Post by lulurm on Feb 26, 2015 9:11:53 GMT -5
Hey fellow high risk mommas, I am interested in some other opinions/experience on this topic...
I am currently 17wks, 3days pregnant, and have had complications from the very beginning. We held off going public until we found out the sex at 16wks, but immediate family has known since the beginning. I admittedly had a hard time bonding with this pregnancy (I kept expecting it to end), and I felt terrible mommy guilt about that. In the past few weeks DH and I decided that we wanted to start actually acting like a pregnant couple! We bought a couple outfits for our DD, picked out nursery colors/theme, and bought a few things for it (valance, lamp, & a blanket). At this time with DS' pregnancy (back when I was in blissful ignorance, and it never even occurred to me that something could go wrong with his pregnancy), he had a completed nursery, small wardrobe, tons of handmedowns, etc. I don't want to go that all out, but I want to do some baby stuff. I will be devastated if we lose DD, regardless of whether or not we bought a few outfits and nursery pieces (I have receipts, but I'd probably keep the stuff anyway bc it was hers).
My annoyance is that while people do talk about and ask about my pregnancy, they are still "weird" about it. For example, my SIL gave me a hard time about spending money on DD already (we've spent like $150, big deal). But at this point with her kids she had already done everything, like I had for my first, which makes me feel like she thinks I just shouldn't spend money on THIS pregnancy. Also, my parents are going to buy us a few things (like a changing table), which they said they'd buy when they come visit at her birth, but with DS they bought us a nursery kit online (crib, table, dresser, etc) and had it sent to our house right at the end of first tri. Same with handmedowns, multiple people have said they have hmds all ready for us (which I'm grateful for), and that they'll give them to us this summer (even if they gave them to us now, I would return them if the worst happened)...
Maybe I'm sensitive (actually, I know I am), but I feel like a lot of people aren't counting on this pregnancy, and that sucks! I appreciate the caution, but I have a daughter (whether or not we get to bring her home), so ACT LIKE IT! Does anyone else feel like this?
I am currently 17wks, 3days pregnant, and have had complications from the very beginning. We held off going public until we found out the sex at 16wks, but immediate family has known since the beginning. I admittedly had a hard time bonding with this pregnancy (I kept expecting it to end), and I felt terrible mommy guilt about that. In the past few weeks DH and I decided that we wanted to start actually acting like a pregnant couple! We bought a couple outfits for our DD, picked out nursery colors/theme, and bought a few things for it (valance, lamp, & a blanket). At this time with DS' pregnancy (back when I was in blissful ignorance, and it never even occurred to me that something could go wrong with his pregnancy), he had a completed nursery, small wardrobe, tons of handmedowns, etc. I don't want to go that all out, but I want to do some baby stuff. I will be devastated if we lose DD, regardless of whether or not we bought a few outfits and nursery pieces (I have receipts, but I'd probably keep the stuff anyway bc it was hers).
My annoyance is that while people do talk about and ask about my pregnancy, they are still "weird" about it. For example, my SIL gave me a hard time about spending money on DD already (we've spent like $150, big deal). But at this point with her kids she had already done everything, like I had for my first, which makes me feel like she thinks I just shouldn't spend money on THIS pregnancy. Also, my parents are going to buy us a few things (like a changing table), which they said they'd buy when they come visit at her birth, but with DS they bought us a nursery kit online (crib, table, dresser, etc) and had it sent to our house right at the end of first tri. Same with handmedowns, multiple people have said they have hmds all ready for us (which I'm grateful for), and that they'll give them to us this summer (even if they gave them to us now, I would return them if the worst happened)...
Maybe I'm sensitive (actually, I know I am), but I feel like a lot of people aren't counting on this pregnancy, and that sucks! I appreciate the caution, but I have a daughter (whether or not we get to bring her home), so ACT LIKE IT! Does anyone else feel like this?