Waiting to Do Something 2/23

[wanderingheart]

Good morning! I'm posting and running, but since the old thread got bumped, I figured I'd start us a new one instead. 

The Waiting to Do Something thread is posted once a week (usually on Mondays) for those of us that experience long, extended cycles. Whether it's medicated cycles, long (45ish+ days) cycles, postpartum/breastfeeding, TTA, on the bench, or something else, this is the place we gather throughout the week to discuss and vent about our slightly unique situation.

Numbers:

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA):

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ:
 

GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? Give me a top 3 if you're like me and can't pick just one. 

ETA weird spacing.

[lemoncupcake]

Numbers: Today will be CD1 of my first natural cycle in over 12 years

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): TTA until April/May depending on where my FW ends up falling

Rant - I waited too long to place my big TTC Amazon order, so my thermometer won't be here until Wednesday. I figure there's no point in temping these first few days with a different thermometer, right?

NFNSQ - I know that I should expect a longer cycle this month - when should I start using OPKs? Although we will be avoiding, I want to get a good chart started to see what's going on.


GTKY: I love Atonement. It wrecks me every time, but I love it so much. And plus, James McAvoy:

[LadyNymeria]

Numbers: CD 22, 6 DPO

Circumstances: currently TTA, planning to start TTC #1 in September (hopefully earlier)

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: Nothing for now

GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? Give me a top 3 if you're like me and can't pick just one. I don't actually have a favorite, and I'm really not sure I can even pick a top 3. The closest to an actual favorite for me would probably be the Harry Potter series (yes, I'm counting all 8 as 1). Otherwise there are so many I really enjoy.

[mrstrejo]

Numbers:CD66

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): Long, irregular cycles. Trying to figure out if I'm ovulating... which I *think* I did.

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: My temps are too erratic. I think I've just been hotter than normal lately, but I think I ovulated on Friday (based on other signs). Idk, I just have to wait and see. I think I'm going to start temping vaginally next cycle (whenever that will be) to see if that helps.


GTKY: I've loved Blood In Blood Out since I was pretty young. My favorite genre is horror, but that damn movie just sucks me in every time. Then I have to quote things lines from it for like a week. "Vatos locos forever"

[LadyNymeria]

lemoncupcake - Missing temps during your period won't generally affect your overall chart pattern/FF's ability to detect O as long as you don't O really early in your cycle. From what I've read on here, most ladies who temp vaginally don't temp during their periods, but they're generally still able to get enough early temps for FF to detect O. If today is CD1 like you said you thought it would be, then there should be no problem waiting until your thermometer gets here Wednesday.

As for OPKs, I've been trying them out even though we're TTA right now too. I typically O around CD 17, but have O'd as early as CD 11, so my first cycle trying them out I started using the OPKs the morning of CD 11. The next cycle I started on CD 8 because the box said they expired 30 days after I opened the canister they came in, so I wanted to use up the old ones. This past cycle I forgot about them until CD 15 and I got positives on CDs 15-17. TL, DR: If you know what your earliest O day has been, I would start the day before that. If you don't know, but definitely want to try to catch your surge, I would start using them once your period has ended. Once you know when you typically O, you can start later so you're not using as many each month.

[nuggetrn]

Numbers: Cycle 2/Month 3 CD62/9DPO!!

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): TTA ~September I hope

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: Rant: Now that I feel pretty confident that I really did O on CD53, I am getting more and more paranoid about the sex we had on CD53. If were to get pregnant this cycle we would be over the moon, but obviously it's not within the time line we were expecting/planning for. Plus I just feel rather dumb about the whole situation. Only time will tell though I suppose.

Rave: My big brother is home!!! He is in the Navy and lives in California and will be here until March 11th. I was able to take a fair amount of days off of work this week so I am pretty excited to get to spend a lot of time with him!


GTKY: My all time favorite movie will always be The Sound of Music

lemoncupcake A lot of people do not temp the first few days of their cycle, so if you are on CD1 now and will get your BBT Wednesday you should be ok to start then. I asked the same question about OPKs with long cycles. I was trying to find it again, but I *think* someone told me to go ahead and start at ten days. I will let someone else take on the rest of this question though, lol.

[lemoncupcake]

Thanks, guys. I don't want to (literally) piss away money by starting OPKs really early, but I guess I've wasted money on much dumber things before. I'll probably start them mid next week around CD 10-12.

[moutonrouge]

Numbers: CD3
Circumstances: on BCP, TTA until fall
Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: I think we will be officially starting our house hunt next month. DH has also been hinting about starting TTC sooner rather than later, but I still have my new job concerns and I'm not sure I can handle job search, house hunt, and TTC simultaneously. I tend towards being anxious and obsessive when big changes are coming and I think three big changes is too many at once.
GTKY: I really love Pitch Perfect, but I think my favorite movie would be Fight Club or Inception.

[nuggetrn]

Feb 23, 2015 10:15:25 GMT -5 moutonrouge said:

Numbers: CD3
Circumstances: on BCP, TTA until fall
Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: I think we will be officially starting our house hunt next month. DH has also been hinting about starting TTC sooner rather than later, but I still have my new job concerns and I'm not sure I can handle job search, house hunt, and TTC simultaneously. I tend towards being anxious and obsessive when big changes are coming and I think three big changes is too many at once.
GTKY: I really love Pitch Perfect, but I think my favorite movie would be Fight Club or Inception.

I tend to agree with this... If you guys are starting your house hunt in a month than hopefully you can find something, buy it, and be settled in by fall where your original TTC timeline falls. Have you talked to him about not wanting to take on too many things at once?

Also house hunting is so fun! I love looking at houses! Until you have to actually pick one out for yourself and then it gets a little intimidating, lol. Totally worth it though every step of the way!

[pinkcat]

Numbers: CD 23

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): TTA for now-we are going to start TTC in April. I'm excited that it's only about a month away now!

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: This was my first cycle charting and I am so confused about my cycle. I have been off BCP since last May, and my first few cycles were a bit erratic. However, they then settled into a very predictable 28 day cycle. I wasn't charting but could normally guess when I ovulated by CM and ovulation pain. I naively assumed charting would be easy and I'd see a very clear chart. Because my husband is such a light sleeper and our bathroom is not even two steps away from my bed, I have been standing up and taking my temperature right when I get into the bathroom, instead of while lying down. It's CD 23 and I haven't seen a temperature rise that lasts over 3 days yet- I had about a 1 degree spike on both CD 14 and CD 15, but I had been drinking the nights before and also took my temp several hours late those days, so I can't trust those temps. The temp went back down on CD 16 to it's normal range...I have also been having a lot of CM since CD 12. I normally only have it for a two or 3 days but now I'm at day 9 of CM. Sorry for the long rant!! Just confused and wish I had done a better job at charting from the beginning so I could more accurately see if/when I O'ed.


GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? Give me a top 3 if you're like me and can't pick just one. This is hard! We watched all the best picture nominees this year so I'm going to pick a top 3 of those instead I loved Boyhood, Theory of Everything, and The Imitation Game- all were great!

[bl1210]

Numbers: I dont even know anymore...see rant

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): long cycles, PCOS dx 2 weeks ago started on Metformin

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: wtf body?? CD1 again?? I just had this the first of the month. ugh.

GTKY: I'm not a big movie watcher but I tend to watch Pretty Woman, Grease, and Harry Potter any time its on TV even though I have seen them all hundreds of times.

[moutonrouge]

Feb 23, 2015 10:20:09 GMT -5 nuggetrn said:

Feb 23, 2015 10:15:25 GMT -5 moutonrouge said:

Numbers: CD3
Circumstances: on BCP, TTA until fall
Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: I think we will be officially starting our house hunt next month. DH has also been hinting about starting TTC sooner rather than later, but I still have my new job concerns and I'm not sure I can handle job search, house hunt, and TTC simultaneously. I tend towards being anxious and obsessive when big changes are coming and I think three big changes is too many at once.
GTKY: I really love Pitch Perfect, but I think my favorite movie would be Fight Club or Inception.

I tend to agree with this... If you guys are starting your house hunt in a month than hopefully you can find something, buy it, and be settled in by fall where your original TTC timeline falls. Have you talked to him about not wanting to take on too many things at once?

Also house hunting is so fun! I love looking at houses! Until you have to actually pick one out for yourself and then it gets a little intimidating, lol. Totally worth it though every step of the way!

He knows why I want to wait, and he agrees. We've just been talking about it a lot because we've been discussing finances and housing in a lot of detail, and so it keeps being brought up when we think about future expenses, number if bedrooms, finished basements, etc. I think his hints are more meant to let me know he's also thinking about it and excited, rather than trying to pressure me or anything like that. But I did say flat out Saturday night that my sanity would allow for two out of three and one (job search) is a must. 

We've been to a bunch of open houses to learn about neighborhoods and styles we like, and I've had fun going to those. We got the go ahead from our landlord to sublet if we need to move out early; that email came last night so it started to feel pretty real

[aprilz81]

Numbers: Cycle 3, CD15, Month 5

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): Recent PCOS diagnosis, history of long irregular cycles

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: NGKUR - I was notified last week that I would be laid off in 3 weeks (position being eliminated, not wide spread layoffs). I'm working with HR to find another internal position and I have my fingers crossed I get one of the 7 open positions I'm qualified for. If not I'm not sure what it means for our TTC plan. Technically we can live on DH's salary, but things would be tight especially since I would need to go on his insurance which will reduce his take home pay and increase our deductible since it would be a family plan. If I get a job outside of the company it would really suck to be there less than a year and then go out on maternity leave but I don't want to wait any longer since I am already 34. Grrr... On the good side the internal positions I applied for are all virtual so I would be able to work at home in my sweats!

Rave: My temps aren't nearly as rocky as previous cycles and I had EWCM show up this morning. I'm pretty excited about it even with the job uncertainty looming.

GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? Give me a top 3 if you're like me and can't pick just one. My recent favorites are the Avenger's movies. Captain America Winter Soldier was awesome and I loved Avengers when it came out a year or so ago. DH has gotten me in to the super hero movies when I used to almost exclusively watch chick flicks.

[lemoncupcake]

aprilz81 - Sorry about your job, I've been there and it sucks. I hope that one of the internal positions is a good fit!

[nuggetrn]

aprilz81 Ugh, how frustrating!! Fx you get one of the open positions!! Are there a lot of other people whose positions are being eliminated? One would think that your company would make sure they kept you around, especially if you are qualified for the other positions. Good luck!

[aprilz81]

Feb 23, 2015 11:18:42 GMT -5 nuggetrn said:

aprilz81 Ugh, how frustrating!! Fx you get one of the open positions!! Are there a lot of other people whose positions are being eliminated? One would think that your company would make sure they kept you around, especially if you are qualified for the other positions. Good luck!

I know I'm not the only one, but I don't know how many are being laid off.

I have "priority access" to HR and the recruiters.  Any internal job I apply for I just have to let my HR contact and my application gets send straight to the recruiter for immediate review.  If I'm qualified I would then be hired over any other suitable external candidates.  It isn't a guarantee, but with 7 open positions I think my chances are good that I would get hired for one of them.  I don't know the salary range, but I would think most of them would be in the ball park of my current salary, if not a little more.

I applied to these positions on Friday morning and I have a call with the recruiter in about 30 minutes.  So things are moving quickly.  

I also applied to several external jobs on Friday so I'm hopeful.  The last time I was laid off (2 years ago) I applied to 15 positions over 3 months because that was all that was out there in my field.  The fact I've applied to 10 already is a sign that jobs are opening up.  I'm a corporate meeting planner so the worse the economy is the fewer jobs are available since meetings are a pretty "easy" budget cut to make in the grand scheme of things.

[marajadeskywalker]

Numbers: CD 20, PP 14 months

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): currently TTA for a few more months.

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: I'm on bcp but I'm thinking of dropping it and just switching to condoms for the time being. I just don't feel right and have zero sex drive anymore I also think I might be better at temping if there if a little more pressure to do it, plus I'll actually see things happening without the pills throwing it off.

GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? My fave movies would have to be Star Wars (original trilogy), pretty much anything Marvel and Les Miserables

[nuggetrn]

Feb 23, 2015 11:26:04 GMT -5 marajadeskywalker said:

Numbers: CD 20, PP 14 months

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): currently TTA for a few more months.

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: I'm on bcp but I'm thinking of dropping it and just switching to condoms for the time being. I just don't feel right and have zero sex drive anymore I also think I might be better at temping if there if a little more pressure to do it, plus I'll actually see things happening without the pills throwing it off.

GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? My fave movies would have to be Star Wars (original trilogy), pretty much anything Marvel and Les Miserables

I would definitely stop BCP now if you are planning to start TTC in a few months. It can take you a few cycles to regulate once you stop taking them and you'll be able to temp and get info on what your body is doing post-BCP. Especially if you feel like it is negatively affecting you.

Of course only if you and your DH both agree/are willing to take precautions/prepared for possible pregnancy if you don't. Just throwing that disclaimer out there for general purposes, lol.

[pbandj714]

Hey everyone! I usually hang out in the WTO/TWW threads, but i feel like I belong here right now.

Numbers: Cycle 2/Month 3, CD52/still WTO

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): I came off BCP around Thanksgiving.

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: This cycle has me pretty down about TTC. I know that cycles can be crazy after the pill, but having a normalish first cycle had me thinking that maybe I'd be lucky. I've had suuuper light spotting for like 2.5 weeks now, so that's getting old. What is the magic number again, when I should see the Dr. to jump-start my cycle?


GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? Give me a top 3 if you're like me and can't pick just one. Hmmm, that's a tough one! My favorite right this moment is Gone Girl. So good!

[wanderingheart]

Feb 23, 2015 12:07:02 GMT -5 pbandj714 said:

Hey everyone! I usually hang out in the WTO/TWW threads, but i feel like I belong here right now.

Numbers: Cycle 2/Month 3, CD52/still WTO

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): I came off BCP around Thanksgiving.

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: This cycle has me pretty down about TTC. I know that cycles can be crazy after the pill, but having a normalish first cycle had me thinking that maybe I'd be lucky. I've had suuuper light spotting for like 2.5 weeks now, so that's getting old. What is the magic number again, when I should see the Dr. to jump-start my cycle?


GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? Give me a top 3 if you're like me and can't pick just one. Hmmm, that's a tough one! My favorite right this moment is Gone Girl. So good!

If you don't get a period within 60 days, I would call your doctor to Jumpstart your cycle. Welcome to the group!

[peaseblossom55]

Numbers: month 4 cycle 2 cd 59
I was on bcp for 16 years but prior to that I had irregular cycles
Rants/raves; going to see my gyn on Wednesday. So hopefully he will be able to help me figure out what I going on. I've had bad cramping for several days but no period. I just actually want a chance to be able to conceive at this point
Top movies- the princess bride Casablanca also singin in the rain

[inwinethereistruth]

Numbers: CD 25/DPO 13

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): TTA until...see below

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: Life plan has changed. My H may be switching jobs MUCH sooner than anticipated, so depending on if he gets a job he loves or just gets a job to pass time until he can go to grad school in 1 1/2 years, it either pushes up our timeline for TTC to 1 1/2 years from now (YAY!) to deffo being 3-4 years from now (kill me). So we are in limbo. Even more limbo.


GTKY: Old School, Love Actually and Its a Wonderful Life. But ANYTHING WITH LEO MY LOVE.

[pbandj714]

Thanks mistabinx!

[wanderingheart]

Numbers: cycle 2, month 6, CD 58

Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): long and irregular cycles, not ovulating. Suspected PCOS, but vaginal ultrasound did not confirm.

Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: I filled out my paperwork for my RE referral last night. I had been putting it off because it just makes it seem real. I need to call and make an appointment. Also, I have a cold and haven't been sleeping well, so my temps are really rocky right now.

GTKY: I'm counting all 8 of the HP movies as one too. Grease is also up there, and I could watchquote Mean Girls and Pitch Perfect any day.

ETA: had to go back and re-read through the thread. Lots of stuff going on today!
FX for your appointment peaseblossom55. Let us know how it goes!

Sorry for the second CD1 bl1210. That sucks.

Sorry about the job situation aprilz81. How did your call with the recruiter go?

That's a huge change in your timeline, inwinethereistruth! I hope everything works out for you guys.

[Rama]

Numbers: CD19/Cycle 5/Month 10
Circumstances (PP/BF, Meds, TTA): PCOS, anovulation, ogliomenorrhea
Rants/Raves/NFNSQ: My body frustrates me and not being able to do anything about it frustrates me more. I want to be proactive about this, but I also don't want to run back to the bs!OB, who will undoubtedly prescribe me Femara and send me on my way. I'm trying to think of a non-TTC reason I can ask an OB for a HSG or U/S or something, but I dunno. Still need to get my GTT done, too.
GTKY: In honor of the Oscars, what is your favorite movie? Give me a top 3 if you're like me and can't pick just one. :) Favorite movie of all time is probably The Pink Panther starring Steve Martin. If I can watch it 20+ times over the course of two weeks, I can't hate it, right? ;)

lemoncupcake Congrats on CD1! A lot of people don't temp during their period, so I don't see the harm in just starting on Thursday after you get your thermometer. As for OPKs, I tend to start taking them once a day around CD10ish like everyone else (and I'll ramp up to twice if I ever get a result worth testing more for), but never see anything, haha. Until you know what your "normal" is, I'd say that's as good a day as any to start.
mrstrejo Can you link your chart?
nuggetrn Congrats on O! Did you guys not use protection if you're TTA? Tsk tsk. In other news, yay for your brother being home for a few weeks. Spend lots of time with him and do fun stuff! Makes me miss my brother.
mistabinx I hope you get to burn your bench soon, Sis!
moutonrouge Good luck with the house hunt! Good idea to wait until you're ready to TTC, too; don't let your husband's excitement pressure you!
pinkcat Some people are really sensitive to getting up at all, temp-wise. I'd try temping in bed, even if it wakes up your husband. He can get over the few beeps and it'll probably even out your temperatures A LOT. Can you link your chart? Also, have you considered OPKs? Without temping, you cannot say when you ovulated, or even IF you ovulated. Cramps/ovulation pain can be caused by so many things, it's a really bad idea to assume when you're ovulating based on them and secondary signs like EWCM.
bl1210 New hormone, new normal? *hugs* Sorry for the quick CD1 when you weren't expecting it, but hopefully your body regulates to the new meds soon.
marajadeskywalker If you want to drop your BCP and prevent with condoms, that might be a good choice. Your body will probably need a few cycles to adjust from coming off anyway, so it'll give you a lot of valuable information when you guys are actually ready to TTC. :)
pbandj714 Sorry for the long cycle. If you go 60 days without a period that needs a pad/tampon, go to your doctor to jumpstart your cycle. My first couple of cycles off of BCP were pretty normal, too (35 and 45 days), then they went to shit and I stopped cycing altogether. *hugs* Here's hoping that isn't the case with you.
peaseblossom55 Hope you have a good appointment on Wednesday! Keep us updated and DON'T take Clomid/Femara from your OB/GYN.
inwinethereistruth Oh, gosh, I'd be a wreck if I were in your position. Have you had a serious talk with your husband recently about the TTC timeline? If you're saying things like "kill me" (I realize this is in exasperation and probably not something I should be seriously worried about), there's probably more there than being impatient. I don't want you to get bitter with your husband for always pushing back or him to get bitter with you for "holding that over him", y'know? Maybe I don't make sense, it's just what I'm thinking.
wanderingheart *hugs* REs do make things seem real, don't they? As much as I love mine, I wish I'd never had to see her; it makes me feel like I'm admitting to being broken.

[nuggetrn]

Rama I know I know. We most often use condoms, and if we don't he pulls out. I don't know what he was thinking that night. In my defense (this really is no excuse and not even a good thing, lol) I was three glasses of wine in and didn't even realized he finished. We were done and I was just like, uh, what happened? He has gotten a stern talking to since then. We have thrown around the idea of NTNP but hadn't really made an actual decision. So, it is what it is I guess. Timing will not be ideal but it will still be a good thing.

[inwinethereistruth]

Thanks mistabinx , wanderingheart and Rama . As for what you said Rama, we cant change it. I dont want a kid yet, but I would love to start TTC in like 9 ish month, but if he is going back to grad school, we would be way too unstable to have a kid until he was out, both from a monetary POV (his school would be about 50k a semester and I already have 100k in debt from my school), and a stability/time POV, so that would put us at having a kid in like 3-4 years. As much as it would kill me, I cant be selfish. Womp womp.

[Rama]

Feb 23, 2015 13:41:35 GMT -5 inwinethereistruth said:

Thanks mistabinx , wanderingheart and Rama . As for what you said Rama, we cant change it. I dont want a kid yet, but I would love to start TTC in like 9 ish month, but if he is going back to grad school, we would be way too unstable to have a kid until he was out, both from a monetary POV (his school would be about 50k a semester and I already have 100k in debt from my school), and a stability/time POV, so that would put us at having a kid in like 3-4 years. As much as it would kill me, I cant be selfish. Womp womp.

Your husband and (hopeful!) future kids are lucky to have you. <3

[Rama]

Feb 23, 2015 13:39:15 GMT -5 nuggetrn said:

Rama I know I know. We most often use condoms, and if we don't he pulls out. I don't know what he was thinking that night. In my defense (this really is no excuse and not even a good thing, lol) I was three glasses of wine in and didn't even realized he finished. We were done and I was just like, uh, what happened? He has gotten a stern talking to since then. We have thrown around the idea of NTNP but hadn't really made an actual decision. So, it is what it is I guess. Timing will not be ideal but it will still be a good thing.

[pinkcat]

Thanks for the advice Rama! My chart isn't pretty at all- last weekend I took my temps way late, and was drinking. Same story for this weekend so I did not even temp on Sat/Sun.

I haven't used OPKs yet but plan to next cycle! And starting next cycle I will take my temps while still in bed. I am glad I found this board a few months BEFORE we start TTC so I can get these mistakes out of the way now and be more prepared come April

Here is my not pretty chart!

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