I've definitely been there staring at the monitor with my older on ugaqueencity. It's great they sleep but also nerve wracking at first (okay, not just at first- I still go check on my 2 year old).
*snip* I've definitely been there staring at the monitor with my older on ugaqueencity . It's great they sleep but also nerve wracking at first (okay, not just at first- I still go check on my 2 year old).
+1! I still check on my almost 3 year old on the video monitor.
Last night was brutal. After almost 4 hours of almost straight screaming we went to bed which lasted all of an hour before she was up again. I brought her in our bed so I could try to catch some sleep while nursing but she was up so frequently I hardly slept even so. I'm exhausted and she's still been eating a lot this morning, plus there's the toddler with a cold to take care of. Get out of my house sickness!
Last night was brutal. After almost 4 hours of almost straight screaming we went to bed which lasted all of an hour before she was up again. I brought her in our bed so I could try to catch some sleep while nursing but she was up so frequently I hardly slept even so. I'm exhausted and she's still been eating a lot this morning, plus there's the toddler with a cold to take care of. Get out of my house sickness!
Hugs! I've been there and it's so brutal. Hopefully today is an easier day.
Ugh amandamh2 I'm sorry you had such a rough night. It can really take a lot out of you. Fx today goes more smoothly and tonight brings sleep for everyone.
So I've been using my silicone breast pump during B's 8:30am feeding every morning. I tend to get 1 1/2 to 2 ounces. I've then been using that breastmilk to try and get him used to a bottle during his bedtime feed. He basically reflected 2 bottles (avent and nuk) but last night, to my surprise, he took the medela bottle like a champ! Kind of hoping it's not a one time thing because this will make pumping when back to work so much easier! I love the idea of getting to use the same bottles for pumping and feeding! So much less work and less cleanup! FX!
Lucky! Mine won't take medela but loves Nuk. I'm doing pretty much the exact same thing (using the silicone pump on the opposite breast 1-2x a day). I actually have a medela pump and store kit I need to return to target. I accidentally bought two (thanks pregnancy brain) and I held on to the receipt in case he didn't like medela.
Ready for E to go more than 3 hours between feedings. It's cold and rainy here so I'll try and just get some things done around the house. My h just texted me to make him his annual dr appointment for next week. We have this discussion every year - I am not his mother and hate calling to make his appointments. I don't know what works best for him. Then he gets annoyed I make him do it himself.
Bought a nose frida. E was a little stuffy this am so was just gonna do some saline, but decided to try the nose frida out. Holy hell, that was a lot of snot!
My god it is SUCH a Monday. I'm at work, I forgot my coffee at home, and I am on my period. Oh also I was kicked out of my office all morning for standardized testing. Ahhhh
Post by erinshelley21 on May 1, 2017 11:17:56 GMT -5
Throat isn't hurting nearly as bad but I definitely had some cold sweats this morning.
Time go scarf down some lunch and head to my appointment. The nurse called and said my diabetes went away so that's fantastic news. I will celebrate with some bites of ice cream.
I'm in MN and it's very expensive here compared to our cost of living. A center is $250-$400/week for an infant. An in home is $150-$175/week for an infant.
I'm in Chicago burbs, about an hour-1.5 hours from City by car. The cheapest center I could find was $350/week. The in home we'll be using is $200/week for full time care.
Also in the Chicago burbs, but more like an hour from the city. The centers I have looked at we're all over 400 dollars a week. A full-time nanny would be 750 - 1000 a week, without a nannyshare. Calling a home daycare this AM, and ., your status has me hopeful!
Last week of maternity leave here. If I could get DS to push back his 5ish feed back to 6, I feel like we would be in great shape. However, I am not holding my breath. DD'S sleep got worse when I went back to work so I am mentally preparing for it.
Yes, definitely Monday. The only non t-shirt I have that fits me without showing my huge baby chub has a hole at a seam in the front. I'm going shopping with my Mom later today, but am pretty sure I will break down in tears while doing so. The post-baby jeans I have from my last pregnancy don't even zip. The scale hasn't budged since week two. I get the whole nine months on, nine months off thing, but by this time last time around, I could fit into my shirts and my pants were at least buttonable. 20 lbs to go....
Also, it was supposed to be H's last week of paternity leave, but he got a call 2 hours ago that one of his clients got subpoenaed for a trial that is tomorrow, so he is now gone 3 hours away for who knows how many days.
Post by moutonrouge on May 1, 2017 13:11:03 GMT -5
I'm eating Wendy's in my car outside of my house with the engine running and static on the radio. So, yeah, it's Monday. At least I've got a Coke and fries.
I feel like the deepest sleep I've gotten this week was in an uber on my way downtown today. It was the perfect temperate, and I just sunk into the seat .
Taking the train home though. I hopefully stay awake bc I have some work to do.
I'm eating Wendy's in my car outside of my house with the engine running and static on the radio. So, yeah, it's Monday. At least I've got a Coke and fries.
I've been there. The coke and fries make it sound slightly better.
For childcare in the states, is it still expensive for infants? It's around $1200-1700/ Month here in Canada depending on the location and facility. I'm just curious now.
1k a month in jersey. We go to a dc affiliated with a church.
Thanks ladies. Good to know we are married to same guy.
I hav'nt had a true talk with him yet but when I tried I've gotten " we both work hard, don't discount my hard work" or " I work long days on my feet, I need a solid night sleep to function at work". So it makes it hard for me because I feel like I'm not appreciating his job. But man, I need a break /help sometimes.
Thanks ladies. Good to know we are married to same guy.
I hav'nt had a true talk with him yet but when I tried I've gotten " we both work hard, don't discount my hard work" or " I work long days on my feet, I need a solid night sleep to function at work". So it makes it hard for me because I feel like I'm not appreciating his job. But man, I need a break /help sometimes.
Remember you need sleep to function also.
This is the part I don't think he appreciates. It's so hard to find balance.
I can't even tell you how much better I feel after talking to my therapist today. I found a group of doctors who specialize in women in general, originally bc of infertility issues. I can't say how helpful the support has been since J was born. And I don't even have diagnosable PPD or anything. Just normal new mom feelings. I'm going home with a whole new attitude towards my husband, after one hour. I'm mad at myself for blowing off these appointments for so much of my maternity leave. My feelings didn't manifest themselves as typical anxiety, and thus, I felt like I didn't need any help.
I guess my point is, if you are struggling, or maybe just even feel more pissed off than usual (me) there is benefit in talking about it- whether with a doctor, a therapist or even a friend.
When J was born, my therapist gifted me a book: "This isn't what I expected" It had chapters about all the changes- to the marriage, your relationships with your friends, your own parents. I found the book super helpful, and H even read it to understand my experience more. If anyone is interested, we are done with the book, and I'll send it along! It was seriously helpful.
Post by seadragon2013 on May 1, 2017 15:44:05 GMT -5
DD and I spent a lovely afternoon eating/nursing, catnapping, and watching Gilmore Girls on the couch. This sort of mother-daughter bonding time is right up my alley.
Infant daycare in our VHCOL area is $400-$600 a week. Most people with multiple kids have nannies because they are cheaper than two at a center. Cost of care is a big reason I'm a SAHM right now.
This is the part I don't think he appreciates. It's so hard to find balance.
Finding a balance is tricky. Also, remember that "balance" is going to look different for each and every family, depending on the child(ren) and the needs and responsibilities of the parents. Some of our spouses may legitimately need a good night's sleep in order to function and stay safe at their jobs. Communication is key when it comes to finding the right balance for your family.
I 100% agree that some may need sleep to function at work. But it sounds like she asked for help and he pulled that card. Which... isn't cool.
Daycare here ranges but I talked to one last week that was $1895/month! COL here is high but I'm not sure how anyone affords that. Most other centers are about $1400-1500 and in-game is usually around $1000 (lower for uncertified providers).
I thought we'd have a spot at the daycare at my work but the priority for placement changed and no one told us. Now I'm not sure where we are on the list and the office has been completely unhelpful. If she doesn't have a spot next month my mom will fly in to watch her but that can't be a long term solution so lots of panic over here about finding care.
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