Hey ladies, I'm not sure how many of you have been following what was happening in the "State of the forum/website" thread that was stickied, but I wanted to check in here and see what people's thoughts were.
End result of that 120+ page thread = many posters are leaving TCF and joining the Scarymommy (SM) boards as a result of the TCF Admins sucking at responding to questions and needs of the community and what not.
I don't think SM has birth month boards and I know they don't have loss/IF boards yet (there were people talking to them to see those specific boards come into play). But are you ladies still going to stay here in our little niche? I know we're not the most active board, but you are where I get to throw all my pregnancy thoughts and PGAL brain, so I will be sad to see this disappear.
So personally, I'm not that invested in where on the interwebs I get to chat with you all, but I don't want to lose my bmb and AL family. But I was outraged at the fuckery that happened to ketchup and the IF community a few months ago and the admins really rubbed me the wrong way with their response to the whole thread. So I could go or I could stay. Just trying to get a feel for what you all are thinking.
Alternatively, I know many people move to Facebook groups, so we could do that if everyone wants, instead.
Post by PepperPottsJ on May 19, 2017 3:00:57 GMT -5
I did create an August 2017 thread, I'm still playing in both sandboxes. There has been commitment to address what is missing on SM? I'm also super open and now that work appears to be manageable will be back more than LTs
Like you addymac, I am balancing multiple boards - AL, BMB, POM, and PAIF. I don't want to lose my people.
I'm also not thrilled with the idea of every board scattering to different sites. I know we have the larger parenting contingent working with SM and that lots of BMBs end up going to FB. I've also seen different boards talking about making their own emergency proboard. I think going down that path is the worst idea as it will limit each group to just who is in the group now.
I just don't know. I do know that admins epically failed in how they handled this state of the board post.
I think the base question is how much do you want to post on a forum that has the potential to grow by new members finding us (not as big of a deal for BMBs)?
The next question, how upset are you with the admins and is it enough to make you leave?
addymac thanks for bringing this up as it's definitely been on my mind these past few days. I would very much like this board to stay together, as I feel like we'll be getting into the swing of things as we get closer to meeting our babies. We are also in the early stages and will hopefully grow this board (in content not necessarily members) in the near future.
I know my BMB has created their own proboard and we have an existing FB group. But we're a really tight board and feel comfortable being private because we've been sharing with each other for over 3 years now. And we've shared a considerable amount of personal information, pictures, and details of our lives that would make it hard to be a public group. We will likely continue with our board as a separate proboard.
therealbug I suggested to the POMs group to also make a proboards, but I made an account at SM as well. We'll see which route they decide to go.
I don't mind switching between other sites but realistically I'd have a hard time keeping up with 3 kiddos in the near future.
happyfeet9, I think you bring up a good point about FB. Once we have been together longer and have shared a lot more personal info/pictures, I think there is a more natural progression to a closed FB group. We are not there yet.
I don't care where I post but don't want to lose the group. I post on facebook for Paif so I'm fine moving there for our bmb if wanted. I'm not eager to learn a new forum and don't know if I'd go over to SM. But I guess I'll follow wherever you all want to go. I don't have feels either way (except the act of demodding ketchup really pissed me off)
yoshijo28 completely agree with you about ketchup. And I'm also not sure about heading to SM yet.
therealbug I think there is also the question of how long do we think this place will hold up now that people are leaving? We are a small group now, do we think that we will gain more members in the near future?
I'm pretty sure I'm not going to go to SM. I looked over there and I haven't created an account. I don't post a lot and, I just don't want to keep moving. I figure I'll take it as a sign and start using my phone less. I'm OK staying here for now, but we are awfully slow.
I'm pretty sure I'm not going to go to SM. I looked over there and I haven't created an account. I don't post a lot and, I just don't want to keep moving. I figure I'll take it as a sign and start using my phone less. I'm OK staying here for now, but we are awfully slow.
I'm with you on the board being slow, but I'd rather try to pick things up here then start somewhere new and try to break in there.
I'm pretty sure I'm not going to go to SM. I looked over there and I haven't created an account. I don't post a lot and, I just don't want to keep moving. I figure I'll take it as a sign and start using my phone less. I'm OK staying here for now, but we are awfully slow.
I'm with you on the board being slow, but I'd rather try to pick things up here then start somewhere new and try to break in there.
yoshijo28 completely agree with you about ketchup. And I'm also not sure about heading to SM yet.
therealbug I think there is also the question of how long do we think this place will hold up now that people are leaving? We are a small group now, do we think that we will gain more members in the near future?
I think that is a real concern. I really don't expect Aug 2017 to get any other members from this board even without people leaving. We may possibly pick up more on SM just from their existing membership.
I've been following that thread pretty closely but I'm not sure how I feel. I haven't actually gone over to SM yet so I have no idea what it's like over there. I jumped ship pretty quickly when TD blew up after being there for years, but I don't quite feel the need to leave here just yet. I do agree that the admins are being ridiculous though.
Conflicted here as well! I'm comfortable here and don't love the idea of moving to a new board.
Also like happyfeet9 mentioned, I also have a tight knit private group here with S14 and don't want to move to non private on SM. I don't FB either so I'm totally torn
Conflicted here as well when it comes to moving.. Apart from the fact I dislike the name of SM lol (but can and will get over that if needed) in the end I will go where my Loss and IF ladies go - as well as you ladies here on A17. I don't want to loose you all! I am not active on FB tho so I have to admit I hope we will end up on a forum rather the FB!
I did create an account over at SM just earlier.. I guess I worry about being left behind accidentally lol. I havent been able to be as active in TCF as I d like to used to before and have missed most of the drama (which I prolly would have missed anyway since it seems to be mostly around boards I dont frequent and people I don't interact with. However from what I read in the pages I browsed thru in the SOTB thread and such I am not impressed.. and I also was quite upset about how @ketchup was treated earlier on.
I guess.. I just don't know. I don't do drama well and I dislike changes so a move is quite a thing for me I guess but as said before I will go where you all go cause well, I d miss you!
I've been following that thread pretty closely but I'm not sure how I feel. I haven't actually gone over to SM yet so I have no idea what it's like over there. I jumped ship pretty quickly when TD blew up after being there for years, but I don't quite feel the need to leave here just yet. I do agree that the admins are being ridiculous though.
I feel like the XO group crossed a line that the admins have not crossed here. The mass banning of board mods combined with the changed TOU that was obviously catering to new, mobile users instead of the established boards, BumpMay and all of the BS was just too much.
This? The admins have handled things badly but it just doesn't rise to the same level as what TB did.
Post by cravingchocolate05 on May 19, 2017 14:27:15 GMT -5
I don't post that frequently lately but I am staying put and not moving to scary mommy. If this board dwindles, I will probably just become a sad lurker reading random posts on random sites and annoy dh with my anxious ravings I wasn't aware of the craziness but I'm going to look at that thread now.
I'm just going to go.where everyone else goes. I did set up an account on SM but don't really want to move there. I agree that we will probably move this group to FB when we get further down the road.
Post by happyfeet9 on May 19, 2017 21:47:20 GMT -5
Not sure how many of us are still reading the thread, but the ish has really hit the fan with all the lies that Naria threw out to the other mods about demodding ketchup. To my knowledge, all of the mod privileges for other mods are currently disabled.
Can we set up a contingency plan just in case? Another proboard as an option in case this disappears?
After reading those last dozen pages I wouldn't be surprised by anything.
Post by mrshall1027 on May 19, 2017 22:44:32 GMT -5
I haven't been following what's going on at all and this is the first I'm hearing about any of it. I'd like this board to stay active if possible, but I don't really participate in any of the other boards on TCF, so if we end up moving, I'll follow you all.
Also, another +1 for more threads. I wouldn't mind committing to one weekly.
Not sure how many of us are still reading the thread, but the ish has really hit the fan with all the lies that Naria threw out to the other mods about demodding ketchup. To my knowledge, all of the mod privileges for other mods are currently disabled.
Can we set up a contingency plan just in case? Another proboard as an option in case this disappears?
After reading those last dozen pages I wouldn't be surprised by anything.
Havent read the "talk" thread yet (and tbh not sure whether I want to spent good time on that.. i did just read the last pages od tje SOTB thread and OMFG...) but I am all for a contingency plan..
I created a seperate FB account in case we decide to move to FB. It's not that I don't trust you folks, I'm just not very active at all on my regular FB account and am not open about our loss/IF hx there so just don't feel comfortable joining related groups just in case FB f*cks up privacy settings again or what not and my stuff suddenly being visible to people I really don't need.. if that makes sense. I'd love to add whoever of you uses FB, please PM me how to find you or PM me for my link?
Or.. I guess we could create a seperate August 17 proboards in the event of TCF folding? Not idea, but better then loosing touch? Especially if not everybody is on FB or comfortable joining groups there. Not trying to cause any more seperation then there already may be, just tossing ideas out in the group. I've had a hard time finding a new 'home' of sorts after graduating CAL and 3T/IF (I enjoy being on CAR and PAIF but have had trouble feeling I'm blending in since the group is so much bigger, and I simply don't have the time to get to know everyone - which I'd like to) and well we have the potentional to become a real nice close knit group I think?
Not sure how many of us are still reading the thread, but the ish has really hit the fan with all the lies that Naria threw out to the other mods about demodding ketchup. To my knowledge, all of the mod privileges for other mods are currently disabled.
Can we set up a contingency plan just in case? Another proboard as an option in case this disappears?
After reading those last dozen pages I wouldn't be surprised by anything.
I agree on the need for a contingency plan. I think it comes down to three options:
1. create our own private proboards just for this BMB
2. do a temporary move to Scary Mommy and just create a thread under their general - pregnancy for August 2017 to gather at. They did have some BMB sub boards set up the other day but those are gone. Not sure if they are going to bring them back or if they nixed them when some people requested to have password protected BMBs.
3. Private/secret Facebook group
I would like to add that I'm not 100% convinced this page is just going to go dark but I also recognize that what came out on the Talk Thread (see page 26 and subsequent Naria responses) may have changed some peoples minds about staying.
For a true emergency contingency (i.e, you go to pull up the forum and its gone) I think Scary Mommy makes sense as the emergency gathering point since it exists already. We could regroup there and decide if we want to do a private proboard, Facebook or both.
I agree on the need for a contingency plan. I think it comes down to three options:
1. create our own private proboards just for this BMB
2. do a temporary move to Scary Mommy and just create a thread under their general - pregnancy for August 2017 to gather at. They did have some BMB sub boards set up the other day but those are gone. Not sure if they are going to bring them back or if they nixed them when some people requested to have password protected BMBs.
3. Private/secret Facebook group
I would like to add that I'm not 100% convinced this page is just going to go dark but I also recognize that what came out on the Talk Thread (see page 26 and subsequent Naria responses) may have changed some peoples minds about staying.
For a true emergency contingency (i.e, you go to pull up the forum and its gone) I think Scary Mommy makes sense as the emergency gathering point since it exists already. We could regroup there and decide if we want to do a private proboard, Facebook or both.
I don't think I have a preference at this time. Regarding 2, there has been an August 2017 thread under Birth Clubs - 2017 made on SM. Link: community.scarymommy.com/thread/7036/august-2017 So far it's just one thread though, not a subboard like we have here- but it would work to regroup I guess. Except that folks do need to create an account there (though the same goes for creating a seperate A17 BMB on PB here).
I agree on the need for a contingency plan. I think it comes down to three options:
1. create our own private proboards just for this BMB
2. do a temporary move to Scary Mommy and just create a thread under their general - pregnancy for August 2017 to gather at. They did have some BMB sub boards set up the other day but those are gone. Not sure if they are going to bring them back or if they nixed them when some people requested to have password protected BMBs.
3. Private/secret Facebook group
I would like to add that I'm not 100% convinced this page is just going to go dark but I also recognize that what came out on the Talk Thread (see page 26 and subsequent Naria responses) may have changed some peoples minds about staying.
For a true emergency contingency (i.e, you go to pull up the forum and its gone) I think Scary Mommy makes sense as the emergency gathering point since it exists already. We could regroup there and decide if we want to do a private proboard, Facebook or both.
I don't think I have a preference at this time. Regarding 2, there has been an August 2017 thread under Birth Clubs - 2017 made on SM. Link: community.scarymommy.com/thread/7036/august-2017 So far it's just one thread though, not a subboard like we have here- but it would work to regroup I guess. Except that folks do need to create an account there (though the same goes for creating a seperate A17 BMB on PB here).
Is that under the member only section? I get an error when I click on the link.
I don't think I have a preference at this time. Regarding 2, there has been an August 2017 thread under Birth Clubs - 2017 made on SM. Link: community.scarymommy.com/thread/7036/august-2017 So far it's just one thread though, not a subboard like we have here- but it would work to regroup I guess. Except that folks do need to create an account there (though the same goes for creating a seperate A17 BMB on PB here).
Is that under the member only section? I get an error when I click on the link.
I'm not sure tbh? I did sign up for SM, maybe that is a prereq?
eta: I checked and it seems you have to sign up before being able to see the board/thread. I logged out and then I get the error I don'thave permission as well.
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