This is a weekly check-in for those of us who are pregnant after loss and/or infertility. Feel free to jump in any time! The check-in is a safe place to share all things that come with being PgAL and/or PAIF. Use this thread to ask questions, share your excitement/rage/worries/whatever, or to ask for support!
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Thanks for the check in muscari! How are you doing?
(XP from CAR) How far along are you? Week/baby size? 25w3d/ prairie dog
How are you feeling (physically and/or emotionally)? Physically I'm having much more trouble sleeping due to hip and back pain. Emotionally I'm doing ok this week.
Other updates? Thoughts, vents, baby preparations, etc? We had a great, relaxing vacation and I'm not looking forward to going back to real life this week. But the plan is to get started on the nursery this week, so that's exciting!
Upcoming milestones or appointments? No appointments until next month.
Do you need any thoughts or prayers? Not right now, thanks!
How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Pretty good, just tired. I am having a lot of BH which I think is from trying to do too much. My nesting gene just kicked in, but I think I need to resist a little.
Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Regular check-in on Thursday
Do you need any thoughts or prayers? Nope
Anything else you'd like to share? Nothing new or exciting which is good! My semester is FINALLY over so I now I can freak out about getting the house and baby room ready!
cali, I didn't feel like returning to work after my holiday either ugh! I'm now counting down the weeks till my leave starts haha. I'm so looking forward being on leave during summer! I started wearing a belly support belt this week, in hopes it'll help with the pain I've been experiencing lately - will let you know whether it does anything. Do you sleep with extra pillows for support? How exciting to be starting on the nursery soon - you will have to post progress pics in the nursery thread!
yellowcat, 3rd trim! Time flies! You must be so relieved that the semester has come to an end! Do you have any more, like summer semester or such, before you go on leave? I was experiencing a TON of BH between 18-22 weeks which now looking back was definitely a sign that I was overdoing things. Now that I work less hours and can rest more, I'm also having hardly any BH phew.
How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? I'm doing pretty good. There's still moments where I worry that baby isn't moving enough (she goes through quiet days it seems, then is active again, etc) but I try to keep my head up and not go down that rabbit hole. I go through bouts where I suddenly feel really self-conscious and insecure about my growing belly, but generally speaking I'm loving my bump. People have started actively commenting on my bump lately, which both weirds me out a little as makes me feel smiley. This weekend mum and I went on a bit of a shopping spree this weekend and I bought some cloths for work and some summer outfits. Currently wearing my new maxi dress (we're having the first of hopefully many really lovely sunny warm days) and I love it! Physically tis mostly just general pregnancy stuff; some heartburn and reflux, constipation, pregsomnia, hip/back pain esp when I lay in one position for too long but also after standing up for too long etc, that kind of stuff (okay with a sprinkle of heart issues and neverr ending exhaustion on top of everything). Oh and I seem to be a lot more forgetfull and scatterbrained?? Lately I been experiencing a very uncomfortable feeling just under my belly button, like my stomach muscles are tearing or such. The area feels numbish and also has lost color (so looks oddly white). I've started wearing a belly support belt in hopes to take some of the pressure off both my lower back/hips as my belly button area.
Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Nope, not until next week when I see my cardiologist, the MFM and have our follow up A/S.
Anything else you'd like to share? There some ridiculous though serious shit going on at work right now which is causing a lot of stress, has caused a couple of melt-downs over the weekend, and keeps me awake at night. I worry that in the end I may loose my job (even though technically they aren't allowed to fire me until 6wks after my maternity leave ends so even if that was to happen I won't be without an income until like mid January '18, but still). which would seriously suck cause I love it and it'll be difficult to find a similar job elsewhere. The reason behind this all is just so strange and I sometimes struggle to believe this is really happening cause tis just too ridiculous. I try to not get too overwhelmed and to keep my stress levels in check, meanwhile making sure I advocate for myself but it's hard when there is a certain person out to get you for whatever reason A lot of collegues have pulled me aside to let me know they are appalled by the situation and what not, which does help me feel a little better, but in the end may or may not make any difference heh. Still, tis good to know tis not me..
Do you need any thoughts or prayers? Nothing baby-related but I could use some positive thoughts regarding these work issues and for them to resolve without to much additional stress and worries!
QoTW: I'm at a total loss for a fun QoTW this week, sorry! So, how about posting a fun gif or image or something instead?
How far along are you? 25+6 I have 99 days left! HOW am I in double digits?
How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? I feel pretty good. Still just some acid reflux and starting to have sciatica pain at night when I lay a certain way for too long. Emotionally I'm pretty good.
Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Nope
Do you need any thoughts or prayers? No but thanks
Anything else you'd like to share? I've waited 4 years for this baby and now that I have 99 days left I'm panicking a little. I've cleaned everything out of the closet and dressers in the spare room but we still have a bed, vanity, and nightstand in there that we need to move, we need to paint, we need to build the crib, and we literally have NOTHING ELSE for this baby. I have 3 weeks left of work then I plan on getting the nursery in shape but I'm freaking out a little every time I pass that room and it still looks like a guest room.
How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? physically - okay, just some hip pain and indigestion? just need to eat less in one sitting... and lay off the desserts
Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? not til next week
Do you need any thoughts or prayers? I'm okay, thanks though!
Anything else you'd like to share? Mother's Day was rough. I luckily slept most of the day away (a plus of night shift!?) but I cuddled my Molly Bear and another bear a friend sent when she found out about our loss while I fell asleep, and every time I woke up I'd start crying. I was a mess. My DH was so sweet- he got me flowers and a card, and just held me every time he was near me that I cried. He admitted he had no idea what to write in the card, so all he wrote was "I love you", and it was really touching. I had mentioned I wasn't sure if he would even acknowledge how loss baby would affect me, but he did, he knew, and he was there for me. So, I am quite luckily to have him.
QoTW: I'm at a total loss for a fun QoTW this week, sorry! So, how about posting a fun gif or image or something instead? I don't know how to post a pic from the website, only tapatalk. So I will come back to this later
cali - yay for a relaxing vacation!! And woo! to getting started on the nursery!! Did you pick a paint color yet?
yellowcat - YAY for the semester being done! Are you doing anything over the summer or are you able to take a nice long break??
muscari - I'm so sorry work is stressing you out so much. Some people just really suck the big one. I went through a tough time at work a couple years ago because this one lady had it out for me and was trying to get me suspended and fired and making up lies, and she was BFFs with my manager, but luckily I was able to come out of it on the other side, minus a total hatred for my manager and no have no loyalty or love for my work management. I hope you come out on the other side and they leave you alone or at least you have time to get a plan in order for post maternity leave.
king26 - it'll be okay! I know, it kind of feels like time is flying by, but you will get it all done before you know it. We don't actually have ANYTHING for the baby yet, either - not even a crib- We are waiting to move to our new condo in two weeks, and then start buying stuff, but it is like omg! And DH keeps saying we don't need to put the nursery together until July... we will see, haha. You have a ton of time! And I think once work's done, you will find you have plenty of time to get it all together
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