Where are you guys putting the babies down for naps? I've just been letting her sleep on me or putting her in the swing or rnp in the living room while I'm in here.
I can't remember when I started putting dd1 down in another room.
We're still doing this too. She usually falls asleep on my lap or in the ergo, then I transfer her to the swing. She sleeps through all of DS's shenanigans, thank goodness!
Where are you guys putting the babies down for naps? I've just been letting her sleep on me or putting her in the swing or rnp in the living room while I'm in here.
I can't remember when I started putting dd1 down in another room.
I've always done the nap routine all in the nursey. Right now I'm just trying to get him napping so most of his naps are on me. I lay down on my bed in the nursey with him. Then I try to transfer him to the rnp - usually only get 10mins more from him when I transfer. So I try to let him nap on me for 20-30mins before trying to transfer him. Note that I have no clue what I'm doing and this is probably wrong lol.
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Post by sterl724 on May 11, 2017 12:08:40 GMT -5
I need to start having C nap in the nursery. During the day, it's almost always in the bouncer or the swing. I'm probably setting myself up for failure by getting him dependent on swinging/vibration. The bedrooms are upstairs, so the swing is easy because I don't have to take him up the stairs. And even though he always sleeps well in both, I'm guessing he'd sleep even better upstairs.
Just this week (11 weeks), J has started napping upstairs after a "nap routine."
Before that, it was really up to her to decide where and when to sleep. (FTM, had no clue my baby didn't dictate the nap schedule- jk...sort of...) She would sleep in her rock and play, a swing, her infant seat or on a blanket on the first floor. Always in the same room as me.
A only likes to sleep on me or in her crib so I'd say 85% of naps at home are in the crib (so I can get things done or entertain dd1). It takes forever to get her to sleep in her carseat, which is the total opposite of what dd1 did, when I could go out and about all day cuz she would just sleep. With A I basically have to be home at all times so she can sleep in her crib. I know it's a good problem to have but it makes adulting hard!
kaits8 I want a pic of that pug! Though I understand you probably can't because it's someone else's and it's the internetz. I love me some smooshed faces though.
I'll try to grab a pic of her at dinner tonight! Shes so old and adorable and easy, I consider leaving my crazy/annoying puppy in her place and stealing her, but I think they would notice And dd1 LOVES her. Anytime we walk out front she waves at their house and says "Mags! Mags!" (the dog's name is Maggie).
Post by ladytiffany24 on May 11, 2017 12:41:48 GMT -5
B almost always naps in his crib. I started that on week 4 when I started to loosely follow MOC. It works out really well most of the time! Sometimes, when he takes a frustratingly short nap, I think to myself, "man, I bet he would've napped longer if he was laying on me" but I think overall we're both happier when he's napping in his nursery.
glb30 Don't feel like you need to do any of the work.
I did do work during my maternity leave, but it was something that was agreed to ahead of time and I was ok with. We are a small company and I'm the only one in my role. I knew I'd only be pulled in during emergency situations and we agreed on who would communicate with me and how that communication would happen. I kept track of all my hours that I worked during the time so that I am getting comped for them now that I'm back. I could have pushed the issue if I wanted to be comped at the time, but I wasn't worried about it, and it wasn't that many hours.
Pre-DC, DS was sleeping in his PnP in his room for naps. We don't have a crib yet for him (waiting to see if/when we transition DD away from one), so the PnP is his crib for now. I did this mostly to prep for DC, where I knew they would put him in a crib for naps and wanted to give him the best opportunity to get some sleep while he's there. At night, we still use the RnP, but we could probably move him to the PnP at night as well.
I'm probably one of the lasts to report this, but A has been consistently smiling at me today and is starting to make an attempt to talk to me! It's so much less miserable to have a tiny human that acknowledges you for keeping them alive and stuff.
glb30 That is NOT okay. H works for a big firm and he took 6 weeks PAID (he could have taken more) and when he went back this week the partners were apologetic that he had to work for like 8 hours of the 6 weeks on a few of his ongoing cases!
Naps right now are mostly on me or DH, often in the wrap on walks. We sometimes transfer her to the play pen in the living room with us. Honestly, DS was about a year old before he started napping in his crib. Before that it was always on me. I didn't really mind, I would just watch tv or read a book. I didn't do a nap routine besides nursing until he stopped nursing. I don't bother with much of a routine at all until about 3 months because everything fluctuates so much. Once bedtime is established I don't mess with it without a very good reason but I'm very loose on schedule/routine until then.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 11, 2017 14:41:35 GMT -5
I shared my PPD struggles with my brother since he is 1. my brother and 2. my business partner. He does this thing where he asks my opinion on something business related, I give him my opinion, then the next day tells me we should do it another way. Okay fine. I've gotten to the point where I'm done making decisions because I'm tired of arguing. It happened again today, I was visibly annoyed, he left awkwardly and during my pump break I emailed him because I think if I said it out loud I would start crying. When he got back from lunch he out of nowhere said "Hey erinshelley. You're a badass." That's nice and all but it was weird. I don't want special attention, I don't want awkward interactions that seem forced. I just want a little bit more patience and him to think for like 4 seconds longer than he normally does before he says something to me. And maybe argue like 3 times less per day. He's the type that argues because he thinks its fun.
I don't know where I'm going with this. It was just an odd interaction and I don't want this to be the new normal.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 11, 2017 14:47:08 GMT -5
As for napping, I don't care how or where they happen. They just need to happen. I'm bad about holding my children while they sleep, but I don't care. The only thing I really try to stick to is bedtime. Our schedules vary so much and the fact that MIL does not let toting small children around stop her from running errands or being involved in things means my kids have to be okay with napping on the go. This means we also have to be okay driving around for an hour if that's what it takes. I did get pretty good at transferring DS from car seat to bed. I even got to the point where I could change his diaper and pants and he would sleep until morning.
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Post by sterl724 on May 11, 2017 14:50:18 GMT -5
You guys. I just put C in his crib for the very first time. At night, we are still using the bassinet, because I haven't pulled the trigger on the crib yet. After the nap discussion, I figured today was as good as any to try. It took a little for him to get to sleep, and he only slept about an hour, but he did it. He's 9 weeks old. Think we might try naps there for a week or two, and then maybe try doing nighttime too.
It's a little bittersweet - can't believe he's big enough to be in the crib, but kind if exciting too. We also sized up to size 1 diapers this week (because we ran out of nb size, and he's right on the cusp). My little boy is growing up!!
I packed away NB clothes yesterday 😭 H asked if it made me sad and I said "no, I'm more annoyed that I don't know if I should keep them or sell/donate them." We joke about #3, but I know us and I bet it will happen. We both so want us to want to be done at #2 because $$ and we have a 3 bedroom house so 2 works much nicer, but we both come from 3 kid families and we aren't the type to stop at what's easy/comfortable, we like to bite off slightly more than we can chew so....fml, NB clothes are now stored nicely in the basement.
I am sad to announce I need to shop for new nursing bras. I've been making due with my old ones from Fin. Well, my favorite one keeps unclipping itself. Booo!
Time to bust out the tape measure and figure out what size I've settled into.
I need to do this too since the ones from DS are too small but there's nowhere to buy them in my town so I keep putting it off. 45 minute drive plus trying to figure out my bra size for what feels like the 50th time in 3 years- not exciting.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 11, 2017 16:44:00 GMT -5
kaits8 you're reading my mind. There is a part of me that can't say we are done despite everything that went on this pregnancy and PP experience. And the fact that DH is gone 3 days and nights per week leaving me to do mornings by myself 6 days in a row. When we were dating we talked about having 4 and then when DS was born it changed to 3. Now We are waiting until DD is 1 to decide.
I may have called it too soon on being over the mastitis... my temperature keeps yo-yoing up and down (thankfully nowhere near as high as the first day!) and the lumps haven't completely gone away even after doing all the things, so I called and got the soonest available appointment at our clinic. Should be fun lugging both my kiddos there with me bright and early in the morning. 😬
@amc25, what did you do for it? I stopped pumping last weekend and I just realized one of them was lumpy and still producing some milk. Im worried 😩
I may have called it too soon on being over the mastitis... my temperature keeps yo-yoing up and down (thankfully nowhere near as high as the first day!) and the lumps haven't completely gone away even after doing all the things, so I called and got the soonest available appointment at our clinic. Should be fun lugging both my kiddos there with me bright and early in the morning. 😬
Thank you for all the nap input. I was worried that maybe she wasn't napping to her full potential being in the living room with the tv on or me cleaning.
Maybe ill put the portable white noise thing next to her.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 11, 2017 19:38:35 GMT -5
I warmed a bottle of milk up because DD has spent all evening on the boob with No time for me to replenish. She is currently sleeping after nursing and I potentially wasted 2oz unless she wakes up between 1 and 2 again.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 11, 2017 20:21:49 GMT -5
I don't know why I was worrie. Lol. Of course she woke up. I would like for her to go to sleep though so I can have some cereal and toast and go to bed.
Thanks @justinslovo! Now I need to get my hands on a tape measure. I think I'll still need to look in store since my pregnancy and breastfeeding have made my boobs such different sizes that nothing really fits right. At least it will give me an idea of what size I'm looking for, right now I have no clue.
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Post by Poppy32617 on May 11, 2017 21:10:43 GMT -5
@amc25 I think it's a clogged duct now that I read more up on it on kellymom. I did a warm compress and massage and it's feeling better. Thank you though!
Baby has been up for almost 4 hours now refusing to sleep....someone come help me!
DH finally got home to take over bit he is refusing to follow my routine now and instead has baby in the living room while he watches tv. Oh well, his battle now I guess.
When will this get easier - I thought it was at first but nope, back to square one.
Trying to catch at cat nap in the nursery before our night of wakes up starts.
@amc25 I think it's a clogged duct now that I read more up on it on kellymom. I did a warm compress and massage and it's feeling better. Thank you though!
Phew. Glad it wasn't anything worse. That's great its getting better already with just the warm compress and massage.
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