TFAS 4/30

[westiemom]

katelm
nikiswimr
brettanomyces
dp21
westiemom

How are things going this week?

QOTW: What is your favorite exercise method?

[westiemom]

CD 25 here and no sign of ovulation. I'm about to give us and quit peeing on my monitor sticks and quit temping for this month. I'm kind of over it and feel out. Ugh. Brings back lots of memories. I'm dropping another nursing session tomorrow which will leave me at 2 so hopefully things regulate out. I also need to exercise again to help control the PCOS.

QOTW: I love gym classes. Especially barre and yoga. I also like long walks.

[Martinis&Medicine]

Hi! I'm finally back after like...what? Six months? Anyway, my cycles returned so we are TFAS until our next IVF cycle. Just going to see what happens. I'd like to join the check in if that's ok?

[nikiswimr]

Hi Martinis&Medicine!

westiemom, sorry that's so frustrating. Even without PCOS I think the first few postpartum cycles are often anovulatory. Hope things get regular soon!

I'm 3dp6dt having a hard time staying optimistic, mainly ignoring the whole thing. Likely beta or bust (I always did in the past). I don't even have any tests in the house.

[nikiswimr]

Oops QOTW: what I love most is running, what I do most these days is barre (they have childcare)

[westiemom]

Martinis&Medicine welcome back! I will add you to the check-in!

nikiswimr I admire you for beta and busting! I have all the things crossed that you will leave this check in shortly. 😉

[dp21]

Our second second opinion is on Wednesday then we'll need to decide what we want to do: stay with current clinic, new clinic last week, or clinic this week. I am leaning towards the clinic last week based on reputation.

QOTW: running. I'm actually trying to lose some weight right now and have been running and doing hot yoga when I can (there's no childcare there so a pain to get to really).

[dp21]

So today was suppose to be my second second opinion but they called yesterday (b/c of an emergency) moved my appointment to this Friday. Said PA was available today but with my history, would be better to meet with MD. So definitely a ding against this clinic. I got called by my mom yesterday (a little bit of context, my mom is first generation little asian lady). She is very blunt, culturally we are different, and I think we have lots of communication issues because of it. But she basically said we "should only have one kid, "one is enough", "if it were me I wouldn't put myself through treatment", "why is your sister-in-law pregnant, is this a competition?" "If God wanted you to be pregnant, it would happen." My husband is convinced she was trying to be helpful but failing 1000%. Other than that did an interview for job I potentially really want, they called me back for a working interview! So nervous. The last job I am interested in, they liked me, but want me to pass boards first before a real interview. So we'll see how all of this plays out. Waiting on CD1 to start, really hope CD3 doesn't happen when I am in Chicago again (which is all of next week for board review course). I need to get blood work done.

[dp21]

westiemom, I had to drop nursing completing to do IVF last summer and it broke my heart. It's one of my regrets, I gave up nursing to TTC #2 a year ago and here I am not pregnant (not knowing if I'll get to experience it again). I kinda wished I just let her nurse a few more months and wean herself.
Martinis&Medicine, welcome!
nikiswimr, the two week wait sucks. I could never hold out. I found night of 5-early 6dp5(6)dt I usually had an early positive. But it's a totally terrible mental game if negative and a totally reliever if positive. FX this goes by fast for you. Once I am done with my yoga classes (purchased before kids), need to find a place with childcare lol

[nikiswimr]

dp21 you may have mentioned this but what are you studying? Also your mom is my MIL... Sorry it makes things more stressful! Good luck on Friday.

[dp21]

May 3, 2017 7:08:52 GMT -5 nikiswimr said:

dp21 you may have mentioned this but what are you studying? Also your mom is my MIL... Sorry it makes things more stressful! Good luck on Friday.

Nurse practitioner, I have a general degree so can do anything but my passion is pediatrics.

[westiemom]

I'm sorry for your mom. My husband is Asian and we have dealt with similar conversations from his family. Ugh. Good luck Friday.

[dp21]

westiemom , I really think it's a cultural thing and am not sure what it is. My SIL is from China and she also makes rude remarks (not as bad as my mom). About two months ago she asked me how many kids I want to have? And she knows everything.  I wonder if it's culture/language barrier (for both English is second language)/maybe both!  I don't think it's malicious but sure feels that way sometimes.  

[katelm]

dp21 😱 to all those things she said. I'm sorry

[katelm]

I have a consult in 4 weeks with my RE. I can't believe C is almost 10 months 😭😭 she's becoming more like a toddler every day.

I'm so torn about timing of tfas. Ideally I would like to wait somewhat longer & enjoy our little family of 3 but years of miscarriages & failed IF treatments threw that whole plan off and now we are much older than I wanted to be at this stage in our lives. Our current plan is a FET in the fall ..maybe October. I'm really cherishing my nursing relationship with my daughter and plan to go beyond a year. I'm eager to see what my RE says. I'm also stressing that tfas could take a long time and if I don't get on it sooner than later, I will regret it

[karabear4409]

I'm just here to stalk for updates on nikiswimr. When is your beta?

[westiemom]

May 3, 2017 19:01:21 GMT -5 katelm said:

I have a consult in 4 weeks with my RE. I can't believe C is almost 10 months 😭😭 she's becoming more like a toddler every day.

I'm so torn about timing of tfas. Ideally I would like to wait somewhat longer & enjoy our little family of 3 but years of miscarriages & failed IF treatments threw that whole plan off and now we are much older than I wanted to be at this stage in our lives. Our current plan is a FET in the fall ..maybe October. I'm really cherishing my nursing relationship with my daughter and plan to go beyond a year. I'm eager to see what my RE says. I'm also stressing that tfas could take a long time and if I don't get on it sooner than later, I will regret it

Big hugs. I have so many similar feels. It's hard.

[nikiswimr]

May 4, 2017 8:41:41 GMT -5 karabear4409 said:

I'm just here to stalk for updates on nikiswimr. When is your beta?

Monday but not feeling terribly optimistic. I had tons of symptoms with my daughter at this point (6dp6dt) and zero this go around.

[dp21]

nikiswimr, big hugs been in your shoes. Sometimes frozen do take longer to implant.

AFM just had our second second opinion:

Clinic #2: Wants to repeat antagonist protocol since good numbers last time but wants to ditch birth control and do estrogen priming. Does not want to do genetic testing and didn't know what ERA testing is. Wants to do a 3-D US to see if something wrong with uterus that is causing implantation failure, said sometimes there is a problem that requires resection. He also thinks I am not really DOR and thinks we are mostly a MFI case (saying I'm borderline DOR)...says my FSH has always been normal and he seemed not to really believe in AMH (in 2014 it was 0.5 and last summer it 1.0). Does vaginal progesterone unless labs indicate I need more (for fresh and frozen). Wants to repeat RPL since I had some slightly positive labs (clinic 1 didn't think was necessary since after **tw mc******** agreeing with our original clinic mostly likely elevated bc of ***mc******)

Clinic #1: Wants to do estrogen priming + microflare lupron (which worries me a little since never done before). Freeze all genetic test. Do ERA testing. Then transfer. Do PIO. We are leaning towards this clinic but I am going to ask them to repeat my RPL panel even though they didn't think necessary based on appointment this morning. Part of me wonders if we should do estrogen priming + antagonist or just go all new. Thoughts? Overall, we are on last covered cycle, we want no regrets, and I feel this plan is the best to try to rule out issues.

[luvboston]

dp21 I would go with clinic 1 and insist on rpl testing but I still think dr. Kk also needs to happen. If not kk then beg them to allow lovenox at transfer all the way through first tri.

[dp21]

luvboston, thank you. I did ask for RPL testing and haven't heard back yet. I will keep you updated.

[nikiswimr]

BFN for me, and that was my only frosty. So on to something else. We had discussed doing an antagonist protocol and sending everything for PGD (S? I can never remember) if this didn't work. I guess I'll get the details tomorrow.

[emmuffy]

May 7, 2017 8:25:05 GMT -5 nikiswimr said:

BFN for me, and that was my only frosty. So on to something else. We had discussed doing an antagonist protocol and sending everything for PGD (S? I can never remember) if this didn't work. I guess I'll get the details tomorrow.

I'm very sorry about the bfn. Lots of hugs and best wishes moving forward!

[bocaburger]

I had a dream last night that I was checking in on this thread. Whoa. Apparently my subconscious is sending me some messages...

[westiemom]

May 7, 2017 8:25:05 GMT -5 nikiswimr said:

BFN for me, and that was my only frosty. So on to something else. We had discussed doing an antagonist protocol and sending everything for PGD (S? I can never remember) if this didn't work. I guess I'll get the details tomorrow.

Big hugs. I'm so sorry girl. Keep us posted on the plan.

[blueinred]

nikiswimr, I'm very sorry. I endured 3 very painful FET BFNs, one with PGS, and each one felt like a death. GL as you move forward.

[o2girl]

May 7, 2017 8:25:05 GMT -5 nikiswimr said:

BFN for me, and that was my only frosty. So on to something else. We had discussed doing an antagonist protocol and sending everything for PGD (S? I can never remember) if this didn't work. I guess I'll get the details tomorrow.

****lurking****

Sorry for the BFN. Wishing you all the best with other options!

[westiemom]

o2girl you should join the check-in 😉

[o2girl]

May 9, 2017 13:12:25 GMT -5 westiemom said:

o2girl you should join the check-in 😉

even if my FET is several months away?

[westiemom]

May 9, 2017 13:44:58 GMT -5 o2girl said:

May 9, 2017 13:12:25 GMT -5 westiemom said:

o2girl you should join the check-in 😉

even if my FET is several months away?

Yes! You can talk about getting ready and anything else you want to add. 😃