Post by wineandcake on Apr 6, 2017 17:19:39 GMT -5
Today someone in town jumped in front of a moving vehicle. It was on my route home and at the exact time I should have been passing by there. Fortunately, H sent me a message to pick up cat litter on my way home for lunch so I was late. I have never been more thankful for my cats being gross and peeing in a box. I don't think I would have ever been able to drive again if someone jumped in front of my car. So scary. And I'm hoping this person gets the help they need and doesn't have any serious injuries.
Post by lovemyirishtwins on Apr 6, 2017 19:14:14 GMT -5
cornpop311 I think we all can feel insecure about posting the bad stuff too often. I feel that way when I post about my illness. But when I read your posts I never think you're being a Debbie downer. I think you trust us, you know we love you, and we support you.
I do not think you should hide that part of yourself from us. If you're going through a struggle you need an outlet and we are just as good an outlet as any. Let us support you, advise you, listen to you. I will come back later to address the other things you posted about but if felt this needed to be addressed first and foremost. I have a naked girl destroying my loft right now so I'll be back.
Post by lonegalathome on Apr 6, 2017 19:27:38 GMT -5
Also- ds1 (6) had a play date today at our house and the kid was awful. I don't know the mom and when she picked up she didn't ask how it went so I didn't say anything. Should I have?
Hugs, cornpop311. Please keep sharing whatever/whenever is helpful. Marriage is tough. Crazy tough. And y'all have had a lot going on this year with his career change. Getting help makes sense.
I'm watching the finale of Big Little Lies and am nervous AF. Which is silly because I've read the book and know what happens but this show is intense.
lonegalathome I don't think I would have said anything to the mom because I'm a chicken shit about that stuff. I'd maybe give him another chance in a group setting but I wouldn't let my kid go there.
cornpop311 I don't think I could say it better than what others have said, but I definitely don't think you're a Debbie downer and support you in whatever you decide to share. I'm glad you're getting help.
I would worry about the washcloth, but not invite that kid over again lonegalathome.
I had a good rest of the day with the girls. I got to rest for a bit, which was needed. I also got to pick up the house a bit, which always makes me feel better. Now I'm in bed early, which is great. They also ate most of their veggies for dinner tonight, so I'm feeling like a great mom. My coworker asked me to pick up for her on Sunday, which would make me work 7 days in a row. I almost laughed.
I'm watching the finale of Big Little Lies and am nervous AF. Which is silly because I've read the book and know what happens but this show is intense.
lonegalathome I don't think I would have said anything to the mom because I'm a chicken shit about that stuff. I'd maybe give him another chance in a group setting but I wouldn't let my kid go there.
Watched it yesterday. Which did you prefer- show or book?
How I feel about this week. I have my first fundraiser that I've headed up due tomorrow so I'll be spending the weekend counting that mess. Then I'm crazy enough to start another a week later. Fun times.
Post by lovemyirishtwins on Apr 6, 2017 20:26:44 GMT -5
cornpop311 I think sharebear05 said it best. As you know marriage has its up and downs. Good years and hard ones. Good productive communication tends to be one of the hardest things for a lot of us in marriage. At the end of the day, it is all up to you and your H to decide what you want to put in and what you're willing to put up with. I hope that you are able to find those answers for yourself and come to a decision you are okay with. So many hugs lady.
lonegalathome I would not have mentioned It to the parent. Perhaps I am the lone voice here but I would give the boy another chance. I have a hard time controlling my emotions on a bad day and the little one was 6. I would invite him to do another thing, maybe a park date with the mom and see how that goes.
360blessings hot toddy! I do a weird version, basically of cup of hot chamomile tea, a generous serving of brandy (because I don't like whisky), and some honey mixed together before bed. Soothes the threat, helps with sleep!
Thanks! lotsoflotts and @shawnabm Just finished the rest of DH's whisky and my second hot toddy. Here's hoping the cough subsides and I get some sleep tonight!
Post by CoachTsWife on Apr 6, 2017 20:40:28 GMT -5
DS learned a new word tonight. We have a pond behind our house that the parks and rec department maintains. They were mowing the banks tonight with six commercial mowers and DS was fascinated with the "mo mos".
But then one of the mowers slid INTO the pond and DH and I had fun watching them get it out. It took over an hour! The banks are relatively steep and it's been raining here for two weeks so the ground is saturated/slick. Exciting night here...!
I'm watching the finale of Big Little Lies and am nervous AF. Which is silly because I've read the book and know what happens but this show is intense.
lonegalathome I don't think I would have said anything to the mom because I'm a chicken shit about that stuff. I'd maybe give him another chance in a group setting but I wouldn't let my kid go there.
Watched it yesterday. Which did you prefer- show or book?
I liked the ending of the show better. More of a "sisterhood" thing, but I think I preferred the book overall.
Answer is always the book (except for the Devil Wears Prada). I think I'm going to reread the book to get a better comparison. I'm having a hard time remembering.
Do we need a thread for this? I don't want to spoiler it for people and I have no idea how to do the spoil thing you just did.
Answer is always the book (except for the Devil Wears Prada). I think I'm going to reread the book to get a better comparison. I'm having a hard time remembering.
Do we need a thread for this? I don't want to spoiler it for people and I have no idea how to do the spoil thing you just did.
This is one of the few times I like the movie/show way better than the book. The author is not my favorite at all.
Really? I loved her books.
I mean, they're not literary classics, but I thought they were compelling and fun. "What Alice Forgot" has been my favorite.
Post by pixiepink24 on Apr 6, 2017 21:12:10 GMT -5
cornpop311 Once again, I understand your feelings so much!
I think one of the main reasons I never want to be married again is because I don't want to fail at it. Which is kind of dumb for me to say because failing a relationship is basically the same thing.
Just please know that you are not alone in the feelings that you are having in your relationship. I'm always down to talk and vent too.
@justinslovo, so many good thoughts for your niece and nephew. cornpop311, I always remind myself that marriage will always ebb and flow and marriage with little kids in the picture is that much harder! As sharebear05 pointed out, if you're trying, you're clearly not failing. Hugs lady!
I don't even know what to think. All I can do is pray and let go and let God, cause otherwise I'd be hyperventilating in a corner pretty much unable to function. Lord help us all.
wells2010, She's the keynote speaker at an Annie's List luncheon I'm going to tomorrow! I still can't believe I managed to get a ticket. She might look at me!!
@wafflesfriendswork, I'll take pictures, for sure. My boys will disown me, otherwise. I'm pretty sure I'll be too shaky for a video, lol
Because you're all stressed out for me, I did find a blazer and manage to get DS2 to t-ball practice. Three stores with three kids. Good times!
cornpop311, you're still getting in your groove as parents AND just had a major employment/lifestyle change. That similar combo kicked our asses for a long, long time. We finally found our way back.
Therapy is a great start. You won't be a failure either way. Fighting for your marriage and your family is brave and worthy regardless. Both of you being happy is the only end result that matters.
Vent away. You need a safe spot and I promise many of us can sympathize.
Today I went from Mama to Mommy. I also caught a glimpse of A while she was running around the park and she looks so grown up. Where has my baby gone?
I heard Mommy the other day too. I didn't like it. I hope she sticks with Mama
I purposely only refer to myself as Mama and I tell everyone else this too. Sometimes she will call H daddy now which is cute, but I'm not sure how he feels about it.
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