Bratty vent

[Deleted]

Poof 

[blabbermouth]

It's not about you lady! (Your friend... it's obviously about you @bazi45!!!)

[grumpycat88]

Ew. I'm sorry.

[Deleted]

Thank you...I try to not take it personally because it's not really about me (lol blabbermouth) they are still sad/mad about shit that went down in their own lives. But these friendships feel like such a one way street.

[blabbermouth]

Well, that's true. It's their instant reaction, they just haven't learned to put a breath between what their brain thinks and what their mouth says! They should have learned that in the divorce... sorry, too far.

[Deleted]

That's a really shitty thing to say to someone. You have every right to be upset.

It's not like, "Oh, I just bought my second Chanel bag." This is a major and joyful life event and she sort of needs to suck it up and be happy for you.

[cnf2013]

I'm sorry your friends can't set their own shit aside for 30 seconds and show you a little happiness. That's crappy of them. We'll squee with you.

[Deleted]

Poof

[mrspiatt]

I'm sorry your friend is being a shit. I have a potato you can throw at her.

[jax1182014]

Awful thing to say. So sorry :/ It sounds like stepping back is the right thing to do.

[amadine23]

I'm actually in a similar situation with all my life long girl friends. Most are single (and not happy about it). Definitely none are married or have kids. They have barely mustered a congrats on #2. It hurts as I try really hard to maintain thrse friendships and support them wherever they are in their lives. But for my own sake I've started trying​ to consider my friends from my mom's group as my closer friends now.

[izz67]

That's really shitty of her and I'm sorry.

[Deleted]

buttercup I apologize if my post hurt you and I'm sorry for your loss. Without writing a novel or putting this woman's life on blast...this is not a fertility or loss situation. If it was I would totally understand that response and wouldn't have told her in person. I told my friend who is mid IVF cycle via text, that she doesn't need to respond and I understand if I don't hear from her for awhile.

If this friend really wanted children but her husband didn't., I would get it. Or if that response was wildly out of character I would just chalk it up to her having a shitty day. But none of those situations are true and I'm not the only person in her life who gets that kind of reaction when they share anything positive. It's been this way for nearly a decade and I guess I just realized it.

But no, it does not take away from my happiness and I fully acknowledge this is a FWP rant and not the end of the world.

[Deleted]

Ironically one of my other friends texted me last night "I realized I never said Congrats!" so that was nice.

I re-read my original post and maybe I implied that all these women want children and their relationship status is what's impeding that. That's not the case. I promise I'm not the crazy pregnant lady shoving sonogram pictures in the faces of women who want babies and don't have them yet.