J15 Rally (READ THIS THREAD)

[kristhegirl]

First of all, there's an insane thread about the state of the forum that is a ruckus. Don't read it unless you are bored and looking for entertainment. The shortest version I can put together is this:

The admins here, specifically Naria who made TCF, have made promises all along about making this thing more than a forum. People donated money to the cause, offered help/expertise, and have been in general interested and invested. No progress has been made on this front, help/expertise has been ignored, people are angry.

The forums are also slowly dying because there aren't new members. Even J15 has slowed quite a bit and we are one of the more active BMBs.

If you are not aware, Parenting is enormous. The activity on that board is really the main activity, the rest of us are small but tasty potatoes. Parenting is, as a generalization, pissed about the lack of direction and follow-through and general fuckery of the admin team. They do not want to give revenue to her/them anymore.

People reached out to Scary Mommy, because it is an established site with slow forums - could be a good new home. Scary Mommy admin is open to adding boards like BMBs and loss boards. There is a welcome thread there. There are a lot of details to be worked out, which I am not involved in but will update as I can.

It is also a ProBoards site, so it will act like TCF and still ties to Tapatalk. If you want to claim a username - possibly one without numbers, for instance, feel free:

community.scarymommy.com

If TCF goes dark, new info for new boards will be posted at instagram.com/therewentfamily - this was set up by a regular on Parenting.

I think those are the salient points. Please ask questions if you have them and I'll try to answer (or of course anyone else who's been following along can jump in.)

[amch8]

YOU GUYS PLEASE DON'T MAKE ME REGISTER AT ANOTHER SITE.

AND IIIIIIIIIIYEEEIIIIIII WILL ALLLLWAAAYYYYS LOOOOVEEE YOUUUUUUUUUUUU

(THE DOLLY VERSION, OBVIOUSLY.)

[CoachTsWife]

May 18, 2017 15:51:56 GMT -5 amch8 said:

YOU GUYS PLEASE DON'T MAKE ME REGISTER AT ANOTHER SITE.

AND IIIIIIIIIIYEEEIIIIIII WILL ALLLLWAAAYYYYS LOOOOVEEE YOUUUUUUUUUUUU

(THE DOLLY VERSION, OBVIOUSLY.)

FWIW it didn't even feel like registering at another site.  I didn't even have to put in a password because it recognized my email/name. 

[vvvvvfee]

thanks kristhegirl !

isn't the revenue just going towards running the site? like server fees, etc.? it's not like anyone's making a living off of this, right? why does it need to be more than a forum? just to have a way of attracting new members?

ETA: also, it seems like a pattern with everyone getting pissed with "management" and then leaving in a huff? so then everyone goes to scarymommy, and then what's to stop the same thing from happening there in 6 months? aren't we better off here where we're our own bosses, so to speak? i guess since i don't follow parenting i am just not with it enough to be outraged.

[amch8]

May 18, 2017 15:54:59 GMT -5 CoachTsWife said:

May 18, 2017 15:51:56 GMT -5 amch8 said:

YOU GUYS PLEASE DON'T MAKE ME REGISTER AT ANOTHER SITE.

AND IIIIIIIIIIYEEEIIIIIII WILL ALLLLWAAAYYYYS LOOOOVEEE YOUUUUUUUUUUUU

(THE DOLLY VERSION, OBVIOUSLY.)

FWIW it didn't even feel like registering at another site.  I didn't even have to put in a password because it recognized my email/name. 

jacks15 - OK FINE. I'm over there as "theduchess." It felt ok.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2017 15:56:34 GMT -5 vvvvvfee said:

thanks kristhegirl !

isn't the revenue just going towards running the site? like server fees, etc.? it's not like anyone's making a living off of this, right? why does it need to be more than a forum? just to have a way of attracting new members?

ETA: also, it seems like a pattern with everyone getting pissed with "management" and then leaving in a huff? so then everyone goes to scarymommy, and then what's to stop the same thing from happening there in 6 months? aren't we better off here where we're our own bosses, so to speak? i guess since i don't follow parenting i am just not with it enough to be outraged.

It's the way they presented the vision moving forward. They had one a year ago, presented a plan, and did nothing. Meanwhile, traffic has gone down considerably, new BMB's are super slow, etc.

Scary Mommy actually has content. I've read several articles and posts from there before, I had no idea they had a community page. It seems like a very good landing spot.

[Deleted]

I would say this, at least register over there and claim your username in case. The way this was all handled and the general attitude and fuckery of the admins, has me feeling like it's a good safety net.

[Deleted]

And kristhegirl as usual, thanks for all that you do. If you need my help at all getting info out let me know. I know you have a lot on your plate. ❤️

[Deleted]

Welp, admin responded finally.

It didn't go over well.

[rayann687]

I've been sick since Tuesday afternoon and the thread has been entertaining. I did register on scary mommy as rayann just in case, because I always panic when things like this happen.

[mrsbeachcat]

May 18, 2017 16:47:21 GMT -5 @katechristine18 said:

Welp, admin responded finally.

It didn't go over well.

What did they say?

Signed,
Too lazy to figure it out myself

[ashiscute]

I made an account with my same SN. But I don't get the whole you need to post 20x to access other threads. Is that what everyone is seeing?

[ncjulia12]

I don't really want TCF to go down in flames because it might put a strain on J15, but I love the idea of getting a username that doesn't have numbers or identifying info...no idea what I was thinking when I made up my username.

Someone pick a new username for me!

[McBenny]

kristhegirl great summary!

[lonegalathome]

I am terrified to have to cross reference and re learn screen names

[CoachTsWife]

Yeah, can everyone at least have similar names?

[rachydc]

May 18, 2017 17:44:36 GMT -5 lonegalathome said:

I am terrified to have to cross reference and re learn screen names

It sucks and is confusing!

ETA: everyone's generally been good about keeping the same usernames so it's been helpful

[nutmeg8484]

I went out for dinner and I'm now a billion pages behind on both sites. I dropped the numbers in my new SN. I only come here for J15 anymore and to lurk drama. I'll follow you all wherever you go. or stay. or whatever.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2017 17:07:06 GMT -5 mrsbeachcat said:

May 18, 2017 16:47:21 GMT -5 @katechristine18 said:

Welp, admin responded finally.

It didn't go over well.

What did they say?

Signed,
Too lazy to figure it out myself

Well, it was Naria who finally responded after TCF news.

TCF news: we will not be responding at this time, this thread has gotten out of hand (no shit).
Naria: uhhh, some tone deaf fucking bullshit. We want to do better, frustration on all sides, something about transparency, like they are trying to be transparent with us but we aren't responding to that anymore. That's literally all anyone has been asking for this entire week while we were all being ghosted by THREE ADMINS. Then later a very bitchy post about we run this shit we don't need to listen to you guys.

I'm honestly not thinking clearly. I am so aghast at how shitty Naria has treated posters, many of which were her friends, this along with all the broken promises and the shitty treatment of the loss mom's, and then basically ghosting them.

It's all making it hard for me to post here and the only reason I am is you guys.

[beepers]

There is no way I will remember who is who between TB/TCF/facbook/scarymommy names.

Now I'm anxious.

[catladymeow]

I registered with the same name but I dont know guys, I'm dreading having to remember new names and for all of the change!

[beepers]

@traceyos you should definitely snag bjfan before anyone else!!!

I'm dying.

[nutmeg8484]

personally, I think BJfan is a great SN

[rachydc]

May 18, 2017 19:25:06 GMT -5 cornpop311 said:

Sooo... Where are we because that welcome TCF thread seems to be all parenting (and 372 pages long)?

I'm not happy guys.

Can't we just stay here?

I plan on playing in both spaces just like I did between parenting and here. Don't let the number of pages scare you. It's everyone trying to reach 20 posts bc at 20 you're considered a member and can see the members only threads on SM.

[rachydc]

May 18, 2017 19:29:53 GMT -5 @justinslovo said:

are any non TCF members posting on SM? or have we completely taken over?

They have some active admins and players but definitely not as active as us

[rachydc]

May 18, 2017 19:31:50 GMT -5 cornpop311 said:

But there's so j15 specific board right? And there probably won't be?

I just don't like this. I think it's going to be like when we created the FB group, everyone said they'd play in both places but most people didn't and we lost a lot of people. I don't want to lose anyone left here.

Not yet but I've heard they're working with admins to see if BMBs would be possible

[rachydc]

May 18, 2017 19:39:39 GMT -5 cornpop311 said:

If they're not active...and the whole concern is this place shutting down because it's inactive.....I don't see the point?

Oh they're active now for sure lol. I think that was the point, they wanted a known board that wasn't too active to try and integrate into to make things a bit smoother than jumping in full force to another overly active board.

I still don't think TCF will go dark. So for all intents and purposes this is my J15 home base.

[nutmeg8484]

I'm gonna get in my 20 posts because FOMO, But I don't care where we play.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2017 19:31:50 GMT -5 cornpop311 said:

But there's so j15 specific board right? And there probably won't be?

I just don't like this. I think it's going to be like when we created the FB group, everyone said they'd play in both places but most people didn't and we lost a lot of people. I don't want to lose anyone left here.

Deep breaths.

Let this...settle a little bit. I have heard BMB's will be created. So, there may be an easy landing spot.

I'm very much enjoying it over there and many lurkers and people who got fucked over by Naria in the loss boards are coming over there. There's some new blood and it's nice. We will see what happens.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2017 19:39:39 GMT -5 cornpop311 said:

If they're not active...and the whole concern is this place shutting down because it's inactive.....I don't see the point?

This place is active mostly in parenting and some BMB's - ours is probably the most active and even we have been a lot slower. But they aren't getting a lot of new posters anymore, and that's an issue. Especially if you put it out there for 2 and a half years that your goal is to grow the site or whatever.