The whimsy thing was strange to me. Whether you found her initial reference funny or not, I just don't see how she couldn't understand that it would offend people. I get she probably felt ganged up on, but at the same time if I said something I thought was funny but was offensive I would hope someone would point that out to me. I would want to learn from my mistake.
I was baptized as a baby but my current faith has the parents dedicate the child- it's actually really wonderful. (Fffc I haven't done it even for the 3 yo yet- just keep meaning to and not!) Anyway. They ask if the parents will dedicate themselves to raising the child in the faith, they ask the congregation to stand and affirm that they also will help raise and support the child in the church community, and then the children stand and the children are asked if they as the child's peer will help him to be raised in faith and they say "with Gods help, we will". I cry every time. Every time. Kids get baptized when they do choose. Many in middle school. Jesus wasn't baptized until later in life. It's never too late. And all children go to heaven. So no need to worry if your kid isn't baptized and something , heaven forbid, happens to them. My 2c
whimsy and I are very different people and I didn't agree with her. but wrong or right she probably felt ganged up on. IMO ETA: remove the tag
She may have felt ganged up on, we'll never know. IMO it doesn't matter, though. It would have never gotten to where it did if she would have acknowledged that she offended us the first time it was said. She chose to dig her heels in when she was clearly in the wrong. It says more about her than people are willing to admit here.
Speaking of being offended. This got brought up the other day. Feeling on the C word? I don't use it. Like ever. But I also find it to be no big deal either
whimsy and I are very different people and I didn't agree with her. but wrong or right she probably felt ganged up on. IMO ETA: remove the tag
She may have felt ganged up on, we'll never know. IMO it doesn't matter, though. It would have never gotten to where it did if she would have acknowledged that she offended us the first time it was said. She chose to dig her heels in when she was clearly in the wrong. It says more about her than people are willing to admit here.
I'll say it here, she showed that side when she went on about supporting gay rights and wanting to attend some march but decided to go to Disney instead because it's the gayest place on earth... Say what now??? Lost all credibility at that moment
She may have felt ganged up on, we'll never know. IMO it doesn't matter, though. It would have never gotten to where it did if she would have acknowledged that she offended us the first time it was said. She chose to dig her heels in when she was clearly in the wrong. It says more about her than people are willing to admit here.
I'll say it here, she showed that side when she went on about supporting gay rights and wanting to attend some march but decided to go to Disney instead because it's the gayest place on earth... Say what now??? Lost all credibility at that moment
Speaking of being offended. This got brought up the other day. Feeling on the C word? I don't use it. Like ever. But I also find it to be no big deal either
She may have felt ganged up on, we'll never know. IMO it doesn't matter, though. It would have never gotten to where it did if she would have acknowledged that she offended us the first time it was said. She chose to dig her heels in when she was clearly in the wrong. It says more about her than people are willing to admit here.
I'll say it here, she showed that side when she went on about supporting gay rights and wanting to attend some march but decided to go to Disney instead because it's the gayest place on earth... Say what now??? Lost all credibility at that moment
Speaking of being offended. This got brought up the other day. Feeling on the C word? I don't use it. Like ever. But I also find it to be no big deal either
I'll say it here, she showed that side when she went on about supporting gay rights and wanting to attend some march but decided to go to Disney instead because it's the gayest place on earth... Say what now??? Lost all credibility at that moment
I do not remember this 😳
It stuck in my mind becuase it was the biggest cracker eating moment. I also have a freaky memory for details.
It stuck in my mind becuase it was the biggest cracker eating moment. I also have a freaky memory for details.
Y'all can flame me and call me a bitch, but she ate crackers for me. Almost from day one. That's probably why I don't remember the Disney gay thing.... because I didn't pay attention to her.
Not my favorite word and not a word I use ever, but I'm not offended by it. Should I be?
Apparently it's super offensive. But I don't get it so I had to ask
I can tell you it is definitely super offensive when an old man that you do not know calls you that over the phone because he doesn't like what you're saying.
Apparently it's super offensive. But I don't get it so I had to ask
I can tell you it is definitely super offensive when an old man that you do not know calls you that over the phone because he doesn't like what you're saying.
It stuck in my mind becuase it was the biggest cracker eating moment. I also have a freaky memory for details.
Y'all can flame me and call me a bitch, but she ate crackers for me. Almost from day one. That's probably why I don't remember the Disney gay thing.... because I didn't pay attention to her.
Post by rainbowsockmonkey on Jun 2, 2017 11:45:52 GMT -5
We aren't baptizing/christening our kids. Dh was raised going to church because you had, and I never went. I know it bugs his parents and grandma, but its something weve chosen to not do. If our kids ask us to take them to church we will, but won't force it.
Apparently it's super offensive. But I don't get it so I had to ask
I can tell you it is definitely super offensive when an old man that you do not know calls you that over the phone because he doesn't like what you're saying.
So true. Same goes for words like Bitch, depends on context and who it's coming from
Also, I know we argue sometimes but I you (i just caught up on the UOs)
I think the gang up happened because when she was originally called out, she dug in her heels and refused to acknowledge it being offensive. If I remember correctly, that's when more people jumped in and tried explaining it from different perspectives why it was offensive. I stopped reading because I was so frustrated with her being so defensive. I was surprised when she deactivated, like she caused the whole thing and then bounced.
I can tell you it is definitely super offensive when an old man that you do not know calls you that over the phone because he doesn't like what you're saying.
So true. Same goes for words like Bitch, depends on context and who it's coming from
Also, I know we argue sometimes but I you (i just caught up on the UOs)
this is what makes me sad about whimsy leaving. I thought all those who were trying to explain to her why her comment was offensive to them were very respectful, can't understand why it caused her to leave.
This is pretty much why I'm NOT sad about whimsy leaving. It wasn't some horrible attack on our part. It was a hissy fit on her part.
ETA Sorry, way late with that. I had lunch and I'm getting caught up
We aren't baptizing/christening our kids. Dh was raised going to church because you had, and I never went. I know it bugs his parents and grandma, but its something weve chosen to not do. If our kids ask us to take them to church we will, but won't force it.
I mean. I understand you are saying you will encourage your child if they show interest versus bashing religion. But on the other hand, waiting for a child to want to go to church would be like waiting for a child who wants to go to school. Some will like it and be interested on their own, some will have to be told they are going regardless. I didn't enjoy sitting in a pew growing up. But I have gotten so much out of my faith and now that I'm grown and have found my own way/ church that I enjoy worshipping at, I know I wouldn't have that had my parents not taken me most Sundays of my childhood. It became more of a choice as a high schooler but I continued to go because of habit and a personal relationship with God. I won't pity someone for not having that support/ community/ redeeming relationship... but I came into adulthood after dealing with a whole lot of bad shit and I got through it because of my faith. I would not have the confidence/ esteem if I didn't have that idea that I mattered to a Heavenly Father and not just my parents on earth. That I could talk to God about my problems. And plead with him regarding my problems. Even when I couldn't talk to my parents. This is pretty personal so pdq.
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