Morning! Colin once again woke up on the wrong side of the bed, but his pull-up was practically dry (I almost missed his 4:30 wake-up and I think he'd started peeing when he didn't get my attention) and he cheered up once he ate some yogurt. He's been doing so well with the potty lately but he's not listening to anyone at home or at school. He's so smart and can be so sweet, but he just can't calm down sometimes. It makes me both frustrated and sad.
Anyhow Chase has his post-tubes hearing test today. DH is taking care of it since I've had to take so much time off already for Chase's appointments and sick days. He actually took the whole morning off so he could get in a gym trip too, which I was happy to hear about. He's been so bummed about not going regularly so he needed this.
Morning ladies! We are having a lazy, lay around in jammies morning. This afternoon is the visitation/funeral. The burial is actually tomorrow morning. We will be going to the church after H wakes up from her nap this afternoon.
@sing2phins I'm sorry you're struggling right now. If you can only find the energy for cooking or exercise, I would definitely focus on the food. Very little weight loss is the result of working out.
It's also hard to squeeze that in to your already busy day. I've also found that when my body feels, I don't know? Almost like it isn't mine because I'm a size that makes me so uncomfortable, it's very hard to work out. Exercise is important, but not so much so that you need to go from 0-60 or start right away. You already have to eat anyway, so a little planning and meal prep can go a long way.
On Sundays, I put together salads, oats with fruit, freeze ingredients for smoothies, etc. and found that is a huge help.
Something else that occurred to me recently is that although I was eating perfectly during the day, I would binge at night and my appetite was just out of control from about 8 pm onward.
I've been adding a cooked starch to my lunchtime meal, i.e. A cup of quinoa added to my salad or a baked sweet potato with a drizzle of maple syrup and that's been making all the difference in keeping me satisfied.
Post by wineallthetime on Apr 12, 2017 9:59:09 GMT -5
cagoldi, I know exactly what you mean about it being hard to workout when you're uncomfortable with your body and don't feel like yourself. It's a crappy feeling.
tallblonde add me to the shopaholic club. It's terrible but subconsciously I'm thinking ahead to this summer when we'll have no mortgage/rent or related expenses--wheeee! But that is not here yet. I should probably slow my roll...after I place this Carter's order
mamabear13 Congrats on the offer! That's awesome that your skills can translate across several industries.
calishove We also like Carters pjs--short sleeves/pants this time of year. We keep the house cool so I like him to have at least a little bit of coverage in the summer.
trtlcrzy Thinking of you guys today, I'm sure this afternoon will be very sad.
I know we're already doing a BBM, but should we start a weight loss challenge thread next week?
By challenge, I don't necessarily mean we have to give our weight, just a focus for each day or week?
Like drink 60+ ounces water, meal plan or prep, exercise goals, just something we want to focus on individually?
I think if we break it down into a habit we want to establish, that's so much easier than thinking "I have to lose 50 pounds by December" or something.
Post by wineallthetime on Apr 12, 2017 10:07:58 GMT -5
@sing2phins, WFH would be a huge struggle for me. I stay home with the kids part time and find that I snack SO MUCH MORE because the food is there. At work I bring my snacks and lunch and don't really stray from that.
Congrats mamabear13 ! What a relief, on both the job and dc fronts.
@sing2phins I'm so sorry. I know you've been struggling with your weight for a while. Did you ever start doing weight watchers like you mentioned? I hope this is the kick in the pants you need to get motivated.
I joined WW last February, went to two meetings, counted points for about two days, and then paid them money every month until I finally canceled this past February. Like I said, I'm the worst. I'm contemplating going back, but I don't know. I really need to exercise. Since I WFH mostly now, it really shouldn't be that hard to work it in, I'm just lazy.
Thanks for the support, everyone. I hate that so many people are also struggling, but I am glad I'm not alone.
I'm sorry you're having a rough go of things ATM. I know it's not quite the same, but my parents are both doing WW points system right now and having a lot of success. My dad WFH and takes a long walk (4+ miles) at lunch. He likes the break and getting outdoors rather than just sitting at the kitchen table checking emails. They have FitBits and I think that is very motivating, too. Maybe that is something to think about if you don't have one already?
I know we're already doing a BBM, but should we start a weight loss challenge thread next week?
By challenge, I don't necessarily mean we have to give our weight, just a focus for each day or week?
Like drink 60+ ounces water, meal plan or prep, exercise goals, just something we want to focus on individually?
I think if we break it down into a habit we want to establish, that's so much easier than thinking "I have to lose 50 pounds by December" or something.
I like this idea. I am nervous to do too much b/c with S I noticed a direct relation to my milk production when I started weight watchers. But I don't think my daily donut really helps with the milk production. So maybe this will help me find a happy medium.
Can I DD for a minute? I wanted to post last night but was feeling too emotional about this, so hopefully I can make it less ramble-y today. Sorry if it still gets long.
I feel bad even writing this because H can be such a sweet, happy boy, but that's only about 25% of the time. The rest of the time he is a whiny, crabby kid and it is really starting to wear on me and DH. He has always been a fussier baby, but the past couple weeks have been particularly bad. We've always made excuses like he's teething or tired or sick.. etc. etc. but I don't think he's working on any teeth right now. I even took him in 2 or 3 times this winter thinking he had an EI, but they were clear.
Another concern is that he is obsessed with food. He is always wanting snacks, even right after finishing a meal. If we're out, and he sees the diaper bag, he freaks out until we pull out food. If he sees other kids with food, he demands it. He's always been around 75% on the charts so I'm not concerned about his weight, but more so the obsessive side if it. I try and tell myself it's probably normal and I'm sure it is, but it's exhausting.
Anyway, I'm just feeling really guilty for even having these feelings. Last night I cried in bed because of it. Again,I'm sure it's totally normal 1 year old behavior, but I can't help but wonder if there is something else? He has his 1 year appt Friday so I will talk to his doctor but I know I won't be able to bring it up without crying. I'm tearing up now just typing it because I don't want to feel this way.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for here, but I just need to let it out to someone besides DH.
Oh slenle big hugs. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Don't beat yourself up, there are always going to be times when we find ourselves stressed, frustrated, annoyed and exhausted by our children, and maybe even actively disliking them at times.
I think you're on the right track to discuss it with the pedi. Hopefully it's all nothing and he's just in a demanding phase--things may improve once he is more verbal and can better express himself.
I would jot down your concerns and specific examples to bring with you to the doctor. Maybe that will help you stay calm/collected. But if you get emotional, that's ok too. I had moments with B's speech therapist in his early days. It's nothing they haven't seen before--they know that you're not some hysterical parent, just that you are loving, concerned and exhausted.
@sing2phins , WFH would be a huge struggle for me. I stay home with the kids part time and find that I snack SO MUCH MORE because the food is there. At work I bring my snacks and lunch and don't really stray from that.
See for me it is the opposite. When I am at the office, I end up snacking more during my downtime bc my office is close to all sorts of restaurants and retail. At home, I would have to drive, so I don't bother. I fill any slow time or breaks with doing shit around the house (laundry, straightening up) - not eating.
Post by yummeecookee on Apr 12, 2017 12:37:41 GMT -5
Oh wow slenle. I feel like I could've written that post. C was a really really tough baby and there were many times I took him to the pedi thinking they were going to uncover some source of all his grouchiness. I am sorry you are having a tough time w him. I've mostly chalked this up to being needy and whiny is just part of his personality. I have to say with him being smack in the middle of toddlerhood (he is 17mo), things have gotten better. He wants to play more and explore everything. I find that the busier he is, the less fussing or snack-searching he is doing. I hope your appointment goes well and he starts to mellow out a bit for you all.
I'm sorry, slenle. I keep typing up responses and deleting them because I'm not sure they are encouraging. But I feel you. Chase's sleeping and development have improved so much since getting his tubes, but he's still a grump. And Colin has been obsessive over food since he was a baby, and him being in the 90-95% for weight makes me so anxious about it. I agree with yummeecookee - keeping them busy helps a ton on both fronts. I'm just thankful for the nice weather because Chase seems to enjoy the fresh air and Colin forgets about snacks when he's playing "sports" outside. Hopefully things will improve before the weather starts going downhill.
Post by lahdeedah88 on Apr 12, 2017 13:10:04 GMT -5
Good for you nam2013! Hope the meds kick in quickly.
Sorry you are having a rough go with H, slenle. I was just typing up a post last night about M and his tantrums/ cry fests lately, but deleted it. Toddlers can wear you thin sometimes, but you are a great mom. I get feeling guilty about your feelings. I hope he turns a corner for you soon.
slenle, like JoeLies, I keep starting to type a response but not sure I have anything helpful to say. Add me to the 2nd baby is much tougher than the 1st one club. In every facet. Sleeping is better than it was, but still no where near where it should be. He has hit EVERY milestone far later. Eating has been a struggle (a lot upsets his tummy and if it's not perfectly smooth he can't figure out what to do with it - by this time with S, he was eating everything), and overall he's just a MUCH fussier kid. I struggle and get frustrated a lot. And then I feel guilty for it.
I second what LizInFL said. I find it helpful to make notes for the pedi both to keep my composure, and not to forget anything. And don't worry if you breakdown. They've seen it all!
Good for you nam2013 ! Hope the meds kick in quickly.
Sorry you are having a rough go with H, slenle . I was just typing up a post last night about M and his tantrums/ cry fests lately, but deleted it. Toddlers can wear you thin sometimes, but you are a great mom. I get feeling guilty about your feelings. I hope he turns a corner for you soon.
I have a tough time with the tantrums. I find when he acts so out of control, I lose my temper with him. Which obviously makes things worse. We went through a REALLY bad phase from February till a few weeks ago. He still has some tantrums, but he seems to be handling his emotions a bit better now.
But there were a few weeks there when I was wondering who came in and stole my sweet, go with the flow kid and replaced him with a demon!
I'm sure dealing with that and being very pregnant is not easy.
Thank you ladies for making me feel a bit better! He is just such a different baby than N was and it's so hard not to compare.
DH poured me a big glass of wine just before my breaking point last night as I was listening to H scream in his crib. Good man.
He's obviously too young to really understand, but I think we're going to start talking him through things more. Try to stay calm, use words. Basically try not to get so frustrated with him.
And I'm also wondering if this phase has something to do with weaning. We're still nursing morning and night and sometimes during the day on weekends, but maybe he's not getting enough milk?? He gets 2-6 ounce sippies at daycare and we offer him milk when we get home and at dinner but sometimes he doesn't drink any. So maybe he's not getting as many nutrients as when he was fully on breastmilk? I'll definitely bring this up with the pedi, but I just thought of this today and it got me thinking.
Good for you nam2013 ! Hope the meds kick in quickly.
Sorry you are having a rough go with H, slenle . I was just typing up a post last night about M and his tantrums/ cry fests lately, but deleted it. Toddlers can wear you thin sometimes, but you are a great mom. I get feeling guilty about your feelings. I hope he turns a corner for you soon.
I have a tough time with the tantrums. I find when he acts so out of control, I lose my temper with him. Which obviously makes things worse. We went through a REALLY bad phase from February till a few weeks ago. He still has some tantrums, but he seems to be handling his emotions a bit better now.
But there were a few weeks there when I was wondering who came in and stole my sweet, go with the flow kid and replaced him with a demon!
I'm sure dealing with that and being very pregnant is not easy.
Yes! For the past few days he has tantrums and cries hysterically for long periods of time for no apparent reason and I have no patience for it. He won't tell me what's wrong or why he is upset. I send him to his room to calm down, and he stays for a little bit and comes out whining and crying a little less, but I can tell it's forced and it's so frustrating. I need him to get it out of his system before this baby comes, because I can't imagine dealing with that and a newborn. Where did my sweet kid go? Hysterical crying and tantrums are not his norm so it catches me so off guard. Good to know I'm not alone, although I'm sorry you are dealing with this, too.
Post by lahdeedah88 on Apr 12, 2017 13:29:00 GMT -5
And speaking of Carter's.... I just got a package from them. I refuse to look at their website today, though. As long as no one says they still have free shipping, I won't do it.
ETA: They are insanely fast. I made this order Monday and it's here today. M's all set with summer PJs now.
My biggest issue is portion control, so I was considering doing Nutrisystem, but I don't know if I can deal with the idea of not cooking and eating prepackaged food. If it helps teach me for portion control in the short term, I should probably just suck it up and go for it, but I also think taking the time to meal plan and organize my own food here would also work. So, in the interim, I end up doing nothing.
Maybe the 21 day fix program would work for you. It's a container system. I think @surelycantbesrs did it.
Post by wineallthetime on Apr 12, 2017 13:44:03 GMT -5
slenle, I'm sorry. That's tough Don't feel guilty, it's ok to be frustrated with your kids and comparing them is something we all do. I find the 12 month old age to be frustrating in general as well because they can't fully communicate and they're trying to learn and do so much that they can't do yet. There is no reasoning with them and they can be hard to distract! That on top of a fussier baby would be a lot. It sounds like all good stuff to talk to your pedi about, and remember it's ok to get emotional. They've seen it all.
Post by wineallthetime on Apr 12, 2017 13:45:29 GMT -5
And yes to the toddler tantrums. I feel like all I do is yell, which isn't helpful. At all. I'm constantly thinking that I must just be the shittiest parent since my kid can be such a terror. It makes me feel better when I read here and realize I'm not alone!
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