I am really struggling having dropped J off at daycare. Like- what is wrong with me? I keep crying. I know she's fine, and this is what is best for her, but I just feel so sad.
All of his initial blood work/urine/spinal fluid looks okay, but he still has the fever and need to wait on blood cultures, so we are here at least another 24 hours. Thanks for asking!
I am really struggling having dropped J off at daycare. Like- what is wrong with me? I keep crying. I know she's fine, and this is what is best for her, but I just feel so sad.
I am really struggling having dropped J off at daycare. Like- what is wrong with me? I keep crying. I know she's fine, and this is what is best for her, but I just feel so sad.
Hugs. It is hard, but it's the right thing for your family. The girls in the Edwards group say that it does get easier, and if you have rough moments this week, text or message friends or people here. Will the daycare send you an update or a picture during the day, or do you think that will make you feel worse today?
I called and they said she slept for an hour and 20 minutes- which made me so happy! I've been practicing with naps in the crib, but she is always still better in the rock and play. She's eating now, and apparently, hasn't cried at all. I'll get a report on her day at the end of the day. I've been looking at photos I took this morning for the last 2 hours- haha! 😂I really feel so much better that she slept, is eating and hasn't cried.
Post by erinshelley21 on May 15, 2017 10:51:32 GMT -5
glb30, it will get easier. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. There will be days that you miss your baby and, in an effort to keep it real, there might even be days where you're happy to drop her off and go back to work. There aren't many of those, but if they happen, there still isn't anything wrong with you.
mikaela20 I'm sorry that people are giving you a hard time with the comments. I think that in addition to people not knowing when to mind their business, people also forget what baby life is like. They forget how often babies eat and how hard you have to work to make things happen.
I remember when DS was just a few months old, my mom told me that I was putting on DS' diaper too tight. Lol okay do you want him to poop everywhere? Do you not remember what infant poop is like? Are you high right now?
mikaela20 I am sorry you're getting those comments. My FIL says those types of things from time to time and have learned to just laugh.
glb30 It does get easier. Staying busy was key for me in the beginning with DD. Eventually, it's part of your routine and becomes normal. Like erinshelley21 said, there are days when I'm ready to drop off DD back at school.
bookish is he under 8 weeks? That differential diagnosis is sepsis is a rough one.
I'm glad all the initial tests came back good!
erinshelley21 thanks for saying that. I sometimes feel a little guilty about needing breaks. We've already had a couple nights out, and I've heard moms say they have trouble going out, but I was just fine....
Post by erinshelley21 on May 15, 2017 11:56:02 GMT -5
glb30 it's good to miss your people every once in a while. Whether it be your H or your kids. I think it's very true in terms of your marriage or your mental health. If you need to leave your kids for a few hours, or days even, to get some quality time with your spouse then go for it.
C is out cold in his crib, and has been about an hour. I'm hoping he naps really well today because I'm meeting a friend for dinner (with C) and don't want him to be a fussy mess.
I need to do sime work, but I'm totally about to take a nap on the couch.
PP check up was pretty anticlimactic. The nurse and doctor asked me if I had had sex yet. I thought I wasn't supposed to? Anyway I'm cleared now, but still do not feel physically ready for it.
Anyone have experience with mirena? I'm thinking of going with that.
PP check up was pretty anticlimactic. The nurse and doctor asked me if I had had sex yet. I thought I wasn't supposed to? Anyway I'm cleared now, but still do not feel physically ready for it.
Anyone have experience with mirena? I'm thinking of going with that.
The MW I saw at 2 weeks PP said (without checking my tear or anything) that I could have sex when I wanted to. I found that incredibly off-putting at the time (and kind of still do), but I wonder if it's rare for patients to hurt themselves having sex too soon.
PP check up was pretty anticlimactic. The nurse and doctor asked me if I had had sex yet. I thought I wasn't supposed to? Anyway I'm cleared now, but still do not feel physically ready for it.
Anyone have experience with mirena? I'm thinking of going with that.
The MW I saw at 2 weeks PP said (without checking my tear or anything) that I could have sex when I wanted to. I found that incredibly off-putting at the time (and kind of still do), but I wonder if it's rare for patients to hurt themselves having sex too soon.
Yeah I guess the appointment felt really pointless. The only reason he even looked me over was because the nurse asked if I wanted him to...I was thinking that's the point of this appointment right? He didn't use a speculum or check my abdomen or breasts- I assumed they'd check everything out but I guess not! Im not due for a Pap for another year so maybe that's why.
So C did fall back asleep, and took a pretty good nap in the crib!! (About 3 hours, though he did have a few wake up, whimper, fall back asleep episodes.)
Hoping this becomes a regular thing. Fingers crossed -He's a great night sleeper but always been just an okay day sleeper.
Hugs @amc25. It's been 11 years since my mom passed and it's still sometimes very hard for me too. I owned that book before I gave it to my sister. It definitely did help to work through some of the emotions but I also read it just a couple years after she passed. I'm curious what my feelings would be now reading it. Hopefully you find comfort in it.
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