It's May!

[sstwinklinglites]

lrmrtn - I just finished a seven week study called Armor of God by Pricilla Shirer which was really, really good. You can get the paperback on Amazon. I'm about to start The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren with DH. I'm reading The Super Mom Myth by Becky Kopitzke - it's a fun quick read - these are all by Christian authors.

If there's a Family Christian store near you, they're going out of business, so you can probably pick up a bunch of things at a good price.

[comicSans]

May 1, 2017 13:08:46 GMT -5 lrmrtn said:

May 1, 2017 12:34:15 GMT -5 comicSans said:

Or there are subscription devotionals like Our Daily Bread and Encounter with God.

Is that a hard copy subscription? She does not do technology.

Yes, they do offer electronic subscriptions as well, but they mail hard copies. I'm not sure if they're one moth or 3 per little booklet, but they're short, 1 or 2 page devotions and suggested scripture readings.

[athn64]

May 1, 2017 13:10:01 GMT -5 lrmrtn said:

May 1, 2017 12:25:58 GMT -5 athn64 said:

    Does she like devotionals? Or more in depth study?

Nothing too in depth.

Here are some shorter studies and devotionals I have enjoyed. They are good for all ages.

A daily devotional for each day of the year: Jesus Always by Sarah Young

Short inspirational prayers: Pocket prayers for women Simple Prayers of Love

Short 20 day study: Soul Food by Havilah Cunnington

Study on prayer: Too busy not to pray by Bill Hybels

I also like Max Lucado's books. Especially He chose the Nails.

[athn64]

lrmrtn , I also really like Derek Maul for daily devotionals. The only ones I have from him are Lent and Advent specific, but he's a great author and his stuff is really resonating.

ETA a lot of his other stuff is for men, oops. Maybe not him then.

[lrmrtn]

Thanks everyone for the ideas! I'll have to look into them. I know she has a ton of free time so I'd like to get her something to pass the time and her religion is very important to her (and I'm clueless).

[bliz1712]

You know what's awesome, going to your monthly massage and your ex MIL and Ex's new wife are both working there!! Thankfully the new wife only works certain days so I can schedule appts around that.

[becole]

May 1, 2017 13:49:25 GMT -5 lrmrtn said:

Thanks everyone for the ideas! I'll have to look into them. I know she has a ton of free time so I'd like to get her something to pass the time and her religion is very important to her (and I'm clueless).

I bawled through the entirety of the "Shack" movie. Not sure if it's out yet but the book and movie would be good gifts.

[lrmrtn]

May 1, 2017 14:04:47 GMT -5 becole said:

May 1, 2017 13:49:25 GMT -5 lrmrtn said:

Thanks everyone for the ideas! I'll have to look into them. I know she has a ton of free time so I'd like to get her something to pass the time and her religion is very important to her (and I'm clueless).

I bawled through the entirety of the "Shack" movie. Not sure if it's out yet but the book and movie would be good gifts.

I read the Shack when it first came out and loved it. I don't think I'll see the movie though because now especially after having DS, I think it'd be too upsetting. MIL is not much of a movie person though.

[comicSans]

DDs imagination is exhausting. She wants to pretend we're driving to the airport, and waiting for people to get off our plane, then flying to "sawt wake city, YOU-taw." And Minnie, Daisy, and Goofy are coming. I can't do this many voices.

[footloose]

May 1, 2017 14:00:32 GMT -5 bliz1712 said:

You know what's awesome, going to your monthly massage and your ex MIL and Ex's new wife are both working there!! Thankfully the new wife only works certain days so I can schedule appts around that.

Were you married before? I thought only your DH was previously married.

I must not have been paying attention. Sorry that situation sounds pretty sucky.

[bliz1712]

footloose, yes we've both been married before. I was for just shy of 4 years, H was for maybe a couple months.

[babybarlow2014]

May 1, 2017 10:37:16 GMT -5 emmagk said:

So yesterday I was pulling out my driveway and a couple were cycling down the street pulling a kids double trailer. Well, when they went past me, the 'kid' was at least 17 and easily over 200lbs squished into it, the wheels were caving inwards. And then they pulled out onto the main road then swerved across it in front of me to get to the sidewalk, no one was wearing a helmet. I don't know what the limit is on those trailers but i'm 100% sure it's less than 200lbs

Ours is 100.
I'm shocked that theirs didn't collapse.

[lulu]

Today we handed out invites for DD2s baptism.

Within minutes, DH's aunties were in touch telling him how they aren't coming basically because they are disgusted with him for standing up for me against his mum (I won't allow her to watch my kids in her house due to the drugs, but she's allowed to see them anywhere else whenever she likes....she always refuses).

DH was devastated so on route to work tonight he went round to plead/speak with MIL.

Basically it seems she poured poison in his ear about how he has to stand up to me n let her have the kids in her house. Also how I've destroyed their relationship and family thru my behaviour. So he called me to basically say I'm wrong, am out of order and it's down to me to build bridges and it's me whose caused all this hurt.

Apparently his mum, step dad, three brothers were all there shouting how out of order I am n DH agrees.

So I have no choice but to give in and now I've to let the kids go to her house n stay there unsupervised whenever she asks. I'm devastated, feel exhausted by the whole thing, betrayed by DH and don't want to hand my kids over.

I feel I have to defend my marriage from that toxic witch, while at the same time protect my kids from a potentially dangerous environment, without alienating and angering DH.

Have to weigh up whether BIL will be so stupid to leave drugs around, (has he learned his lesson?) but also, MIL spouts poison about me to her son, she'll no doubt start on my kids next.

Poisonous bitch.

[britab]

May 1, 2017 13:49:25 GMT -5 lrmrtn said:

Thanks everyone for the ideas! I'll have to look into them. I know she has a ton of free time so I'd like to get her something to pass the time and her religion is very important to her (and I'm clueless).

Beth Moore is very popular too! She has a lot books.

Old standbys:
Purpose Driven Life
Power of a Praying Wife
The Case for Christ
5 Love Languages

Tim Keller and John Piper are well known and have many books also.

[NJgirl84]

lulu does it have to be unsupervised. Can you try to compromise with DH and say they can go there if you or him are there at the time as well?

Also, wtf and I'm sorry you have to deal with that shit. Your DH needs to get his priorities straight.

[Doll15]

May 1, 2017 16:49:31 GMT -5 lulu said:

Today we handed out invites for DD2s baptism.

Within minutes, DH's aunties were in touch telling him how they aren't coming basically because they are disgusted with him for standing up for me against his mum (I won't allow her to watch my kids in her house due to the drugs, but she's allowed to see them anywhere else whenever she likes....she always refuses).

DH was devastated so on route to work tonight he went round to plead/speak with MIL.

Basically it seems she poured poison in his ear about how he has to stand up to me n let her have the kids in her house. Also how I've destroyed their relationship and family thru my behaviour. So he called me to basically say I'm wrong, am out of order and it's down to me to build bridges and it's me whose caused all this hurt.

Apparently his mum, step dad, three brothers were all there shouting how out of order I am n DH agrees.

So I have no choice but to give in and now I've to let the kids go to her house n stay there unsupervised whenever she asks. I'm devastated, feel exhausted by the whole thing, betrayed by DH and don't want to hand my kids over.

I feel I have to defend my marriage from that toxic witch, while at the same time protect my kids from a potentially dangerous environment, without alienating and angering DH.

Have to weigh up whether BIL will be so stupid to leave drugs around, (has he learned his lesson?) but also, MIL spouts poison about me to her son, she'll no doubt start on my kids next.

Poisonous bitch.

Dude. Kids always first. If your DH is going to fight you on that, well then he can do without. You're doing the right thing my friend, he can't fault you for putting the kids best interest first. You didn't make up the things they've done, just because he is blinded doesn't mean you are. I know it's exhausting but hell no to giving in. Also,, who the f cares if his stupid aunts want to come. If they are protecting her, less people I'd need to bother myself with. Sorry... I'm angry for you.

[britab]

May 1, 2017 16:49:31 GMT -5 lulu said:

Today we handed out invites for DD2s baptism.

Within minutes, DH's aunties were in touch telling him how they aren't coming basically because they are disgusted with him for standing up for me against his mum (I won't allow her to watch my kids in her house due to the drugs, but she's allowed to see them anywhere else whenever she likes....she always refuses).

DH was devastated so on route to work tonight he went round to plead/speak with MIL.

Basically it seems she poured poison in his ear about how he has to stand up to me n let her have the kids in her house. Also how I've destroyed their relationship and family thru my behaviour. So he called me to basically say I'm wrong, am out of order and it's down to me to build bridges and it's me whose caused all this hurt.

Apparently his mum, step dad, three brothers were all there shouting how out of order I am n DH agrees.

So I have no choice but to give in and now I've to let the kids go to her house n stay there unsupervised whenever she asks. I'm devastated, feel exhausted by the whole thing, betrayed by DH and don't want to hand my kids over.

I feel I have to defend my marriage from that toxic witch, while at the same time protect my kids from a potentially dangerous environment, without alienating and angering DH.

Have to weigh up whether BIL will be so stupid to leave drugs around, (has he learned his lesson?) but also, MIL spouts poison about me to her son, she'll no doubt start on my kids next.

Poisonous bitch.

Sorry lulu! Your husband should be choosing you first!

They all know about her thievery and still support her?

[lulu]

May 1, 2017 18:20:02 GMT -5 NJgirl84 said:

lulu does it have to be unsupervised. Can you try to compromise with DH and say they can go there if you or him are there at the time as well?

Also, wtf and I'm sorry you have to deal with that shit. Your DH needs to get his priorities straight.

Yeah we had that too with DH there (I'm not welcome in their house) but apparently that's not good enough.

There is nothing good enough about me I'm beginning to realise.

[lulu]

May 1, 2017 18:27:37 GMT -5 britab said:

May 1, 2017 16:49:31 GMT -5 lulu said:

Today we handed out invites for DD2s baptism.

Within minutes, DH's aunties were in touch telling him how they aren't coming basically because they are disgusted with him for standing up for me against his mum (I won't allow her to watch my kids in her house due to the drugs, but she's allowed to see them anywhere else whenever she likes....she always refuses).

DH was devastated so on route to work tonight he went round to plead/speak with MIL.

Basically it seems she poured poison in his ear about how he has to stand up to me n let her have the kids in her house. Also how I've destroyed their relationship and family thru my behaviour. So he called me to basically say I'm wrong, am out of order and it's down to me to build bridges and it's me whose caused all this hurt.

Apparently his mum, step dad, three brothers were all there shouting how out of order I am n DH agrees.

So I have no choice but to give in and now I've to let the kids go to her house n stay there unsupervised whenever she asks. I'm devastated, feel exhausted by the whole thing, betrayed by DH and don't want to hand my kids over.

I feel I have to defend my marriage from that toxic witch, while at the same time protect my kids from a potentially dangerous environment, without alienating and angering DH.

Have to weigh up whether BIL will be so stupid to leave drugs around, (has he learned his lesson?) but also, MIL spouts poison about me to her son, she'll no doubt start on my kids next.

Poisonous bitch.

Sorry lulu! Your husband should be choosing you first!

They all know about her thievery and still support her?

Yep - apart from her husband. We are all not allowed to tell him incase he leaves her!

So my husband takes marital and parenting advice from these people.

[NJgirl84]

May 1, 2017 18:37:49 GMT -5 lulu said:

May 1, 2017 18:27:37 GMT -5 britab said:

Sorry lulu! Your husband should be choosing you first!

They all know about her thievery and still support her?

Yep - apart from her husband. We are all not allowed to tell him incase he leaves her!

So my husband takes marital and parenting advice from these people.

I would send an anonymous letter to her husband. But I'm a bitch.

[athn64]

I'm sorry lulu. I would not be willing to bend. She's a hateful witch.

[footloose]

lulu I am sorry. I really have no advice as that situation is really hard if your DH doesn't want to stand by you.

[footloose]

My kid just scooped her smoothie and put it all over her chicken nuggets. I said "Don't do that! Why?"

She just looks at me "........because it's delicious Mommy. That's why"



Well. I was told.

[lulu]

May 1, 2017 18:48:03 GMT -5 NJgirl84 said:

May 1, 2017 18:37:49 GMT -5 lulu said:

Yep - apart from her husband. We are all not allowed to tell him incase he leaves her!

So my husband takes marital and parenting advice from these people.

I would send an anonymous letter to her husband. But I'm a bitch.

I've often thought about that but would need to be 100% certain it wouldn't come back to bite me. DH would never forgive me.

I'm ordering a glitter bomb for the bitch though.

The note reads..."throw some sparkle on life's shit. There's no problem that can't be fixed by glitter".

She takes 2 baths a day and is obsessed with hoovering her carpets. I think it might give her a heart attack.

I've made my order but will press "confirm" tmrw morning to make sure I'm sure I want to go through with it ha ha.

[scout251]

Omg lulu I am livid for you. I hope this doesn't sound insensitive but this would honestly have me questioning my relationship with DH. Fuck no to choosing your cow bag mom over me when she has proven how vile she is. Ugh, give me your damn FIL's number, I'll call him up and tell him about the money.

[Susan0utLoud]

lulu, send that glitter, girl. Send it!

I can and have put up with a lot from my mil, but I draw the line at safety. You need to stand your ground. Having your kids around drugs is not ok.

[becole]

lulu NOPE. Not happening. Pry my children from my cold dead hands if you want to take them somewhere I don't approve of.
I don't give a shit whose yelling in the background or who agrees. My kid my rules. If your H wants to discuss it he can do it 1 on 1 to your face- coward.

[activebaby]

lulu that is so unfair to gang up on you. Especially when you've got those post partum hormones/emotions. Please know that it isn't right for them to treat you this way. If you don't want your babies there then you are right. Hell its your career to protect people too. I'd trust your feelings on that. I'm sorry you are even having to deal with this. If the kids go visit, you should too.

[rainbowsockmonkey]

lulu whatever the male version of a cow bag is, that is what I'm calling your Duh right now.

Also, feel free to post your MILs address and I will glitter bomb her 2 weeks after you do. Just when that bitch thinks she has it all BAM more glitter all over.

[Susan0utLoud]

Anyone taken kids to Great Wolf Lodge? We have the opportunity to go on mil's dime. Should we go for one night or two? It's about 1.5 hours away from us.

I think kittyriot went? Maybe I'm not remembering correctly.