Post by erinshelley21 on May 8, 2017 5:46:33 GMT -5
Back to work today. DS woke up at 6 and DD slept until 630 so I could at least shower and dry my hair. Feeding DD then I need to feed DS and myself and have coffee. DD didn't go to sleep until 10 then was up from 2-3.
I'm up Max, and hoping I'll be able to go back to sleep after. He's got a pretty regular 4:45 wakeup right now and I often can't fall back asleep once he's down again. Sigh.
I am seriously getting so frustrated with my husband. Every AM he plans to take the morning feeding/caring for the baby so I can sleep til 7 am. He does the feeding, while I pump and then we all go back to sleep. He leaves for the gym, the baby goes nuts, usually right after he leaves at 5:15 am, I get up, I drink caffeine bc I'm exhausted and the baby is up for the day, he comes home, I'm mad, he tells me to go back to bed for an hour but now I've had caffeine and I know I won't sleep, he acts like I'm the most annoying wife/mother to ever exist for being mad esp now that he is offering to let me go back to bed. He usually feels bad bc the baby is awake, I'm awake and he did want me to get sleep.
But then fast forward to the next day. Baby is sleeping and he asks if he can go to the gym. If I say no, he acts like I'm insane for keeping him from going to the gym to sit around while The baby is sleeping. So I say, I don't care as long as she sleeps. But then he's gone and she doesn't sleep.
The few times he's stayed, she has slept.
But she's a newborn, and unpredictable. And I'm so tired of him being so "sure" about when she is going to eat and sleep. But I don't have the energy to have the conversation again.
glb30 you really are too accommodating. Number one, he can work out at home for a while. He's on baby duty in the morning until 7:00, period. No more conversation! No more asking if he can leave! He's not helping if he's leaving.
Ugh, C had been "talking" for like a half hour. He's not fussing and doesn't seem to really be awake. He's just being noisy...which means mom is awake. Dang it!
Post by erinshelley21 on May 8, 2017 7:53:23 GMT -5
Thanks everyone! I got everyone out the door at 8:20 so I feel I'm already off to a good start.
I tasted a bit of BM from DD's bottle and it tasted funny. She's taken frozen milk a few times already so I'm hoping there aren't any issues today. I always thought it tasted funny with DS too so it could just be me.
glb30, it sounds like your H hasn't gotten the memo that routines change when there is a baby. My preferred time to workout every day would be 5pm. Ain't no way in hell that's happening.... probably ever again. Hopefully you guys can come up with a schedule of sharing responsibilities that you both like.
glb30 hugs. My H is similarly frustrating. He doesn't offer to take baby when he is home and has no problem leaving me to go for a bike ride while im wrangling a baby in one hand hooked up pumping. I have to say no sometimes and not care if he is mad about it.
C has been fidgety while nursing lately. I started feeding him a little bit ago. When he popped himself off, I took off the nipple shield. I got him to latch without it, and he's currently going to town. We'll see how long this lasts, but for right now I'm considering it a win.
Back to work for me too. When does pumping at work become less weird?
Hugs! Do you have a room you can go in to pump?
Eta I don't think I would ever feel fully comfortable pumping at work. I'm still trying to get use to pumping while I'm out of the house. Waiting on making a nursing poncho until I venture into the relm of pumping in public.
Back at work. We got both kids out of the door and at day care with time to spare. I know that won't happen often. I was overly prepped today. Time to jump back into things. Strangest thing so far...I realized I hadn't used a computer mouse in 12 weeks. It definitely felt weird to use again.
Back to work for me too. When does pumping at work become less weird?
Hugs! Do you have a room you can go in to pump?
Eta I don't think I would ever feel fully comfortable pumping at work. I'm still trying to get use to pumping while I'm out of the house. Waiting on making a nursing poncho until I venture into the relm of pumping in public.
It's in an empty office. So maybe that's why. It isn't a mother's room so it doesn't lock
Eta I don't think I would ever feel fully comfortable pumping at work. I'm still trying to get use to pumping while I'm out of the house. Waiting on making a nursing poncho until I venture into the relm of pumping in public.
It's in an empty office. So maybe that's why. It isn't a mother's room so it doesn't lock
The no locking would keep me super uncomfortable. That sucks. Hope it gets easier the more you do it.
H and I chatted, and he promises that tomorrow I can sleep til 8 am. I'll keep you posted! Hahaha.
J and I are out at brunch. She was awake when we came in here, and the place was packed, so this felt kind of daring. She fell asleep though, and I'm reading some stuff for work. So the morning is turning out a-okay!
I hope back to work goes well erinshelley21. I always thought my thawed bm tasted funny, but not bad.
glb30 I would be frustrated too. I agree with kristhegirl - the newborn phase is short, he can do things from home or skip a workout for a month or two. Enjoy brunch!
I'm finding it hard to keep up here. I try to at least read a love tit.
We had a great weekend. I went to breakfast with my coworkers on Saturday. Everyone passed E around, who was wide awake but content. They all chipped in and bought me a spa package. Can't wait to use that! Then we had friends for dinner Saturday night. Of course like clockwork E woke when it was time for us to eat and was fussy.
Yesterday my mom came over and tried giving E a bottle for the first time. I was worried because she is kind of anti pacifier, and I was scared she would reject the bottle. But she did great and took almost the full ounce and a half I put in the bottle. I'm calling it a win. I'll have H try again this week.
The last two nights she's also given me longer stretches for the first stretch of sleep. I'm hoping it becomes the new routine.
Weather is supposed to be beautiful today so I'll try to get some walks in. I've got to figure out how to get rid of this c section pouch I have. It's bumming me out.
I haven't been as good at keeping up lately either. The wedding last weekend was great and nobody got sick traveling so I was really happy about that. My hairdresser friend cut and did an really nice highlight/dye job which I haven't done in many years.
My twins are on a few day streak of being reasonable people. It is amazing. We still have breakdowns of course but they are doing better at listening. I attribute most of this to no TV during the weekdays, which kind of sucks but is worth it.
amacbaby,what is this reasonable toddler twin thing? It exists? I can't get to upset at mine, they were dragged everywhere and stuck in car seats so much for things we had to do for their older sisters. Hope it continues for you!
Nap questions again - if he will only nap on me should I let him? Or keep transferring to try and get at least a couple good naps in today?
I would try transferring in the morning, and let him work on it - let him fuss, only pick up if actually crying/upset. Then afternoon I'd let him nap on me if he really wouldn't nap all morning. I would swaddle fo' sho'.
I will warn you, it will feel like you're working on naps all day. Brace yourself.
erinshelley21 Good luck on your first day back! I hope you treat yourself to a tasty lunch or coffee. glb30 Mom-ing and wife-ing at the same time is so freaking hard. Stuff like this happens w my H all the time. Eventually we have a come to Jesus talk (after a million little talks) and it works out.
DS2 slept in half hour increments from 2:45-7. But H went to the office, DS1 is at daycare, DS2 is napping in the carrier, and I am drinking coffee and eating a blueberry bagel in complete silence, so it is going to be a good day!
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