So I've got a little bitchin I could do. So my Dad has some early onset dementia (even though he's only a few days shy of 65) to talk to him you can't see it, but it's obvious to family. So since him and my mom split I've been taking care of medical stuff and his insurance. Well for some reason he keeps signing up for damn life insurance, holy hell dad, how many lives do you have? Enough already!!!
This past fall he was scammed out of $2500 because he's so naive and bought into a fake scheme. He will buy anything, if the person sells him a good enough story or if he feels bad saying no. Luckily my brother got a college buddy to go after them with legal action and they returned everything. He won't give up access to his bank account so it's like monitoring a child with a debit card.
And I can't even drink lots of wine after he drives me crazy!
Post by purpledaisy923 on Feb 24, 2015 21:30:58 GMT -5
My bitch for the day: I work at a bank that is inside a Walmart. Do not come into the bank 5 minutes before we close wanting to open a new account. I've been here for 11 damn hours and I just want to go home! GTFO!
So I've got a little bitchin I could do. So my Dad has some early onset dementia (even though he's only a few days shy of 65) to talk to him you can't see it, but it's obvious to family. So since him and my mom split I've been taking care of medical stuff and his insurance. Well for some reason he keeps signing up for damn life insurance, holy hell dad, how many lives do you have? Enough already!!!
This past fall he was scammed out of $2500 because he's so naive and bought into a fake scheme. He will buy anything, if the person sells him a good enough story or if he feels bad saying no. Luckily my brother got a college buddy to go after them with legal action and they returned everything. He won't give up access to his bank account so it's like monitoring a child with a debit card.
And I can't even drink lots of wine after he drives me crazy!
Dealing with aging parents is really hard and dementia is a terrible disease. I know it wont get any easier for you or your family from here so, ::hugs:: and lots of wine (when appropriate).
juneroses *rat bastard co-workers* classic! cml112 that's sad about your Dad, and it sucks that people take advantage of the elderly or the sick. I worked in Finance for a long time and had to help several of my older clients who were scammed in one way or another.
Post by SweetieShellie on Feb 25, 2015 6:24:48 GMT -5
I don't mind the idea of a weekly thread like this to b*tch about whatever! Sometimes you need to about something but don't feel it's appropriate to do an AW post. Ppl have the option of not reading the thread if they aren't interested. 3TIF had one and it never changed the feel of the board IMO.
I got nothing to TP right now, except maybe m/s ... but it also keeps me sane having it so as much as it really sucks, it reminds me I'm still KU.
So I've got a little bitchin I could do. So my Dad has some early onset dementia (even though he's only a few days shy of 65) to talk to him you can't see it, but it's obvious to family. So since him and my mom split I've been taking care of medical stuff and his insurance. Well for some reason he keeps signing up for damn life insurance, holy hell dad, how many lives do you have? Enough already!!!
This past fall he was scammed out of $2500 because he's so naive and bought into a fake scheme. He will buy anything, if the person sells him a good enough story or if he feels bad saying no. Luckily my brother got a college buddy to go after them with legal action and they returned everything. He won't give up access to his bank account so it's like monitoring a child with a debit card.
And I can't even drink lots of wine after he drives me crazy!
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. We are going through something similar with my grandparents, who also refuse to give up their independence but are no longer capable to handle their money. Could you talk him into keeping a primary account without checking or a debit attached where bills are deducted monthly, and an "allowance" prepaid debit that will only go up to a certain amount? If he agreed, it might ease the transition while protecting his assets.
*snip* He won't give up access to his bank account so it's like monitoring a child with a debit card.
This is my dad too. He doesn't have dementia, but he had an accident just over 10 years ago that caused some brain damage, which just compounds all of the terrible financial decisions prior to that. Plus he's much more obstinate. It's so frustrating! He and my mom are still together, but she can't do anything about him, he completely bullies her and/or goes behind her back.
Personally, I like a weekly or biweekly bitchfest. I'm not the kind to start a new thread to complain about something relatively small (mostly because I don't want to annoy people- I think I'll always feel too new to do that, if that makes any sense). It's also given me a chance to commiserate with people going through similar things. Also, having one thread with complaints/bitches/frustrations is easier to avoid than multiple threads within the board, imho.
What about, as a compromise, a weekly/biweekly/what-have-you good things thread? Like Thankful Thursday (that was on 3T, I think?)? Not that anyone will stop someone from starting one, but maybe to just be aware that we should have a counter-thread or something as a standard? Like, if I see a Monday Bitchfest post, I (or anyone else) can make an effort to start a good things post over the next day or so?
Post by purpledaisy923 on Feb 25, 2015 10:33:51 GMT -5
I think I am more likely to participate in a weekly/bi-weekly bitch thread than I am to make an entire thread about one bitch that I have. I don't think there is any harm done. We are all still human, even if we are incredibly lucky to be PAIF, we still have complaints here or there. I like being able to vent every once in a while.
Just wanted to add my two cents fwiw. I like the idea of having a weekly "come here to bitch" post, it gives us a safe place we know we can come unload. And like some of the others said, I doubt I would ever start an AW thread just to bitch about something that's maybe not a huge deal and I think it's better to have it in once place rather than multiple posts.
You know what else I'd love to see? more GTKY (get to know you) threads every now and then. I think those are fun!
So I've got a little bitchin I could do. So my Dad has some early onset dementia (even though he's only a few days shy of 65) to talk to him you can't see it, but it's obvious to family. So since him and my mom split I've been taking care of medical stuff and his insurance. Well for some reason he keeps signing up for damn life insurance, holy hell dad, how many lives do you have? Enough already!!!
This past fall he was scammed out of $2500 because he's so naive and bought into a fake scheme. He will buy anything, if the person sells him a good enough story or if he feels bad saying no. Luckily my brother got a college buddy to go after them with legal action and they returned everything. He won't give up access to his bank account so it's like monitoring a child with a debit card.
And I can't even drink lots of wine after he drives me crazy!
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. We are going through something similar with my grandparents, who also refuse to give up their independence but are no longer capable to handle their money. Could you talk him into keeping a primary account without checking or a debit attached where bills are deducted monthly, and an "allowance" prepaid debit that will only go up to a certain amount? If he agreed, it might ease the transition while protecting his assets.
The best compromise I've been able to do is to make him check with me before he signs anything. So I get weird random phone calls from companies that want my approval and I have to back track and figure out what's going on and what he's trying to sign up for. At least that's easier than having to haggle with these companies to get him out of contracts or get $ back.
I'm sorry that some of you are going through this too with your dad/grandparents.
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