Post by ladytiffany24 on Apr 13, 2017 9:10:24 GMT -5
Any STMs (or more)...I need your help/advice. Or even FTMs who might still have some great advice.
As I mentioned previously, my 2 1/2 year old seems to be having a rough time all of the sudden. She did pretty good the first few weeks. We just noticed maybe a little more attitude than normal. Keeping in mind, she's pretty strong-willed to begin with so part of that comes with the territory. Also, terrible twos. But, for about a little over a week now, it's all gotten worse. She's being defiant, not listening more than usual, and is being more aggressive. Got a bad report from the sitter 1 day last week and got another text this morning that she was crying and hitting. This is not like her at all so I can only attribute it to her still trying to acclimate to having her brother around.
We're utilizing the "1-2-3 Magic" method of discipline at home and have asked the sitter to do the same. She's started using it this week. Sitter is a saint and adores DD. She's willing to help however she can. She also doesn't want us to just come pick her up everytime she has an "episode" because she doesn't want her to just start acting out thinking that every time she does that, mommy or daddy will come get her. So she's working with us which is great. She also keeps reassuring us that this is normal and it will pass eventually. That she just wants to make sure we're all being consistent and keeping each other updated.
Anyways, I'm just reaching out to see if any of you have experience with this and have any other ideas that we might implement. What else can we be doing with her? My husband thinks we've let her get away with too much for a while now and that's part of the problem so he's all about the discipline. I understand this, but I also know she's 2 1/2 and there's only so much we can do. At the same time, I won't tolerate hitting and the sitter won't either. I also don't want to just be punishing her all the time and have her think I don't love her. Or have her start resenting me.
What can I do?! Help!
I should add, she's not acting out at all towards her baby brother. She adores him. But I'm still a firm believer that this acting out in other ways has every thing to do with him and his arrival because it only started getting this bad when we brought him home.
ETA: TL;DR - My toddler's behavior has gotten pretty bad since we brought DS home. Help me try to fix it.