Good morrow

[aggiebug]

[aggiebug]

Sup ladies?


I woke up MOTN with a migraine so I am struggling with that this morning. Thank goodness for Moana. Although S is currently chewing in my ear. Ahhhh


dreemkin your post about furniture had me thinking about that for S. I presume we will give C the toddler bed and finally get her a nice set of furniture, I think it's closer than I want, I just imagine C will climb out of his crib. It's crazy how these kids grow up fast. How old was A when you mentally closed the door on a 3rd? I am thinking we could be close and it is making me sad . We are kind of in the same place, H is good with 2 I want a 3rd. Gah it's a bummer.

[aggiebug]

Also lilyelayne I need you to eat some Mardi gras Blue bell ice cream for me please. Thanks

[seamonster]

H is stressed out about his job and trying to talk me into going for a 2 year China assignment. No, dude. I'm starting to make friends and don't want to put off our two month vacation for an additional two years to do a job I hate where I am.

[dreemkin]

I hope your migraine is better aggiebug. And to answer your question...I don't entirely remember haha. I know that I definitely didn't want to go past three years difference. And it's so hard and sad for me that I'm still not over it. H was very set on two and only waivered slightly when I was in tears about it. I guess what it came down to for me in the end, was that I knew I could live with the "what-if" but I could not live with a stressed, overwhelmed, unhappy husband. If I did screw up the good family thing we had going, it would have been totally my fault and that would be tough on me. I think we would have been fine with three but not having an equal investment into the endeavor made me back down in the end. I hope you have some good discussions about it with your H! Good luck!

[dreemkin]

Today I went to not one but two grocery stores. I needed some items that are not at costco haha. It's bitterly cold today and that makes me sad. Now I'm going to (re-)trim A's hair because it does not look even...a crazy, active child will do that to an inexperienced hair cutter. ✂️ This time I'm going to have her play on the tablet in order to stay looking down! 😈

[agm04]

aggiebug sorry about your migraine! lame way to monday. i am right there with you...i would love a third, but H isn't on board. i think i could convince him, but like you said dreemkin, i don't really want to convince him. it's so hard. now i'm off to google mardi gras blue bell haha.

seamonster whoa China - that's a big ask! hope he will back off.

dreemkin you're brave for cutting a wiggly toddler's hair!

took C to the allergist this morning. to my surprise, she's allergic to peanuts. allergist also thinks she has FPIES, which would explain all the GI reactions to foods i try to introduce. i'm strangely at peace with it - like having answers either way is nice, and i think i'm relieved that she's not allergic to any of the other top 8. A is going to need to adjust to not eating peanut butter every day, though.

[dreemkin]

agm04 that's a bummer about the allergy. But at least you know! And I don't know about FPIES. Is there a remedy, treatment or cure? Gastro things are hard ☹

I also had to look up the ice cream. Sounds weird to me but I've never had king cake either.

[lilyelayne]

Jan 29, 2018 12:26:17 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

Also lilyelayne I need you to eat some Mardi gras Blue bell ice cream for me please. Thanks

I still have an entire half gallon of blue bell Christmas cookie in the deep freeze because I’ve been too sick to eat ice cream in the evening 😭
The king cake flavor is mostly cream cheese, right? I think it was last year. I saw the packages at the grocery but didn’t go inspect.

[lilyelayne]

agm04 I googled FPIES and that’s a mind trip. I’m glad you have an informed allergist! Hope adjusting to a peanut free home goes smoothly for all involved.

I have no idea what we’re doing for G’s new room. We have a double bed or a queen bed in storage he can have. The queen headboard matches his current dresser, but the drawers don’t slide easily and it has the changing pad still attached to the top, so I’m tempted to leave it as the nursery dresser no matter what.

I figure we’ll give him Paw Patrol bedding in the new size for his birthday and that will help with the transition.

I got loads of moving/new home picture books from the library this week. I’m glad we’ll have a month or so with access to the new house to hopefully ease the transition.

In the past few weeks my very independent toddler has gotten nervous about being alone. I’m sure a big factor is the rough month DH & I have had emotionally (marital issues, genetic screening scare, etc) buuuuuut I’m suddenly nervous about how G will do in his upstairs bedroom with the master bedroom downstairs. At least he’s already very proficient with stairs, thanks to my parents’ house.

[aggiebug]

dreemkin & agm04 h is like 66% sure he doesn't want another so we are definitely not done talking. Although we have agreed on 2.5 kids since we were dating so he hasn't moved much or had a reason to. I know ultimately unless he is on board it won't happen and just thinking that makes me incredibly sad. Right now his reasons include my last pregnancy was rough and so was C's first year. He doesn't want that 19 months, I tell him but in the grand scheme of things it's not that long! Ah well we got some talking to do. Ultimately it is what it is. I understand his views and will respect that but it's hard too as you know.

lilyelayne noooo I am sorry you have been to sick to eat blue bell, yes it has cream cheese in it. I luuurve cream cheese. I need to make one! and agm04 I saw it was only being sold in LA.

[aggiebug]

Oh and agm04 ugh on the fpies but I am so thankful for answers. I have a few friends who have dealt with FPIES in their kids if you want some resources I could probably connect you. It's tough, but having the answer is the start. And yokes for peanuts!that is crazy. dud the allergist say what to think of that? I know they are finding some positive for peanut allergies is actually a similar tree pollen just didn't know if that was more or less likely given she is BFing. Not that you would risk it!

[dreemkin]

aggiebug yeah I think it's hard for some people to see passed the baby stage but then again there is something "rough" to go through at every stage. So I guess it's like how many times do you want to go through those stages. Also logistics...are you okay with getting three kids off to their respective schools, making three lunches, three attitudes to manage, etc. I do agree with H that, for us, two is very manageable in all aspects and three may gave tipped the scales. Like I said I wanted to give it a shot but yeah, DH was scared.

lilyelayne how are you and H doing? Working through the issues? And with G, it might just be a phase or something he'll just have to get over. Hopefully it'll pass!

[dreemkin]

PS: Anna did great and loves her big girl bed. We did put up a side rail since she'd have a longer fall if she did accidently roll out.

[lilyelayne]

dreemkin we’re okay, thanks for asking. Some days are better than others. We have so much else going on, and I don’t know if that’s good so we didn’t dwell in the worst spot or bad because we’re pretty much in survival mode.

[mishka29]

Just last night dh said 'sometimes I think we should have had three'. I ofcourse gave him the 'wtf look' since he was the guy with his finger on the vasectomy button. I was on the fence about a third but dh was firmly in the no camp.

Someone at work also made a comment to me about how everything is always for families of 4.

[agm04]

dreemkin FPIES is Food Protein-Induced Enterocolitis Syndrome. The allergist explained it as a different type of allergy - not life threatening (thankfully), GI reactions. i've read a ton about it even before yesterday, but didn't think it fit because it's usually like profuse vomiting, diarrhea, dehydration. it turns out there are two types - acute (what i just described) and chronic (which fits C's experience more). also associated with poor weight gain, FTT. we were headed down that road until i started this elimination diet. there's no cure, but kids do usually outgrow it. you just have to avoid their trigger foods. i'm a little nervous to start solids with her...i just don't she doesn't have any acute reactions to anything we give her. but somehow it's nice to have validation? i think some family members have thought i'm crazy for the last few months.

aggiebug thank you so much for the offer! i think we are okay for now, but that's very sweet of you. i've never heard that about tree pollen...interesting. the allergist is hopeful that she will outgrow it. we'll retest in a year. but for now, epi pens and lots of paranoia, haha. but really, i'm thankful that it's a common allergy and easy to identify. something like milk or wheat is a lot scarier to me because they lurk in foods you might not expect them in. of course i will read labels religiously (already do), but in terms of other caregivers, those allergies would seriously freak me out. A asked for PBJ on the way home from the doctor, lol.

lilyelayne glad to hear things are okay. great idea on the books btw. i've noticed that A goes through short phases where she's really clingy for a few days, then seems even more independent, if that makes sense? almost like a toddler wonder week.

mishka29 i've thought so much about how it seems like things are easier for families of 4! like - table for 4, 2 and 2 on rides at disney, etc.

[kartish]

agm04 glad that you have a answer with the peanut allergy and the FPIES, but i hope the adjustment and moving forward with solids goes smoothly.

I've been thinking allot about whether or not I'm done with kids. DH was always 1 or 2 but not closed to the idea of more. I wanted three or four kids but after A I'm leaning on the done side. I don't know if I can go through another pregnancy and Csection, mentally.

But I'm not quite there on giving up on another baby.

[agm04]

kartish thank you. man it is really hard to close the door on more babies.

[lilyelayne]

One of DH’s biggest arguments for 2 kids is like mishka29 mentioned, everything is made for families of 4. He’s the middle of 3 kids and definitely felt like the extra as a kid.

I haven’t quite given up on the idea of 4 kids, but it ended up being harder than expected for DH to agree to #2- even though we had always agreed on at least 2. I’m glad we’re not at decision time and won’t be for a few more years!

[seamonster]

I want a second and H wants a second, but we can't stop fighting long enough foe that to happen.

[kartish]

Jan 30, 2018 17:35:10 GMT -5 seamonster said:

I want a second and H wants a second, but we can't stop fighting long enough foe that to happen.

Hugs seamonster.

[mishka29]

Jan 30, 2018 10:57:48 GMT -5 agm04 said:

dreemkin FPIES is Food Protein-Induced Enterocolitis Syndrome. The allergist explained it as a different type of allergy - not life threatening (thankfully), GI reactions. i've read a ton about it even before yesterday, but didn't think it fit because it's usually like profuse vomiting, diarrhea, dehydration. it turns out there are two types - acute (what i just described) and chronic (which fits C's experience more). also associated with poor weight gain, FTT. we were headed down that road until i started this elimination diet. there's no cure, but kids do usually outgrow it. you just have to avoid their trigger foods. i'm a little nervous to start solids with her...i just don't she doesn't have any acute reactions to anything we give her. but somehow it's nice to have validation? i think some family members have thought i'm crazy for the last few months.

aggiebug thank you so much for the offer! i think we are okay for now, but that's very sweet of you. i've never heard that about tree pollen...interesting. the allergist is hopeful that she will outgrow it. we'll retest in a year. but for now, epi pens and lots of paranoia, haha. but really, i'm thankful that it's a common allergy and easy to identify. something like milk or wheat is a lot scarier to me because they lurk in foods you might not expect them in. of course i will read labels religiously (already do), but in terms of other caregivers, those allergies would seriously freak me out. A asked for PBJ on the way home from the doctor, lol.

lilyelayne glad to hear things are okay. great idea on the books btw. i've noticed that A goes through short phases where she's really clingy for a few days, then seems even more independent, if that makes sense? almost like a toddler wonder week.

mishka29 i've thought so much about how it seems like things are easier for families of 4! like - table for 4, 2 and 2 on rides at disney, etc.

Haha! Those are the two examples my coworker gave me!

[lilyelayne]

Hugs seamonster. Sorry things are still so rough.

[kartish]

Lol, see that's why I need a other kid. DH doesn't do roller coasters, so I must need a third kid so I'm not left to ride alone. Unless of course, A follows in his daddy's path.