I swear I read somewhere that night time dryness is an actual physiological development and not one that you could train. Anybody else? Am I crazy?
I've heard that as well. Although I think it can be behavioral as well. H didn't have any night accidents (or maybe like 1) from May till November last year. She refused a night time diaper pretty much immediately. For some reason around her birthday for 2 months she wet the bed every single night. We would threaten putting a diaper on her and she wouldn't have an accident that night. So I'm 99% sure hers were behavioral, as in she just didn't want to get out of bed to go potty.
I spent an hour during nap time cleaning out the inside of my car. I didn't vacuum though because our shop vac is buried under a mountain of crap. Under the carseats was gross. It's also 80 degrees outside so by the end I was sweating a lot.
We have now seen every house currently on the market that we're remotely interested in. Now all that's left to do is sit around all week eagerly awaiting new listings. I need more people to sell their homes, don't they know I'm here waiting?
Can you build?
In theory...yes. We have no desire to though. We're not "handy" people. Also here they have something called "specials" assessed to new construction. You basically have to pay for the infrastructure near your home. It can add $30,000 to the cost. We've heard of as high as $70,000.
Existing homes have already paid off most of their specials and typically what we've been looking at has $10,000 or so remaining.
We have now seen every house currently on the market that we're remotely interested in. Now all that's left to do is sit around all week eagerly awaiting new listings. I need more people to sell their homes, don't they know I'm here waiting?
Maybe once school gets out in a few weeks you will see the perfect one listed.
Hopefully. Until then I plan to whine like a 3 year old about it.
Post by xolastunicornxo on May 8, 2017 17:54:44 GMT -5
calishove I'm with you on the house search. I literally check every few hours to see if anything new has been listed.
tgrimes1980 it's been probably a year since I flew with the kids, but I feel like I always just had their vaccination book, not a birth certificate.
Well, Minnesota this weekend for my grandmas 96th was fun. I love all my cousins and there was very little drama. My parents only drove me a little crazy. I do have one crazy, racist, ultra-religious aunt and I'm proud of myself for walking away from her several times instead of engaging. Just a few samplings of what she said to me:
"It's too bad your children are being raised in a godless home" (because dh and I don't do church and aren't religious)
"Have you ever noticed that all those black people look alike? It's so funny" (I shit you not, she said this in front of my cousins boyfriend/baby daddy who is African American)
"All these stupid woman marching have no idea how good they have it" (knowing full well I did the woman's march.)
Those are just off the top of my head.... I'm sure there was more.
Thanks for the good thoughts. Doctor was fine I guess. It was a rehabilitation doctor and not a Neurologist, which I didn't know existed. He didn't really tell us anything we didn't already know, and said she's making progress since her stay there (acute rehab). I was a bit of a grump, she kept asking if I wanted to get lunch or a snack after...yes I want to, but no, I have to go back to work, pump, and then pickup the kids, because life. Blerg.
Worst pick up ever. First I hear that Col had to be moved to the other preschool class during nap because he was so disruptive. Then he and a friend chased each other around the school while her Mom and I tried to wrangle them, both of us with younger kids in our arms. She finally got her 2 out and Col kept going limp every time I grabbed his hand. The director ended up coming in and carrying Chase out for me so I could haul Colin out. Then I ended up yelling at him until I was literally sobbing because he wouldn't get in his seat and he kept slapping at Chase. Then he had multiple flailing, screaming tantrums at home. I don't even know what to do, it's embarrassing and makes me feel like such a bad parent. He doesn't seem to grasp the incentives or punishments we try. I keep trying to remind myself that these phases never last long, that he's really a sweet kid at heart. But I can only imagine what he must look like to outsiders, and I HATE that.
Post by yummeecookee on May 8, 2017 20:23:44 GMT -5
Oh big hugs JoeLies. Totally empathizing w you right now. B has been such a challenge for me these past few weeks. I don't know what's going on w these kids and this phase. They don't give a shit about anything - rewards or punishments. I'm betting all the other DC moms that may have seen the crazed pick up, have had plenty of their own moments w wild kiddos.
Post by yummeecookee on May 8, 2017 20:24:56 GMT -5
I came to live blog that bedtime is going disastrous. I've been trying to get her down for the last hour. She has been bawling, keeps coming out of her room, has woken C up twice w her wailing. I can't get through to her!!!
Post by lahdeedah88 on May 8, 2017 20:29:27 GMT -5
I hate people on FB. I scrolled past a post (I'll spare you the details) and I can't stop itching/scratching. I have also had goosebumps for the past 10 minutes. I need one of those Men in Black memory eraser thingys ASAP. Anyone know where I can acquire one?
Post by klongoria11 on May 8, 2017 20:37:15 GMT -5
yummeecookee do you have a rocking chair? If not you can just sit on the floor. Sit on the floor with her in your lap a d wrap a blanket around her. Start rocking. Not until she's asleep, just until she's calm. Once she has calmed down and starts to get a little drowsy, have her move to her bed. Pat her back until she closes her eyes. Then stop patting and take a step back and just stand there(to make sure she isn't immediately going to get up). Then you'll be able to leave the room. If she gets too riled up, then it's hard to get them calm enough to sleep and it just keeps escalating. Wrapping her in a blanket will help calm her faster because it's comforting. I hope you are able to get her down!
Post by yummeecookee on May 8, 2017 21:02:48 GMT -5
Thx klongoria11, I will try that when we inevitably go through this again tmrw. I think I finally got her down now. Her light is on and so is the hall light but I'll deal w that once she is out cold.
JoeLies That's really the worst. I can't remember who initially said they do it or if it was even here on the board, but I tell myself "this is not an emergency, this is not an emergency."
It helps tamp down my fight or flight response when they make me want to cry/scream/run away from home.
JoeLies add me to the list of people who've had day care help with getting to the car. Mine was bc S suddenly decided he wouldn't walk no matter what I did. No way I could carry both kids' bags, the car seat with Ben in it, and Sam. So his teacher carried the car seat. I was mortified. But it got us home.
S cares a great deal about rewards and punishments- NOT during the heat of the moment. But once he gets fired up he couldn't care less. The worst is when he's really worked up and I try to put him in time out. He laughs and runs away. Which makes my blood boil.
JoeLies when C is being a pill about getting in his seat I shut the door and walk a few steps away. The first time I did it he was devastated thinking I was leaving. Now I just have to shut it a little and he straightens right up. Might be a little mean but it works. Begging, pleading, crying just eggs him on more.
Oh trust me, I shut him in. And he climbs into the front seat. I couldn't walk away yesterday because he was slapping Chase in the face.
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