Can we vent?

[justcheckingin73]

I'm sorry for all the sickness and disappointing Mothers Days.

My Mothers Day was just OK. On Saturday, my DH ended up helping his friend put in his dock and then got home, took the kids out to get my Mothers Day stuff and then the day was over. No relaxing to be done.

Sunday was also rush, rush. I got in a 7 mile run (I wanted to do 9 miles but had some tummy troubles...ugh), then took a quick shower and had to run to my SILs where we ate lunch and watched baseball. It was generally relaxing but then we got home at almost 5:00 so more rushing around. DH mowed the yard, I painted my bathroom and did laundry and then it was dinner time and getting everyone ready for bed. DH did the bills so I got no break from my normal routine and it just felt like any other day. Sometimes I really hate Mother's Day.

I may have mentioned before that my DH has a job opportunity in the Houston area. It's finally coming to decision time and it sounds like it may be a "go". Cue the stress and figuring out how we're going to fix up our house to sell, sell it, buy a house there, move and get the kids into school before August. I just don't see how it's going to work and I want to throw up.

[somebabiesmom]

I just want to vent, b/c every year around my birthday I'm reminded how fruitless the Great American Friend Search has been over the last 7 years. Pretty soon I'm going to start dressing up mannequins and taking them out for lunch.

[billybumbler]

I'm sorry about all the health troubles. And I feel for everyone who had a sucky mother's day. Mine wasn't perfect but it was better than I expected. My DD was really well behaved and pleasant and DH made me delicious breakfast.

[tas1883]

Hope everyone gets better quick! Sorry for all the rotten Mothers Day you gals are all awesome! Go treat yourself to something just for you.

So this was the first Mothers Day that wasn't crap. I have basically taken my expectations to below zero on DH doing anything as "I'm not his mom" so why does he have to do anything. This year he got me a card and flowers, did the dishes from Saturday night and smoked turkey legs for dinner last night and let me sleep until almost 10 on Sunday. It felt really awesome now if he could just include DD in on doing something for me that would be awesome. DD did picked out had me buy myself a really nice hanging basket the weekend before while we were picking out stuff for my mom.

My vent is my back is killing me and I don't see the chiropractor until Wednesday. I could call and get in today but the insurance is getting pretty upset that I'm not better and is questioning things big time so until the pain is unbearable I am going to try and wait until Wednesday. Thing is I have 13 hours of continuing education this weekend and sitting plus the drive to and from is causing me great anxiety and we don't leave until Friday.

[k3am]

We are at 10/36 party guests with confirmed illness.

Worst.party.hostess.ever.

[oldbaylover1024]

k3am - Maybe this little story will make you feel better. Two years ago, we threw J's 2nd birthday party not knowing she had strep throat. She woke up the next morning (Mother's Day) with a 103.8* fever. It was hell on earth. I had to call every guest on Mother's Day and tell them we exposed them to strep throat. Thank goodness only we caught it, but I felt awful.

Come to think of it, I spent that whole Mother's Day doing house stuff, cooking, and taking care of a VERY sick toddler while MH did nothing...

Maybe every-other MD is destined to be absolute shit at the OldBayLover house.

[sdlaura]

Ugh, so sorry for the sicknesses and disappointing Mother's Days.

I thanked DH last night for a nice Mother's Day, and he thanked me for having low expectations At least we're on the same page.

I still ended up doing most of the kid-related work yesterday, like usual. But he did help the kids make sweet gifts for me. I also ordered new patio furniture recently and intentionally picked yesterday to have it delivered so that it would feel like a Mother's Day present, and it worked in terms of making me happy. 

As for my vent, I'm 36 weeks pregnant.  I feel really gross.  Even my face and nose are fat. 

[judyblume14]

OMG, k3am, I'm so sorry. That sucks.

I'm sorry that so many of you had a crummy Mother's Day. Mine turned out really nice. but anything would be a giant step up from last year's shit show.

My vent today is that I was late for baby A's 4 month appointment this morning, by about 15 minutes. I know that it's inconsiderate and shitty, but the appointment was at 7:30 and we live 45 minutes away, and I overslept a little and I have a toddler and a 4 month old. The front desk lady was a mean old bitch about it. We were still seen, but I would have been fine to reschedule. I was not fine with her being a bitchy McBitchface.

[judyblume14]

Oh, one other vent. My potty-training toddler has diarrhea. So, that's glorious.

[mustardseed2007]

judyblume14 a few months ago I was 5 minutes late to our first appointment at a new doctor's office and I got similar attitude - "Did they not tell you to be here 15 minute early?" And I gave it right back to them, "yes they did. And we didn't make it. Stuff happens." FU, lady. How do tey feel when they're late to something? B/c it happens to all of us.

My mother's day was good. I did my mother's day triathlon and had a good race EXCEPT at the end I ran really fast to try to catch someone who had passed me (Just for fun, I knew I wasn't in the running for any awards or anything) and I ended up throwing up after I crossed the finish line. So embarrassing. And I didn't catch the girl either!!

I'm sure I looked like a fool. Normally I just assume I look like a fool at races, but it is kind of different when you definitively know it.

Then DS was so excited to make me breakfasts afterwards, and i did eat but I couldn't really enjoy it b/c I was still feeling weird. And then I laid on the couch until the afternoon when we went to a comic book store and the park. So all in all, a good day.

[mommyatty]

Ugh! We are having a new backyard fence built. The guys came this morning to Mark utilities and begin. And... they cut the cable/data line to our house. Mother effer. Really?

Salt in wound? We just had AT&T out last week to make our internet be functional. They were at our house an entire day. And now, nada.

[CoverGirl82]

I just had one of those meetings where you're glad it's a conference call so you can put it on mute and cuss the person on the phone out for being a moron. Also they wanted me to do work that they should be capable of doing (and did I mention they make about twice as much as I do when you factor in their incentive?).

[rere26]

May 15, 2017 14:17:08 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

Ugh! We are having a new backyard fence built. The guys came this morning to Mark utilities and begin. And... they cut the cable/data line to our house. Mother effer. Really?

Salt in wound? We just had AT&T out last week to make our internet be functional. They were at our house an entire day. And now, nada.

Good luck. I had to call ATT to move a line last week. I was transferred 4 times. When the guy came out here he said it wasn't his job, he was the box guy. I needed the line moving guys,but first needed the line locator guys, etc... then had to call some hole filler inner guys to fill in the gaping hole they left in the driveway.

[mommyatty]

Update: AT&T fixed the line in about 15 minutes, and all was well by late afternoon. Yay for us! And the new fence looks great and is done!

[twinmomma]

DH is trying to video chat with a friend of ours as a "guest speaker" for his class. Except he's doing it via MY Facebook account... Even though he has his own. So I keep getting phone call notifications and it's going off at work. He literally just asked me if I could log out of my own account so he can use it. I RUN THE SOCIAL MEDIA for MY JOB. WTF is he doing?!

[xctsclrx]

twinmomma, Tell him no? That would annoy me to no end.

On the subject of venting: When does the saying no to everything in the world stage end? FTR I am referring to my 2 year old. Not DH. All I heard this morning was the word no and constant whining. Whining gets under my skin like nothing else.

[greenmonkey1]

judyblume14 When I was hugely pregnant with DS2 I confused the times of my OB appointment with DS1's ped appointment. They were two days apart and a difference in 30 minutes. So I was early for the OB appointment and late for the peds appointment (about 10-15 minutes). I apologized profusely to the receptionist and let them know they could reschedule me if it was not possible to see the doc. Apologized profusely to the doctor as well. Doctor was very gracious, fit us in, and away we went. Not the same attitude from the receptionist. I already felt like a jerk, was obviously extremely pregnant, handling a 2 yo, and clearly was sorry - could have done without the mean attitude.

The office staff is generally awesome so I chalked it up to she needed more coffee. But my hormonal pregnant self still felt like crying.

[judyblume14]

greenmonkey1, yes! It's crazy. The doctor was so nice. The office staff was shitty. I was also surprised because they have always been so friendly and understanding (like squeezing DD1 in when I showed up on a Tuesday for an appt that was for Thursday!). Maybe she was just having a crummy day.

[erinshelley21]

xctsclrx, still going strong over here and DS is almost 3.5.

[tas1883]

DD spent over 2 hours working on this collage poster for her "about me share day" that was due Monday. Her K teacher told her that she was supposed to do the poster not her mommy and she had to argue with him to prove that she did it and that I didn't. WP she was so excited to use my fancy scrapbook paper and sticker and all I really did was use the paper cutter and hand out tape. She is bringing the dog to share on Wednesday so him and I need to have a talk about just because he has low expectations on what the kids can do doesn't mean I don't know what my DD is capable of doing and pushing her to do that quality of work. Plus this kind of homework she actually enjoys doing.

[2chatter]

tas1883 - I am still fired up about two similar incidents - in Kinder I read 20 books for a contest that was school wide and a teacher challenged it as I was in Kinder and clearly couldn't read. But I could and did. In ninth grade my science teacher and the principal called me into the office for plagiarism. Their contention was that no one knew big words like that. I did. I went to the school board.

So make sure DD hears from you that her talent and work efforts are worthwhile and impressive and she should be proud. I'm mad on your behalf! You will have to update.

[akafred]

May 15, 2017 12:07:35 GMT -5 tas1883 said:

Hope everyone gets better quick! Sorry for all the rotten Mothers Day you gals are all awesome! Go treat yourself to something just for you.

So this was the first Mothers Day that wasn't crap. I have basically taken my expectations to below zero on DH doing anything as "I'm not his mom" so why does he have to do anything. This year he got me a card and flowers, did the dishes from Saturday night and smoked turkey legs for dinner last night and let me sleep until almost 10 on Sunday. It felt really awesome now if he could just include DD in on doing something for me that would be awesome. DD did picked out had me buy myself a really nice hanging basket the weekend before while we were picking out stuff for my mom.

My vent is my back is killing me and I don't see the chiropractor until Wednesday. I could call and get in today but the insurance is getting pretty upset that I'm not better and is questioning things big time so until the pain is unbearable I am going to try and wait until Wednesday. Thing is I have 13 hours of continuing education this weekend and sitting plus the drive to and from is causing me great anxiety and we don't leave until Friday.

Ugh! I am so sorry you're not better!

I wasn't improving either and was still on chiro 2x per week. Had an MRI that showed a bulging disc but no herniation. Got the pcp to phone in some steroids which tapered down over the course of a week. It helped a ton! I was afraid the inflammation would rush back when the steroids were gone but so far so good. I am taking ibuprofen as a prophylactic still. It's practically habit as I was taking them before the steroids. Anyway I have been able to do yoga every day for the last week, took DD for a nice long walk, and my back feels pretty decent. My tailbone area still gets sore if I sit too long and my back hurts as the ibuprofen wears off but overall I am hopeful that I am healed or at least healing. Yesterday the chiro released me. I would have liked to wait a week just to be sure, but like you the insurance was pushing back. Chiro is having me fill out forms of what I still can't do (pick up DD, for example), so it will equate to some level of permanent injury or whatever.