Post by helenahhandbasket on May 1, 2017 16:06:32 GMT -5
I hate to admit this about myself but I have come to the realization that I am a helicopter parent.
I absolutely hate having my kid out of my line of sight when we are in public. It's gives me that kind of feeling you get in your throat right before you go into full on panic.
Saturday we were at a public campsite, with a few other couples and their kids. The people right next to us (a different group) had 2 little girls and DD started playing with them, but kept going behind their camper so I couldn't see her unless I walked around to the other side. I'm sure the other little girls' parents thought I was nuts.
I found myself completely incapable of having a good time because I kept picturing someone walking by and snatching her.
Tell me if this sounds extreme to you? I have a feeling it does, but I don't know how to cope otherwise. Anyone have any sage advice? Or am I doomed to feel like this forever?
Post by namastebiotches on May 1, 2017 17:03:04 GMT -5
This seems normal to me but I may be a special snowflake type of situation because DS is literally almost always >.< that close to getting hurt. At his friend's birthday party the other weekend, I was a nervous wreck when he was on the trampoline because he is just so much more clumsier than other kids & is usually the one to get hurt out of everyone so I can sort of relate in kind of a different way, I guess? The feelings are the same though & are valid. I get a tightness in my chest & just want to get him out of there asap. On a similar to yours example, I also don't like if he's not in my field of vision in new & unfamiliar territories. I always think the worst. Probably has to do with he's my only kid. He's all I got. The reasoning may sound nuts but there's no backup kid if shit goes wrong. I always have the thought process of it only takes once. Basically I watch too much Lifetime & Dateline.
Could it be legit anxiety that you should probably get treated for?
Yeah, I've been dealing with general anxiety disorder for most of my life, and I've been on and off medication for the last 15 or so years. I'm currently not taking anything but I've been toying with going back to my LPN.
Post by spicysalmonroll on May 2, 2017 9:03:40 GMT -5
Mine is only 9 months so I don't have experience yet but I feel like it's not THAT weird. In a public place, with people you haven't met before. If you need to keep an eye in your backyard is when it's a little much lol
Ehh. I mean I have anxiety too, but I don't like when DS is out of my site in public. I don't need to be hovering over him but I need to be able to see where he is. I don't think this is extreme.
At 5, I still wasn't comfortable letting A out of my line of sight. I didn't really get comfortable with that at all until she was about 7, when I started letting her play out front of our apartment with her friends where I could see her.
She'll be 9 this month and I let her go to the playground and back on her own now, but it still makes me incredibly nervous.
In public though (a mall, a store, any crowded place) DD has to stay right by my side though. That'll probably be my rule until she's a teen.
Thanks emmaswan ! I appreciate your input as a more seasoned mom.
And congrats again! I hope everything went swimmingly well for you this weekend!
Anytime!!
And thanks! Oh, girl, let me tell you, this wedding was definitely a day to remember! Got sick two days before, had a 102 degree fever the day of. Fell down the stairs to the dressing room and busted my knee open. Put my dress on and the damn zipper just ripped right apart and my photographer (god bless her) had to sew me into the dress and I was 45 mins late to my own ceremony because of that. Not a single thing went exactly to plan but you know what? It was all worth it. DH and I sat back and just laughed at how crazy the day was. Hope yours goes well!! When is it?
And thanks! Oh, girl, let me tell you, this wedding was definitely a day to remember! Got sick two days before, had a 102 degree fever the day of. Fell down the stairs to the dressing room and busted my knee open. Put my dress on and the damn zipper just ripped right apart and my photographer (god bless her) had to sew me into the dress and I was 45 mins late to my own ceremony because of that. Not a single thing went exactly to plan but you know what? It was all worth it. DH and I sat back and just laughed at how crazy the day was. Hope yours goes well!! When is it?
You can't tell from the photos, everything looked great!
Thanks! We tried to take it in stride It was an amazing day for sure!
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