Post by flyinghorses6 on May 1, 2017 6:04:49 GMT -5
My morning started with DH getting mad at me because I asked him who he would like to be the god father of R. I told him last week I was meeting with the church today to set it all up, and he said he would take care of it by today. Of course this morning--still no answer. Now he's all pissed off because I asked him again. So we are sitting here in silence. Jerk.
Post by wildflower810 on May 1, 2017 6:16:39 GMT -5
E has only slept 10-6 the last two nights, with two wake ups. This is killing me. I'm exhausted beyond belief and the weight of doing everything is killing me.
I have been up since it was still dark. DH used all the milk prior to DS waking up. DS has had two tantrums already. We are expecting violent storms. Happy MF Monday.
wildflower I think it's time to look at what your expectations of yourself are and making some changes. What can be cut out of your daily life to make things easier for you? It's okay to relax your standards for housework, etc right now.
wildflower- Today=coffee! Agree with shellbell, what can be taken off your plate to get your head back above water? Cleaning can wait, make due with spot cleaning as needed.
wildflower810 that sleep schedule sounds rough. Since your H is not helping much, can you get a babysitter for a few hours to help out? That way you can rest or catch up on things. But I agree with the others to let household chores slide until you can get more sleep and more help on a daily basis from your H.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on May 1, 2017 8:28:27 GMT -5
Morning ladies!
DH split his paternity leave, so he took four weeks initially and is taking the final week this week. Looking forward to hanging out this week as a family.
Should have some answers from my job this week, unless they ignore my letter, and I'm interested to see how that goes.
Our time with my dad got cut short because I couldn't handle being around my grandmother anymore. She is intentionally rude and disrespectful and if my dad wants to put up with it, that's up to him, but I don't have the energy for that shit.
I decided to leave yesterday when he told me yesterday morning that I needed to have more patience with her because she's old. Patience means not rolling your eyes because she walks at -3mph. Patience is not allowing her to call a newly postpartum mom fat, listening to lectures about how I'd better be a good housewife or my husband will leave me and my baby will suffer as I suffered as a child, and listening to her talk shit about literally everyone she knows. There's a big difference, dad.
S has been sleeping longer stretches, but then is up for the day at 5:00am. Not sure if this is UO but I'd always take extra wake ups at night over having to be up for the day at 5:00. This morning H took her after I fed her and I got another hour in. Kiddo, being an early bird is not going to work for your mommy!
Our weekend getaway was a total success. We stayed at an Airbnb on Cape Cod, right on the bike trail. S slept OK except for the early wake up times, but thankfully cofffee was included in our stay. Both mornings we went rollerblading with the stroller on the bike path, followed by lunch out and then walks on the beach. S is very much into the outdoors -- I love it! We did have to cancel an evening outing to Provincetown because she wasn't napping in the car seat and was fussy, but otherwise we did everything we wanted. I'm looking forward to more travel with her.
loves2shop4shoes, my dad's mom is like that too. I don't have to see her much because of distance, which is honestly a relief. My brother, who is super laid back, can deal with the comments, but they infuriate me to no end. You have my sympathy.
Post by littleredfish on May 1, 2017 8:54:36 GMT -5
wildflower810, that sounds like my life right now, similar sleep schedule and all. My house looks like a bomb went off but I've decided IDGAF. Who do I have to impress, seriously. And maybe if it bothers your H enough, he can jump up and clean something. Seriously though, I've been sleeping on a large fuzzy blanket folded over on itself because I haven't even had a real moment to put clean sheets back on my bed. No joke. Here's a current representation of my room. No sheets, old blanket, bed sharing with my son and some laundry. Pile of more laundry and kids clothes I'm attempting to sort over the past 2 weeks at the end of my bed. (That wicker basket you see is stuffed inside a giant tote filled with clothes which is on top of another tote full of clothes)
You probably don't want to see my living room which looks like my toddler handmade a bomb of shoes, crayons, and some of the laundry she pulled off my bed and set it off last night.
I'm still exhausted just trying to maintain general health code cleanliness in my house, forget the extras. I'm letting that shit go. Anybody with anything to say about it can pitch in.
Post by littleredfish on May 1, 2017 9:00:15 GMT -5
AFM: we have our first follow up this afternoon. I think things have been going well. There's really nowhere but up from sleeping an hour at a time with hours of screaming in between. 2 wake ups at night has been heaven by comparison. He's still been in my bed (a little for him but also a little for me at this point), but last night I did put him back after the 1st wake up. He's getting long for his bassinet and DD2 still has the crib so we'll see how he does converting to the playpen park of the PnP soon. I just want to get over one thing at a time and enjoy this not so shitty sleep for a bit before I possibly go and ruin it.
loves2shop4shoes- LT was only for DH's paternity leave restarting. Try to keep focusing on the positives. The rest of the post was crap...WTF grandma/dad...not cool!
Drop off went seemlessly this morning. DS was all smiles as I was leaving. Just sitting here as I update my computer. I'm tired though and ready to pick those babies back up!
Successful start the my day. At daycare before 7:20 and to work just shy of 8am!! As much as I hate it I think showering the night before does help time wise. It will mean less overall sleep because after kiddos go to bed I'll have to pump and shower(not sure order yet.). And it'd have to be in my daughters bathroom to not wake up DH or the babes. Hmmmm....
Our weekend getaway was a total success. We stayed at an Airbnb on Cape Cod, right on the bike trail. S slept OK except for the early wake up times, but thankfully cofffee was included in our stay. Both mornings we went rollerblading with the stroller on the bike path, followed by lunch out and then walks on the beach. S is very much into the outdoors -- I love it! We did have to cancel an evening outing to Provincetown because she wasn't napping in the car seat and was fussy, but otherwise we did everything we wanted. I'm looking forward to more travel with her.
We were on the cape this weekend too! Spring on the cape is lovely and definitely lifted my spirits!
Post by monicageller on May 1, 2017 10:31:05 GMT -5
pivot I'm glad drop off went well. I hope the rest of the day goes fast!
@jacks605 Yay for progress!
Yucky, rainy day here. I need to exercise, go to Walmart, and a bit of cleaning. R slept pretty well last night. I'm hopeful that we are on the upswing.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 1, 2017 11:04:34 GMT -5
linewifekat - Sorry LO is a little swollen. FX he's feeling better soon.
@jacks605 - Pump then shower. I hate leaking on myself right after I get clean, so I always pump first.
AFM It's my last Monday of leave. Tomorrow is jury duty, Wednesday is planning and shopping for J's dinner/party Saturday, Thursday we find out if MH has to have another surgery, then Friday J is off school so we're taking her to my IL's so MH and I can have a little day date. Phew!
Plus, I need to get ready to go back to work on Monday. It's gonna be... interesting.
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Post by littleredfish on May 1, 2017 11:47:44 GMT -5
So apparently I'm still a little more tired than I'd like to admit. In less than 2 hours since feeding the kids I have thought "damn it they woke the baby" thinking I heard my son whimpering in my room, but at that exact moment he was in my arms nursing. Then just now I went to set him down on the floor as though he was my 17mo, like he could walk away or something. Jesus, days I wish I drank coffee.
Post by wildflower810 on May 1, 2017 12:28:24 GMT -5
That's for the support. The catch is that my anxiety goes up with the level of clutter and projects needing to be done. So I can either be less worn out but highly anxious, or less anxious and high strung, but exhausted. I tend to pendulum between the two and right now I'm on the lower anxiety, clean house, but physically tired end.
This morning H dropped a very not subtle hint about wanting sex tonight. It's kinda rare for him to do that. Part of me agrees with wanting it... and part of me wants to say "do the dishes and vacuum first, dude." It won't help us if I wind up resentful about our physical relationship on top of everything else.
I spent last night in the ER. I'm home now and loaded up on drugs and H is WFH. I feel like a horrible mother who can't take care of her kid. She won't remember today but there's no cure for my health issues so what happens when she's older? And I'm terrified she's going to get these issues from me.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 1, 2017 13:20:24 GMT -5
staz - I hope you're doing better. Glad YH is home so you can get some rest.
wildflower810 - I'm sorry you're stressed. Being a mom and managing a house alone is a lot to take on. I'm pretty sure if MH acted like that and then hinted for sex, I'd toss him a broom and walk away.
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That's for the support. The catch is that my anxiety goes up with the level of clutter and projects needing to be done. So I can either be less worn out but highly anxious, or less anxious and high strung, but exhausted. I tend to pendulum between the two and right now I'm on the lower anxiety, clean house, but physically tired end.
This morning H dropped a very not subtle hint about wanting sex tonight. It's kinda rare for him to do that. Part of me agrees with wanting it... and part of me wants to say "do the dishes and vacuum first, dude." It won't help us if I wind up resentful about our physical relationship on top of everything else.
Oh, hello - you're me! I could have typed all of this out. Sometimes DH says that he worries I'll give myself a heart attack by being so anxious and high strung. (Okay then, help out more buddy!)
Also re: sex. My DH does that too. Sometimes he thinks having sex will help me relax by focusing on "us time" and taking my mind off of worrying about the house and kids. I try to tell him that the opposite is true - that when the house is clean and the kids are happy/asleep, *then* I can relax and focus on "us time".
On a more practical note: Can you spare it in your budget to hire a cleaning service every once in a while (if you don't already)? I find that the day my cleaners come is the most relaxed I feel all week/month. It seriously does more for my mental health than anything else at this point.
Post by musicallyinclined on May 1, 2017 14:00:30 GMT -5
Hello everyone! My BFF was in town all weekend, so I am catching up!
DS2 FINALLY pooped yesterday. I tried the lubed up q-tip and it did the trick. He pooped so much, my goodness. Then he took a nice long nap. Poor guy was so uncomfortable. He also seems to regular again! Hallelujah!
wildflower810, I just had a major LOL at YH hinting at sex with the way things are going. I agree with oldbaylover1024, he needs to grab a broom first.
@jacks605 I've always been a shower at night person. I'd much rather stay up the half hour later than wake up the half hour earlier (although now I'm waking up earlier anyway). Z sleeps in our room and it doesn't bother her at all, and DH and I are used to each other showering at night. Now I do my evening pump between 9:30 and 10 then shower. I'm up around 5:30 for the morning pump. No way I'm waking up even earlier to fit in a shower after that.
loves2shop4shoes sorry about your grandmother, definitely did the right thing for your sanity by leaving!
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