Post by mrsbeachcat on May 19, 2017 20:58:16 GMT -5
I think by now I just assume that everyone on our board is great and would never intentionally say something to upset someone else.
It's totally fine to be offended and to point it out, BUT as a person who recently got called out for what at the time I thought was a relatively benign comment, I can see how easy is it is to feel defensive about it because you feel like you're not being given that benefit of the doubt/assumption that you would never say something to hurt someone. I will say that knowing that there are people on the board that secretly seem to think I'm an asshole or insensitive and will write to lawandorder about it but not me sucks to find out.
I think by now I just assume that everyone on our board is great and would never intentionally say something to upset someone else.
It's totally fine to be offended and to point it out, BUT as a person who recently got called out for what at the time I thought was a relatively benign comment, I can see how easy is it is to feel defensive about it because you feel like you're not being given that benefit of the doubt/assumption that you would never say something to hurt someone. I will say that knowing that there are people on the board that secretly seem to think I'm an asshole or insensitive and will write to lawandorder about it but not me sucks to find out.
I wrote to lawandorder about the comment. Not because I think you're an asshole or insensitive but because I know I'm overly sensitive to developmental issues. I find it helpful to check with others like lawandorder because I know they have experienced a child with a developmental delay. Sometimes I know I'm just being too sensitive because it's hard for me to see things from any scope other than mine. And I don't want to unfairly attack someone.
I know I am tardy to the party but I have been here before @officedronette. I have been upset by others comments and told that I shouldn't feel that way. I have had people tell me how to feel when only I know how to feel. I didn't get into it much, instead I chose to not post as much, and sit and cry at a gas station. It probably wasn't the best way to handle things, but we all make rash decisions. I'm not taking sides but I've been there before. I can see that @traceyos didn't mean any harm at all to you. I'm sorry for all that you are going through, I have had a loss as well in the past. I know that with S being a preemie and my past loss, my next pregnancy will have me on edge. I'm sending hugs and prayers to you. I wish you the most boring pregnancy.
1st BFP: 07/24/2014 Due: 04/08/2015 MC: 08/31/2014 2nd BFP 10/22/2014 Due: 07/06/2015 Surprise preemie born 4/25/2015 at 29 weeks and 5 days My Rainbow is Here!
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