Ugh so I'm a private person and sort of superstitious. I've intentionally kept any pregnancy news off FB and asked my family to do the same. I've been excited for it to be a surprise when she arrives!! Well my mom indirectly outted me in a picture that a few family members are tagged in. Something along the lines of "all of our grandchildren, but expecting another in 3 weeks"... I'm not tagged because I have my privacy settings as such, but she tagged my sister who has like 800 friends, too. It's obviously not my sister due in 3 weeks (she's in the pics) so I kind of freaked out and called her and was like WTF, take that comment down and hung up. Am I overreacting?!
Not over reacting at all. We have had to threaten family about posting things on Facebook before we do. We told them that if they announce whatever milestone before us, they will be finding out about the rest of them via Facebook instead of first. It sucks to have to be so bitchy but people need to be respectful. I am sure everyone is well intentioned but no excuse.
sabrinaml, you're a great bridesmaid! I probably would have left.
starsandshamrocks123, you have a right to be upset especially since you've made your wishes known. When I was induced with DD, we only told our immediate family and a few close friends. My parents posted pictures on fb of them sitting in the waiting room. Which doubly pissed me off because I didn't want everyone to know AND I didn't want anyone in the waiting room! Luckily, H handled it.
I've been nesting this weekend! In total freak out mode....I keep thinking I have 7 weeks left, that's plenty of time. But then if I go by original due date, it's only 5 weeks! We still have lots to do!
This weekend I've organized DD's toys (and put tons in boxes to donate), organized clothes DD has outgrown, did massive amounts of laundry, cleaned the high chair cover (that DD no longer uses but was still caked with food), and cleaned DD's car seat. I'm about to throw the infant car seat cover, rock n play cover, and swing cover in the wash next. And then maybe some newborn-3 month clothes.
starsandshamrocks123 Not overacting at all. When we first found out we were having another baby, we only told our parents at first and told them not to tell anyone. My mother told my siblings before I could because she thought we were being silly. I did not talk to her for a month and we still don't have the best of relations (this was just the straw that broke the camel's back).
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on May 7, 2017 13:33:34 GMT -5
cateyesbewisePA Mom thanks for validating. I have to think she didn't realize that 800+ people could see her comment and she wasn't thinking about it. I feel bad I was rude because my parents are so supportive, etc, BUT what part of "nothing on FB" did she not get?? I had her remove it quickly so I'm thinking only a few people might have seen it, but she hasn't attempted to apologize or explain.
Im going to flip if she goes the opposite way and criticizes me for "not being excited" or annoyed that she can't share news that's hers too. Both comments I've heard last time from her and MIL. I shouldn't have to explain myself but I still have some PTSD from DS's birth. I thought he went without oxygen for 5 minutes with cord issues. His one min APGAR was a ONE. I had a moment where I thought I might not be bringing a baby home. Family can post all they want once I have a healthy baby in my arms and after DH or I choose to announce!
Ugh so I'm a private person and sort of superstitious. I've intentionally kept any pregnancy news off FB and asked my family to do the same. I've been excited for it to be a surprise when she arrives!! Well my mom indirectly outted me in a picture that a few family members are tagged in. Something along the lines of "all of our grandchildren, but expecting another in 3 weeks"... I'm not tagged because I have my privacy settings as such, but she tagged my sister who has like 800 friends, too. It's obviously not my sister due in 3 weeks (she's in the pics) so I kind of freaked out and called her and was like WTF, take that comment down and hung up. Am I overreacting?!
Nope not overreacting IMO. it's your news to share when you're ready to share it. Something very similar happened when I was pregnant with DD1 and I was NOT happy.
starsandshamrocks123,that is why I don't want anyone to know things right away either. DD was born with a 0 Apgar and only got up to a 1 before going to the NICU. Now with this one having kidney and maybe brain issues, I want to keep it to a minimum until I know more.
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on May 7, 2017 16:25:13 GMT -5
PA Mom that's crazy! I totally understand. We were lucky that his 5 min improved and he only briefly went to the NICU but it's tough to handle that... especially since it sounds like we were both not expecting it
starsandshamrocks123 definitely not overreacting. I called my mom back during the first trimester for her to log on to my grandma's account and delete a comment about my pregnancy. I was so mad. And I've also had to explain to family that announcing a birth before the parents do is rude, it's not their news to tell! I have all the feels on this subject lol.
I spent the weekend pretty much in freak out mode. I have less than 4 weeks left and two girls from our church (who were due only a couple days before me) had their babies this weekend. So now I feel like I have no time left and a million things I want to do. My anxiety is through the roof!
I spent the weekend pretty much in freak out mode. I have less than 4 weeks left and two girls from our church (who were due only a couple days before me) had their babies this weekend. So now I feel like I have no time left and a million things I want to do. My anxiety is through the roof!
I'm definitely feeling that anxiety too! So much to do!
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on May 8, 2017 6:44:12 GMT -5
bagelsmarshian thanks. I was totally going to drop it and she brought it up like, oh I thought it was something nice I could share... You don't have to be so sensitive about everything. No one saw it anyway (because I made you take down the comment, mom) So now I'm just as angry and frustrated that she clearly doesn't get it. I want to find an article about it and send it to her but it's a lost cause
bagelsmarshian thanks. I was totally going to drop it and she brought it up like, oh I thought it was something nice I could share... You don't have to be so sensitive about everything. No one saw it anyway (because I made you take down the comment, mom) So now I'm just as angry and frustrated that she clearly doesn't get it. I want to find an article about it and send it to her but it's a lost cause
It's harder when they either truly don't get it or just are in denial. My response is easy for both cases: Please do as I ask because it matters to me. Doesn't matter if they understand or not, if they respect you and your feelings, they'll just do it. I have a feeling I'll be saying that line a ton when it comes to our rules about social media.
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on May 8, 2017 9:39:42 GMT -5
I like this one... even though it doesn't touch on all my issues... but DH thinks I already made my point and pushing it further would just cause more issues in the long run. But still, id love for her to truly get it.
ITA with everyone getting annoyed/angry about family members sharing news. This doesn't fix all cases (like when someone doesn't tag you), but I find that it's just easier to set facebook so that I have to approve anything that shows up on my page in advance.
ITA with everyone getting annoyed/angry about family members sharing news. This doesn't fix all cases (like when someone doesn't tag you), but I find that it's just easier to set facebook so that I have to approve anything that shows up on my page in advance.
I have mine set so nothing gets show on my page when I'm tagged and I get notifications when I'm tagged, but people don't have to tag you in order for the news to be spread (e.g. my sister posts a photo of baby and says "new niece/nephew!", it will be obvious to everyone who knows my family it's my kid).
So, in my most brilliant pregnancy brain move to date, I flushed $300 down the toilet the other night. My H got some cash for a mason job he did and handed it to me at the same time he handed me a screaming toddler, so I tucked it into my yoga pants and promptly forgot about it. I fell asleep and woke up for the first MOTN pee (obvs) and being in a pitch black bathroom pretty much sealed the deal that the $300 was a lost cause. I was so upset over it, I spent like 4 hours googling ways I could get it back. Spoiler alert - there's no real solution! Sigh.
So, in my most brilliant pregnancy brain move to date, I flushed $300 down the toilet the other night. My H got some cash for a mason job he did and handed it to me at the same time he handed me a screaming toddler, so I tucked it into my yoga pants and promptly forgot about it. I fell asleep and woke up for the first MOTN pee (obvs) and being in a pitch black bathroom pretty much sealed the deal that the $300 was a lost cause. I was so upset over it, I spent like 4 hours googling ways I could get it back. Spoiler alert - there's no real solution! Sigh.
This is something that would totally happen to me... sooooo frustrating. Hope it's at least something you can look back on at some point and laugh?
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