. I'm impressed! I had a dentist appointment and cancelled it. I was nervous DD wouldn't chill in her carrier that long, and I wasn't sure how I would be able to comfort her. In retrospect, I wish I had just gone. She was much more chill then.
kristhegirlcallmeKD do either of you follow those "leaps" babies go through? It says they are based off off due date, and not delivery date, but I think we are going through a leap now, and she's not "supposed" to start showing signs for another 2 weeks. I was just wondering your experience with 35 weekers.
My girls lined up with their due dates, Nora is going through the leap right now. Evan has not started the leap yet.
I'm a little embarrassed to be asking this on the internets, but I think I'd feel more awkward asking someone IRL.
So- we had sex for the first time since before I got pregnant. (We did IVF and it was off limits til 14 weeks, then I was super sick, then when I felt better I was bigger and I honestly just couldn't get into the idea and I'm pretty sure my H was a little weirded out by the new body, and all the weird body stuff going on.)
But it hurt, a lot. And I had the easiest delivery on the planet. Is this normal? We waited the full 6 weeks, and my doctor said everything healed perfectly.
I'm a little embarrassed to be asking this on the internets, but I think I'd feel more awkward asking someone IRL.
So- we had sex for the first time since before I got pregnant. (We did IVF and it was off limits til 14 weeks, then I was super sick, then when I felt better I was bigger and I honestly just couldn't get into the idea and I'm pretty sure my H was a little weirded out by the new body, and all the weird body stuff going on.)
But it hurt, a lot. And I had the easiest delivery on the planet. Is this normal? We waited the full 6 weeks, and my doctor said everything healed perfectly.
I'm a little embarrassed to be asking this on the internets, but I think I'd feel more awkward asking someone IRL.
So- we had sex for the first time since before I got pregnant. (We did IVF and it was off limits til 14 weeks, then I was super sick, then when I felt better I was bigger and I honestly just couldn't get into the idea and I'm pretty sure my H was a little weirded out by the new body, and all the weird body stuff going on.)
But it hurt, a lot. And I had the easiest delivery on the planet. Is this normal? We waited the full 6 weeks, and my doctor said everything healed perfectly.
Normal. Honestly even though I had a pretty easy delivery with DS (I did have a second degree tear and stitches) and recovered well it took a couple months after we started having sex again to feel okay. Things did go back to normal, it just took time and patience.
bookish I'm so sorry you're feeling that way. It sounds like we've had similar experiences and it can be scary to revisit those awful thoughts/mental spaces.
@priss08 I'd definitely be in.
Quinstar i tried on a pair of my normal sized shorts today. I immediately regretted it as well. Could you do a forgiving dress for Easter?
Post by seadragon2013 on Apr 10, 2017 19:14:10 GMT -5
glb30, it's normal. It helped us to make sure I was very relaxed - a little wine, lots of foreplay, and plenty of lube. I could feel my scar tissue for several months after getting the all clear. By 6 months, though, we were back in the groove and things were actually even better than they were pre-baby.
@priss08 seadragon2013amandamh2 thank you! Honestly, that makes me feel so much better. I do breastfeed, and we did not use lube. We really just tried to just back into like normal, and maybe that was the issue. It has actually been so long, that when it started up, I didn't want to make things weird 😂. I'll be prepared for the next time. H caught me off guard haha
muskiefan, I've tried on every dress I own but none of them fit. Neither do any of my nice pre-pregnancy shirts. It's been a depressing day in regards to clothes lol. I'm going to go shopping this week and find something that makes me feel good for sure.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 10, 2017 21:10:36 GMT -5
H just informed me that he is staying over at work in the morning. I told him yesterday that my appt with the surgeon is at 9:15 in the morning. He specifically asked if I wanted him to go and I said yes or he stay home with ds since mil doesn't watch him on tuesdays. He said nothing about any conflicts, which would imply he wasn't listening. So now I have to get both kids ready and out of the house by 8:40 and take them to an appointment where some man is going to inspect my ass crack. DS is going to really love this.
Post by kristhegirl on Apr 10, 2017 21:26:41 GMT -5
glb30 my OB said if sex is really uncomfortable, she'd prescribe an estrogen cream. BFing can make you dry as the desert.
I didn't need it last time, lube was enough. I had pain during sex but it was from my tear healing/scar tissue. If you're having a dry issue, though, it wouldn't hurt to ask your doc if it doesn't get better.
glb30 Totally normal. I had to use a ton more lube the whole time I was breastfeeding DS1. My OB also gave me some estrogen cream that really helped...I was totally embarrassed to bring it up with her, but was really glad that I did!
glb30 my OB addressed this last time without my asking (I love her). She said lots of lube, foreplay and more specifically that now wasn't the time for quickies. Or "pity sex". Did I mention that I love her? So yes, totally normal but it will get better with time!!
Quinstar I'm loving the shopping plan not that nothing fits. After DD was born I went shopping at about 6 weeks post-partum and it was a game-changer for how I felt about myself and my "new" body. I only got a few things to get me through but it made me feel so much better about myself. I plan to do the same thing again in a few weeks. I hope it goes well for you and makes you feel better!
Quinstar I'm loving the shopping plan not that nothing fits. After DD was born I went shopping at about 6 weeks post-partum and it was a game-changer for how I felt about myself and my "new" body. I only got a few things to get me through but it made me feel so much better about myself. I plan to do the same thing again in a few weeks. I hope it goes well for you and makes you feel better!
+1 to this. Buying a couple things that make you feel good is awesome. Last time I got a couple nursing tops and a pair of jeans in a new size and it made me feel so much better than pre-pregnancy and maternity clothes that didn't fit properly anymore.
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