Morning! We are having photos taken of our house for the listing and I'm scrambling to do some last minute pick up and take the dogs to my parents. But first, coffee.
Post by NariaDreaming on May 2, 2017 7:41:11 GMT -5
Guise, I feel like all I do is whine, but I just want this HG to let up. I haven't had anything I would consider to be a good day in weeks, and I realized I've spent the last 2.5 months living on my couch without moving.
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Doing my grocery shopping today, then meeting my mom and grandma for lunch. Our fridge/freezer/pantry is nearly empty, so it's going to be a pricy day!
Both kids have been sick and extra whiny, so it's been a rough few days here. Plus DH managed to cut our buried internet cable while doing yard work Friday. Life with no internet isn't so easy for me. Thankfully we're online again now!
We announced to my family this past weekend, and found out my cousin and his wife are also expecting in October! Very fun
Post by thatgirlrachel on May 2, 2017 8:12:04 GMT -5
Good morning! Just chipping away at work today until we leave for training this afternoon. Still counting down the days until our anatomy scan on Friday. Feeling anxious for some reason and it seems forever away.
Post by augustblooms on May 2, 2017 8:24:17 GMT -5
It's my day off, I have to take the car in for a recall and get some bloodwork done later. My house is a disaster but I'm too tired to do anything about it. My h thawed out some pork so I'm going to toss it in the slow cooker to make pulled pork tacos for dinner. That's basically today's plan.
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
It's my day off, I have to take the car in for a recall and get some bloodwork done later. My house is a disaster but I'm too tired to do anything about it. My h thawed out some pork so I'm going to toss it in the slow cooker to make pulled pork tacos for dinner. That's basically today's plan.
What cut are you using?
I'm looking for a good recipe for pulled pork using a Boston butt in the crock pot. The one we use is OK, but it's kind of labor and time-intensive, which seems to negate the whole point of using a slow cooker.
Oh, dumb question. Do I need to be reading books on how to keep a tiny human alive and such? Like, with IF for so long, I have been so focused on getting pregnant and now that I am, I'm kind of meh about prepping for the arrival of baby. I mean, as far as for the physical arrival of baby, not not being excited.
My plan was gestate for 8 or 9 months, and then just kind of wing it. Is this bad? Am I setting myself up for struggles?
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
Cythe I read 0 books on parenting. I relied on instinct, the nurses, and my group of friends who are parents. Really I just winged it. DD will be 2 in June, so I guess we've done ok.
Okay, whew. I'm pretty laid back in general so this Is encouraging. I also have a fairly large group of online moms who I've watched birth and raise their kids for the last 2 years so, I'd like to think I learned a few things from them along the way. Thanks!
IUI 1-3 BFN IVF #1 - Oct '15 - 10R, 3M, 0F IVF #2 - August 16 - 12R, 11M, 5F. 1 to transfer and 2 to freeze - BFP!! - MMC caught at 7w5d FET #1 - 1/26 - BFP, due 10/14
Cythe I read 0 books on parenting. I relied on instinct, the nurses, and my group of friends who are parents. Really I just winged it. DD will be 2 in June, so I guess we've done ok.
I was going to type the exact same thing (minus my DD being two in November). I know a few people who read all of the books, but it's not for me. Friends, my own mom, and my instincts have gotten me through so far.
Cythe, I read a whole bunch of different books during my pregnancy with DS (Dr. Sears' pregnancy and baby books, What to Expect, From the Hips, LLL breastfeeding book) but basically didn't look at them again once DS was born. Honestly I'm not sure it made much of a difference. I think it was more the support of my A15 BMB and other moms going through the same thing with me at the same time that got me through the newborn stage than anything I read in any of the books.
I'd say the only book I really remember anything from was a crunchy book full of birth stories (Ina May's Guide to Childbirth). It is one recommended for people going med-free and ultimately I didn't decide to go that route myself. It was an interesting read even though I hadn't committed to med-free and maybe it helped for the several hours of labor I had at home before going into the hospital (made it to 7cm at home).
Have the day off today. Already walked the dog, dropped my daughter off at daycare, have 2 loads of laundry going & showered (even shaved my legs! 😮). Now I'm at the cafe by my place, enjoying a lemon square & London fog latte. The rest of the day is for me!
Post by CoachTsWife on May 2, 2017 10:05:42 GMT -5
Cythe, I read 0 books. We did take some classes offered for free through my employer/insurance. I think the breastfeeding classes were probably the most valuable to me. Other than that, I relied on my instincts and what I'd learned from watching others. However, I also have to mention that I learned SO MUCH from my July 15 BMB.
Post by brittneysandra on May 2, 2017 10:09:18 GMT -5
Cythe I didn't read any books either! During my Pregnancy I mostly watched documentaries about natural childbirth, breastfeeding, and doula's (like business of being born) but that was most of my research.. than a baby came out and I just winged it; I'm still winging it ! Also M15 Moms were an amazing support group!
CoachTsWife reminded me that I did take several classes at the hospital too. Newborn care, breastfeeding, infant CPR. I think those were more applicable than the books ended up being.
Post by trinitrotoluene on May 2, 2017 10:51:23 GMT -5
Cythe, i read no books, took no parenting classes, and my mil still tells me I'm a good mom. You will find what works for you and your spawn. Groups like this one are 10000000000 times more helpful than any book anyway.
CoachTsWife reminded me that I did take several classes at the hospital too. Newborn care, breastfeeding, infant CPR. I think those were more applicable than the books ended up being.
Those were the 3 classes I took and they were much better than the couple of books I read.
Although I did like "Happiest Baby on the Block" for calming a crying baby. DS really responded well to the 4 S's. You can look it up on youtube if you don't want to read the book, I think it's like 30 minutes.
But seriously, I don't know where I'd be without my F15 friends. Even today we're helping each other.
CoachTsWife reminded me that I did take several classes at the hospital too. Newborn care, breastfeeding, infant CPR. I think those were more applicable than the books ended up being.
Those were the 3 classes I took and they were much better than the couple of books I read.
Although I did like "Happiest Baby on the Block" for calming a crying baby. DS really responded well to the 4 S's. You can look it up on youtube if you don't want to read the book, I think it's like 30 minutes.
But seriously, I don't know where I'd be without my F15 friends. Even today we're helping each other.
I was going to say, Happiest Baby on the Block is the one book I read (after DS came) that helped. I also read Bringing Up Bebe but that was more of an interesting general parenting style book than instructional.
+++ to my BMB being my greatest teacher/support system to this day.
I read 0 books as well, we did go to some classes our hospital had but I feel a breastfeeding class or even a lactation consultant at home would've been beneficial. We were given the happiest baby on the block dvd and watched that which was cool. My bmb was a lifesaver though.
We also downloaded the wonder weeks app which helped when DD was a fuss bucket because it helped explain why.
Post by mrstommyshelby on May 2, 2017 13:07:39 GMT -5
riverraine the one book I was going to mention was Bringing up Bebe too! It is more of a cultural comparison but I enjoyed it. There were a few things that stuck out to me in that book that I did apply to DS1 like the sleep stuff but who knows what really makes things work. I wonder what I think if I read it again.
In my going to be an FTM smugness (disclaimer not all FTMs are smug, I was though, owning it) I thought every mom's problems would be solved if they just read that book. Oh your baby doesn't sleep/eat/behave because your parenting isn't French enough. Barf.
Somewhat on the topic of classes - if you are a FTM and want to try to breastfeed, I think it is worthwhile to see if you have any breastfeeding support groups locally. We had some major weight gain issues with DS at first related to a tongue tie, but my hospital had twice-a-week BF support groups where you could go for free to ask the nurse IBCLCs for help with BFing issues and do milk transfer weigh ins. I found that to be extremely helpful (along with a supportive pedi).
Post by gamergirl360 on May 2, 2017 13:13:25 GMT -5
I didn't read any books, but I did drag my H to a parenting class a few weeks before I was due with DS. Mostly out of panic, because suddenly I realized I would soon have a tiny human in my care and I had no idea what to do. The class wasn't super helpful, mostly just common sense stuff. Which, as it turns out, is all you really need to keep a tiny human alive. My July'15 BMB was the best though. They taught me much, and were/are there for constant advice and support. So basically, all you need is your BMB and common sense. And wine.
ETA +1 to what caitost21 said about breastfeeding. If you plan on nursing, lactation consultants are your friend after baby arrives.
Post by augustblooms on May 2, 2017 13:58:44 GMT -5
cougarette I think it's Boston butt, we bought it on sale and tossed it in the freezer and H didn't write the cut on it. I actually slept way too long and didn't get a chance to put it in the crockpot so I haven't actually looked at it.
Post by augustblooms on May 2, 2017 14:06:47 GMT -5
Cythe I think I'm the opposite of everyone, I'm a planner and have anxiety, I read too much about development and babies before the arrival of DD. I didn't listen to my instincts and my baby in the beginning and it really made me feel like a crappy mother since my daughter wasn't acting in a textbook way. Especially when it came to by daughters sleep habits.
I did find lurking TCF, my naturopath/lactation consultant and breastfeeding sites like Kelly Mom to be the best resources.
I second the Ina May book recommended by arimaythea. Even if you don't end up having an unmedicated birth, it's a very empowering book.
Post by trinitrotoluene on May 2, 2017 14:16:56 GMT -5
I did live on Kellymom. I will strongly recommend it. And my mom is an LC who stayed with me the first few days. So i had advantages, but from what I've seen with my friends books tend to stress people out when that style doesn't work perfectly for their kid or normal things like sleep regressions come up.
Oh, dumb question. Do I need to be reading books on how to keep a tiny human alive and such? Like, with IF for so long, I have been so focused on getting pregnant and now that I am, I'm kind of meh about prepping for the arrival of baby. I mean, as far as for the physical arrival of baby, not not being excited.
My plan was gestate for 8 or 9 months, and then just kind of wing it. Is this bad? Am I setting myself up for struggles?
I went into labor/birth and motherhood blissfully ignorant and I'm so glad I did!! No classes, no books, just TCF haha My only motto was and still is "never say never" so far so good
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