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[Rama]

Mar 2, 2015 14:32:08 GMT -5 snakefisherbub said:

It's really hard to tag on mobile but I'm thinking of you all! I want to give you hugs and wish you good luck.

Afm: I miscarried on Friday/Saturday. I have to make a appointment with my RE for an ultrasound. Make sure my uterine cavity looks good and measure my Hcg back to zero. She said when I get to zero we can try again. So I just hope we get there quickly.

*big hugs*  Here's hoping everything looks good when you get into see your RE and you aren't benched for long/at all. <3

[Cythe]

Thinking of you snakefisherbub. Many hugs to you.

[ldubhawksfan]

((Hugs)) snakefisherbub

[mainewifey]

snakefisherbub, Sorry for your loss. Hugs.

[kawaiikitsune]

*hugs* snakefisherbub

[joy]

::hugs:: to snakefisherbub!

I just got back from my follow up RE appointment. I like him. We're officially unexplained, pending a semen analysis for my husband. He recommended clomid + ovidrel + IUI. I was honest and said that I felt overwhelmed by that and asked if for the first cycle if I could just do clomid. He said "Sure!" and followed with "We can get some baseline information on how you respond to clomid with that, too. That's totally fine." Phew - thanks for being so understanding.

He did give me some very interesting statistics that saddened me, however. Given that it's been so long for us, we're not operating at a 20% chance every cycle and are probably hovering more around a 5% chance. That was sobering. He also told me that my chance of success with IVF currently sits at 50% while clomid with IUI is more like 12%. Fascinating. And crazy. And real. I appreciated the realism. A lot.

So, now I have a prescription of clomid sitting at CVS waiting for my next cycle. Followed by several ultrasounds to monitor follicles and lining.

I can't believe I'm here.

[lilsneezy]

cateyes Congrats on the new job! FX that the Letrozole works for you this cycle!

@strings GL with your SHG tomorrow!

FX babycowbell longhornwino0907 @diordra ldubhawksfan kaliRN

heatherj9603 GL with your surgery!

Cythe Welcome. I'm sorry you found yourself here but I hope you get some answers soon!

Rama I wouldn't think you're crazy for getting CD3 blood work done if you never had it before. FX for good results!

snakefisherbub Big hugs to you. FX for getting to zero quickly.

AFM, I'm on CD14 of cycle 19. Nothing too exciting to report. Just curious if anyone saw the article that mugster posted last week about how accurate BBT is? I thought it was a pretty interesting read. Here's the link in case anyone missed it.

QOTW: I had a breast augmentation, my wisdom teeth removed, and a hysteroscopy and D&C to remove a polyp in my uterus.

[longhornwino0907]

((hugs)) to you, snakefisherbub; take care of yourself.

((hugs)) Cythe. I'm sorry you find yourself here, but welcome and best of luck

joy, our RE was very realistic with our stats as well. And while it is sobering, it's really good to know where you stand. Helps temper expectations, I think. I was also glad that my RE let us do Femara+IUI first. In fact, that was his initial suggestion, and that we would move on to injectables only after three failed IUI attempts with Femara only. Doing more than just this would have overwhelmed me, too, I think.

[lilsneezy]

Mar 2, 2015 15:33:53 GMT -5 joy said:

::hugs:: to snakefisherbub!

I just got back from my follow up RE appointment. I like him. We're officially unexplained, pending a semen analysis for my husband. He recommended clomid + ovidrel + IUI. I was honest and said that I felt overwhelmed by that and asked if for the first cycle if I could just do clomid. He said "Sure!" and followed with "We can get some baseline information on how you respond to clomid with that, too. That's totally fine." Phew - thanks for being so understanding.

He did give me some very interesting statistics that saddened me, however. Given that it's been so long for us, we're not operating at a 20% chance every cycle and are probably hovering more around a 5% chance. That was sobering. He also told me that my chance of success with IVF currently sits at 50% while clomid with IUI is more like 12%. Fascinating. And crazy. And real. I appreciated the realism. A lot.

So, now I have a prescription of clomid sitting at CVS waiting for my next cycle. Followed by several ultrasounds to monitor follicles and lining.

I can't believe I'm here.

My RE gave me those same statistics at my followup appointment and it definitely made me ugly cry on the way home. FX that Clomid does the trick for you!

[twinkie0612]

Hi ladies! I've been so busy at work, I haven't had much time to check in here.

So I am gearing up for FET 2.1 (or first attempt at FET 2 was cancelled in January due to lining issues). I had my SIS 2 weeks ago to look for any lining abnormalities and of course my RE sees something. I am going in for a hysteroscopy on Wednesday. I had the same thing happen last September and the abnormality ended up being a really large polyp and a few smaller polyps, which my RE removed. She was actually really surprised to see anything on the SIS this time since my SIS was clear in December. She said she wasn't sure if she would do another polypectomy if she finds a polyp (and just take more tissue around the polyp) or do a full D&C. I guess I'll find out on Wednesday.

I did get a little good news. The hematologist cleared me and I only need to follow up with him as needed (pretty sure it wasn't really needed the first time, but my RI was being thorough). I also finally (FX) have my insurance stuff straightened out from my hysterscopy anesthesia from September. I was supposed to have an out-of-network exception for the ambulatory anesthesia, but my insurance company was dicking me around giving multiple different excuses on why it was denied. The anesthesia office finally got it straightened out (after I made several phone calls to them and to the insurance company trying to figure out what the hell was going on). It was in there best interest to make the call since if I paid OOP, I would have paid $500 (cash discount on a $2,500 claim), but the insurance negotiated the claim down to $1,000 and since I had hit my OOP max for 2014 they are paying the entire amount. The anesthesia company actually is getting an extra $500. Hopefully everything will work out with this hysterscopy anesthesia as well.

QOTD: I've never had a "real" surgery (ie requiring an incision), but I have had a hysterscopy/polypectomy last September and I have had 4 egg retreivals. Also as I mentioned I am having another hysterscopy on Wednesday. I will have been under anesthesia a total of 6 times. Once when I was in grade school to set a broken arm (it was a really bad break), once for a colonoscopy (they also biopsied a lesion), 4 egg retrievals, and now 2 hysteroscopy/polypectomies.

[cmac827]

1 year off BCP. DH told me last night he's tired of TTC and just wants me KU.
This cycle has been weird. I usually O between days 16-18 with a 15 day luteal phase. This month I ovulated on day 14 and now it's day 21 and I think I'm starting my period. As soon as I start, I'm calling the OB and insisting on a referral to the RE.
QOTW- I had a tonsillectomy, adenoidectomy, and tubes at age 3. I've also had 2 laparoscopies for my endometriosis.

[babycowbell]

joy those rates sound close to what I was told too. I was told 2% chance each month on natural cycles but maybe that's because we're past the 18 month mark (can't remember your cycle #). What I found more encouraging was looking at the cumulative success rates for IUI versus the per cycle success rates. I saw a few articles that put the cumulative success rate at around 50% based on 3-6 cycles of clomid + IUI, for unexplained IF under age 35. So I keep telling myself I've got a 50/50 chance of being pregnant in the next six months, which doesn't sound so bad.

Good luck!

[Daikoku]

Hugs snakefisherbub

joy Out of curiosity (and concern)... are you going to wait to take clomid until your H's SA results come back? I'm asking because my RE originally suggested that I start meds, but I waited until H's results came back and it turns out that he's the one who needs clomid, not me. Seeing as how it's a pretty serious drug and I care about you as a person, I thought I'd bring it up. On another note, I'm so glad you're getting answers and starting to formulate a plan that you're comfortable with. There's nothing better than an RE who is on your side.

[kariann12]

Big hugs snakefisherbub.

Sorry you're here Cythe. But you're in good company.

Yay Rama, I'm glad your body decided to get its shit together!

Hugs joy! I can't believe I'm at this point either. Its hard to swallow some days, for me at least.

Hugs to anyone that needs them, I have a terrible memory today.

AFM, I'm sitting at 11dpo and expecting AF tomorrow or Wednesday. MH had promised that he would have his SA done before cd1, which he still hasn't done. So we have no chance to start treatments next cycle. As soon as cd1 comes I'm gonna to bitch out have a serious talk with MH. Its such bullshit. I held up my end of the bargain and got poked & prodded, its time he does his part.

/rant

[joy]

Mar 2, 2015 17:31:31 GMT -5 Daikoku said:

Hugs snakefisherbub

joy Out of curiosity (and concern)... are you going to wait to take clomid until your H's SA results come back? I'm asking because my RE originally suggested that I start meds, but I waited until H's results came back and it turns out that he's the one who needs clomid, not me. Seeing as how it's a pretty serious drug and I care about you as a person, I thought I'd bring it up. On another note, I'm so glad you're getting answers and starting to formulate a plan that you're comfortable with. There's nothing better than an RE who is on your side.

Don't worry! The plan is clomid for a cycle followed by clomid + IUI assuming his SA is normal. If it's low or very poor, we will adjust that plan. But no drugs for me until his SA results are in.

[Daikoku]

joy I figured you had it all worked out. Good luck as you move forward.

[Stringy]

Hugs snakefisherbub, and everyone else trying to come to terms with needing interventions to get where we all want to be.

SHG was good this morning, despite the fact that no speculums (specula?) fit me well so we had to do that part 3 times, and then the saline wouldn't go in so they had to do some other bulb inflation thing to keep it in there. So it took a while but it wasn't too painful. Everything looked good - no blockages or polyps or abnormalities. There were quite a few follicles in there so she said my ovarian reserve was fine. They were all still small so she said to wait a few days before coming back (i'm on day 10 today).

I asked about the trigger shot and she said there are no risks of multiples from that (since I'm not on clomid or any other meds) other than the normal/baseline risk that anyone has. So I'm leaning towards it now. Everything else has looked clear so maybe it is just a timing issue - which that would obviously help with.

For a few of you above ( joy, longhornwino0907,) who said you were starting with clomid and waiting on injectables, can I ask the reason? Or by injectables can that mean something different from than the trigger shot and I just don't know about it yet? Or is it because it does up the risks when used with clomid? Or are you trying to go step by step and not all out as you get more comfortable with this process? That is where I am/was - but if there are really no side effects for me to triggering, I may just do it. (except the whole, giving yourself a shot thing)

[longhornwino0907]

Mar 3, 2015 11:30:16 GMT -5 Stringy said:

[snip]

For a few of you above ( joy, longhornwino0907,) who said you were starting with clomid and waiting on injectables, can I ask the reason? Or by injectables can that mean something different from than the trigger shot and I just don't know about it yet? Or is it because it does up the risks when used with clomid? Or are you trying to go step by step and not all out as you get more comfortable with this process? That is where I am/was - but if there are really no side effects for me to triggering, I may just do it. (except the whole, giving yourself a shot thing)

H and I have decided to take a small break between Femara-only cycles and Femara+trigger cycles. For financial reasons, but also for emotional reasons. It's hard to wrap our brains around needing this kind of medical intervention. Back when we started TTC, we figured we'd have our little one by now. And it's hard to know that we've been lapped by a few people, and that we're needing help. It's just the choice we've made as a couple, it's what will work for us.

GL to you!

[mainewifey]

Mar 2, 2015 18:13:44 GMT -5 kariann12 said:

AFM, I'm sitting at 11dpo and expecting AF tomorrow or Wednesday. MH had promised that he would have his SA done before cd1, which he still hasn't done. So we have no chance to start treatments next cycle. As soon as cd1 comes I'm gonna to bitch out have a serious talk with MH. Its such bullshit. I held up my end of the bargain and got poked & prodded, its time he does his part.

/rant

It's been like pulling teeth to get H to go anything in the time frame that I would like it to happen. He waited until the last possible day to fill out our RE referral forms and took some convincing to do the SA in a reasonable amount of time.  He says it's not an indication of not wanting to move forward with testing/treatment, just an indication of how sucky he thinks it is that we have to do any of it.

[joy]

Mar 3, 2015 11:30:16 GMT -5 Stringy said:

For a few of you above ( joy, longhornwino0907,) who said you were starting with clomid and waiting on injectables, can I ask the reason? Or by injectables can that mean something different from than the trigger shot and I just don't know about it yet? Or is it because it does up the risks when used with clomid? Or are you trying to go step by step and not all out as you get more comfortable with this process? That is where I am/was - but if there are really no side effects for me to triggering, I may just do it. (except the whole, giving yourself a shot thing)

My RE wanted clomid (make better eggs, improve progesterone levels) + IUI (higher changes of success, bypassing the cervix) + trigger (time the IUI with the trigger instead of using OPKs to predict ovulation, hCG lasts longer in the system so it can help sustain things, as well).  Triggering removes a lot of guesswork in planning the IUI timing and could potentially improve outcome.

For me who is struggling with the idea of interventions, three interventions at once felt like too much to me.  I specifically asked him about my limit on clomid cycles and he isn't as rigid about six cycles per lifetime as I've read on here.  He's fine with my just doing one intervention and having sex as normal to see what happens.  I'm comfortable with that.

[goldenlove3]

Hi ladies. Unfortunately, I found out on Thursday that I had an ectopic pregnancy. It's been a rough few days. Not sure how much I'll be around but wanted to let you know that I'm back.

[mainewifey]

goldenlove3, I'm so sorry.

[lilsneezy]

I'm so sorry goldenlove3. Sending you lots of T&P.

[Rama]

Mar 3, 2015 14:52:25 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

Hi ladies. Unfortunately, I found out on Thursday that I had an ectopic pregnancy. It's been a rough few days. Not sure how much I'll be around but wanted to let you know that I'm back.

Oh my god, I am so, so sorry.  *big hugs*  Take all the time you need to take care of yourself.  All of your feelings are completely valid and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[lovegrilledcheese]

goldenlove3 big hugs do you I am so sorry for your loss.
Cythe I am sorry that you have to join us. Hopefully you will be able to get an RE referral soon.
@rama yay for a natural cycle going well
snakefisherbub I am so sorry for your loss.

[joy]

::hugs:: goldenlove3

[heatherj9603]

I'm benched until September now. Ugh.

[Rama]

Mar 3, 2015 17:49:15 GMT -5 heatherj9603 said:

I'm benched until September now. Ugh.

What? Why? What a bummer... :/

[heatherj9603]

Mar 3, 2015 17:58:58 GMT -5 Rama said:

Mar 3, 2015 17:49:15 GMT -5 heatherj9603 said:

I'm benched until September now. Ugh.

What? Why? What a bummer... :/

I have a post in 3t. But basically she needs my surgery scar to heal internally longer. She thought initially wed be fine to ttc after 2 months. But it's located right by my cervix so from what she said "it's the worst spot to have a fibroid". 

[ldubhawksfan]

Mar 3, 2015 14:52:25 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

Hi ladies. Unfortunately, I found out on Thursday that I had an ectopic pregnancy. It's been a rough few days. Not sure how much I'll be around but wanted to let you know that I'm back.

Oh no. I'm so sorry goldenlove3. Take care of yourself.