I may or mat not have just had a pretty complete mental breakdown over DS's sleep issues. It is now 4:00 I've been trying to get him back to sleep since 1:20, and I waited up for DH to get home from work, so I didn't go to bed til 11. I've had less than five hours of sleep every night for over a week and I'm starting to feel completely psychotic.
So far we've tried the "Supernanny Approach" (putting him back to bed every single time he gets out) but I can only make it to 80 times or so before I start getting angry and crazy. We've tried soothing him before leaving, but he flips shit as soon as the door closes. We've tried letting him cry it out, but I really can't let him scream until he passes out from sheer exhaustion.
So far the only thing that has any success is sitting in his room until he falls asleep. Sitting here for two fucking hours at a time until he falls back asleep. Does anyone have experience of a similar nature and can help me out? I just want more than 3 hours of continuous sleep!
DH is getting ready for work and just came out of the closet (ha) slightly panicked, saying "um if we are at the 30 day mark this week...." And went on the list all these things that he needed to do before baby. When I reminded him it was 30 weeks, not 30 days left, I think he could have cried. Poor guy.
ETA: amelandre that is so frustrating. I wish I had advice to share!
I may or mat not have just had a pretty complete mental breakdown over DS's sleep issues. It is now 4:00 I've been trying to get him back to sleep since 1:20, and I waited up for DH to get home from work, so I didn't go to bed til 11. I've had less than five hours of sleep every night for over a week and I'm starting to feel completely psychotic.
So far we've tried the "Supernanny Approach" (putting him back to bed every single time he gets out) but I can only make it to 80 times or so before I start getting angry and crazy. We've tried soothing him before leaving, but he flips shit as soon as the door closes. We've tried letting him cry it out, but I really can't let him scream until he passes out from sheer exhaustion.
So far the only thing that has any success is sitting in his room until he falls asleep. Sitting here for two fucking hours at a time until he falls back asleep. Does anyone have experience of a similar nature and can help me out? I just want more than 3 hours of continuous sleep!
I'm sorry but I know you must be really tired. Seems like you've tried some things already, just wanted to offer my support and say it will be over eventually.
I may or mat not have just had a pretty complete mental breakdown over DS's sleep issues. It is now 4:00 I've been trying to get him back to sleep since 1:20, and I waited up for DH to get home from work, so I didn't go to bed til 11. I've had less than five hours of sleep every night for over a week and I'm starting to feel completely psychotic.
So far we've tried the "Supernanny Approach" (putting him back to bed every single time he gets out) but I can only make it to 80 times or so before I start getting angry and crazy. We've tried soothing him before leaving, but he flips shit as soon as the door closes. We've tried letting him cry it out, but I really can't let him scream until he passes out from sheer exhaustion.
So far the only thing that has any success is sitting in his room until he falls asleep. Sitting here for two fucking hours at a time until he falls back asleep. Does anyone have experience of a similar nature and can help me out? I just want more than 3 hours of continuous sleep!
amelandre - First off-- I'm so sorry. I can understand how you are feeling. My DD was like this for a while, and still has her moments. Here is what we did:
1) We would read her stories, cuddle with her and rock her before bed to get her very comfortable. I would rock her with the sound machine on and in complete darkness, and then lay her down in her bed. 2) If she got up after that, I would ask her what she needed (water to drink, potty break, etc), tend to that, and then re-emphasize it is bedtime. Once she was back in bed, I would turn all of the lights off in the hallways and every room of the house so if she got up again, she would think everyone was asleep which would normally deter her from looking for me, and she would go back to bed. 3) If that didn't work, I would again ask what she wanted, tend to her, and then tell her if she got up again for no reason, she was getting time out. 4) If she STILL got up, she got her time out and was sent straight to her bed.
***Now: There was a period when she had bad separation anxiety. During that time, I would make her her own bed with a sleeping bag on our bedroom floor. She slept the entire night in there. I weaned her off of doing that as she got bigger, but it helped immensely.
AW: I just found out that I matched to an internship program (like a residency for a medical doctor). It's a big deal and not everyone matches. But I found out we have to move from MN to CA. So, I'm overwhelmed in many different ways! Thankful and terrified!
I may or mat not have just had a pretty complete mental breakdown over DS's sleep issues. It is now 4:00 I've been trying to get him back to sleep since 1:20, and I waited up for DH to get home from work, so I didn't go to bed til 11. I've had less than five hours of sleep every night for over a week and I'm starting to feel completely psychotic.
So far we've tried the "Supernanny Approach" (putting him back to bed every single time he gets out) but I can only make it to 80 times or so before I start getting angry and crazy. We've tried soothing him before leaving, but he flips shit as soon as the door closes. We've tried letting him cry it out, but I really can't let him scream until he passes out from sheer exhaustion.
So far the only thing that has any success is sitting in his room until he falls asleep. Sitting here for two fucking hours at a time until he falls back asleep. Does anyone have experience of a similar nature and can help me out? I just want more than 3 hours of continuous sleep!
I'm sorry but I know you must be really tired. Seems like you've tried some things already, just wanted to offer my support and say it will be over eventually.
My DS has never been an exceptional sleeper. At 3 we still have these nights, though they are fewer and far between. The only thing I can say is that I don't think there is anything I have done to help, other than it goes away after a few nights. I also feel like there isn't really anything I have tried that works. Short of letting him fall asleep in my bed then carefully moving him to his bed when he is passed out.
Post by SassyPants150 on Feb 20, 2015 9:16:57 GMT -5
I have a feeling I'm going to be grouchy today. FIL insisted that we come meet him for lunch today. When we get there to his office, he will take his sweet time deciding where to eat. By the time we get home DD will go down late for her nap and DH have to volunteer at a fundraiser tonight so she will probably not get the whole thing in.
Add that DD has said about 283668383 million words this morning before I can fully wake up. Some of which have just been whining and crying.
Post by hotcoconuts82 on Feb 20, 2015 9:26:58 GMT -5
School was cancelled for the second day in a row...God help me get though this day. The kids have cabin fever BIG time and my patience is at an all time low. Bad combination.
AW: I just found out that I matched to an internship program (like a residency for a medical doctor). It's a big deal and not everyone matches. But I found out we have to move from MN to CA. So, I'm overwhelmed in many different ways! Thankful and terrified!
Congrats! Where in CA? I lived there most my life. (Also, I know I've mentioned my brother who's also studying clinical psych, he was super close to ending up in MN. He liked the program there a lot.)
At my 3 hour GTT. Just downed the orange drink, thank goodness they had it cold. But definitely feeling a little nauseous. Must keep it down, must keep it down.
At my 3 hour GTT. Just downed the orange drink, thank goodness they had it cold. But definitely feeling a little nauseous. Must keep it down, must keep it down.
You can do it! I really had to fight thought that first hour to keep it down. And I had to drink the drink warm (fruit punch flavor) .
Congrats! Where in CA? I lived there most my life. (Also, I know I've mentioned my brother who's also studying clinical psych, he was super close to ending up in MN. He liked the program there a lot.)
San Francisco! So, if anyone has any advice on where to live with a dog, cat, baby, and husband, I would be forever grateful.
And, he should have moved to MN. It's awesome here. It's like 10 whole degrees today. Do you remember what programs he applied to?
I don't really remember. NC also maybe? I know his front runners were MN and Ohio and he ended up in Ohio. I don't think it's much warmer there to be fair Or here in DC today for that matter!
SF is AMAZING. I am super jealous! So much good food, mmmm. Of course the negatives are COL and traffic. Honestly, with a family and pets I might consider living across the Bay. You do have commute time then but you'll likely get a lot more for your money. And with the state of public transit in SF, from a lot of places in the city it could take you just as long as it would to BART from the East Bay. And parking/driving are much easier outside of SF. You're much less likely to have to pay to park at your home or fight for street parking. Our friends in SF can circle their neighborhoods looking for parking for an hour at some times of day. I have a million more thoughts and pieces of advice on the Bay Area so feel free to PM me!
amelandre - I am sorry that you are having a rough time with your guy. We have some issues with my guy sleeping - we have basically gotten into the habit of me being in the room with him when he goes to sleep, otherwise he has a huge fit. This isn't really a huge deal because once he is asleep he generally sleeps through the night but sometimes it takes forever to get him to fall asleep. I really do need to break that habit but just haven't had the energy to try yet. But, occasionally he will wake up in the middle of the night and those nights are so miserable; this week was particularly bad. I don't really have any advice because we are fumbling through it too but just wanted to give you support.
Apparently our pipes froze in the freezing cold temps last night and we woke up to no water. I am sooo glad I decided to be lazy and not exercise this morning. Otherwise, I would have had to show up to work all nasty.
I think the solution depends on how desperate you are for sleep.
At this point in pregnancy I'd probably just go to sleep in his room and then leave whenever I woke up. It's not helping the long-term independent sleep issue, but you've got to be able to function.
Can dh take over? DS always responds differently to me than dh and sometimes when I completely remove myself from a situation then he gets different results.
I actually dozed off on his floor for a little bit last night, but then he stepped on my face ten minutes later when he got out of bed. Unfortunately my husband is the world's heaviest sleeper (and has zero control over his emotions when he first wakes up) and I am a very light sleeper, and slightly more with-it when I get up, so the night time stuff has nearly always fallen to me. I did make a promise to myself around 5:15 this morning (when DS finally went back to sleep) that if it happens again tonight I'm going to make DH deal with it anyway. I'm seriously crazy over not sleeping.
Post by lgsdesigner on Feb 20, 2015 10:05:01 GMT -5
I’ve weaned myself off this week of my Pop-Tart obsession. I am now eating oatmeal each morning. I gotta say—I miss the Pop-Tarts! Especially the S’more ones.
lgsdesigner Unfortunately DS ISN't old enough to articulate what he wants. It does seem like separation anxiety since he only calms down when I'm in the room, but he's been sleeping in that room since he was 5 months old!
nurserachel22 my 2 year old does that every morning when we get to daycare. She pretends to fall asleep in my arms on the walk in, I guess she's hoping I'll turn around and take her home?? Haha
lgsdesigner Unfortunately DS ISN't old enough to articulate what he wants. It does seem like separation anxiety since he only calms down when I'm in the room, but he's been sleeping in that room since he was 5 months old!
amelandre - I get that, now. Didn't realize he was only 20 months old. From my experience, the separation anxiety period is strong from 18-22 months. I have dealt with that stage with both of my kids. I would maybe try the sleeping bag thing so he is close to you and see if that helps. A momma needs her sleep,and if that is they only way you can get it for now, then fine. I hope things get better soon, though. That's really rough.
nurserachel22 my 2 year old does that every morning when we get to daycare. She pretends to fall asleep in my arms on the walk in, I guess she's hoping I'll turn around and take her home?? Haha
This is so hilarious!!! Like he couldn't keep his eyes shut all the way . They were kind of fluttering. I got my laugh in for the am!
Post by nurserachel22 on Feb 20, 2015 10:58:12 GMT -5
and another random.... I so badly want to attend Zumba convention this year. It's mid August and in Orlando. My kiddo will only be three months though. It is hurting my heart to part with the idea of going, but I keep saying my kid may need me and I'll be far far away (I live in Indiana). Convention is one of my top five life experiences. Meeting people from all over the world and dancing/learning with them for 5 days. Total bliss!
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