I think the general consensus here is to stick together forum-style. FB is out because not everyone is on it. We don't want to be "N'16 on SM" since it is not set up the way we are used to with a board just for us to post our own threads at will.
So just one more question is left: which forum? 1) here (assuming the lights stay on), 2) on the N'16 only PB that aggiebug created, or 3) on the BMB PB that has been set up?
I would be okay with staying here, despite all the BS, except that there are some in our little group who have been really hurt by it and I want them to be comfortable.
I would also be okay with doing an N'16 only PB. We'd only need one board really and it could probably be private or password protected.
I picked the BMB PB because we could still have our same general N'16, and maybe also our same private board. And there would be other people there that some of us know. Not like we'll be popping in constantly to other boards but there would be the potential to keep in touch with people and maybe even have a general discussion board. Also, selfishly, I'm not done having babies so for me it would be cool to have a place to potentially BMB in the future.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 20, 2017 17:07:38 GMT -5
I'm down with either the BMB PB or our own N16 PB.
For me, this place is not a viable option since I'm pretty sure both Sarah and Starbuck are out, and we can't have N16 without those two (and everyone else, infrequent posters included).
Post by goldenlove3 on May 20, 2017 17:54:09 GMT -5
I voted BMB PB for the same reasons as dashook mentioned. We can all have our own spaces but maybe we can add a general discussion area and be able to mingle a bit.
Well... There's about 6 different forums that TCF posters have created. So... options? Lol. IDK WTF is happening anymore.
This is exactly why I made this poll. I want to pick one and take action. I'm probably overreacting but I'm so worried that the lights will go out while we're still trying to make a decision.
Well... There's about 6 different forums that TCF posters have created. So... options? Lol. IDK WTF is happening anymore.
This is exactly why I made this poll. I want to pick one and take action. I'm probably overreacting but I'm so worried that the lights will go out while we're still trying to make a decision.
I get it. Truthfully though, if this place didn't go dark after Naria's callout yesterday, I doubt it will. I have a feeling she's hoping the dust will settle and everyone will eventually end up back here.
I am pretty flexible. I would prefer not one with parenting etc as this will just happen again. The group Bmb was something I was actually proposing as an idea so I think that is fine and has benefits.
Most everyone is on FB right or in contact with someone on the group? I would say word can disseminate from there. That being said I know I am not connected to anyone lol.
I definitely think we are not in a hurry to make a decision and we should just sit and wait a bit.
N16 or Facebook. I think other options will always inevitably implode. Maybe I'm wrong, I just don't want any other groups to have control over our future. I'm still around because we are trying to make sure the AL community is safe with all accounted for.
This is where I'm at as well. If y'all decide to go over to the bmb forum, I'll go of course. It'll still be us. But I worry about everything moving again or some other crazy drama happening.
I get why people prefer moving to the bmb forum. Either you're on another or plan to have more babies and want the option of joining your next bmb. Or just the option of talking to people outside of this group. But for me, I never joined O14 and if I do have any more, I feel like I have the network I need. I don't need anything else. Just where I am at.
N16 or Facebook. I think other options will always inevitably implode. Maybe I'm wrong, I just don't want any other groups to have control over our future. I'm still around because we are trying to make sure the AL community is safe with all accounted for.
Feel free to say no, but can you keep me in the loop when you guys decide on a landing place? I've never been active, but I lurk and find comfort in the loss community when I have a bad day.
Post by shedreamsincolor on May 21, 2017 10:14:10 GMT -5
If this has been discussed already I'm sorry. Just thought it was worth an ask. For the regs who aren't on FB, would you consider getting it just for this purpose? If anonymity is an issue you could just create an alias name when you make your profile. I just feel like it's the simplest since most posters are already there and we know it will be stable long term. Doesn't solve the problem of other BMBs but for us could it work?
Post by shedreamsincolor on May 21, 2017 10:17:39 GMT -5
Also worth noting that while I'm in the group, I'm not "friends" with anyone. It's possible to set up your profile in such a way that still gives you a good amount of anonymity (just using your first/middle name instead of last name etc)
This may be an UO but I prefer a forum style layout when it comes to the future of our board. I like being able to see all of our threads laid out, everything is nice, neat, and organized, and it's simple to navigate. I also like lurking other boards of interest to me. But I don't know how FB works with a BMB. I just feel like I will get lost on FB whereas on a forum it's easy to pick up where I left off. I don't feel like I miss posts or updates and I would on FB. But again, having something like this on FB is foreign to me so I don't know what t expect.
Post by shedreamsincolor on May 21, 2017 10:32:56 GMT -5
Totally get it waitwhat. I'm in a local moms group on FB that is forum style so maybe I can try to explain? We would still have our main page and then (similar to now) someone would start a dailies thread every morning and then everyone else would comment underneath it. Other threads would be interspersed between the dailies thread just like they are now. It's a different format to be sure but FB is so much simpler in terms of search function etc. I'm not one of the most active posters and will defer to those who are but I just would like to see the group have a place to land that we know will be there in 6 months, you know?
Post by goldenlove3 on May 21, 2017 11:11:12 GMT -5
+1 to preferring a forum. But both FB and proboards are blocked at my work so I'll be mobile during the week from now on. I think TCF is not blocked because it's using it's own url and it must confuse our firewall.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 21, 2017 15:24:40 GMT -5
I think they're trying to get everyone to mcb's board. She has said that she's willing to hand it over to someone else to run, if that makes anyone feel better about going over there.
Sterling has said that the politics forum was not meant to be a long term place and she has no interest in running a forum. It was only made for the politics while things were up in the air and when SM went dark people just started posting there.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 21, 2017 15:28:40 GMT -5
Re: FB. I'm willing to make another FB just for you guys. I was tired of the drama which is why I deactivated mine in the first place. I really don't want to reactivate it, I don't need my mom emailing me asking why I didn't like her posts. I just can't. But I'll make a new one if that's the route we go.
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