Where is everyone going?

[yoshijo28]

Anyone staying here or moving to SM?

[cali]

I really don't know. I'm following this thread because I want to know what everyone else is doing.

[muscari]

I am so behind.... but also dont really have the time to read up on 100+ pages

I don't want to move again and all but I do know essentially I will go where you all go - CAL and 3T/IF and now CAR and PAIF are my home boards and you are my homies I dont want to be without....

[cali]

muscari, I don't think it is at all worth it to read the entire thread. I skimmed through and it's very repetitive. I think you've gotten the basic gist of it.

[JustJudy]

Considering I don't interact with any of the posters who are leading the charge to leave, I'm staying here for now. The only issue I've had was the firing of @ketchup, which was way fucked up. But I don't hang on parenting so their other issues with the admins are not on my radar. I come here for support and to support. It would be nice to grow the community a little, but the fact that it's "slowed down" hasn't really affected me much I guess.

[muscari]

May 19, 2017 12:06:28 GMT -5 JustJudy said:

Considering I don't interact with any of the posters who are leading the charge to leave, I'm staying here for now. The only issue I've had was the firing of @ketchup, which was way fucked up. But I don't hang on parenting so their other issues with the admins are not on my radar. I come here for support and to support. It would be nice to grow the community a little, but the fact that it's "slowed down" hasn't really affected me much I guess.

I hear you. Even tho I read the first bit of the SOTB post when it was posted earlier this week I would have missed the whole move thing if it hadnt been brought up on my actual home boards. I am sad we are at a point where people may stop posting here and move elsewhere.. this is home and has been for the past 2 years and I dont like changes heh. I did sign up on SM but basically just so I won't end up missing a move in case this does happen. I just don't want to loose y'all.

[cali]

@ketchup, how does one go about joining this FB group, because I am interested.

ETA: nevermind, I just saw sumbeach's post on the other thread.

[muscari]

@ketchup personally I am not active on FB and feel uncomfortable sharing personal stuff on there which makes it hard to move to IF / loss etc related groups I guess.. but if TCF dies down and folks end up preferring FB over another forum base I will jist have to figure something out heh. Cause I know one thing and that is that I d feel lost without my AL and IF ladies.

[mrsrodgersaz]

muscari, there are a few others who aren't comfortable with FB either. You ladies are all awesome and I want to keep in touch with you all so I'll go wherever. I don't get here as much as I'd like, and I share some of the same feelings as @ketchup (and I'm sure others) in regards to Admin, but I don't interact with her (and it seems like she ghosted this board again) so if everyone decides to stay here, I'll still hang out and chat when I can.

[kensie5226]

I don't have as much to say as I used to. I think I summed it up when I said that as people grow, things change. I don't take the boards very personally. I'm over on Facebook, but I'll be here too. I don't think SM is the place for me and so far all of my boards are staying. I'm not super active here b/c this is my second rodeo and in all honesty it's just easier and less nerve wracking the second time. I'll stick around and I hop I can be a source of support and help to all my PAIF ladies.

[ttcbabyj]

I'm definitely going to stay. I wasn't happy about the situation with Ketchup. But if I jumped ship every time I wasn't happy about something I would be divorced, jobless and friendless. I'm definitely sad about how the posting traffic has slowed down over here. I actually don't have a FB page so this is my only real outlet.

[teachermomtobe]

I plan to stay. I don't feel personally impacted by somenof the issues others are having with admin. I also don't want to lose my anonymity when discussing IF and such by joining a FB group. So for now I'll stay.

[milkeyway]

Dirty lurker here;) Just a note about the privacy and FB group. I really do love our FB group. It's like the boards of TCF but I get to actually KNOW my internet friends. We share pictures of our babies and can share more details then we can here on the World Wide Web. It's a secret group so no one can see that you're in it or anything you post in it. And even if you don't have a FB you can make one just to join our group. You don't need to add friends or tell anyone else you're on there it can just be for our FB group (hope that makes sense).

[mrsrodgersaz]

So, I'll probably be stepping away from here. After reading the "let's have the talk" thread (start around page 26 if mobile), I'm not feeling good about sticking around. Check it out if you want to see what actually happened with ketchup being demodded earlier this year.

[muscari]

Oh my ... I just read the last pages of that state of the board thread and wow what a trainwreck. I have yet to see the other talk thread.. but hardly dare open it!

[ttcbabyj]

May 19, 2017 23:04:45 GMT -5 mrsrodgersaz said:

So, I'll probably be stepping away from here. After reading the "let's have the talk" thread (start around page 26 if mobile), I'm not feeling good about sticking around. Check it out if you want to see what actually happened with ketchup being demodded earlier this year.

Yeah that left a not so great taste in my mouth.

[ttcbabyj]

Just lurked over at SM. It feels like I'm a wedding crasher. The sit back and "shut up" mentality is kind of weird. I get it it's their playground.

[easilyunamused]

I'm most likely moving over there. I don't trust Naria and have no loyalty to her forum. I may still lurk here, but I've made an account on SM. Hope you ladies will too!

[akafred]

Sorry to butt in, but the smaller boards here are welcome at PandCE.proboards.com. They have an IF and loss community and are as respectful as possible to them.

[rslh10]

May 20, 2017 18:52:00 GMT -5 akafred said:

Sorry to butt in, but the smaller boards here are welcome at PandCE.proboards.com. They have an IF and loss community and are as respectful as possible to them.

**grad lurking**
(I feel like I'm all over the damn boards looking for info so I apologize lol)

What is this forum? I just lurked quick and I'm interested....I see GBCN on there?

[akafred]

May 20, 2017 21:29:14 GMT -5 rslh10 said:

May 20, 2017 18:52:00 GMT -5 akafred said:

Sorry to butt in, but the smaller boards here are welcome at PandCE.proboards.com. They have an IF and loss community and are as respectful as possible to them.

**grad lurking**
(I feel like I'm all over the damn boards looking for info so I apologize lol)

What is this forum? I just lurked quick and I'm interested....I see GBCN on there?

Honest to God there have been so many damn board implosions I could be mistaking a couple of them but here is my memory. Once upon a time the Bump didn't exist; baby boards existed on The Nest. A couple of major Nest boards were Married Life and Politics and Current Events. Then The Bump was created and they moved the baby related boards (Babies on the Brain, Getting Pregnant, and the Babies and Toddlers board, I think) to the Bump. Time passed and at some point before the Bump went kookoo with BumpMay and everything that led here, maybe around 2014??? Maybe earlier? the Nest went crazy and closed the boards or something like that. The Politics and Current Events board created PandCE aka GBCN to sub for TN. A lot of people assumed TB would be shut down so they created some Bump-like boards (BOTB for example), and some people posted there a bit, but those boards slowly died down when people just went back to TB. Then TB imploded and TVF was formed. IF TCF implodes it seems like PandCE would be a good place because they have been around several years and are pretty low drama at this point. I know there have been issues here and there but nothing like the craziness that has happened here lately. Also several of the people still go both places. And we would have mod support. I don't think this is a solution for huge boards like Parenting but I suggested it when I thought they had landed at SM and were pretty adamant that that was where they were going. But for smaller boards like Special Needs, Adoption, WP, SAHP, etc, it might work.

[lemonliz]

May 20, 2017 21:51:48 GMT -5 akafred said:

May 20, 2017 21:29:14 GMT -5 rslh10 said:

**grad lurking**
(I feel like I'm all over the damn boards looking for info so I apologize lol)

What is this forum? I just lurked quick and I'm interested....I see GBCN on there?

Honest to God there have been so many damn board implosions I could be mistaking a couple of them but here is my memory. Once upon a time the Bump didn't exist; baby boards existed on The Nest. A couple of major Nest boards were Married Life and Politics and Current Events. Then The Bump was created and they moved the baby related boards (Babies on the Brain, Getting Pregnant, and the Babies and Toddlers board, I think) to the Bump. Time passed and at some point before the Bump went kookoo with BumpMay and everything that led here, maybe around 2014??? Maybe earlier? the Nest went crazy and closed the boards or something like that. The Politics and Current Events board created PandCE aka GBCN to sub for TN. A lot of people assumed TB would be shut down so they created some Bump-like boards (BOTB for example), and some people posted there a bit, but those boards slowly died down when people just went back to TB. Then TB imploded and TVF was formed. IF TCF implodes it seems like PandCE would be a good place because they have been around several years and are pretty low drama at this point. I know there have been issues here and there but nothing like the craziness that has happened here lately. Also several of the people still go both places. And we would have mod support. I don't think this is a solution for huge boards like Parenting but I suggested it when I thought they had landed at SM and were pretty adamant that that was where they were going. But for smaller boards like Special Needs, Adoption, WP, SAHP, etc, it might work.

Are all of the IF boards welcome? Not just PAIF?  

I'm in favor of keeping the IF boards together. 

[rslh10]

May 21, 2017 7:58:11 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

May 20, 2017 21:51:48 GMT -5 akafred said:

Honest to God there have been so many damn board implosions I could be mistaking a couple of them but here is my memory. Once upon a time the Bump didn't exist; baby boards existed on The Nest. A couple of major Nest boards were Married Life and Politics and Current Events. Then The Bump was created and they moved the baby related boards (Babies on the Brain, Getting Pregnant, and the Babies and Toddlers board, I think) to the Bump. Time passed and at some point before the Bump went kookoo with BumpMay and everything that led here, maybe around 2014??? Maybe earlier? the Nest went crazy and closed the boards or something like that. The Politics and Current Events board created PandCE aka GBCN to sub for TN. A lot of people assumed TB would be shut down so they created some Bump-like boards (BOTB for example), and some people posted there a bit, but those boards slowly died down when people just went back to TB. Then TB imploded and TVF was formed. IF TCF implodes it seems like PandCE would be a good place because they have been around several years and are pretty low drama at this point. I know there have been issues here and there but nothing like the craziness that has happened here lately. Also several of the people still go both places. And we would have mod support. I don't think this is a solution for huge boards like Parenting but I suggested it when I thought they had landed at SM and were pretty adamant that that was where they were going. But for smaller boards like Special Needs, Adoption, WP, SAHP, etc, it might work.

Are all of the IF boards welcome? Not just PAIF?  

I'm in favor of keeping the IF boards together. 

I'd like IF and loss to be together. Both are so crucial to me. Also @heartspresident mentioned the other board separating 2nd/3rd tri losses. I'm not a fan of that. I want late term loss just like here.

[akafred]

May 21, 2017 8:08:07 GMT -5 rslh10 said:

May 21, 2017 7:58:11 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

Are all of the IF boards welcome? Not just PAIF?  

I'm in favor of keeping the IF boards together. 

I'd like IF and loss to be together. Both are so crucial to me. Also @heartspresident mentioned the other board separating 2nd/3rd tri losses. I'm not a fan of that. I want late term loss just like here.

So...I think so but I'm not really sure. I would appreciate if someone in our IF/AIF community went there and asked the appropriate questions...if you guys are interested in going there. I recognize there may be other options as well. TBH I came to this board because I didn't want to disturb those still dealing with IF with my avatar etc. I went through IF and ultimately adopted my daughter; I had a hysterectomy a few years ago so there is the definitive end to my journey. Anyway, I was never fully integrated into the IF community. I did post on 3TC years ago but not a regular. I never had a pregnancy so I never had an AIF situation and never had a loss. In other words, I can't speak for the community. I just know what the mods over there already told me about how they have an active IF community and ask not to overdo parenting talk on non parenting boards out of respect for them and they made it sound like our IF community would be welcome. We obviously are not invited to go anywhere and take over anything, but intros and integration.

Does that make sense?

[lemonliz]

May 21, 2017 8:22:01 GMT -5 akafred said:

May 21, 2017 8:08:07 GMT -5 rslh10 said:

I'd like IF and loss to be together. Both are so crucial to me. Also @heartspresident mentioned the other board separating 2nd/3rd tri losses. I'm not a fan of that. I want late term loss just like here.

So...I think so but I'm not really sure. I would appreciate if someone in our IF/AIF community went there and asked the appropriate questions...if you guys are interested in going there. I recognize there may be other options as well. TBH I came to this board because I didn't want to disturb those still dealing with IF with my avatar etc. I went through IF and ultimately adopted my daughter; I had a hysterectomy a few years ago so there is the definitive end to my journey. Anyway, I was never fully integrated into the IF community. I did post on 3TC years ago but not a regular. I never had a pregnancy so I never had an AIF situation and never had a loss. In other words, I can't speak for the community. I just know what the mods over there already told me about how they have an active IF community and ask not to overdo parenting talk on non parenting boards out of respect for them and they made it sound like our IF community would be welcome. We obviously are not invited to go anywhere and take over anything, but intros and integration.

Does that make sense?

That makes perfect sense! I have requested to register over there as a user so hopefully I can get on and post an introduction. 

[lemonliz]

May 21, 2017 8:08:07 GMT -5 rslh10 said:

May 21, 2017 7:58:11 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

Are all of the IF boards welcome? Not just PAIF?  

I'm in favor of keeping the IF boards together. 

I'd like IF and loss to be together. Both are so crucial to me. Also @heartspresident mentioned the other board separating 2nd/3rd tri losses. I'm not a fan of that. I want late term loss just like here.

Agreed. 

Also it seems like therealbug would be amenable to making those changes, yes? She's a very reasonable person. 

[therealbug]

May 21, 2017 8:35:09 GMT -5 lemonliz said:

May 21, 2017 8:08:07 GMT -5 rslh10 said:

I'd like IF and loss to be together. Both are so crucial to me. Also @heartspresident mentioned the other board separating 2nd/3rd tri losses. I'm not a fan of that. I want late term loss just like here.

Agreed. 

Also it seems like therealbug would be amenable to making those changes, yes? She's a very reasonable person. 

I am so reasonable. I may be the most reasonable person ever

hawkward made up a board that already has an IF section. If you head over there and put suggestions into the playroom, she would be more than happy to break it down into all the IF sub boards. We recognize this (or that) board may be just a temporary stopping point until a final decision is made or it may become a permanent home for all of us. My thought is we may be able to have it be a place for all the "small", niche boards. Right now, it is there, it is safe, and it's not going to get shut down for maintenance anytime soon.

I think it is important for IF and loss to be together. I'm like rslh10, both are crucial and are so tied together for so many people. We inherently have each other's back. 

And rslh10, I have all the feels. I think you know how I feel about keeping late term loss for both 2nd/3rd tri losses. Thank you for your amazing heart. 

[king26]

Hey all. I've been on GBCN TTTC and TTTC grad board for 3 years now and the ladies over there are close knit and lobely. I started there before I started over here. 3TC welcomes posters who are still trying and grads while the grad board is for all of those who are PAIF and SAIF.

I've been on thete forever so I feel comfortable saying we would welcome you over there. So come over and say hi!

[easilyunamused]

XP

I haven't had much time over the past few days to post, but I've been trying to catch up here and there.

I really hope you ladies make it to where ever we land. The IF community is a very important part of the TCF family. Though this place is imploding, and some may feel like we aren't being heard, I know that we are wanted.

The AL situation is tough and I see both sides, but I don't want it to be the deciding factor on if you go or stay. There's more to this than one small fight. Hightened emotions have caused enough riffs. I know I'm only a small poster, but I value all of you so much. I'd hate for us to separate.

[lemonliz]

Hi again, guys!

I wanted to pass this along from risscaboobs, in response to the IF board asking her what was going on right now:

"I think the plan is to first decide on Admins. The vote is happening at politicsorwhat.freeforums.net/.

Then, and only then, will we come together and decide which board to call home. Either the politics board (which I assume will be named something else) will be changed to have a board for everyone (similar to how the setup is here), the A Place to Meet Board (under different admins!), or a third - neutral - board created from scratch.

They want to just take every decision one at a time rather than a mass panic of trying to decide everything at once."