Post by taketheshot on May 22, 2017 16:32:22 GMT -5
Hi! I need opinions.. And I thought this may be a nice distraction for everyone.
I am the MOH at my bf's wedding in July and she has asked me to make a speech/toast. I'm not nervous about speaking to a crowd but I just don't know what direction I want to take it.
Do I keep it simple and focused on the wedding/future married life? Do I direct the speech to the couple or the guests? I'm sure I'll (try to) make a joke or two and will probably share a bit of mine and the bride's friendship but I just don't know where to take it from there. Have you attend any weddings with epic speeches or have maybe given our yourself?
Honestly, with all the weddings I've been to, the only MOH speech I really remember was the one my sister (who was 19 at the time) gave at my wedding where she inadvertently made a dirty joke in front of my oh so conservative family...people still bring it up and laugh about it almost 8 years later. So I think a joke or two would be good.
I think I would direct the speech mostly to the bride/groom. Give some context of who you are/tell a story about your friendship so the rest of the guests have a frame of reference, then say whatever you want to say to your friend. Advice, well wishes, anecdote about when they met, etc. Just keep it short and sweet!
I think you should start with you and her and transition to the couple. I think directing it toward them is totally fine and you can always direct jokes toward the guests or the couple. I think it comes off more sincere when you're talking to the couple rather than the guests because that's who you have the bond with.
Post by redandblue on May 22, 2017 20:15:49 GMT -5
Good for you for being MOH! So fun! I love weddings! My only thought is to stay away from embarrassing stories. My BFF's best man told some of the most embarrassing stories of the groom and it was just awkward. I also am not a huge fan of dirty jokes in a speech. But I think knowing the audience would dictate that. Have fun and speak from the heart!
Post by elvenqueen on May 22, 2017 22:11:11 GMT -5
I was MOH at my BFF's wedding a few years ago. She wanted me to make a speech (and told me it had to be at LEAST x number of minutes, good lord). I knew what I wanted to talk about from the get-go, and hoped people would appreciate it because I wasn't going to do the usual jokes, embarrassing stories, etc. So I just introduced myself to everyone as it was a massive wedding and I only knew like 10 people there, then I talked about how she was before she'd met her partner (huge anxiety and a lot of unhappiness), and what a difference I'd noticed in her since she'd been with him, how much happier and confident she was with him, and I talked about what a testament it was to them as a couple. All of this was directed at the room, then I just wished the two of them continued happiness a little more directly with a toast. So it wasn't a laugh a minute by any means, but I actually had two or three people I didn't know approach me later in the evening and tell me how much they loved it, how sweet they thought it was. She bawled her eyes out, too, so I considered that a job well done
I love jokes in speeches. I didn't have a MOH for my wedding, just a big bridal party, but H's best friend who unofficially officially called himself the best man wrote the most amazing speech. It was 4 pages and it was just laugh after laugh. I'm actually re-reading it now (he sent me the word doc of it, LOL) and I'm cracking up at my desk.
He basically started it about his and H's friendship, how they became and stayed friends, then went onto my coming into the picture, our proposal, and then went into some sappy wish you the best stuff.
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