Anyone else putting things off "in case" they GKU?

[blanche]

So tonight, as I was browsing through Gilt and Loft and thinking about buying some new pieces for the spring a little voice in me won't let me purchase anything. "You're going to get pregnant; Your body is going to change even after you have the kid..." etc. and it has me so torn. I'm not pregnant yet, I shouldn't let the possibility of being KU keep me from doing things, but yet, it does. I'm also hoarding my vacation days at work, but I know, for instance, if I don't get KU this month, I can only carry over 10 days at the end of the year, so its moot. It's nuts. Eventually I will need to buy new clothes. Eventually I will need to schedule some leave. I need to not act like I'm pregnant before I really am. Ugh. How do y'all do this???

Yes, I know, I'm being nuts. Sigh.

[blanche]

Feb 19, 2015 21:30:53 GMT -5 hippo said:

I gave up living my life around TTC about a year ago.

Yea, I'm only about 6 months into this, and only 2 cycles worth of full on charting, OPKing, etc.. Hopefully I get over it soon.

[cnf2013]

The only thing I'm putting off is pulling the trigger on registering for an Ironman. The training is too intense and the cost is too expensive to get interrupted by pregnancy. Otherwise everything else is fair game. Including the June half Ironman I plan to plunk down money on this month if we end up out again.

[icaughtfire]

Feb 19, 2015 21:27:36 GMT -5 blanche said:

So tonight, as I was browsing through Gilt and Loft and thinking about buying some new pieces for the spring a little voice in me won't let me purchase anything. "You're going to get pregnant; Your body is going to change even after you have the kid..." etc. and it has me so torn. I'm not pregnant yet, I shouldn't let the possibility of being KU keep me from doing things, but yet, it does. I'm also hoarding my vacation days at work, but I know, for instance, if I don't get KU this month, I can only carry over 10 days at the end of the year, so its moot. It's nuts. Eventually I will need to buy new clothes. Eventually I will need to schedule some leave. I need to not act like I'm pregnant before I really am. Ugh. How do y'all do this???

Yes, I know, I'm being nuts. Sigh.

I just live my life. If I buy pants & wear them for a month before I get pregnant, so be it. I'll sell them, donate them or hold on to them & pray I can squeeze back in to them one day. I take my vacation time..there could be plenty more by the time I'm pregnant or none at all. I'll cross that bridge when the time comes. When we started trying over a year ago, I certainly didn't think I'd still be trying all this time later but shit happens & you roll with it. Don't put your cart before your horse, you set yourself up to be disappointed.

In the nicest, most sincere way possible: calm the fuck down.

[blanche]

Feb 19, 2015 21:35:30 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

In the nicest, most sincere way possible: calm the fuck down.

Thank you I need some sense slapped into me...

[BurritosAtEveryMeal]

I think everyone goes through this when TTC. I know that I did for the first few months we were trying for DS. It'll wear off though and you'll want to squeeze in one "last" weekend trip, one "last" crazy night out with the girls, etc., over and over until you're actually KU. It took me 17 months to get pregnant the first time and I can't imagine putting my life on hold for a year and a half. I think I changed my ways about three-ish(?) months into trying the first time.

[onyx]

I did that when we were TTC last year. It makes it much more exhausting and stressful. Also, for me, made it much more disappointing when I kept getting BFNs. Just live your life!

[ohinvrtedworld]

I say for buying things, that unless you're blowing your cushion fund or life savings, you should just go ahead and treat yourself! I keep telling myself, personally, that this is a prime time that I will inevitably look back on and wish that I enjoyed myself more. I will probably wish that I had more fun nights out eating & drinking, more quiet vacations with just H with nary a stroller in sight, more fun shopping trips and splurges, etc.

It can be hard for sure! Just be sure to live your life now and enjoy it!

[blanche]

Feb 19, 2015 21:40:48 GMT -5 ****** said:

The only thing I do different is book vacations with trip insurance now.

Does trip insurance cover cancellation due to pregnancy? I read somewhere it didn't....

[kariann12]

Feb 19, 2015 21:49:03 GMT -5 blanche said:

Feb 19, 2015 21:40:48 GMT -5 ****** said:

The only thing I do different is book vacations with trip insurance now.

Does trip insurance cover cancellation due to pregnancy? I read somewhere it didn't....

No, in general it does not.

[kariann12]

We started TTC Dec 2013. Last year we didn't plan any big trips, I saved as much vacation time as I could, didn't sign up for any 1/2 marathons (I usually do numerous ones a year) and only bought minimal new clothes. Now, 15 months later, I'm sick of not doing things. You can't live your life like you're going to be KU tomorrow. You don't know how long it'll take.

[ceejay]

Like others have said, when we first started TTC in October, I naively assumed it would just take a month or two. I planned for things like vacation days and which health insurance plan to pick based on the assumption that I would be pregnant and giving birth this year (2015). I didn't look for any races (I usually run a few half marathons a year) and just lived in this constant expectation that I would be pregnant soon.

Now I'm entering cycle 6 and I'm finally getting to the point where I can stop living this way - always expecting to be pregnant at any moment. I know now that it's more likely that I won't be pregnant each cycle (only a 20% chance each time!) and I need to start living my life for now. This was honestly the best CD1 I've had in a while since me and DH are finally embracing this better attitude about TTC. We started planning our vacation for this summer, and I'm excited to pick out a spring half marathon to run too.

[squeakyduck]

Nope. Not anymore.

[cnf2013]

The more I think about it the more I wish I registered for Ironman Chattanooga and just bought the refund insurance in case I did get pregnant and had to bail. If it takes us more than another 3-4 months to get pregnant that will knock me out of being able to train for and race a 2016 Ironman as well. Too late now, oh well. Just my dreams on hold is all...

Just do what makes you happy for now. Pregnancy will happen when it happens and you can worry about the other stuff later. If I just sit around putting off things it will only cause me to agonize over the fact that we're not pregnant yet.

[EmeraldEyes85]

MH and I actually decided to live to the fullest until I get pregnant. Life changes so much when you have children (I do not mean in a negative way!!), that we do all the things now that we won't be able to do as easily then.

[expatmama11]

I feel like I did that a little bit early on but definitely not anymore. I would have missed out on a lot considering I'm 9 months in right now. I am living my life as a non pregnant person and if that changes we will just adjust whatever we need to, when we need to.

[Heisenberg]

I'll be honest--even after all this time, I still think to myself "what if I'm pregnant?" Then I LOL at myself and get over it.

Buy yourself some new clothes...maybe not a whole new wardrobe, but an outfit or two.

[Sparkly]

Nope. We weren't actively trying (NTNP for about 9 months off BCP) when we got pregnant with #1. We had plans. I had just bought a whole new spring wardrobe. My EDD was at what seemed like the worst possible time. Do I have any regrets? Nope.

Like PPs have said, if you don't get KU right away, you will probably have more regrets about not just living your life than if you buy some pants off Gilt, get KU, and can only wear them for a month.

[teambrink]

It's our first month and I'm trying to make sure we live life to the fullest. It's in the back of my mind that I could end up pregnant, but I'm still planning everything as if I won't be. If that changes it's a good thing, so no worries. The one thing I have changed so far is drinking during the tww. I know chances are slim, but I'm that paranoid person that won't forgive myself is something went wrong and I was drinking so I just rather not deal with that part. I will be drinking all the wine, margaritas and mimosas during my wto time though!

[fuzzylogic]

I have been TTC for nearly three years. No, I am not changing anything.

[renbee]

I needed some dental work recently, and I won't lie - I tried to schedule it as soon as possible bc "zomg, gotta get it done before I'm pregnant!" So even after a year and a half I do have those thoughts. But I do usually ignore them.

[mrsjene]

Yep. I wanted to go to South America this year, but that's not happening. I'm done planning things around TTC.

[Deleted]

I definitely started planning around GKU. Like not buying new clothes or turning down freelance work.

Now we are just over a year since we started NTNP and I've stopped putting things off 'in case' of pregnancy. The only thing we have changed is how we spend and save money. We started investing a lot more because even if I don't get pregnant any time soon it will be nice to have a good nest egg saved up.

[Ruca]

Maybe I'm crazy for this but I'm holding off on a CT scan... I've had blood in my urine even saw a urologist and had an ultrasound on my kidney's and bladder. The ultrasound found nothing but the urologist said a CT scan would be more clear if I wanted a definite answer. She said since I'm young and healthy that most likely I'm one of those people who just have blood in their urine which is common in women. Once I realized CT scans use radiation I decided not to get one at this time. I don't know how long it stays in your system and we want to try at the end of this year so it just freaks me out a bit. Just a personal decision I made.

[treble]

Feb 20, 2015 8:41:59 GMT -5 Ruca said:

Maybe I'm crazy for this but I'm holding off on a CT scan... I've had blood in my urine even saw a urologist and had an ultrasound on my kidney's and bladder. The ultrasound found nothing but the urologist said a CT scan would be more clear if I wanted a definite answer. She said since I'm young and healthy that most likely I'm one of those people who just have blood in their urine which is common in women. Once I realized CT scans use radiation I decided not to get one at this time. I don't know how long it stays in your system and we want to try at the end of this year so it just freaks me out a bit. Just a personal decision I made.

WHAT? Get the CT scan if you it was recommended by your doctor. 

[Ruca]

Feb 20, 2015 8:43:36 GMT -5 treble said:

Feb 20, 2015 8:41:59 GMT -5 Ruca said:

Maybe I'm crazy for this but I'm holding off on a CT scan... I've had blood in my urine even saw a urologist and had an ultrasound on my kidney's and bladder. The ultrasound found nothing but the urologist said a CT scan would be more clear if I wanted a definite answer. She said since I'm young and healthy that most likely I'm one of those people who just have blood in their urine which is common in women. Once I realized CT scans use radiation I decided not to get one at this time. I don't know how long it stays in your system and we want to try at the end of this year so it just freaks me out a bit. Just a personal decision I made.

WHAT? Get the CT scan if you it was recommended by your doctor. 

She told me it would give me a definite answer (I cannot see the blood in my urine) but she said since my ultrasound showed no abnormalities and if I didn't want to do it she wouldn't push me. I think it was more for my peace of mind. 

[daisy818]

I am hoarding leave a bit, but only because I really would like to max out my carryover to next year, pregnant or not. That being said, I'm still taking a week off to go to the beach this summer (and I've already booked it). To the extent I'm not buying new clothes, it's just to save money and not because I might get pregnant at some point. It's the same reason I never put off buying clothes "until I lose some weight" - what if I don't lose the weight? Then I'm just wearing out of fashion clothes with holes in them! I just generally try not to plan for hypotheticals over which I don't have control. I get why it's hard, but the way I look at it, that's just adding so much more pressure to get pregnant because you're putting the rest of your life on hold until it happens.

[mainewifey]

Feb 20, 2015 8:47:51 GMT -5 Ruca said:

Feb 20, 2015 8:43:36 GMT -5 treble said:

WHAT? Get the CT scan if you it was recommended by your doctor. 

She told me it would give me a definite answer (I cannot see the blood in my urine) but she said since my ultrasound showed no abnormalities and if I didn't want to do it she wouldn't push me. I think it was more for my peace of mind. 

I think you should do actual research on the radiation from CTs before making a decision. Yeah, I do think you're crazy for not at least doing the research first. Just saying I don't know, so I'm not doing it doesn't make any sense at all.

Edited to add: My dad services and installs CTs, MRIs and xray machines, if you have questions I can certainly ask him and he'll be straight with me. FWIW he wears a radiation monitor and it's never even peaked a smidge, and he's in radiology departments all day, every day.

[GoBigOrGoGnome]

Feb 20, 2015 8:47:51 GMT -5 Ruca said:

Feb 20, 2015 8:43:36 GMT -5 treble said:

WHAT? Get the CT scan if you it was recommended by your doctor. 

She told me it would give me a definite answer (I cannot see the blood in my urine) but she said since my ultrasound showed no abnormalities and if I didn't want to do it she wouldn't push me. I think it was more for my peace of mind. 

Yeah, because you should probably want to know why you have blood in your urine. If you aren't even trying until later this year then go ahead and get the scan. You can ask your doctor how long the radiation stays in your system to help you rest easy, but I can assure you it doesn't last for months on end. 

[treble]

Feb 20, 2015 8:47:51 GMT -5 Ruca said:

Feb 20, 2015 8:43:36 GMT -5 treble said:

WHAT? Get the CT scan if you it was recommended by your doctor. 

She told me it would give me a definite answer (I cannot see the blood in my urine) but she said since my ultrasound showed no abnormalities and if I didn't want to do it she wouldn't push me. I think it was more for my peace of mind. 

I would want a definitive answer about why blood was in my urine before I tried to get pregnant which typically increases the amount of times you urinate in a day.