Friday's are for confessions

[onesweetworld]

Mar 31, 2017 8:31:30 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

Omg you guys I just had to walk a long corridor to the bathroom and I had to essentially twerk to keep my tights from falling to my knees.

Would pay to see 😂😂

[LadyNymeria]

Mar 31, 2017 8:43:58 GMT -5 hpnegirl said:

Mar 31, 2017 8:13:31 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

Booooooooo

Can I refuse it? Lol

Nope :/ they check platelets and a few other things. They *should* draw it right through your IV port.. that made it so much easier because I only had to really sit still during contractions for them to place the IV. My second draw and rhogam were also done directly through the IV port.

I don't remember any blood work at the hospital. Shows you how much I was paying attention during contractions.

And my rhogam was a shot in my butt.

[hpnegirl]

Mar 31, 2017 9:01:44 GMT -5 juliayadda said:

Mar 31, 2017 8:51:38 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

FFFC #2: I hate being pregnant. And my reasons are shallow and completely selfish.

FFFC #2(a): My mom isn't the most loving and nurturing person in the world, and the above realization makes me terrified I'm going to end up being just like her towards my child...

Having known you through these board and a little more now, I highly doubt you will have an issue. Just knowing what you wish you had more of as a child can influence your parenting. 

Here are some loose anecdotes:

my parents never got "fun cereal" like froot loops. I let my son have it every day!

My parents let me have a pop, I see how it negatively affected me so I dont let my son have pop. 

I think you're right on the parenting influence...

We had to clean our plate whether we liked the food or not. I think it's why I'm such a picky eater and have such issues with food. I offer our dinner to DS, but if he doesn't eat it after a few minutes, I let him get down. I don't want him to have an unhealthy relationship with food. When he's old enough to understand, we'll do the three bite rule- you have to take three bites of each thing and then can say you don't want/don't like it.

My kid has a lot of clothes, and I won't buy used... mostly because I had a lot of hand-me-downs from my aunts and kids of my mother's workmates. What new clothes and shoes I did get were bought 1-2 sizes bigger than I needed so I could "grow into them," even when I was no longer growing (In HS, she would typically buy me size 8-10 in women's when I needed a 3/5 in juniors; she insisted on buying 8.5 size shoes when I was, and still am a, 7.5). Even this baby, while having a bunch from DS1, got new clothes and his own take home outfit

[icedtea]

Mar 31, 2017 7:38:04 GMT -5 hpnegirl said:

FFFC: I eat my cereal dry. My H looked at me like I had five heads when he finally realized that after 4+ years.

This makes my teeth hurt.

[hpnegirl]

Mar 31, 2017 9:08:39 GMT -5 LadyNymeria said:

Mar 31, 2017 8:43:58 GMT -5 hpnegirl said:

Nope :/ they check platelets and a few other things. They *should* draw it right through your IV port.. that made it so much easier because I only had to really sit still during contractions for them to place the IV. My second draw and rhogam were also done directly through the IV port.

I don't remember any blood work at the hospital. Shows you how much I was paying attention during contractions.

And my rhogam was a shot in my butt.

I don't do butt shots. They tried that with mine at 28w, and I flat out said i wanted it in my arm.

I can do stomach shots no issue (bleh, not looking forward to that again..), but I will not do butt shots

[hpnegirl]

Mar 31, 2017 9:09:20 GMT -5 icedtea said:

Mar 31, 2017 7:38:04 GMT -5 hpnegirl said:

FFFC: I eat my cereal dry. My H looked at me like I had five heads when he finally realized that after 4+ years.

This makes my teeth hurt.

Frosted cheerios. Yum!

[icedtea]

Mar 31, 2017 8:51:38 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

FFFC #2: I hate being pregnant. And my reasons are shallow and completely selfish.

FFFC #2(a): My mom isn't the most loving and nurturing person in the world, and the above realization makes me terrified I'm going to end up being just like her towards my child...

I also (mostly) hate being pregnant. It's okay to feel that way, it doesn't matter what your reasons are. It's a huge toll on your body and you're allowed to react to that. 

Hugs on the second. Just know that even worrying about it means you'll be fine. 

[hpnegirl]

Mar 31, 2017 9:05:05 GMT -5 leviosa said:

hpnegirl, I think I missed the back story about your MIL. One day I hope I get to hear it. My MIL is super crazy and at this point isn't allowed to stay at our house. She went psycho on me when I had her first biological grandchild (my DH adopted my son so he is technically her first grandchild). From shampoo I planned to use on the baby to the crib mattress. She even tried to tell me which vaccines I should allow the dr to give her. I told her, "she gets whatever they offer!" Anyways, I love hearing about other crazy MILs because it makes my life feel less abnormal.

It's long, very long...

We'll start by saying she thought I'd let her in the labor and delivery room for DS1 🙄

She also tried tried to convince my husband we should delay vaccines because maybe his vaccines are why he has an autoimmune disorder 😒 My H has hashimotos, and my MiL has a PhD in chemistry...

[LadyNymeria]

akraus2015-

1: Go for it. Nothing wrong with some you time.

2: Doesn't matter the reasons, it's totally ok to not enjoy or even like being pregnant. Not everyone enjoys it and there's nothing wrong with that.

2a: You are going to be an amazing mom. The relationship between you and your mom says nothing about what the relationship between you and your child is going to be like.

[icedtea]

Mar 31, 2017 9:11:25 GMT -5 hpnegirl said:

Mar 31, 2017 9:09:20 GMT -5 icedtea said:

This makes my teeth hurt.

Frosted cheerios. Yum!

[icedtea]

Good luck driving PirateCat!

I had eggs before my GTT, and was told to drink 8 oz of water afterward, then nothing else. I felt like shit and was glad H took me and stayed home afterward.

YAY FRIDAY! This has been a long freaking week.

[akraus2015]

Mar 31, 2017 9:01:44 GMT -5 juliayadda said:

Mar 31, 2017 8:51:38 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

FFFC #2: I hate being pregnant. And my reasons are shallow and completely selfish.

FFFC #2(a): My mom isn't the most loving and nurturing person in the world, and the above realization makes me terrified I'm going to end up being just like her towards my child...

Having known you through these board and a little more now, I highly doubt you will have an issue. Just knowing what you wish you had more of as a child can influence your parenting. 

Here are some loose anecdotes:

my parents never got "fun cereal" like froot loops. I let my son have it every day!

My parents let me have a pop, I see how it negatively affected me so I dont let my son have pop. 

Thank you for saying this.  It really makes me feel good and I hope it turns out to be true.

I get what you're saying with the anecdotes...

I think the same thing, but on a larger scale.  My mom wasn't the "braid your hair, let's go shopping together" type of mom.  She was more like a "get out of my kitchen and leave me alone on the weekends so I can go be with my friends" type of mom.  I never want my kids to think they're an inconvenience to me or that I don't want to be around them.  But at the same time, I found myself thinking yesterday "I wish I could just take this kid out for like one day, and go live my life, and then I'll put him back in and let him finish cooking."

[hpnegirl]

I purchased a Groupon for an oil change because I'm an adult who forgot to call and schedule an appointment at the mechanic and now I'm overdue for one.. 😅

[juliayadda]

Mar 31, 2017 9:19:29 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Mar 31, 2017 9:01:44 GMT -5 juliayadda said:

Having known you through these board and a little more now, I highly doubt you will have an issue. Just knowing what you wish you had more of as a child can influence your parenting. 

Here are some loose anecdotes:

my parents never got "fun cereal" like froot loops. I let my son have it every day!

My parents let me have a pop, I see how it negatively affected me so I dont let my son have pop. 

Thank you for saying this.  It really makes me feel good and I hope it turns out to be true.

I get what you're saying with the anecdotes...

I think the same thing, but on a larger scale.  My mom wasn't the "braid your hair, let's go shopping together" type of mom.  She was more like a "get out of my kitchen and leave me alone on the weekends so I can go be with my friends" type of mom.  I never want my kids to think they're an inconvenience to me or that I don't want to be around them.  But at the same time, I found myself thinking yesterday "I wish I could just take this kid out for like one day, and go live my life, and then I'll put him back in and let him finish cooking."

This actually reminds me of times when E is with his dad on weekends or during summer break. I really enjoy those times! Like ya I miss him, but not having to look after a small human for a little bit is really nice. I think that is human nature. This next baby will be full-time for the next 18 years and I pray I never get divorced again so I am locked in lol. 

I will not lie I have had a few moments of selfishness thinking about losing my kidfree time. You will love your baby, but I guarantee you wont always like them. 

[akraus2015]

Mar 31, 2017 9:14:09 GMT -5 LadyNymeria said:

akraus2015 -

1: Go for it. Nothing wrong with some you time.

2: Doesn't matter the reasons, it's totally ok to not enjoy or even like being pregnant. Not everyone enjoys it and there's nothing wrong with that.

2a: You are going to be an amazing mom. The relationship between you and your mom says nothing about what the relationship between you and your child is going to be like.

I'm just afraid I have too many of her qualities that aren't super positive.  Nature vs. nurture, ya know?  Like, I know the type of mother I want to be to my child, but I also know that I share a lot of her qualities.  I'm a little bit selfish, I like my "me" time, and I get frustrated easily.  All things that can make a child feel kinda shitty if they're on the receiving end, ya know??

[akraus2015]

Mar 31, 2017 9:22:14 GMT -5 hpnegirl said:

I purchased a Groupon for an oil change because I'm an adult who forgot to call and schedule an appointment at the mechanic and now I'm overdue for one.. 😅

I'm also way overdue for an oil change.  I promised H I'd go at lunchtime today.

[leviosa]

Mar 31, 2017 9:14:07 GMT -5 hpnegirl said:

Mar 31, 2017 9:05:05 GMT -5 leviosa said:

hpnegirl, I think I missed the back story about your MIL. One day I hope I get to hear it. My MIL is super crazy and at this point isn't allowed to stay at our house. She went psycho on me when I had her first biological grandchild (my DH adopted my son so he is technically her first grandchild). From shampoo I planned to use on the baby to the crib mattress. She even tried to tell me which vaccines I should allow the dr to give her. I told her, "she gets whatever they offer!" Anyways, I love hearing about other crazy MILs because it makes my life feel less abnormal.

It's long, very long...

We'll start by saying she thought I'd let her in the labor and delivery room for DS1 🙄

She also tried tried to convince my husband we should delay vaccines because maybe his vaccines are why he has an autoimmune disorder 😒 My H has hashimotos, and my MiL has a PhD in chemistry...

My MIL is a midwife and she told me I should delay cord clamping for at least an hour because they (at her clinic) do it for 2 hours.

Ironically, I use midwives (of the nursing variety) for my L&D even after she says these ludicrous things.

[peggels24]

hpnegirl, DH and I both had the clean your plate rule and we both swear that it impeded our ability to know when we are full or satisfied - we will both keep eating simply because it's in front of us (we no longer serve food on the table family style for this reason - we serve plated dinners mostly). So we do the same exact thing with DS that you do - we offer her food, if she eats it great; if not, we take the plate off of the high chair and give her about a minute or two and offer it again. If she still doesn't want it and asks to get down, we let her down. I will never force her to clean her plate.

[akraus2015]

Mar 31, 2017 9:23:58 GMT -5 juliayadda said:

Mar 31, 2017 9:19:29 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Thank you for saying this.  It really makes me feel good and I hope it turns out to be true.

I get what you're saying with the anecdotes...

I think the same thing, but on a larger scale.  My mom wasn't the "braid your hair, let's go shopping together" type of mom.  She was more like a "get out of my kitchen and leave me alone on the weekends so I can go be with my friends" type of mom.  I never want my kids to think they're an inconvenience to me or that I don't want to be around them.  But at the same time, I found myself thinking yesterday "I wish I could just take this kid out for like one day, and go live my life, and then I'll put him back in and let him finish cooking."

This actually reminds me of times when E is with his dad on weekends or during summer break. I really enjoy those times! Like ya I miss him, but not having to look after a small human for a little bit is really nice. I think that is human nature. This next baby will be full-time for the next 18 years and I pray I never get divorced again so I am locked in lol. 

I will not lie I have had a few moments of selfishness thinking about losing my kidfree time. You will love your baby, but I guarantee you wont always like them. 

One thing I do want to be intentional about is planning one-on-one time with Ollie and both of us.  Once a month or so, I think it will be important for him to spend the day alone with me or a day alone with H.  I think it will be important bonding time, but I also think it will be important for the other parent to have some alone time.  H and I are both fiercely independent, and we both need time to ourselves on a regular basis.

[teraiin]

akraus2015 you will be a great and loving mom. I think the fact that you worry about this says a lot. ❤️

Go for the babymoon! And enjoy!

There is nothing wrong with not enjoying being pregnant. I loved being pregnant but not everyone does. Some people love the newborn stage and some don't. Some love older babies and some don't. Nothing wrong with any of it. And your reasons can be as shallow or not shallow as you want.

Mostly just big hugs. There are so many feels and stress and changes with pregnancy.

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Fuck potty training, fo real yo.

[mustloveerica]

Mar 31, 2017 8:02:01 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

Mar 31, 2017 8:01:02 GMT -5 teraiin said:

I had mine pretty early in the morning. I ate a string cheese and drank water. Then I stuffed my face after the test was over...

I was afraid to do dairy too because that turns to sugar. I wanted cheese on my eggs and a glass of milk lol.

I had scrambled eggs and a glass of milk. I didn't realize milk had sugar lol. But I passed so no big deal.

[mustloveerica]

I can't remember the last time I washed my hair.

DH is working from home. I just hauled babies, bouncers and a swing down to the basement so he can watch them while he works. Now I'm eating oatmeal in bed and planning to take like an hour long shower.

[wannabmama]

Mar 31, 2017 9:08:34 GMT -5 onesweetworld said:

Mar 31, 2017 8:31:30 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

Omg you guys I just had to walk a long corridor to the bathroom and I had to essentially twerk to keep my tights from falling to my knees.

Would pay to see 😂😂

The ante was upped on the walk to the car where they actually rolled off my ass and did, indeed, end up around my knees.

ETA: FFFC: I'm not wearing underwear. And my tights are around my knees. And I'm in public. And I kind of DGAF.

[juliayadda]

plus one for not making DS finish his plate. Especially with junk food! If he has a piece of cake and cant finish, I am like listen to your body.

[juliayadda]

Mar 31, 2017 9:31:45 GMT -5 mustloveerica said:

I can't remember the last time I washed my hair.

DH is working from home. I just hauled babies, bouncers and a swing down to the basement so he can watch them while he works. No I'm eating oatmeal in bed and planning to take like an hour long shower.

Lock the door!!!

[teraiin]

Mar 31, 2017 9:31:45 GMT -5 mustloveerica said:

I can't remember the last time I washed my hair.

DH is working from home. I just hauled babies, bouncers and a swing down to the basement so he can watch them while he works. No I'm eating oatmeal in bed and planning to take like an hour long shower.

My hair has suffered greatly since having a kid. And I only have one. You have my sympathies

[mustloveerica]

Mar 31, 2017 9:35:30 GMT -5 teraiin said:

Mar 31, 2017 9:31:45 GMT -5 mustloveerica said:

I can't remember the last time I washed my hair.

DH is working from home. I just hauled babies, bouncers and a swing down to the basement so he can watch them while he works. No I'm eating oatmeal in bed and planning to take like an hour long shower.

My hair has suffered greatly since having a kid. And I only have one. You have my sympathies

Thankfully my hair holds up to not washing well. It takes a long time to get greasy looking. But I still feel gross lol.

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Okay, I'm semi-caught up (but you know, still not really).

Team hate being pregnant. Not a fan. Jealous of people who enjoy it. I want to die a little bit for 9ish months.

I also worry that I'm a shit mom and I've been doing it for 2 years. I probably am one, a little bit, but I fiercely and insanely love my child and that has to be enough some days.

FFFC: I don't understand why people stay with terrible partners. Like I psychologically understand the reasoning, but I wish I could pluck each and every one out of that bad situation because it's not worth it.

[teraiin]

Mar 31, 2017 9:36:58 GMT -5 mustloveerica said:

Mar 31, 2017 9:35:30 GMT -5 teraiin said:

My hair has suffered greatly since having a kid. And I only have one. You have my sympathies

Thankfully my hair holds up to not washing well. It takes a long time to get greasy looking. But I still feel gross lol.

I have ridiculously naturally curly hair so my confession is that pre-baby I wouldn't wash it as frequently as much lol