that I can exercise even though the doctor told me to wait 6 weeks.
It's like 1.5 weeks til my 6 week appointment, I don't know why we go through this everyday. I think I'm going to throw on my work out clothes and walk the track just to appease her.
Thought today I could get away with a panty liner. I was wrong. Whomp whomp.
Not sure if this is relatable because it was after my D&C but I had bled for weeks, then didn't bleed for like a whole week so I went to dinner before going to the comedy cellar in NYC in a new white dress and BAM, huge flow outta nowhere. Totally thought I was in the clear but nope. By some miracle it went through my underwear but didn't get on my white dress- I had to walk around the block to get pads and had to put a pad on bottom and top of my underwear, and wear a super plus tampon. Vaginas and uteruses love ninja bleeds.
At least I was able to still go to the comedy show and it was SO GOOD!!!
God bless comedy, because I was having a real shitty emotional time that night.
glb30 I worry my H will be like your Mom and push me to get moving more than I ought to, too soon. I'm feeling the stress of getting my body back and I haven't even had the baby yet.
Oh, please don't do this to yourself. Hormones alone fluctuate for a good six months PP, which doesn't even take into account recovering from the trauma of having a baby, disrupted sleep, vast change in routine, etc etc etc.
Sure, some people lose their baby weight quickly, but that is not really a choice to make so much as luck. Listen to your body, listen to your doctor. Do what YOU feel up to doing and being active is great, but try to not add stress by worrying about getting your body back. Having a baby is a huge ordeal.
I'm looking forward to working out, but want to get the all clear from the doctor. I also normally swim, so I want to make sure everything is closed up before I'm back in the chemicals!
glb30 I worry my H will be like your Mom and push me to get moving more than I ought to, too soon. I'm feeling the stress of getting my body back and I haven't even had the baby yet.
Ugh- I hope he doesn't. The stress is real though.
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