Post by nerdykitten on May 8, 2017 12:45:48 GMT -5
The push of getting final projects completed for classes is real. MH is going to take time off to help my mom with the kids early next week to make sure I can get all of it done. My favorite class this semester ends this week and I am furiously working on my blog that is due Wednesday at 1:59 AM.
Me: 30 DH: 29; Married: September, 2010 TTC #1: April 2013 Benched: May 2013 Cancer(DH) Off the Bench: September 2014 July 2015 ER low sperm count and motility(radiation side effect). FET September 1,2015. BFP 9/9/15.- 3 on the way.
Someone has been crying or screaming since 5am. There was a very brief quiet around 10. Of course on the first day of a diet and no alcohol for a month.
Someone has been crying or screaming since 5am. There was a very brief quiet around 10. Of course on the first day of a diet and no alcohol for a month.
No alcohol month sounds like a horrible idea with twin toddlers!
Someone has been crying or screaming since 5am. There was a very brief quiet around 10. Of course on the first day of a diet and no alcohol for a month.
No alcohol month sounds like a horrible idea with twin toddlers!
Right?! But it's necessary right now. While I see nothing wrong with a glass of wine most nights, we've slipped into an every night pattern and our budget, waistlines, and sleep habits are starting to feel it.
Someone has been crying or screaming since 5am. There was a very brief quiet around 10. Of course on the first day of a diet and no alcohol for a month.
Do we need to come do the zoo with you? We're free Thursday....
Thursday is the one day we can't! But maybe we can make a plan for next week?
We have two double ear infections here. One of the dogs went to the vet today for a checkup, so the babies has their schedule completely screwed up and they've been screaming almost non-stop since 5. I'm apparently the only one that can handle babies and dogs and cooking. I also hate my job, so I'm kind of having trouble handling all of this right now. I wish I had time for job searching, but someone has to make sure everything gets done. We haven't even contacted people to help us clean. Or neighborhood kids for babysitting.
I need a me day, which I'm not getting anytime soon.
Ugh, I'm sorry piccyami. It's rough getting into that vicious cycle and with sickness! I hope you're able to catch a break soon. Is there anyone that can come over to give you a free night?
Both kiddos were cuddly and clingy with fevers yesterday. It was actually really nice getting to cuddle with L since she generally won't allow it. I was so glad though this morning when they had normal temps and were chipper as ever!
I'm pumping while drinking a glass of wine. We had a rough day. Next time a singleton mom complains to me about her baby I might snap.
Sorry for the rough day! I try to put in perspective that we only know the what we know. For someone with 1 kid, it IS rough. They don't know any different. Sure, there are many more logistical things we have to deal with for 2 babies but it's probably tough for them too. Heck, my oldest (singleton) was a million times harder of a baby than my twins. These two have been a breeze so far in comparison.
I survived my 1st day back at work. and I made it here even earlier today (without forgetting my lunch or phone charger.) I'm have a slight panic attack as to how I"m going to get the twins up, fed and dressed in addition to me and DD1 when it's time to haul them all to daycare. (my mom is here this week with the twins).
H was so stuck on the fact that he got a message from the doctor that he needed to pay his copay from a previous visit (he didn't realize he had to pay when he went to the doctor) that he couldn't focus on the fact that the babies needed to go to bed and making me agitated was not helping the babies sleep. They were up 2 hours past their bedtime, and when W started screaming, H just yelled back. The baby had a dirty diaper on top of not feeling good. Once W calmed down, they both went down pretty easily.
This morning, H sat on the computer while I cleaned up poop (dog and possibly cat), made my lunch, entertained babies, opened the door every time a dog walked by, and organized everything for the day. When I asked him to get the other dog in, he opened the door and watched the one inside run out. We were a full half hour late leaving today because he didn't understand that "go bring the dog in" meant "go outside, get the dog, bring her in" and not "open the door and hope she walks in while hoping the other doesn't walk out"
I'm feeling really, really inadequate right now because I'm feeling like I have to do everything again. I was so frustrated and upset that I skipped dinner again last night. These are times I wish I could drink (I can't, it makes me pass out).
Wow. I really need to carve out some time for me. I also really need to not work at the same place as H.
I'm pumping while drinking a glass of wine. We had a rough day. Next time a singleton mom complains to me about her baby I might snap.
Sorry for the rough day! I try to put in perspective that we only know the what we know. For someone with 1 kid, it IS rough. They don't know any different. Sure, there are many more logistical things we have to deal with for 2 babies but it's probably tough for them too. Heck, my oldest (singleton) was a million times harder of a baby than my twins. These two have been a breeze so far in comparison.
YES. My singleton almost got sent to live with wolves on more than one occasion.
piccyami, this hurts my heart. I've been there with an unsupportive and unhelpful H and it SUCKS. I'm so sorry. It sounds like you are the opposite of inadequate and you're actually rocking it! I can understand the feelings though. Twins are no freaking joke my friend. I hope you're able to find a way to have some you time
piccyami , this hurts my heart. I've been there with an unsupportive and unhelpful H and it SUCKS. I'm so sorry. It sounds like you are the opposite of inadequate and you're actually rocking it! I can understand the feelings though. Twins are no freaking joke my friend. I hope you're able to find a way to have some you time
He says he wants a list, but I can't sit down and write a list every time I need help. The list would have one item: "do the shit that needs to be done"
I'm going to somehow carve out some time for me. There's a ton of yard work that needs to happen this weekend. If I can't carve out some time before then, that will be my me time. Even if I have to park the babies in the stroller in the back yard.
piccyami,sorry. I love my husband, but he doesn't understand how to wind a child down at night. He gets our DD really amped up at night by making her laugh, play etc. It's incredibly frustrating because what should take 30 minutes to get her down ends up taking well over an hour.
My husband also works well from a list. He doesn't know just by looking around what needs to get done. So when I'm drowning, I just give him a list.
Also I'm not sure if you have family in town, but I was really sick with a fever recently and couldn't parent. And my 4 y/o DD wouldn't let me sleep. My husband didn't quite get it, so I left the house and slept in parent's bed for 6 hours to get rest. Somehow it worked and they all survived.
Can you possibly step away, even if it's just for an hour or so? Run an errand and leave the twins behind?
piccyami ,sorry. I love my husband, but he doesn't understand how to wind a child down at night. He gets our DD really amped up at night by making her laugh, play etc. It's incredibly frustrating because what should take 30 minutes to get her down ends up taking well over an hour.
My husband also works well from a list. He doesn't know just by looking around what needs to get done. So when I'm drowning, I just give him a list.
Also I'm not sure if you have family in town, but I was really sick with a fever recently and couldn't parent. And my 4 y/o DD wouldn't let me sleep. My husband didn't quite get it, so I left the house and slept in parent's bed for 6 hours to get rest. Somehow it worked and they all survived.
Can you possibly step away, even if it's just for an hour or so? Run an errand and leave the twins behind?
The plan yesterday was to leave both babies with H while I ran to the vet. I wound up with a very anxious puppy and a very angry baby. Over the weekend, H was supposed to have both babies while I went to a multiples brunch. I wound up dropping Z with my mom (who had had my very active nephew the day before and wasn't really up to watching both of them) while I took W with me.
I have no idea how to get out of the house by myself at this point without asking my parents to watch them every time. I still haven't had a chance to contact sitters.
piccyami , this hurts my heart. I've been there with an unsupportive and unhelpful H and it SUCKS. I'm so sorry. It sounds like you are the opposite of inadequate and you're actually rocking it! I can understand the feelings though. Twins are no freaking joke my friend. I hope you're able to find a way to have some you time
He says he wants a list, but I can't sit down and write a list every time I need help. The list would have one item: "do the shit that needs to be done"
I'm going to somehow carve out some time for me. There's a ton of yard work that needs to happen this weekend. If I can't carve out some time before then, that will be my me time. Even if I have to park the babies in the stroller in the back yard.
Not helping with all the other things, but I finally scheduled someone to come out to give us a quote on cleaning. Now to get in contact with at least one neighborhood girl to come watch the babies this weekend so I can do some yard work and we can get to know her for actual babysitting.
piccyami - can you make one list? ie these are the things that need to get done every day - and give him that?
we are starting slow with sitters too - mostly because I can hardly handle my 4 year old and 3 month old twins alone (especially at bedtime). so I'm either having sitters come and watch DD1 OR the twins OR I'm home with all 3 with the help of a sitter.
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