sleepymonkey, I don't think it's any of their business why he's taking time off but that's crazy that some people think the birth of a child is not legitimate enough reason for a father to take a mere two weeks off.
And never mind that you would've gone through a major medical ordeal, whether you give birth vaginally or via c-section. Or that you have another child to take care of in addition to the newborn. You should just be able to handle it. WTF.
So apparently H is getting a lot of complaints from his clients that he's taking so much time off in May. He's taking Monday 5/1 through the following Monday off, working 4 days and then taking the next week off. He's a mental health counselor so he doesn't usually mention the fact that he has a child or one on the way to his clients. He told one lady the reason he was taking off was to be with his newborn and she said "Your wife should be able to handle it, your clients need you and it's rude to skip out on them." Ugh, people.
That's bullshit. She deserves a throat punch for that comment.
Post by onesweetworld on Mar 28, 2017 12:59:46 GMT -5
Massage complete. One of my best friends (20w) and I had a pregnancy couples massage together after our lunch - lobster bisque, roast turkey panini with roasted red, artichokes and pesto, and Godiva cheesecake. Now I'm meeting my mom for Beauty & the Beast and popcorn!
And never mind that you would've gone through a major medical ordeal, whether you give birth vaginally or via c-section. Or that you have another child to take care of in addition to the newborn. You should just be able to handle it. WTF.
I live in a very conservative area with a lot of older people that feel like it's the woman's role to be with the children and the man's role to provide for the family, apparently meaning not taking time off to spend with his new child. My family does not fit that mold, since I'm the bigger "breadwinner" and if we could afford it, H would be a SAHD and would be much better at it than me being a SAHM. H usually feels guilty very easily, especially when it comes to taking time off but he said he was close to telling the lady off. Nothing comes before his kids.
Massage complete. One of my best friends (20w) and I had a pregnancy couples massage together after our lunch - lobster bisque, roast turkey panini with roasted red, artichokes and pesto, and Godiva cheesecake. Now I'm meeting my mom for Beauty & the Beast and popcorn!
Massage complete. One of my best friends (20w) and I had a pregnancy couples massage together after our lunch - lobster bisque, roast turkey panini with roasted red, artichokes and pesto, and Godiva cheesecake. Now I'm meeting my mom for Beauty & the Beast and popcorn!
I want you day! Especially the food part!
It was really wonderful. I'm excited for the movie.
sleepymonkey - Good job to you and your H for bucking the system. Show people there are other ways to do things.
I've already warned my H many times I'll be correcting people on their gender stereotyping of both us, our parenting, and our kid(s). Huge issue for me.
icedtea, a 4D ultrasound sounds so much fun! Enjoy!
wannabmama, good luck with your anatomy scan tomorrow.
sleepymonkey, wow, that is presumptuous to assume you won't need any help with the newborn. Also, has anyone taken into account that maybe your H wants time to bond with his newborn. Geeze, people need to quit telling everyone else how to run their lives. My H'e boss is this way. She basically told him to tell me that just because he will have more days off after residency doesn't mean he will actually get to spend that with his family because he will have a lot of work to be doing at home. I was ready to rip that woman a new one!
So apparently H is getting a lot of complaints from his clients that he's taking so much time off in May. He's taking Monday 5/1 through the following Monday off, working 4 days and then taking the next week off. He's a mental health counselor so he doesn't usually mention the fact that he has a child or one on the way to his clients. He told one lady the reason he was taking off was to be with his newborn and she said "Your wife should be able to handle it, your clients need you and it's rude to skip out on them." Ugh, people.
That's bullshit. She deserves a throat punch for that comment.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Massage complete. One of my best friends (20w) and I had a pregnancy couples massage together after our lunch - lobster bisque, roast turkey panini with roasted red, artichokes and pesto, and Godiva cheesecake. Now I'm meeting my mom for Beauty & the Beast and popcorn!
Post by ThankfulSnail on Mar 28, 2017 14:09:32 GMT -5
sleepymonkey, my in-laws are somewhat of that mindset. They thought it was crazy that DH took 2 weeks off to help after DD was born- both of his brothers went back to work the day after their wife & baby were released from the hospital. I can understand people being startled and the differences, but to discourage or scoff at a dad doing the best he can to be there for his family and new baby.... I just can't wrap my head around it.
Massage complete. One of my best friends (20w) and I had a pregnancy couples massage together after our lunch - lobster bisque, roast turkey panini with roasted red, artichokes and pesto, and Godiva cheesecake. Now I'm meeting my mom for Beauty & the Beast and popcorn!
Repeat betas were 1197. I don't get to go in for an ultrasound until 4/17 though. And he wants me to wait to call the GYN until after that which I think is weird.
Repeat betas were 1197. I don't get to go in for an ultrasound until 4/17 though. And he wants me to wait to call the GYN until after that which I think is weird.
Great betas!! Congrats!!
I didn't even find an OB until I graduated from the RE, around 10w (I needed a new one bc of insurance changes).
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
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