Hump Day Randoms

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I'm hoping for a nice day out today. I need some exercise and fresh air.

[scoutradley]

It's supposed to storm like crazy today and tomorrow. No getting a walk today. Sigh.

Also I forgot it's my fil bday so I'm making another dinner and am in charge of the cake. I'm not a cake decorator, but here goes nothing (again).

[yellow]

We are getting another day of rain .... I just want sun and warmth!!

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OMG I have to pee so bad! I really should not have drank all that tea this morning! I'm so not going to make it to 10a. Hopefully she wakes up early.

[scoutradley]

yellow same here. I'm so tired of rain.

@led huh??

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Apr 5, 2017 11:53:02 GMT -5 scoutradley said:

yellow same here. I'm so tired of rain.

@led huh??

What?

[robotpcr]

I am stuffing Sun Chips and leftover fritatta in my face before I need to run back into my lab after an insane morning of a ton of experiments going on while trying to figure out backup care for DD since my sitter had an emergency. Gah.

[scoutradley]

Apr 5, 2017 11:54:13 GMT -5 @led said:

Apr 5, 2017 11:53:02 GMT -5 scoutradley said:

yellow same here. I'm so tired of rain.

@led huh??

What?

I'm unsure why you can't go pee..?

[mflowers929]

Woke up this morning and figured out why I've been super grumpy! AF came for a visit, yay (I have an IUD in right now, so I never know when it's going to show up lol).
I got my tax payment in this morning, so H and I decided to go over to the casino for breakfast, and then we took a $20 and played some slots together. It was fun. We were up over $40 at one point, but then we blew it all lol. I dropped him back off at home because he was starting to get sleepy, and I went to the store and bought myself some new nail polish, a new scrub top, and new leggings, just because. I'm feeling much better now.

It's not horrible here today, right around freezing, but overcast, so I know that the wind chill is pretty bad. Tomorrow is supposed to be pretty nice, so I'm going to see if I can't drag the man out for a walk in the morning =)

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Apr 5, 2017 12:10:33 GMT -5 scoutradley said:

Apr 5, 2017 11:54:13 GMT -5 @led said:

What?

I'm unsure why you can't go pee..?

She sleeps on me.

[scoutradley]

Apr 5, 2017 12:16:42 GMT -5 @led said:

Apr 5, 2017 12:10:33 GMT -5 scoutradley said:

I'm unsure why you can't go pee..?

She sleeps on me.

Ohhhhh I see. Makes sense now. My babies always have too if I could manage it.

[butlerfan]

Had to take FS to doctor's due to his asthma being triggered with bio parents smoking around him. Including in the car based on how bad it smelled when we picked them up yesterday and they got out of parent's car.  He was coughing and the nebulizer helped him get to sleep but he was coughing this morning to the point of throwing up.  So I took him in and they said it was asthma and gave him a steroid and said to limit his exposure to second hand smoke.

Maybe showing that to the social workers and parents will be enough for someone to listen. 

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I can't decide if I want to make lentils for lunch or just be super lazy and have tuna salad.

[scoutradley]

butlerfan awww poor baby. First your FD and now him. I just don't understand why they get to see them if their actions continually prove that the wellbeing of the kids is not their priority. I hope someone listens to you.

[ohinvrtedworld]

Apr 5, 2017 12:51:49 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Had to take FS to doctor's due to his asthma being triggered with bio parents smoking around him. Including in the car based on how bad it smelled when we picked them up yesterday and they got out of parent's car.  He was coughing and the nebulizer helped him get to sleep but he was coughing this morning to the point of throwing up.  So I took him in and they said it was asthma and gave him a steroid and said to limit his exposure to second hand smoke.

Maybe showing that to the social workers and parents will be enough for someone to listen. 

Ohhhh poor guy. That's horrible. If they don't do something about that and FD's food issues, I will explode with you. 

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butlerfan, Poor kid. I hope he feels better soon. That must be really frustrating.

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I'm waiting in the school parking lot for DD to finish her speech class. It's only 30 minutes long, so doesn't make any sense to leave.

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Apr 5, 2017 12:51:49 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Had to take FS to doctor's due to his asthma being triggered with bio parents smoking around him. Including in the car based on how bad it smelled when we picked them up yesterday and they got out of parent's car.  He was coughing and the nebulizer helped him get to sleep but he was coughing this morning to the point of throwing up.  So I took him in and they said it was asthma and gave him a steroid and said to limit his exposure to second hand smoke.

Maybe showing that to the social workers and parents will be enough for someone to listen. 

Ugh, I hope so. Poor guy.

[Rama]

Apr 5, 2017 12:51:49 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Had to take FS to doctor's due to his asthma being triggered with bio parents smoking around him. Including in the car based on how bad it smelled when we picked them up yesterday and they got out of parent's car.  He was coughing and the nebulizer helped him get to sleep but he was coughing this morning to the point of throwing up.  So I took him in and they said it was asthma and gave him a steroid and said to limit his exposure to second hand smoke.

Maybe showing that to the social workers and parents will be enough for someone to listen. 

Uhm, my absence has definitely kept me out of the loop, but wtf??  How are they still getting visitation when the bio-parents are continuing to smoke in the presence of their ASTHMATIC SON?!

[butlerfan]

Apr 5, 2017 12:59:45 GMT -5 ohinvrtedworld said:

Apr 5, 2017 12:51:49 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Had to take FS to doctor's due to his asthma being triggered with bio parents smoking around him. Including in the car based on how bad it smelled when we picked them up yesterday and they got out of parent's car.  He was coughing and the nebulizer helped him get to sleep but he was coughing this morning to the point of throwing up.  So I took him in and they said it was asthma and gave him a steroid and said to limit his exposure to second hand smoke.

Maybe showing that to the social workers and parents will be enough for someone to listen. 

Ohhhh poor guy. That's horrible. If they don't do something about that and FD's food issues, I will explode with you. 

Counting down until next Tuesday at 11 when we have the meeting.

[butlerfan]

Apr 5, 2017 13:08:45 GMT -5 Rama said:

Apr 5, 2017 12:51:49 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Had to take FS to doctor's due to his asthma being triggered with bio parents smoking around him. Including in the car based on how bad it smelled when we picked them up yesterday and they got out of parent's car.  He was coughing and the nebulizer helped him get to sleep but he was coughing this morning to the point of throwing up.  So I took him in and they said it was asthma and gave him a steroid and said to limit his exposure to second hand smoke.

Maybe showing that to the social workers and parents will be enough for someone to listen. 

Uhm, my absence has definitely kept me out of the loop, but wtf??  How are they still getting visitation when the bio-parents are continuing to smoke in the presence of their ASTHMATIC SON?!

Or feeding their allergic daughter tomatoes.

Started at 3 days a week and is up to 4 days a week for visits. The social workers want to be the parents friends and want reunification. No, you need to get to the bottom of this and do your job so they don't go back to only end up back in the system again (like what has been happening)

[Rama]

Apr 5, 2017 13:10:38 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Apr 5, 2017 13:08:45 GMT -5 Rama said:

Uhm, my absence has definitely kept me out of the loop, but wtf??  How are they still getting visitation when the bio-parents are continuing to smoke in the presence of their ASTHMATIC SON?!

Or feeding their allergic daughter tomatoes.

Started at 3 days a week and is up to 4 days a week for visits. The social workers want to be the parents friends and want reunification. No, you need to get to the bottom of this and do your job so they don't go back to only end up back in the system again (like what has been happening)

FFS.  I get that reunification is initial goal and priority, but evaluate whether that's in the kids' best freaking interests.  They're clearly not considering their children, so why are you, the foster parents, being vilified and punished for being those kids' protectors and advocates?  This is fucked five ways to Sunday.  I'm pissed with/for you.

[scoutradley]

@auri that sounds like peace and quiet to me. When DS1 was in OT I brought a book and read.

[cicimcstuffins]

Butlerfan that sounds incredibly frustrating and I am angry for you. Poor babe.

I hope next Tuesday is productive.

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Apr 5, 2017 13:24:20 GMT -5 scoutradley said:

@auri that sounds like peace and quiet to me. When DS1 was in OT I brought a book and read.

I normally do too. I forgot it at home today though, so I ended up listening to music that I wanted to hear and browsing TCF. 

[butlerfan]

Rama your post made me laugh. That is how we have been feeling exactly. I mean I know the goal is reunification but can we maybe get the parents the education they need first? If they have been in and out as much as these two have been-maybe you shouldn't push them to go back as quickly as they have in the past. Not saying the goal should change yet-just delayed.

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Apr 5, 2017 13:10:38 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Apr 5, 2017 13:08:45 GMT -5 Rama said:

Uhm, my absence has definitely kept me out of the loop, but wtf??  How are they still getting visitation when the bio-parents are continuing to smoke in the presence of their ASTHMATIC SON?!

Or feeding their allergic daughter tomatoes.

Started at 3 days a week and is up to 4 days a week for visits. The social workers want to be the parents friends and want reunification. No, you need to get to the bottom of this and do your job so they don't go back to only end up back in the system again (like what has been happening)

I just can't imagine someone feeding a known allergen to a kid. That is really a major wtf are you thinking type of thing. I can't believe that the social workers are turning a blind eye to that. Sorry to go to an 11 for you, but I know how life threatening food allergies can be. Obviously not in this case, but it's still not something I'd want to tempt fate on. 

[butlerfan]

@auri....H and I have been at an 11 for a lot of things. We know how serious allergies are. We have friends with celiac, my niece is allergic to peanuts (epi-pen level), etc. You are preaching to the choir on this one.

[scoutradley]

See I don't think the "goal" should be reunification per-say. Sure maybe with first time, more minor offenses, but not with parents who repeatedly get their children taken away. The goal should be to see whether the child will be entering a safer situation then what they were removed from. Clearly they already are not. They are being exposed to allergens that is making both of them ill repeatedly. Obviously they are much better off with you and the parents should not be getting increased visitation until they prove they are doing absolutely everything to make the situation better. They are not. Now the worst part is that not only are the parents failing their children, the social workers whose job is to protect children from poor (read shitty) parenting, are failing them also. There is no point in "reunification" when it damages the child. Ugh end of rant. Obviously it's a good thing I am not a social worker. I'd be a total bitch.

[Rama]

Apr 5, 2017 14:03:15 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Rama your post made me laugh. That is how we have been feeling exactly. I mean I know the goal is reunification but can we maybe get the parents the education they need first? If they have been in and out as much as these two have been-maybe you shouldn't push them to go back as quickly as they have in the past. Not saying the goal should change yet-just delayed.

Right?  Like, I'm not fighting to tear the kids and bio-parents apart, but have some consequences.  Have some goals.  Think about the g'damn children, FFS.  If there's a reason you're taking them away from the bio-parents to be in foster care, MAYBE YOU SHOULD FIX THE FUCKING PROBLEM BEFORE PUTTING THEM BACK.

Give the bio-parents classes, goals, or milestones to complete.  Reward good behavior.  Punish bad behavior.  Simple freaking concept, g'lord.