mosdub I started feeling it, too. I kind of started losing my mind! (Like- see the all typos in my earlier posts, haha!) Hope you get some good sleep this afternoon.
I would find daycare staff not acknowledging a baby weird at best glb30. My friends who work at daycares are always all about interacting with any kid they meet, let alone one who is/will be in their care.
Glad you got some time with just your girls @justinslovo, balancing more than one is hard (and I imagine even more of a balance with 3 than 2).
glb30 That is a little weird that someone who works with infants every day wouldn't greet her! I had second thoughts about our daycare because a few of the non-lead teachers don't speak great English. I am glad I stuck it out because they ended up being wonderful with DS1. With that said, they were upset that I didnt send them a picture when DS2 was born and they have all already learned his name even though he won't start with them until September. Go with your Mom gut!
@justinslovo the struggle to have time for the toddler sucks. Yesterday H was outside with dd1 and having so much fun. All I wanted to do was join them but E was so fussy and wouldn't let it be.
H got home late from work (should have been 1030, was 1245am) & had to be up early again so I took night duty (I always do, but really this time). A slept 930ish-1ish, DD1 woke up at 130 and needed cuddles cuz she misses me () , then A woke up again at 330 and I was in and out of her room every half hour for the rest of the night b/c she has been getting super congested at night. H this morning found dried blood in her nose I have a humidifier running but guess I'll try cranking it up tonight. I thought she had a cold but the other symptoms disappeared so I'm back to thinking just newborn congestion? Any advice here would be appreciated!
I start working again tomorrow. I'm SUPPOSED to only be "kind of back" for another 8 weeks (I'm the only one in the company with this type of position so my boss and I kind of made up maternity leave rules), but boss (who is the "go to if it's an emergency" for my accounts while I'm out) is already responding to emails saying I'll be back Monday and I'll handle it, he's assigning me not small projects, etc. I know I'm supposed to be working, but this "kind of back" is going to just be completely back and it makes me sad. H & I are going to try living on just his pay for May/June and, if we can make that work, will seriously consider me leaving my job. Fx we can make it work b/c I'm loving being home with 2 kids (way more than I enjoyed being home w/ just 1...go figure).
mosdub, I feel ya with the fire hose situation. I've had wicked letdowns w/ both kids now. DD1 was smaller so she really struggled with it and nursing sucked until she just got bigger. Knowing more this time around, and having a bigger baby, has helped and I will express a bit if I'm really full or just try to feed A before I get to that point (nighttime is obv harder), but I feel so bad when she chokes (and, inevitably, unlatches and gets sprayed in the face) then lets out the angriest scream before latching again. Fx that isn't an on going issue for you!
That being said DD's teachers haven't paid much attention to DS when I have picked her up. They have their hands full and I don't expect them to stop to see the baby. Mostly they are trying to keep all the kids from crowding him while I get DD ready since the kids rush over to see the baby. It doesn't bother me and I still know they take good care of DD.
Post by moutonrouge on Apr 30, 2017 13:10:57 GMT -5
mosdub do you nurse side lying at all? My letdown is intense but DD almost never chokes when side lying, even if she's comfort nursing or has fallen asleep and my second letdown surprises her. This is a good tutorial if you wanted to try it: naturalparentsnetwork.com/side-lying-nursing-a-breastfeeding-tutorial/
Thanks kristhegirl. Before dd1 was born I was full time with the company in an outside sales position. So in that role the mat leave (4 weeks off, 8 weeks kind of off, which meant just from home email/phone) made since because full time was on the road/traveling. When I moved to this pt from home role we didn't really know how to create a comparable mat leave so we agreed on 4 weeks off, 8 weeks available but with my boss' understanding that I am not technically back and he may not always be able to reach me. He's a great boss (& a family man who has also done the work from home thing with kids before), but I've realized there isn't much ground between "kind of back" and "part time from home". I'm sure he would understand that; I think it's more my own problem with having a hard time setting work hours vs mom hours when I'm kind of always doing both. (related note - dd1 is on a waiting list for a Montessori school since January but apparently there's still 40 kids ahead of her!? So I now don't expect that to happen even this year anytime which is a bummer b/c it's the only place I really loved. So she was going to go a few mornings a week so I could work but that's probably not happening anymore. I know I can keep looking I just haven't found any other options I like nearly as much).
mosdub do you nurse side lying at all? My letdown is intense but DD almost never chokes when side lying, even if she's comfort nursing or has fallen asleep and my second letdown surprises her. This is a good tutorial if you wanted to try it: naturalparentsnetwork.com/side-lying-nursing-a-breastfeeding-tutorial/
Yes, we have 80% success rate with side laying, I would say. I have to lay something down underneath because usually I end up with a puddle. Also reclined in a chair with him up-and-down on my chest helps so we are working against gravity.
So apparently the baby gods decided that my awesome night of sleep needed to be balanced out with C being super fussy today.
And of course today is H's one day off (and he's about to stay planting this week, so he's about to get really busy at work) and he and I are just not jiving today. We aren't fighting, but I'm a little frustrated that I'm the default parent. And he vocalized this morning that he's really sexually frustrated. I get it, I do. But I'm a little preoccupied, and don't feel particularly sexy. I know it's important, and I know he's frustrated and has been super patient. It just seems to be the elephant in the room.
I'm hormonal today. I love that I don't have to return to work until August, but I'm starting to have a hard time being alone with the baby all day every day. I get very little interaction other than with H when he gets home (late). I think that's also bumming me out.
kaits8 omg! I am having the same issues with maternity leave. I'm actually at my office right now writing, when I don't go back til 12 weeks. I said "let me know if you are ever really in a pinch."
6 weeks to the day, and I've been legit "handling" things.
renegadewhit, thank you for all the advice! I just started using saline mist but will use it more often.
glb30, I guess it's nice to know our companies need us, but man I would love to feel not needed (since that isn't going to happen at home!) for a while! I'm going to try to create a better work - life balance this time around and see if that makes me happier. If not, though, I would totally love the chance to be home full time until the girls are in school. I guess either way it will work out!
mosdub do you nurse side lying at all? My letdown is intense but DD almost never chokes when side lying, even if she's comfort nursing or has fallen asleep and my second letdown surprises her. This is a good tutorial if you wanted to try it: naturalparentsnetwork.com/side-lying-nursing-a-breastfeeding-tutorial/
Yes, we have 80% success rate with side laying, I would say. I have to lay something down underneath because usually I end up with a puddle. Also reclined in a chair with him up-and-down on my chest helps so we are working against gravity.
The puddles get better I think as their mouths get bigger. My arm, bra, and the sheet would get soaked at first, especially if she pulled off at peak moments.
renegadewhit. I know getting out will help. I've gone out a few times with C. The hardest part is that we live in a town of about 1700. There isn't really anything here to go to, and the closest city that would offer things is a half hour away. Because of the hour round trip, it's a little intimidating. I'd love to find a mom's group, but don't know where to look to find one. I need to just embrace getting out of the house, because if I don't I might lose my mind.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 30, 2017 19:39:49 GMT -5
Tonight is a rough bedtime night. DD has not been satisfied with life unless she is eating so she is screaming crying while I'm in DS's room until he falls asleep. I hate that I have to put her through that for 5-10 minutes but I don't know what else to do on nights I'm by myself.
DD slept from 8-6! Of course around 4 my boobs woke me up and my shirt was soaked.
Starting to freak out about work in two weeks. Teaching 7 45 minute k-1 Spanish classes a day is a lot. Pumping during lunch . Only 19 schools Day until break though!
DD2 can probably go to DD1's new daycare/preschool in late October, so that's good. She looks amazing-music class, to a lot of fun activities, former teacher and affordable.
M is also at the I like the milk holder best, so DH gives up trying to comfort her fast.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 30, 2017 20:28:40 GMT -5
She woke up right as I was making cereal. Thankfully it was before I poured the milk. I gave her some gripe water and she's been nursing since we sat down.
I'm glad she's eating well but I spend 6:30-10 feeding her nearly every night. I hope when I go back to work next week we settle into a new routine.
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.