When are you telling people?

[mrspiatt]

When are you planning on telling people? Who you told so far? If you're announcing on social media, do you have ideas for your big announcement?

[mrspiatt]

We waited to make our official announcement with DD2 until around 16 weeks. H and I haven't discussed it, but we'll probably do the same this time. So far H, my August 15 mamas and you guys are all that know. DD1 is going to have a bitchy reaction (she's 20) and I don't feel like dealing with it. I'll let H decide when he wants to tell her. I'm part of a local mom's group and all 8 of 11 of them are pregnant right now, I may tell them in the next few weeks. I'm not feeling 100% during our play dates, so I feel like I should say something.

[grumpycat88]

Official announcement aka social media at 12 weeks (end of April). We told my mom and ILs. My grandma is in town this week so we will probably tell her and then start telling family in another week or so.

We will probably just post a picture of DS in his soon to be big brother shirt. Most of our family/close friends will know by that point anyway.

[mrspiatt]

Apr 2, 2017 21:13:53 GMT -5 buttercup said:

I don't know. I have usually waited until the second trimester. I said something around 12/13 weeks and then waited until 20+ for the next pregnancy. I will probably wait until later this time too. Having a kid going through chemo and having a new baby makes me seem really crazy.

I know how you feel. Our situations are obviously different, but I kind of want to wait as long as possible with everything H and I are going through with the boys- I just sent DS (13) to live with his dad because of his behavioral issues and I didn't know what else to do and DSS (11) is moving to HI with his mom in a few months.
I don't even want to tell DD1 because she's super pissed that I sent her brother away.

[blabbermouth]

I'm not great at keeping secrets, so a lot of people know already. Basically I'm telling people as I see them in person. The only people I'm going to keep it from for a few more weeks is my work (with the exception of my work bff and my boss who I told today). I have had ultrasounds at 6w and 8w though, so that helps me feel a bit more confident.

[blabbermouth]

Oh, and like Miss Killjoy, I don't think I'll do a facebook announcement. After two years of trying to conceive, I've really grown to hate FB announcements!

[blabbermouth]

Apr 2, 2017 21:34:29 GMT -5 Miss Killjoy said:

Apr 2, 2017 21:31:17 GMT -5 blabbermouth said:

Oh, and like Miss Killjoy , I don't think I'll do a facebook announcement. After two years of trying to conceive, I've really grown to hate FB announcements!

Yeah, I've lapped a few people who are TTC and I have a lot of friends who would like kids but are running out of time and acutely aware of it. Basically all kinds of people who really don't need one more AW baby announcement post. So I'm going to be quiet about it on social media.

I am basically the least sensitive person ever, so not much bugs me, but for some reason, social media announcements did! I think I started feeling like "Big whoop, you're pregnant, who isn't? Do you want an award?" Hehe, but I can be bitchy like that And it's like everyone is always trying to out cute each other and announcements are getting increasingly elaborate. This might all stem from the fact that I do not like being the centre of attention! 

[blabbermouth]

Aww, I actually really like that announcement @thatgolfbitch! Cute, and not too showy!

[Deleted]

My mom, MIL, FIL, my close friends and DH (obviously) are the only ones who know right now.

We are going to tell the kids on Easter. I think I'm going to hide a big egg for each of them in our traditional Easter morning hunt and put a sono picture and Big sister/brother button in each. We'll tell our own siblings and work shortly after.

If you frequent Parenting, you may know that I've had my social media announcement ready for basically a year now. Things took longer than expected and I'm a little crazy. But it's pretty great, Dr. Seuss themed. I still have to add the due date, though. DH has also been working on a Back to the Future Photoshop project that he's very proud of. We'll post them at some point during the week of mother's day/my birthday in May when I'll be about 14 weeks.

[whoopsadaisy]

My in-laws know because we are going on vacation with them and told them very early because of the ZIka risk there to explain that'll I'll be staying pretty low-key during the trip. My parents are coming on the trip and we will tell them when they get there. My sister is KU and due June 2nd and I'm hoping to wait until after the baby is born and bring her a onesie that says, "I'm the big cousin," for the new baby because she told my parents she was preg by dressing my DS in a shirt that said, " big cousin." We'll tell everyone else after that. No Facebook announcements for me either. Not my thing.

This is the plan. The reality is that I totally already have a little bump! Even if DH says I'm nuts. It's friggin there. This plan is going to get scrapped because imma look like a cow by June for sure.

[cnf2013]

Our families and two of my coworkers know. We'll do a social media announcement sometime after our sono next week as long as things check out. I will likely text my best friend this week at some point. This is my third pregnancy in the time she's been trying for one, so I feel like I should tell her and let her process that before we make a bigger announcement.

[beefinch]

Pretty much all my close family know, and my best friends. DH's mum and sister know, we need to tell his Nan. But his Nan cannot keep secrets, as she just forgets to, and DH doesn't want the extended family (all his aunts/uncles and cousins) knowing this early. Which I get. So as soon as we get a U/S date, we will tell her a couple days before just in case she spills the beans, which she will.

Everyone else can find out through the FB announcement. DH isn't close with his extended family and if he had his way he wouldn't ever tell them lol. They are just very nosy and drama orientated people.

We've got DS a big brother t-shirt, and a little sign that says "I'm going to be a big brother... in November 2017"

[fknhostile]

@annperkins we're doing the exact same thing for the older boys on Easter. But I'm sure they already know with how sick I've been and the cravings I've had. Shocked they haven't asked yet lol

I don't have Facebook. So we're just going to call immediate family after the 1st US on Friday and they'll tell everyone else.

[pootsen]

Both of our parents, 3 of my close co-workers, and 1 of my best friends know. We are going to tell DH's sister and her family this weekend at MIL's birthday and then my siblings on Easter. We have a big get together with DH's extended family for Easter dinner and I'm undecided if I want to tell all of them then. I have an US/appt next week so hopefully that gives some reassurance to go ahead and tell everyone. We will do a Facebook announcement, but I'm not sure when.

[laurensc927]

Apr 2, 2017 21:31:17 GMT -5 blabbermouth said:

Oh, and like Miss Killjoy , I don't think I'll do a facebook announcement. After two years of trying to conceive, I've really grown to hate FB announcements!

+1 to this. I also stuffed the u/s pic in my pocket this morning on my way out of the RE's office. No one in the waiting room needs to know what I was there for. I was never one of those "oh you're pregnant, it gives me hope" type of people.

[theloveparade]

I just found out that a couple we're close with whose son is 3 days younger than our DS is having a second...due date same as mine! I wasn't necessarily planning to tell her this early, but after she told me, I couldn't resist. Our husbands are good friends so we were joking that they must be conspiring together to make sure we're always KU at the same time. 🙄

[laurensc927]

So far my mom and 2 friends know. H and I weren't going to tell anyone and I told 3 people, woops. We had the official heartbeat u/s today so I'm telling H that I will tell my parents this week. I want to put off telling MIL until as late as possible because she will be a dictator once she knows. As far as friends I will either tell them in person or text them a pic of below, no social media announcement for me.

[Deleted]

Social media/official announcement will come after we tell our families. DH wants to wait until I'm showing more. So far my J14 and O16 mommas know, as do my playgroup and obviously doctors.

[mariavontrapp]

Last time I think we shared with my parents around 8 weeks, everyone else around 12. I don't post on social media until around 20 weeks.

We are fairly private people and I was pretty much outed this weekend by a friend which really annoyed me.

I was at a bridal shower, sitting and eating with a group of my friends and someone in our group was like... I noticed you aren't drinking today, and you weren't drinking yesterday either. ARE YOU PREGNANT?

It was really rude and I mumbled out some excuse but everyone was very like... "Ok, Sure..."

If I had news I wanted to share, I would share it. I don't know what people are thinking.

[zonagirl]

mariavontrapp this has happened twice to me already this pregnancy. It's like...What are you supposed to say when you are backed into a corner like that?! One of them was my mom and she asked me while we were both on a trip for my step-grandmother's funeral. I just had to lie to her because that was not the situation I had in mind for breaking the news!

[zonagirl]

I have told a lot of people. Hair dresser, neighbor, parents, all my close friends. All of my siblings. I have a huge family though and I am keeping it from them until this weekend when we go out to Oklahoma. My younger cousin is also pregnant with her first, so we are going to tell family together that we are pregnant. After all that, we will probably announce on social media pretty soon. We didn't do a FB announcement with my last pregnancy, but I want to do one this time.

[mariavontrapp]

Apr 3, 2017 13:22:05 GMT -5 zonagirl said:

mariavontrapp this has happened twice to me already this pregnancy. It's like...What are you supposed to say when you are backed into a corner like that?! One of them was my mom and she asked me while we were both on a trip for my step-grandmother's funeral. I just had to lie to her because that was not the situation I had in mind for breaking the news!

Exactly! If you think I am pregnant, do you really think this is how I want to announce it? Make your observations and keep them to yourself... Or talk behind my back! Shit!

[Deleted]

Apr 3, 2017 13:07:30 GMT -5 mariavontrapp said:

Last time I think we shared with my parents around 8 weeks, everyone else around 12. I don't post on social media until around 20 weeks.

We are fairly private people and I was pretty much outed this weekend by a friend which really annoyed me.

I was at a bridal shower, sitting and eating with a group of my friends and someone in our group was like... I noticed you aren't drinking today, and you weren't drinking yesterday either. ARE YOU PREGNANT?

It was really rude and I mumbled out some excuse but everyone was very like... "Ok, Sure..."

If I had news I wanted to share, I would share it. I don't know what people are thinking.

I hate this shit, especially in a group setting like that.  If I wanted you to know I was pregnant, I would tell you. Back up bitch. 

Right now, only my parents know.  We will probably tell my inlaws and the rest of our family around 12 weeks - I am most excited to tell DD.  I'll wait to tell work until I can no longer hide the blump. 

I'm not really a social media announcement person, so I will likely forgo that. 

[RoLoMa]

We have told all of the grandparents, his sister and her husband, my BFF, and H has told a few people at work. We also were pretty lucy goosey with the info this past week at the wedding stuff we went to since I wasn't drinking and felt like horseshit.

I don't plan to tell my boss until around 10 weeks and the rest of my coworkers probably around 12-13 weeks again. We will go fully public on facebook and whatnot around 12-13 weeks as well. I have no idea what kind of announcement we'll do this time, but I have been trying to come up with something involving DS.

[hopecounts]

Our parents and the friends we stayed with know, downside of traveling for a cycle and staying with friends can't exactly keep it a secret.

Rest of the immediate family will be told after our u/s and FB public sometime after our 12 week u/s and/or when we get our maternity21 results in if we do that.

[bethkate]

Apr 3, 2017 8:46:00 GMT -5 laurensc927 said:

Apr 2, 2017 21:31:17 GMT -5 blabbermouth said:

Oh, and like Miss Killjoy , I don't think I'll do a facebook announcement. After two years of trying to conceive, I've really grown to hate FB announcements!

+1 to this. I also stuffed the u/s pic in my pocket this morning on my way out of the RE's office. No one in the waiting room needs to know what I was there for. I was never one of those "oh you're pregnant, it gives me hope" type of people.

I do this at the RE's office too.

[diamondsndaisies]

So far, only family, some close friends and work know. I am planning on telling everyone after Wednesday when we get the official heartbeat and scan. I have never been able to keep things like this a secret for very long.

[izz67]

So far only family has been told. I feel kind of bad for not telling my best friend but she's been in the middle of a move and the timing hasn't felt right. MH and I have been taking a break from fb and most other social media (TCF doesn't count, right 😉) so I'm not sure if we will do anything to announce there.

[lgraceh]

So far, DH's parents know. We told them last night when they came over for the game. We are only 7 weeks, but had our 1st US yesterday morning to confirm everything. We may have to tell my mom and stepdad this weekend. My dad will know on his birthday (4/22).
I really wanted to wait for Easter and then the following weekend, but everyone knows we did IVF, so it's pretty suspicious when we just stopped talking about everything after the retrieval.

[laurensc927]

I take it you had a good ultrasound lgraceh, congrats!