dukegirlsc Hang in there!!! 6-8 weeks was a really challenging time but I promise it gets better! Sleep improved for us around 8 weeks (until the 4 month regression) and 8 weeks is also when they started to be interested in their surroundings enough that we could leave them on their playmat for a while without them fussing.
dukegirlsc, we never found much relief from any particular formula but mixing in the Dr Browns pitcher and letting it settle helped a lot. So did mylicon drops and bicycles.
@feegan, ok then my schedule is not too bad then. They typically skip the morning bottle. And we go right for a snack of a apple or banana or whatever. Thanks, that made me feel better. I guess i just have to make sure i feed them before they get too hungry! Plis how do you remember all this stuff. I forget what i did last month. Lol.
Me: 36, DH 32 Bfp#1 June 2014 edd: Feb. 22, 2015,mmc: Aug. 5,2014,D&C Bfp#2 Feb. 2015 edd: Oct.12, 2015, mmc: Mar. 7,2015, D&C
DX: Me: slightly hypothyroid, taking meds DH: SA Showed all low levels, urologist appointment showed all was normal, so no reason why the levels were bad.
Plan: IUI #1 Aug. 25mg clomed, to help boost egg quality - BFN IUI #2 Sept. 25mg clomed, BFN IUI#3 Dec. BFP!! TWINS Edd: Aug. 22, 2016
dukegirlsc, we tried everything. Gentleease may have actually made W's gas worse. We're using Similac sensitive and Gerber gentle (daycare provides it) with fairly good results.
bocaburger It's a possibility if I figure out a way to wear both littles, but I suspect MH would not go for it if he was taking all the kids.
I've heard nothing but great things about the Valco Tri Mode (side by side double with a Joey seat) and I believe you can purchase a glider board for once one of the bigs can handle it, but that would work for 3 in the stroller and wear one kid, which is really pretty doable, even for a husband 😉
::lurking:: nic1231 DS was miserable with colic for 11 weeks. I stopped nursing and we tried sensitive formula - but nothing helped (including reflux meds?) until he was on Similac Alimentum. It was like a switched flipped! Happiest, most chill babe ever after that. It was unreal. Expensive, but worth every penny for our sanity after that. He doesn't have a milk allergy, but there was definitely some type of sensitivity. Good luck!
Realized I tagged people but never actually came back to update!
- How old/combo (gg/bb/bg/etc) are your multiples? 9 months this week!
- How's it going, any upcoming Dr Appts or milestones you'd like to discuss? We are good! 9 month appointment on Wednesday. The babies are at a super fun, interactive age right now. I'm sick (again) and exhausted but otherwise really enjoying them.
- Do you have any questions or concerns that you'd like advice on? How do I teach 9 month olds to share?
- Any feeding specific questions regarding nursing, FF, solids, weaning, etc? We are starting to do more finger foods rather than purees. Any favorites?
- QOTW: Summer is coming, for some its already here, what fun plans are you looking forward to (or dreading), to do with your multiples? Everything! We are moving to the suburbs this summer with access to a pool. I can't wait to explore our new community with them. And in August we will have their first birthday party!
bocaburger It's a possibility if I figure out a way to wear both littles, but I suspect MH would not go for it if he was taking all the kids.
I've heard nothing but great things about the Valco Tri Mode (side by side double with a Joey seat) and I believe you can purchase a glider board for once one of the bigs can handle it, but that would work for 3 in the stroller and wear one kid, which is really pretty doable, even for a husband 😉
Have to convince MH that we're not getting off cheap for a stroller that can accommodate 3-4 kids.
I've heard nothing but great things about the Valco Tri Mode (side by side double with a Joey seat) and I believe you can purchase a glider board for once one of the bigs can handle it, but that would work for 3 in the stroller and wear one kid, which is really pretty doable, even for a husband 😉
Have to convince MH that we're not getting off cheap for a stroller that can accommodate 3-4 kids.
There's a FB group for stroller sales in the Chicago metro, the Valco's come up occasionally but you could post an ISO?
How old/combo are your multiples? B/B will be 3 in less than two weeks
- How's it going, any upcoming Dr Appts or milestones you'd like to discuss? We have a hearing tear coming up for one of the twins. We have no concerns, but early head start was here and said that he didn't pass theirs, so we have to take him in to a local university for an actual test. As far as milestones. They are constantly amazing me with how fast they are maturing. They have been acting like big brothers to M when we have him. It melts my heart.
- Do you have any questions or concerns that you'd like advice on? Cute snack ideas for a Paw Patrol birthday party? Yeah, that is top priority in my life currently.
- Any feeding specific questions regarding nursing, FF, solids, weaning, etc? At what age is it appropriate to say, you don't eat the meal, you go hungry? Some days we fight to get anything more than fruit and vegetables in their bellies. They seem content with no protein.
- QOTW: Summer is coming, for some its already here, what fun plans are you looking forward to (or dreading), to do with your multiples? I look forward to experiencing all the summer things with the twins. Last year M was just about a year and we didn't have the twins, so it wasn't really kid based, this year will be all kids, beaches, zoos, and fun. I can't wait for them to experience everything for the first time. And we are taking a trip to Tennessee if we get court approval.
requiressnacks Prepare to sit it out and shed some tears. For us, it is far more disruptive for us to go in to check on the boys. They calmed down faster if we just let them be. I would regularly chant to myself, "they are safe, the have what they need, this is best for us all." Each day will be a little easier than the last. And keep in mind, after sickness or vacation, you will likely have to go it for a couple days again.
How old/combo are your multiples? B/G, 4 days old!
How's it going, any upcoming Dr Appts or milestones you'd like to discuss? First ped appointment is Thursday.
Do you have any questions or concerns that you'd like advice on? We're being discharged today, so I'm sure I'll have some soon enough.
Any feeding specific questions regarding nursing, FF, solids, weaning, etc? Not yet. The home care nurse from the hospital was working with my insurance to determine if they'll pay for a hospital-grade pump for twins. I was planning on renting one and am excited by that possibility.
QOTW: Summer is coming, for some its already here, what fun plans are you looking forward to (or dreading), to do with your multiples? Since we'll be figuring out our new routine together, I'm looking forward to lots of walks, a couple trips to the beach house, and bonding with them as much as possible.
- How's it going, any upcoming Dr Appts or milestones you'd like to discuss? Next appt is 2 month wellness visit. No real milestones yet- mostly just now starting to have more interactive time with them.
- Do you have any questions or concerns that you'd like advice on? YES actually. I know it's probably mostly a 'this too shall pass thing' but how the f do I improve our overnights?? At this point I might as well be getting up for the day at 2am. They go to bed sometime between 9 and 11pm and will always get up by 1-2am and then getting them back down is next to impossible. They're not even happy awake. Just tired and cranky but won't go back to sleep. I've been surviving on 2-3 hours of sleep a night and I'm about to break. Napping when they nap can't happen because that time is spent being a (crappy, tired and cranky) mom to our oldest.
- Any feeding specific questions regarding nursing, FF, solids, weaning, etc? No this is going well. Good latches and feeding well.
- QOTW: Summer is coming, for some its already here, what fun plans are you looking forward to (or dreading), to do with your multiples? I'm just looking forward to when they can sit up and play in the grass! We're going to buy them one of those pens for outside so they can hang with us while we play with DD1 on the swing set or whatever.
DVMmomma - can you get your oldest out of the house? to daycare or something a couple of times a week? I slept/napped during the day when the babies did because DD1 wasn't home.
are the babies crying/screaming at 2am? can you dream feed them so it's not a true wake-up? can you start getting them down by 9pm so you have a solid 3-4 hours? I would immediately go to sleep as soon as they were down. it was the only way to get a solid 4 hours.
DVMmomma - can you get your oldest out of the house? to daycare or something a couple of times a week? I slept/napped during the day when the babies did because DD1 wasn't home.
are the babies crying/screaming at 2am? can you dream feed them so it's not a true wake-up? can you start getting them down by 9pm so you have a solid 3-4 hours? I would immediately go to sleep as soon as they were down. it was the only way to get a solid 4 hours.
She does go to daycare twice per week (she's there now actually) but only half days because she WILL NOT nap there. I think I just make shitty sleepers
Yes to crying at 2am. I've tried making it more of a dream feed and keeping it as calm and slow moving as I can but they will usually end up faking me out and looking like they're out and then as soon as I start to drift off myself I'll hear them struggling in the swaddle or stirring and then I'll hear a massive poop and then it will become tears until they're changed. Changing them leads to them thinking they're starving so I feed again and then it just seems like it becomes this 4 hour debacle. They finally fall back asleep around 6am until 7am. Then they're hungry again and then I have to get up to pump and get ready for DD1 to wake up.
If I get them down by 9, they just wake up at 11 and then again at 2. SaveSave
DVMmomma - can you get your oldest out of the house? to daycare or something a couple of times a week? I slept/napped during the day when the babies did because DD1 wasn't home.
are the babies crying/screaming at 2am? can you dream feed them so it's not a true wake-up? can you start getting them down by 9pm so you have a solid 3-4 hours? I would immediately go to sleep as soon as they were down. it was the only way to get a solid 4 hours.
She does go to daycare twice per week (she's there now actually) but only half days because she WILL NOT nap there. I think I just make shitty sleepers
Yes to crying at 2am. I've tried making it more of a dream feed and keeping it as calm and slow moving as I can but they will usually end up faking me out and looking like they're out and then as soon as I start to drift off myself I'll hear them struggling in the swaddle or stirring and then I'll hear a massive poop and then it will become tears until they're changed. Changing them leads to them thinking they're starving so I feed again and then it just seems like it becomes this 4 hour debacle. They finally fall back asleep around 6am until 7am. Then they're hungry again and then I have to get up to pump and get ready for DD1 to wake up.
If I get them down by 9, they just wake up at 11 and then again at 2. SaveSave
what if I say it will get better? it will get better.
DVMmomma Do they take bottles yet? What is YH's role overnight?
Have you started a bedtime routine yet?
My babies loved to be awake from 12-5am in the beginning and it was horrible. What helped the most was making an effort to distinguish day vs night. When they napped during the day we had the curtains open and didn't make an effort to be quiet or anything. At night it was lights out, white noise and quiet singing but no talking, no eye contact.
DVMmomma Do they take bottles yet? What is YH's role overnight?
Have you started a bedtime routine yet?
My babies loved to be awake from 12-5am in the beginning and it was horrible. What helped the most was making an effort to distinguish day vs night. When they napped during the day we had the curtains open and didn't make an effort to be quiet or anything. At night it was lights out, white noise and quiet singing but no talking, no eye contact.
I tried to do better about day vs night today doing exactly what you just said. My first never napped even as a newborn so we would tip toe and use black out curtains and white noise and every other trick during the days and I had that mind set carry over- Forgetting that these two rock at naps. We have started a bedtime routine but I haven't been consistent on bed time because it would depend on when they woke to feed, when we got done with dinner, when we got DD1 down, etc etc. going to try to be better about that. Is 9pm a reasonable bed time at this age? DH's role is currently nada. Going to start bottles this weekend though and have him take the first 1-2 wake ups so I can recharge Friday and Saturday nights. If it works, we'll continue it through the week as best we can to be reasonable for both of us- he has to get up at 6:30a for work. He's absolutely game to do whatever I need to help so that's great.
Sorry you went through this too!! 12a-5 sounds worse than my deal.
DVMmomma Do they take bottles yet? What is YH's role overnight?
Have you started a bedtime routine yet?
My babies loved to be awake from 12-5am in the beginning and it was horrible. What helped the most was making an effort to distinguish day vs night. When they napped during the day we had the curtains open and didn't make an effort to be quiet or anything. At night it was lights out, white noise and quiet singing but no talking, no eye contact.
I tried to do better about day vs night today doing exactly what you just said. My first never napped even as a newborn so we would tip toe and use black out curtains and white noise and every other trick during the days and I had that mind set carry over- Forgetting that these two rock at naps. We have started a bedtime routine but I haven't been consistent on bed time because it would depend on when they woke to feed, when we got done with dinner, when we got DD1 down, etc etc. going to try to be better about that. Is 9pm a reasonable bed time at this age? DH's role is currently nada. Going to start bottles this weekend though and have him take the first 1-2 wake ups so I can recharge Friday and Saturday nights. If it works, we'll continue it through the week as best we can to be reasonable for both of us- he has to get up at 6:30a for work. He's absolutely game to do whatever I need to help so that's great.
Sorry you went through this too!! 12a-5 sounds worse than my deal.
I had to engage MH at least once in 24 hours so I could get at least 3 hours of consecutive sleep. It was usually the morning feeding. I hope that helps you!
DVMmomma Do they take bottles yet? What is YH's role overnight?
Have you started a bedtime routine yet?
My babies loved to be awake from 12-5am in the beginning and it was horrible. What helped the most was making an effort to distinguish day vs night. When they napped during the day we had the curtains open and didn't make an effort to be quiet or anything. At night it was lights out, white noise and quiet singing but no talking, no eye contact.
I tried to do better about day vs night today doing exactly what you just said. My first never napped even as a newborn so we would tip toe and use black out curtains and white noise and every other trick during the days and I had that mind set carry over- Forgetting that these two rock at naps. We have started a bedtime routine but I haven't been consistent on bed time because it would depend on when they woke to feed, when we got done with dinner, when we got DD1 down, etc etc. going to try to be better about that. Is 9pm a reasonable bed time at this age? DH's role is currently nada. Going to start bottles this weekend though and have him take the first 1-2 wake ups so I can recharge Friday and Saturday nights. If it works, we'll continue it through the week as best we can to be reasonable for both of us- he has to get up at 6:30a for work. He's absolutely game to do whatever I need to help so that's great.
Sorry you went through this too!! 12a-5 sounds worse than my deal.
I don't know how you manage doing all the wakeups yourself. After the first week I literally thought I was going to die so we introduced bottles right away and H took at least half of the wakeup (he handles sleep deprivation much better than I do).
9pm is a totally reasonable bedtime for now. It will move earlier as they get older.
DVMmomma Do they take bottles yet? What is YH's role overnight?
Have you started a bedtime routine yet?
My babies loved to be awake from 12-5am in the beginning and it was horrible. What helped the most was making an effort to distinguish day vs night. When they napped during the day we had the curtains open and didn't make an effort to be quiet or anything. At night it was lights out, white noise and quiet singing but no talking, no eye contact.
I tried to do better about day vs night today doing exactly what you just said. My first never napped even as a newborn so we would tip toe and use black out curtains and white noise and every other trick during the days and I had that mind set carry over- Forgetting that these two rock at naps. We have started a bedtime routine but I haven't been consistent on bed time because it would depend on when they woke to feed, when we got done with dinner, when we got DD1 down, etc etc. going to try to be better about that. Is 9pm a reasonable bed time at this age? DH's role is currently nada. Going to start bottles this weekend though and have him take the first 1-2 wake ups so I can recharge Friday and Saturday nights. If it works, we'll continue it through the week as best we can to be reasonable for both of us- he has to get up at 6:30a for work. He's absolutely game to do whatever I need to help so that's great.
Sorry you went through this too!! 12a-5 sounds worse than my deal.
+1 to 9 pm being reasonable for now. I agonized sooo much about how late the babies were going to sleep in the early months. I even tried to force an earlier bedtime for an awful 3-4 days because I kept hearing about how important it was that they go to sleep early. Of course I failed miserably, but they naturally shifted to an earlier bedtime as they grew up, and now (at almost 8 months) they go to sleep very naturally between 7 and 7:30.
jd and bocaburger, thanks. I started bed time when they started rousing from their last cat nap of the day around 8:30. Izzi was out by 9:30. My problem child Madi currently has the hiccups and is thinking about pooping. Hopefully we'll all be sleeping by 10...
nomnom, as far as throwing dishes at mealtime, we would just take away the dishes. No acknowledgement at all, just take it away and put the food back on the high chair tray. Seemed to work (or she grew out of the phase) in a week or two.
shemarie82, that age is appropriate for just sending to bed hungry IMO. we have to do that often with DD1. The other thing we try is using the fruit as a bribe to get bites of protein in her. That works 80% of the time.
DVMmomma, that's about the time MH started taking over bedtime. He would do the last feeding and settle them in for bed (he was otherwise staying up way late, which I explained was a slap in the face to his sleep deprived wife). Sometimes he had help but really... He had to learn how to do it himself. I would go to bed ridiculously early, but it got me an almost six hour stretch vs 3.
Post by macchiatto on May 17, 2017 22:23:07 GMT -5
Sorry, I'm pretty sporadic here, but I'll play.
- How old/combo (gg/bb/bg/etc) are your multiples? 8y/o fraternal twin boys
- How's it going, any upcoming Dr Appts or milestones you'd like to discuss? Pretty well. They've done well in separate classes for 2nd grade (though they're together one day/week after all for the GT program) but we just made the decision to put them back together for 3rd. They honestly do well either way and having them in the same class is simpler.
- Do you have any questions or concerns that you'd like advice on? Not at the moment.
- Any feeding specific questions regarding nursing, FF, solids, weaning, etc? Nope.
- QOTW: Summer is coming, for some its already here, what fun plans are you looking forward to (or dreading), to do with your multiples? Looking forward to a more relaxed schedule, more time for play dates, the pool (and actually being able to sit at the side of the pool while they swim!). Dreading aaall the fighting, and the nagging for more screen time.
@feegan yes the big festival in Ohio. It's pretty close to us so even if we don't do the whole weekend it will be fun to stop by and check things out. I went to high school with a set of twins and one went on to have twins herself and they go every year. I love the pictures she posts. It looks like such a fun time!
I'm super late checking in over here, but I didn't realize there was a festival in Ohio! I'd only heard about the one in MN. Maybe I'll check into it!
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