For now, if we have a presence, I think they will accommodate us. They have been completely accommodating so far.
And we have an N 13 board under the 2013 heading. We just can't break it up into daily threads, right?
For now. I think if we choose to stay, that can change. They want to work with everyone and have been really accommodating so far. It's everyone's decision but I have nothing bad to say about the admins over there.
Oh god, please people if you change your name please keep your avatar or vice versa!
Am I silly for still hoping we can stay here? I keep reading the last page of the stick coy and there isn't a true consensus about staying vs leaving. Couldn't we just get new mods...? I suck at change, if you hadn't noticed btw.
Post by Cherhorowitz on May 19, 2017 13:25:19 GMT -5
I feel like privacy is a huge thing for everyone. Maybe a better option is a private fb group and those without fb make a fake account just to use for the group.
If you guys want I will go make a private proboards site for us. Password protected and whatnot. I just don't want everyone to be confused about where to go, who is where. There are 2 separate conversations going on and I can't do both. Like I said, my brain is fried.
From what I understand, and someone please correct if I'm not reading it right, they're not big on daily threads. They prefer longer and fewer threads. So like one site wide FCCC. One UO. One "MIL bitch" thread and so on. They don't really "do" new threads. And from what I'm gathering, they delete posts if they think it's to mean, and move and rename threads if they get off topic.
So if I start making a daily thread, they'll just delete it?
Post by Cherhorowitz on May 19, 2017 13:42:57 GMT -5
Ok I didn't think about work blocking it. I mean the privacy thing is kind of silly to me. You have no privacy on a message board. Even the things on a pw protected board should still be posted with the assumption it could be possibly be seen. There's 250 members on SM before we signed up. There's a lot more here. So technically there's a much better chance someone lurks us here than there.
Post by wineallthetime on May 19, 2017 14:10:22 GMT -5
I will go where the majority of people go. I'm not really seeing our board splitting though. Maybe we'll lose a few, but I am guessing/hoping the majority will follow. I see us losing more if we move things to facebook.
Post by wineallthetime on May 19, 2017 14:11:49 GMT -5
I'm also with Sing and not really getting why people feel less secure over on SM. I can totally understand people wanting to start fresh and deciding not to share kids names or whatever, but the internet is the internet and neither site is private.
That hurts Sunny41. It felt like you were saying "I'm ready to dump you guys". That wasn't the relationship I thought we all made over the past 3-4 years.
I can see it came across that way. I think there are a lot of those feeling. I just don't feel motivated to move somewhere else. But how many friends have we lost like that over the years? I just don't feel like going to the next place and this could be the catalyst. And the fact that so many are on Facebook allows me to keep up, just like finnaroo and bsmithmi do.
Post by klongoria11 on May 19, 2017 14:20:31 GMT -5
Sunny41, my problem with your reasoning, or 1 of them, is that you keep saying that you don't want to go over there, yet you made an account and even said you like the blinds thread, soooo, it's not that you don't want to go over there, it's that you don't want to post with us any more.
Post by yummeecookee on May 19, 2017 14:25:39 GMT -5
I'm still trying to catch up.... So if we are on SM, we can just make daily threads titled N13 whatever day. We're not confined to just ONE gigantor n13 thread for the entirety of our existence there, right?
Post by yummeecookee on May 19, 2017 14:27:07 GMT -5
Also my head is spinning that naria made a living off this place. I remember her once saying she barely made any money here. It was just enough to keep it running or something like that. Wow
I realize what happened was shitty, but let's be honest 80% of us don't post anywhere but here or another bmb. It seems like the beef is between the admins and parenting/IF. Obviously I feel bad for what happened to them but realistically none of it affected me personally. Maybe that's a shitty thing to say, but do you get where I'm coming from?
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Post by tallblonde on May 19, 2017 14:36:36 GMT -5
--watching dust settle--
I have a headache and will eventually go wherever.. but not creating a SN yet.
It's 90 degrees and graduation day and j's school is right near it.. I think I have to walk a mile to fetch him since the traffic is so bad. I'm going to be a sweaty mess.
That's what I vote for as far as threads over there yummeecookee. So far there are no other 2013s.
*Take all of this with a grain of salt because this is what I gathered from the SOTB* As far as the salary, I have no clue how much naria actually makes off this place and if it's enough for a "living" per se, but she does bring in some cash. ProBoards is free. There is no reason to pay for a site. My understanding is TCF uses some version of PB that costs money but this is unnecessary because the free version would meet the needs of posters. Apparently admin's dream is to build a full-on mommy site. Yet in 2.5 years there's been no progress in that direction and no one here cares about a mommy webpage and just wants to chat with each other. A lot of admin complaints were "we do so much and you're ungrateful," yet others pointed out that the extra they are doing does not benefit the masses at all because we don't care about a website and just need a free forum.
But does it really effect us if they choose to use a paid version? I don't pay anything to go here nor do I click ads. If she and her fellow cohorts want to do this, good for them. I'm not expecting anything other than a place to chat with my people. The reason we use a paid site instead of a free one is because they wanted to use the domain without proboards in it. Advertisers apparently don't like that.
I have a headache and will eventually go wherever.. but not creating a SN yet.
It's 90 degrees and graduation day and j's school is right near it.. I think I have to walk a mile to fetch him since the traffic is so bad. I'm going to be a sweaty mess.
Also my head is spinning that naria made a living off this place. I remember her once saying she barely made any money here. It was just enough to keep it running or something like that. Wow
I don't know what she makes but this is her job. I'm a big believer that you speak with your dollar so even if she didn't personally do anything to me, she did something personal to her community as a whole.
I think I need to step away for the weekend. I do think a separate private non-TCF ProBoards for us would be good too. But right now I'm bummed how everything went down so I'm going to take a break.
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Post by wineallthetime on May 19, 2017 15:06:56 GMT -5
Wtf Sunny. I feel like you're purposely trying to piss people off. It feels like you want a fight. I don't think anyone needs you to give them grace lol. Everything you're saying is confusing and ridiculous.
Ugh, I have more to say but am annoyingly posting and running. I'll be back!
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