FLAME FREE FRIDAY CONFESSIONS

[ovenrack]

Sometimes in my day to day life, I try to channel The Dowager Countess.

[Stringy]

Sometimes I just don't want to face the day. Such a long long not fun day.

[SAK]

May 11, 2017 6:24:14 GMT -5 Stringy said:

Sometimes I just don't want to face the day. Such a long long not fun day.

[dancingsphinx22]

I'm totally being Judgy McJudgerson over my friend's baby registry. They're expecting twins, and I'm going down their list like, "You don't need this, you won't ever use that, are you dumb, you definitely DON'T need THAT!"

There's nothing on the list I want to buy for them. I bought them 2 nice swaddle blankets, and 2 wubbanubs instead.

But, I will buy something from the list as well, because I'm not a true asshole.

[TJ]

May 11, 2017 11:45:56 GMT -5 dancingsphinx22 said:

I'm totally being Judgy McJudgerson over my friend's baby registry. They're expecting twins, and I'm going down their list like, "You don't need this, you won't ever use that, are you dumb, you definitely DON'T need THAT!"

There's nothing on the list I want to buy for them. I bought them 2 nice swaddle blankets, and 2 wubbanubs instead.

But, I will buy something from the list as well, because I'm not a true asshole.

Ok, I get what you mean, and all that. So judge away if that's your thing. But every parent is different. My friend who is a mom of 3 helped me do my registry. The things she labeled as "must haves!!!! (bottle warmer, baby food maker, baby qtips, diaper genie)" I have never or rarely used. The things I use the most (PNP, boppy, swing, tub insert) she never had. And these are things you just don't know until you know.

[pbandj714]

May 11, 2017 12:57:38 GMT -5 TJ said:

May 11, 2017 11:45:56 GMT -5 dancingsphinx22 said:

I'm totally being Judgy McJudgerson over my friend's baby registry. They're expecting twins, and I'm going down their list like, "You don't need this, you won't ever use that, are you dumb, you definitely DON'T need THAT!"

There's nothing on the list I want to buy for them. I bought them 2 nice swaddle blankets, and 2 wubbanubs instead.

But, I will buy something from the list as well, because I'm not a true asshole.

Ok, I get what you mean, and all that. So judge away if that's your thing. But every parent is different. My friend who is a mom of 3 helped me do my registry. The things she labeled as "must haves!!!! (bottle warmer, baby food maker, baby qtips, diaper genie)" I have never or rarely used. The things I use the most (PNP, boppy, swing, tub insert) she never had. And these are things you just don't know until you know.

PREACH

[TJ]

@charlotte I've been a little worried about you lately. Do you have a support system? Friends and family nearby?

[dancingsphinx22]

May 11, 2017 12:57:38 GMT -5 TJ said:

May 11, 2017 11:45:56 GMT -5 dancingsphinx22 said:

I'm totally being Judgy McJudgerson over my friend's baby registry. They're expecting twins, and I'm going down their list like, "You don't need this, you won't ever use that, are you dumb, you definitely DON'T need THAT!"

There's nothing on the list I want to buy for them. I bought them 2 nice swaddle blankets, and 2 wubbanubs instead.

But, I will buy something from the list as well, because I'm not a true asshole.

Ok, I get what you mean, and all that. So judge away if that's your thing. But every parent is different. My friend who is a mom of 3 helped me do my registry. The things she labeled as "must haves!!!! (bottle warmer, baby food maker, baby qtips, diaper genie)" I have never or rarely used. The things I use the most (PNP, boppy, swing, tub insert) she never had. And these are things you just don't know until you know.

Oh I know. Like the bottle warmer that I just NEEDED to have, but never actually used.

Save

[TJ]

May 11, 2017 14:07:32 GMT -5 @charlotte said:

May 11, 2017 13:14:11 GMT -5 TJ said:

@charlotte I've been a little worried about you lately. Do you have a support system? Friends and family nearby?

Thanks for your concern! I actually do not, but I am planning a trip to see them in a couple of months, which will be nice. I'm still adjusting to our new place. I am joining a weekly coffee meetup for moms, in an effort to get more "settled" here.

I hear you. It was almost 2 years before this place felt like home. Relocating is so hard. But definitely get out there. Meet some people. Make some friends. Hugs.

[dramaphile]

May 11, 2017 11:45:56 GMT -5 dancingsphinx22 said:

I'm totally being Judgy McJudgerson over my friend's baby registry. They're expecting twins, and I'm going down their list like, "You don't need this, you won't ever use that, are you dumb, you definitely DON'T need THAT!"

There's nothing on the list I want to buy for them. I bought them 2 nice swaddle blankets, and 2 wubbanubs instead.

But, I will buy something from the list as well, because I'm not a true asshole.

My coworker's niece had twins and put two changing tables on her registry. I guess in case the babies pooped at the same time? And they have a very small row home and not a lot of room for extra furniture.

I totally judge peoples' baby registries, but I'm sure people judged mine, too.

[dramaphile]

My best advice for new moms is don't take anything out of the package until you actually need to use it. I returned soooo much stuff from my registry that I ended up not needing, like the shopping cart cover and the bottles she wouldn't take, and bought actually useful baby items instead once I knew what we needed. yay Babies R Us return policy

[dancingsphinx22]

So they're asking for 2 baby bathtubs. Is that weird? I thought it was weird

[MapleMe]

Heck, I had plenty of stuff that I couldn't live without with M that I don't touch with C and visa versa. It just varies so much. Although, I did find those various lists of stuff that you don't need helpful. Especially from moms who seem to be of my ilk. Like the shopping cart cover. It seems so good in concept, but then I read one of those lists (maybe from Lucie's List?) that mentioned that they are just such a PITA to cart around and I was all, "Oh yeah, carting around cumbersome things is something that I seriously hate, so lets just take that off my list right now." Our Rock N Play was THE BEST with M and got so much use. We maybe used it 1/2 dozen times with C. C just didn't like being confined and was so much happier straight up on the floor. And C preferred sleeping flat to the incline, so we sold it as soon as she got to big for it (which was early, since she's a big baby).

[sarenu]

May 11, 2017 15:36:04 GMT -5 dancingsphinx22 said:

So they're asking for 2 baby bathtubs. Is that weird? I thought it was weird

Dealing with one screaming infant at a time is enough.
But maybe if you don't want to clean and refill.
Personally, I wouldn't have the space.

[critter015]

May 11, 2017 15:36:04 GMT -5 dancingsphinx22 said:

So they're asking for 2 baby bathtubs. Is that weird? I thought it was weird

I was going to say weird, but I actually registered for two because I registered for everything at two different places because some of my shower guests were only close to one of the stores and some were only close to the other. I actually got almost nothing from either registry.

[dancingsphinx22]

*whispers* I use the cart cover

[brandiewine11]

I used the cart cover too with R. I had one in each car (they were both gifts). I'll use it again if next baby likes to chew on the cart too.

I also judge registries.

We have good friends who got pregnant 3 months after we did. I spent a lot of time researching stuff (because I was sick and stuck on the couch and unemployed) for our registry. Our friend's wife did not and put a bunch of junk on hers (like brands with terrible reviews, etc). I told my husband I didn't want to buy any of that crap, and why. He told his friend who made his wife re-do the registry with better stuff (he's kind of anal about that sort of thing). So she just copied 80% of mine. I had to laugh.

[MapleMomma]

I'm sure my registry looked stupid to some. But so much of the "must haves" I was told to register for/was given/bought I never used. The rock n play, the pnp, the wipes warmer, the video monitor, the flower bath thing, the hippy pillow.

I do have 2 bath tub things though! One that is portable and one I use more often at home. They are awesome.

And the cart cover? I've never taken it out of the package.

[ovenrack]

I only registered for a birth doula who was fluent in animal body language, so my naturelle wild birth next to a birthing tree supporting by gentle female woodland creatures, enhanced by the babbling brook nearby, would be as smooth as possible.

Oh I also registered for the blessings of health, grace, honor, and generosity upon my unborn child.

And natural loofahs for bathing my child with pure spring water freshened with local herbs and flower petals.

[MapleMe]

May 11, 2017 21:24:54 GMT -5 ovenrack said:

I only registered for a birth doula who was fluent in animal body language, so my naturelle wild birth next to a birthing tree supporting by gentle female woodland creatures, enhanced by the babbling brook nearby, would be as smooth as possible.

Oh I also registered for the blessings of health, grace, honor, and generosity upon my unborn child.

And natural loofahs for bathing my child with pure spring water freshened with local herbs and flower petals.

Sure, but was it LOCAL spring water? #judging

[rugger]

My kids play so much better together when I do not engage in play. They are happily playing together while I browse and sip hot coffee out of sight. And I happily stay out of their way