Post by bendherova on Feb 23, 2015 13:26:42 GMT -5
I don't actually know the answer. With his old job, he got 4 days off, including the time I was in the hospital in labor. How generous.
I'm not sure what he gets now. He does plan to take a week of vacation as late in June as they'll let him, but we know it may not line up with delivery bc he can't take the last week off bc of patient coverage (6/23-6/30). I'm due on 6/21.
Post by beersandweirs on Feb 23, 2015 13:58:32 GMT -5
My husband's employer doesn't offer any paid paternity leave, but he will likely take 2 weeks sick time right after the birth. And then once my 12 weeks of FMLA is up, he will take his 12 weeks (but could be up to 16 weeks, we are looking into that). The hope is to delay the amount of time we have to pay for infant day care.
Post by baytosa2013 on Feb 23, 2015 14:15:36 GMT -5
I don't believe my husband gets any paid paternity leave. I think he could take 6 weeks unpaid if he wanted but with me only getting 6 weeks, 2 of which are unpaid under STD insurance and 4 at only 60%, that won't fly financially. I have to use up my 2 weeks of paid time off to cover the unpaid portion of my 6 weeks which just seems silly.
He does however accrue time based on his time with the company and is currently at a use or lose status. He will be able to take 2 weeks off immediately and work from home after that when needed. His sister will be coming around week 3 and then my BFF is coming in after that. Once I go back DH will take another week or 2 depending on the need and stay home alone with the baby until we have to put her in day care
Post by turtletyme on Feb 23, 2015 14:46:32 GMT -5
I feel like it depends on how things are going (ie if I had a c section and needed him at home) how long he will take. When I bring it up, he says he wants to be here as much as possible, but he is also a small business owner. He may take a week (or I was hoping two) right away, then some shorter days or days off during the week for awhile. I am glad we have a little flexibility, but I wish we had the benefit of a European-style real paternity leave.
Post by baileybaileybne on Feb 23, 2015 17:06:19 GMT -5
As far as I have figured out so far, my DH will get 1 week of paid leave from work but is also entitled to 2 weeks on average weekly wage from the government. He can also access long service vacation leave if he wants to. We've not really decided on his plan yet but at this stage I'm thinking he'll take the week from work at half pay and have it over 2 weeks then use 2 weeks of his long sevice leave. The government money is such a huge process to apply for, I'm not sure if we'll bother. We'll see closer to the time I suppose.
Post by sordidvolition on Feb 23, 2015 18:56:55 GMT -5
Mine gets 2 weeks paid leave. He's a workaholic/can't so no so I doubt he will be much help and will probably just end up working from home. I'd rather he just go to work tbh. He "took a week off" (different job) for DS1 and I never even saw him.
Post by leenziepops on Feb 23, 2015 19:01:00 GMT -5
DH will get 2 weeks paid PL (non-primary carer leave to be PC). He will start it from LO is born I think. He will probably want to hang out for the 1-2 days that I'm in the hospital. He also has the option to work from home so I might ask him to arrange one day per week permanently for a couple of months.
DH owns his own business, so it depends on how busy he is at the time. I honestly only expect him to stay home for a few days. He also teaches night and Saturday classes at our local community college. He requested the entire summer off from teaching so he can still get home at a decent time to help with LO. Thankfully my mom is willing to use a week of her vacation time after baby comes to help me out.
Also in Canada so DH and I have a year to split between us but DH is a college prof so will already be two months into his four month summer when the baby arrives so I'm taking all of the maternity leave and he's taking advantage of the two months off he has.
DH is a teacher, and when he went in to the personnel office to investigate what he's entitled to, he was told that there's no official paternity leave policy (awesome! <_<), but he has his five "family sick" days, and if he needs more, he needs to talk to the superintendent. He'll take a day (either his own sick day or a personal day) whenever my c-section is scheduled, go back to work while I'm still in the hospital, and then take the allotted days once we're all home, and then go from there. If he does "apply" for more time, we're lucky that 1) the superintendent likes him, and 2) he has a student teacher this semester who's working on her master's, and she already has her teaching certificate, so if he were out for an extended period of time, she could sub for him.
Either way, we'll be fine. My mom is local and retired, so she's around to help out, and then once the school years is over, DH (and MIL, who is also a teacher) will be off for July and August.
Post by missjenniebean on Feb 23, 2015 21:37:52 GMT -5
None. His boss is letting him have some time off but with me not getting paid for my maternity leave, we can't really afford more than him having a week off. :/
Since Mh just started a new job in Jan, I'm actually not sure yet. He has to ask actually. If he doesn't, I know he'll take/use some personal time to be with us, depending on how things work out with nugget and hospital time, etc.
With our first though, his company then didn't have PL, so he had to use PTO, and took off a full week after our D was born, which part of coincided with when his family was visiting us, so he was home most of the time, and spent some time with them out of the house, which was ok with me.
DH will get 5 days for paternity and then he's banked most of his vacation time to take off. In the end, we're hoping it will be about 3-4 weeks depending when baby comes. He's planning on taking a week before and 3 weeks after my due date. His work is pretty flexible and will allow him to adjust his vacation time to coincide with the birth of the baby.
I have no idea how things will work with a new baby and trying to chase around DS. I am contemplating leaving him in daycare a couple days a week while I'm on leave, but this seems kind of cruel, and it makes me feel lazy/ bad mom ish. Has anyone done this? To be honest I don't think my brain has quite figured out how anyone has more than one child.
Right now J goes to DC 3 days/wk and I'm fully intending to have her go the same while I'm home on leave. My FIL/mom switch of weeks for Fridays which she probably won't do when I'm home, and H is home Mondays. So it will be nice to have 3 days with baby alone to bond and have some quiet time without a toddler running a muck. I see no problem with this at all - it will give me time, but also keep her socializing, and keep her in a routine.
I'm fairly certain she'll be in the preschool program by then too, so all the more reason I want her to continue going.
I fear if I don't, then she'll have that much harder a time re-transitioning when I go back to work.
I have no idea how things will work with a new baby and trying to chase around DS. I am contemplating leaving him in daycare a couple days a week while I'm on leave, but this seems kind of cruel, and it makes me feel lazy/ bad mom ish. Has anyone done this? To be honest I don't think my brain has quite figured out how anyone has more than one child.
Right now J goes to DC 3 days/wk and I'm fully intending to have her go the same while I'm home on leave. My FIL/mom switch of weeks for Fridays which she probably won't do when I'm home, and H is home Mondays. So it will be nice to have 3 days with baby alone to bond and have some quiet time without a toddler running a muck. I see no problem with this at all - it will give me time, but also keep her socializing, and keep her in a routine.
I'm fairly certain she'll be in the preschool program by then too, so all the more reason I want her to continue going.
I fear if I don't, then she'll have that much harder a time re-transitioning when I go back to work.
This is what my sister is currently doing. Starting in January my Nephew dropped down from 5 days a week to 3 days a week. He is home with mommy and the twins Mondays and Tuesdays and he goes to Day Care Wednesday-Friday (this also happens to be when they have all of the "specials") Once she goes back to work she is planning on keeping him on this schedule. My mom and dad are going to be providing child care for the infants from Mid April-Mid June when My BIL is done for the Summer (He is a High School Teacher) Once the school year starts up again they will have an aupair as financially that's what works best for them. But my nephew will still be in Daycare 3 days a week as he needs the socialization with children his own age. (My BIL was a stay at home dad for the first 9 months with my nephew, but did not take him to any classes so he was delayed with some major milestones, we are all afraid that if he is pulled out he is going to regress and not be able to handle school in 2 years when the twins will start Day care) The price drops drastically in our area once children reach 2 years old. He loves it because he gets to spend time with mommy one on one when the twins nap, and then he gets to spend time with his new brother and sister the rest of the day.
Post by wifedeangel on Feb 25, 2015 10:08:36 GMT -5
H doesn't get any paternity days, but has 2 weeks of PTO left, and his company is very liberal in granting unpaid leave. Depending on when baby is born, he'll take up to a week of leave. But his mom will be staying with us for a couple weeks at that time, so she'll be able to help, theoretically.
Post by ombradellarosa on Feb 26, 2015 0:46:10 GMT -5
Neither of us get paid leave. I work in a school so I'll be off until mid- or late August. Even then, I only work three hours, one night a week so I plan to keep working when LO comes since I'll have a few months off when she's new. DH works in retail and has an unpredictable schedule. Thanks to this thread, he's going to ask what to do if he's scheduled to work in the days right after I have the baby since he'll want to be with me. If I go into labour while he's at work he already knows he can leave. Other than those first few days, he's just going to go to work as usual. He doesn't get many hours and we need the money. He'll probably still be home with me and baby most of the time. I'm hoping baby is late and comes after his finals week! Just in case though I told him not to procrastinate his final projects.
My husband is taking his time off once I go back to work which is perfect because my daughter starts school in August and I will have his help and time to adjust to 3 kids. He goes in to work at 5 am so I'll be having to get all 3 ready to go in the morning. I'll have 3 under 4 so it's gonna be crazy and will need him then and not right after baby is born, besides, he can take a day or two sick days off if we need him to after baby is here.
My husband gets 2 weeks paternity leave which he will take starting when I go into labor. After I go back from my maternity leave, he will use whatever vacation/personal days he saves up to extend the amount of time we don't have to worry about paying for childcare.
I'm very lucky, I get 2 weeks before birth and 6 weeks after of short term disability, 6 weeks of paid parental leave, 5 weeks of PTO, some floating holidays (I should be able to get a week from that), and then 2 weeks of additional vacation that I "bought." It's unpaid, but coming out of my paycheck evenly between March and June, so won't be as much of a hit. If I can do my creative time charging (ie not the exact order above), I calculated if I actually give birth on June 21, I will be back at work in early-ish November. The only portion that's technically not paid is those 2 weeks, but I will be getting a paycheck since it's prepaid.
That maternity leave is 80% of the reason I'm still at this job working 60-70 hour weeks the past month.
No paternity leave for DH- but he will be able to work from home for a week or two, which should help. After that, my parents will come and help for a week, and then my MIL and FIL will be here (not really looking forward to that part because they drive me up a wall).
Post by andreap525 on Feb 26, 2015 16:59:32 GMT -5
My employer is the bomb dot com. I could feasibly take four months off at 100% pay (but probably taking 3). I could take longer at 50% if I so choose, or divvy that up however I'd like.
MH on the other hand is eligible for FMLA, but unpaid. He gets 5 vacation days a year, and no paid sick time. So we might be able to do a week with him off, half vacation and half unpaid. It's really rotten, but my MIL will be with us for the first week, and then my mom will be with us for the second week. Still wish he could be with us for longer
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