Please go ahead and confirm our rental already. We are awesome. And I booked our flights today so we need a place to stay!
Love, Mom Who Needs A Vacation
Dear MIL-
Yes, I travel a shitload for work. If you don't want to help your son when I'm out of town, just tell him so. But quit bitching about how much I travel. I am the person who earns money so your son and grandkids get to eat. My job- the way I make that money- requires me to travel. I already feel guilty. I need exactly zero help from you on that front. And I honestly don't see how my travel schedule affects you, except DH asks you to help and you agree.
It's not my job to referee your relationship with the son that you raised.
Dear DD2, It's really sweet that you suggested we "go somewhere special" to celebrate Mother's Day. Your favorite open gym gymnastics place is not quite what I had in mind though... But it made me smile that you thought of it and wanted to share it with me! Love you kiddo! Love, Momma
Dear Dave Ramsey, I'm drinking the kool-aid. I really hope it helps pull us out of the situation we're in right now. I'm so tired of being broke and stressed about money. Something's gotta give and I think the next few months are our chance to get back on track when we have some more wiggle room while we're not paying for daycare. Signed, Avid audio book listener
I hope we all have a great time the next 3 days and the weather is decent. This is Ds's big trip before high school, so I hope we all make some memories.
Post by somebabiesmom on May 10, 2017 7:41:54 GMT -5
Dear me,
You're going to be 39 in a couple weeks. You are in the worst shape of your life. You could spend the next year getting into the best shape of your life so that when 40 comes, it knows it has been beaten. If you think you can do it, you will do it. You have two weeks to think about it. I mean, seriously, it's 50 lbs. If you don't do it, you're going to be 40 and need to lose 70.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 10, 2017 8:30:33 GMT -5
Dear J,
I can't believe you're turning 4 tomorrow! You're my rainbow and a constant reminder of how this whole journey of becoming a parent is not always easy. I love you so much. Keep being the spunky, kind, empathetic, smart girl you are today.
Love, Mama
Dear C,
How are you 3 months old today?! You're my last baby... slow down!
And keep chattering at me. I love your little voice.
Love, Mommy
Dear WP,
This whole working parent/being the breadwinner kind of sucks sometimes. I wouldn't trade my education and career for a SAH gig, but sometimes it sounds appealing.
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Dear DH, I know you have a cold. Everyone in our family has a cold. That's why DS2 was up a bunch last night. I do 95% of MOTN, so when I ask you to grab DS2 because I just fed him for the millionth time and he's not settling down, just do it. Signed Sniffles
Dear DS1, It's great that you aren't scared of public bathrooms, but the portapotty at the park is gross. I don't know why you think peeing in it is the coolest thing ever. Please stop holding your pee before we leave so that you can be sure to pee in the portapotty as soon as we get to the park. Signed Needs more hand gel
I'm sorry you spent last night puking. I'm even more sorry that you apparently puked in your sleep and it didn't wake anyone up. I'm especially sorry that even though I've taken a shower and washed up, I can still smell vomit.
Signed, The grossed out mama who NEEDS you to be better for your birthday Saturday!
Mine comes and goes in various forms depending on where the kids are developmentally-speaking. Now that my kids are so much more verbal and independent, it's currently blowing my mind that they have a life outside of us. And it makes me feel bad. But they are learning to be independent and it makes communication between us that much more important. There are a million logical, practical benefits to having 2 WPs, but the emotional side can be brutal (for both MH and I, tbh). I just try to keep focused on the positive.
Sincerely, I hope someone on here tells you it goes away
Dear DS1, It's great that you aren't scared of public bathrooms, but the portapotty at the park is gross. I don't know why you think peeing in it is the coolest thing ever. Please stop holding your pee before we leave so that you can be sure to pee in the portapotty as soon as we get to the park. Signed Needs more hand gel
This is the worst, and my kid does it too! I remind her that there's a potty where we're going or are and she HAS to check it out. We've been in every bathroom in town I think. The worst was the day she peed on her only shoes we had with us at daycare, and we went immediately to a play date at the park. She needed to go in the porta potty barefoot. So gross.
oldbaylover1024, I'm not the primary breadwinner, but I hold my own. The guilt definitely gets better as time goes by. It's pretty rare at this point that I feel very guilty about working.
I feel the least guilt when he's home from DC because he's "sick" (aka, was sick, is feeling better but can't go back to school) and all I can think about is... what would I do all day if we were home every day???
It's worse with DD, since she'll clearly vocalize that she'd rather be at school.
Dear Old Navy I really like my new summer dress but...after having it on less than 2 hours the strap broke. I'm not happy and will be returning. Me Who now has a big bulky sweater over my cute dress so my boobs are covered
Dear DD Why can you have laser focus and listening skills at gymnastics and hold it together for 1.5 hour practice but you can't listen/follow directions/pay attention at an hour baseball practice? Signed Mean Mom Who keeps threatening push ups so you pay attention. PS As soon as I say this you get your laser focus back and actually play well
Other T-ball parents Please stop giving me dirty looks because I expect my kid to pay attention and listen and have no issues having her run or do push ups for goofing off after practice. Do you know how hard it is for her to not goof off when all 8 other kids are playing in the dirt and not listening to coach and you guys don't care. Tired of being the Mean Mom
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 10, 2017 11:42:24 GMT -5
I did the part-time thing after J was born and hated it. I keep reminding myself that I'd be begging to go back to work after being home with a baby for a few months. J's in pre-K now, so there's no way she'd be home with me - I can't teach her what school can (well, I could, but definitely not with the patience they have LOL).
Sigh... I know it's a phase and it'll pass, and the guilt will be less disruptive. But man, it's hard to walk away from C's squishy, smiley face. And watching J run from me and barely hug me at drop-off is tough. But it's also great that she's so independent and comfortable.
#workingmomfeels
ETA: And making twice what MH does makes me feel good! Is that more of a FFC? Should I have saved that for Friday?
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
You're going to be 39 in a couple weeks. You are in the worst shape of your life. You could spend the next year getting into the best shape of your life so that when 40 comes, it knows it has been beaten. If you think you can do it, you will do it. You have two weeks to think about it. I mean, seriously, it's 50 lbs. If you don't do it, you're going to be 40 and need to lose 70.
Sincerely, Me from the future
This is the exact conversation I have had with myself since I turned 34 a few weeks ago. About weight, exercise, sleep, me time, etc.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 10, 2017 11:59:50 GMT -5
Dear Psychologist,
I'm glad that you have finished everything you need to do in 1.5 visits when we had originally scheduled 3...really....but it makes me nervous also. Like you might be missing something. But after all your talk about wanting a free hand to explore every appropriate avenue and bragging that you write really long, detailed reports, I really shouldn't be worried. Right? RIGHT? Please don't be missing something!!!
Signed, Maybe I need to be evaluated
Dear Friday,
I actually thought Monday was you and was terribly sad to realize it wasn't. This has been the longest week I've had in a really really long time. I miss you.
Signed, Lady who can't believe it's Wednesday either.
You have a deadline. Quit stalling and get to work.
Sincerely,
Me
Dear DD,
I’m so proud that you had a great conference at school! I’m happy to see all the progress you have made since February. Now, if we could ditch the attitude at home it would be smooth sailing all around.
Dear DS, I am so relieved that you sleep through the night!! Waking up in the morning to find you reading books aloud to yourself is super adorable. I feel superstitious though - your oldest sister was the exact same and now she has all of these weird medical issues. Hoping you don't have them, too. Mom
I have it on good authority that SAHMs have guilt too. I think it is just a parent thing. You've been here before, it will ease. You're a kick-ass mom.
Post by librarychica on May 10, 2017 12:45:51 GMT -5
Dear WMs,
It's my birthday and I woke up with my period a week early. I feel fat and headachey. H last night said I need to either decide we are done baby having and get these bins of baby stuff out of here and get him snipped or get on the baby making stick, pun intended. I was happy in undecided land. I am still fighting with the county about a permit mishap on my house when I was in high school and didn't even own this house. If my mom is grumpy when I go visit her this afternoon I am going to throw a grownup tantrum.
I have many whines. But I also have free DD coffee so I guess it's okay.
Dear colleague, Totally love your enthusiasm and that you're volunteering to help with a project! I'd love your input and advice through the process! But the whole reason I want to outsource it is because I don't have the time handle pieces of it that would fall to my plate if I do it in house. I swear, it's not because I doubt your abilities. I'm sure you'd do an awesome job. I just know how much more work it'll cause me, and I just can't take that on. Please don't be offended or think I'm blowing you off. Signed, Head of a teeny tiny department with big dreams
PAL May '17 Siggy Challenge: Picnics - Feminist Picnic
Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
librarychica, Happy Birthday! I hope this afternoon/evening goes better and you get your favorite cake.
oldbaylover1024, I don't think the guilt ever goes all the way away but it will get better and you are a kick ass mom. Just think your transition back to work isn't as hard right now since your DH is getting to be Mr. Mom for a few more weeks which probably isn't helping your guilty feelings either.
Dear K teacher Thank you for waiting to have DD be student of the week until next week. I really appreciate not having to help her do the giant poster board about herself when I was crazy busy. Mom who is looking forward to doing this big project with all the extra time DD and I now get together. PS this gives us an excuse to drag all the craft stuff out
I am dying to know how the first day at DC wearing underwear is going. Your dad looked very nervous this morning, but I reminded him that it's not his problem today.
Dear Self - STOP IT. You're leaving. If they want to take this thing that you've built completely off the rails, LET THEM. Don't help them do it, but don't get in the way. Let them drive this thing off a cliff and blow it up. Focus on backing out gracefully. Just walk away. Love, Self
Dear work - For the love of God, let me walk away. Stop pulling me into projects. Stop giving me sh!tty busy work to do because you don't want to do it. Just stop. I'm trying to bow out gracefully. LET ME. Exhausted soon to be ex employee.
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