Tuesday Rants, Moans and Whines...

[nettje]

Joolschweets have you tried to google the hospital that you will be delivering at? Sometimes (I know at my hospital, they do) they will have a virtual tour available. My hospital no longer does tours as they are too busy to accommodate people coming into the ward so they've set up an online virtual tour.

Are you in a smaller community? Sometimes there may only be a couple of OBs who deliver and therefore are very rushed. When I was pregnant with DD, we lived in a community that had only 2 OBs who delivered and many times we were rushed or had very late appointments. It's definitely frustrating.

Here is a website for Canadian midwives. On the right hand side they have a search bar to find a midwife in your part of Canada. Hope this helps and good luck!!
www.canadianmidwives.org

ETA: no rants or raves today. Just this cold. And DD thought 1:30 was a good time ti watch Dora. F that noise. It will be a long day.

[mathistm]

Lord help me with a baby. My dog woke up with an upset tummy today. We know she needs to either eat some grass or sleep it off when this happens. There's no chance of getting to grass so I scratched her belly and back for an hour so she would give up the fight and fall asleep. A few minutes after she finally did, maintenance rang the goddamn doorbell to ask me if our neighbor moved out and why she never picked up her mail. What the actual fuck?! Tears. So many tearssss.

[turtletyme]

Holy shit pbubblegum! I know it's hard to be a small business owner, and people ask the dumbest questions, but yours was perfectly reasonable. This lady sounds nuts! The pricing to me is insane, also. I love spray paint because I am a disaster with a paint brush, but my DH said he doesn't need any with our current projects (it all has to match, so he said regular interior paint only.) If you can find a place to do it (which I know could be a problem), if you are in a ventilated area, I have never found it too fumey, plus the best part of spray paint is it goes really fast.

[wink568]

Mar 3, 2015 10:33:52 GMT -5 pbubblegum said:

I thought I would share this with you gals. The plan is to buy a white crib and get it spray painted turquoise. We can't do this ourselves because we live in a tiny condo and DH works/travels a lot so he's basically useless for chores and I'm not crafty + paint fumes. I emailed this company that specializes in spray painting furniture and their pricing on the website ranges from $275-$755 for cribs. After she quoted me $655 I asked why it was on the higher side of their pricing scale. I thought this was a fair question. Below is the response I got I got:

"It's important that you read all the information on the website, all the answers are located there and for a reason.
First we have a minimum charge for any item that starts at $450 + $55 for lacquer plus tax, clearly stated on the website.
Second the 10% discount applies to items over $700 + lacquer + tax

As I stated time determines the charges, it's really that simple.
I don't feel the need to explain the entire process in order to try and justify my pricing, I just don't have time for that, I have taken a considerable amount of time to explain a great deal on the website so I don't have to repeat myself with every quote request I get and I get far more than I can handle.
I am sorry.
The price is what it is.

I am not interested in continuing a conversation that is going no where, I am repeating myself.
With all due respect please find someone else to do this work, I am no longer interested."



Rude!!!! But also very funny. How does she stay in business?

Wow... I'd be leaving a bad review so fast her head spins.  I mean, if it's really so much work for her to send you info that's already probably buried somewhere on the website, there's this lovely tool called copy & paste.

[wormgerm]

Today is my nephew's first birthday. I baby sit him full time. Yesterday my sister stayed home with him because he was up all night puking and dry heaving. Today I got there and he was a limp noodle (falling asleep) and wanted NOTHING to do with me. He took a nap while she ran to work to print some important documents. While she was gone he woke up crying, still wanted nothing to do with me. I gave him some droppers of Pedialyte per her instructions. He saw his cup of water and sobbed for it. I gave him his water. He sucked it down because he's so thirsty and then BAM. Projectile vomit all over him and me. So she came home, talked to the dr (basically just wait it out and keep doing small does of fluids) and I left. On my ride home I got a picture of him in the tub that said he threw up on mommy too.

I feel so bad for him. Seriously so pathetic. What a crummy birthday! He's such a sweet boy. Between fits of crying I got him to read a few books and we had a quick round of peekaboo. Breaks my heart.

Edit: also I had to sit in her house top less and with puke-damp maternity pants up to my bra. What a vision of beauty! Came home, took a quick shower and had to dry off with my wet towel from a few hours ago.

Tl;dr: Nephew is throwing up and miserable on his first birthday (and the day before)

[Deleted]

Mar 3, 2015 10:33:52 GMT -5 pbubblegum said:

I thought I would share this with you gals. The plan is to buy a white crib and get it spray painted turquoise. We can't do this ourselves because we live in a tiny condo and DH works/travels a lot so he's basically useless for chores and I'm not crafty + paint fumes. I emailed this company that specializes in spray painting furniture and their pricing on the website ranges from $275-$755 for cribs. After she quoted me $655 I asked why it was on the higher side of their pricing scale. I thought this was a fair question. Below is the response I got I got:

"It's important that you read all the information on the website, all the answers are located there and for a reason.
First we have a minimum charge for any item that starts at $450 + $55 for lacquer plus tax, clearly stated on the website.
Second the 10% discount applies to items over $700 + lacquer + tax

As I stated time determines the charges, it's really that simple.
I don't feel the need to explain the entire process in order to try and justify my pricing, I just don't have time for that, I have taken a considerable amount of time to explain a great deal on the website so I don't have to repeat myself with every quote request I get and I get far more than I can handle.
I am sorry.
The price is what it is.

I am not interested in continuing a conversation that is going no where, I am repeating myself.
With all due respect please find someone else to do this work, I am no longer interested."



Rude!!!! But also very funny. How does she stay in business?

What the actual fuck? You should totally leave a bad review with her email copied into it. How unprofessional and rude! 

You're better off putting an add in craigslist (do you guys have that in Canada?) and finding someone you can pay $50-$100 to do the work for you (just include the supplies). I'm sure you can find someone willing to do the job in their backyard or something. 

[Deleted]

My random/bitch of the day is that we have a relatively new Tax Consultant in our office and she sent me an email this morning saying she needed me to run her 2 different reports for over 100 cases (so over 200 different reports!) and she needed those reports ASAP. Well first of all, I don't work for her - I'm in a different department. Second of all, I'm in the middle of another project. And third, when I brought it up to my supervisor she said "absolutely do not do that, that is NOT our procedure".

Apparently this consultant likes to give people long lists of useless shit to do. Fortunately my supervisor said she would deal with the consultant for me.

That's all for now - I have to get back to work!

[wegrowsheep]

I have never had a big enough house to set up a dedicated nursery. I know, first world problems. But sometimes I really wish we could afford to spread out a little because pinterest makes it all look so fun and cute.
On the plus side, my small house cleans up fast.

Also, when our house was broken into back in November (while we were moving in), nothing especially valuable was taken, they just grabbed some boxes and made a giant mess. But my little tool box had all the hardware for my daughter's day bed, our large kitchen table, and our crib. Ironically, we didn't have room to set up any of it, but still....fuckers.

[beersandweirs]

Why must the guy who sits near me at work always eat very weird smelling food for breakfast?! It's one thing to have it for lunch, but who wants to smell that in the morning and for the rest of the day?

[Widget123]

pbubblegum at that price, you might as well go out and buy a turquoise crib from the get-go. But I'm sure you will be able to find someone who can paint it for cheaper. Or maybe a family member or friend could help you out?

[Deleted]

Another annoying travel day ahead to Little Rock! After almost getting stuck on Friday due to ice (luckily made it home after 5 hours in the airport - thank you
Southwest!), there is already ice predicted to hit Little Rock tomorrow afternoon so I'm already mentally preparing to have to spend an extra night there which I really don't want to do. Especially since I leave again on Friday for my best friend's bachelorette weekend. Why did I do this to myself?!

I'm ready for Spring....

[Widget123]

also sad to hear your stories: wormgerm - I hope he gets better soon! wegrowsheep -I've never had someone break into my residence, I would be so irritated if they took those things!

[upandbelow]

My complaints are all on the work front - I'm having problems meeting the needs of the ASKS that are coming to me - be it misunderstanding of requests, or not enough details.  It's making me look bad and I'm getting frustrated.  Additionally we have new staff members that are needing additional support.  While I understand this, I'm finding it hard to balance their needs and my own.  Plus I feel gross all the time, so that doesn't help with my moods.

Edited because I had a slight panic attack at the idea of someone from work reading my post.

[erbear]

I was supposed to have parent-teacher conferences today and no one showed up. I dressed up for nothing!

[brennaz]

I swear I'm going to send my husband to a hotel. He is on my last nerve for everything lately, even the way he sleeps. And only some of it is within his control (like calling his old employer about his W-2 so I can see how far in the hole we are for taxes!!). Seriously, I am constantly mad at him lately, even when he's not around. Is this a new pregnancy thing??

Also, I wish MIL would stop texting me asking me what we want her to buy for the baby. DH already told her we set up a registry as a shopping list, so she could feel free to browse & shop off it if she wants to buy something. Instead, she keeps asking what we want/need. I finally texted her back and basically said if it's on the registry, we still want/need it. Now she's texting me asking if she can access the registry online, if she can print it out, etc. This, ladies, is my MIL, who is the vice president of a mortgage company. What's with the stupid questions??

[veggiemo]

pbubblegum, What. the. hell. I have never seen anything like that! I probably would have cried when I got that email! I'm so sorry!

My rant is a repeat rant. I can't find any boy names I like. I think I've heard every name on the planet and I don't like anything. I'm so frustrated!!!

[junch817]

About every 2 or 3 weeks, I decide to splurge for a coffee (iced or frappichino - I don't like regular coffee) and tell myself that the taste will be worth the upset stomach I will inevitably get. And everytime after, today included, I tell myself nope, wasn't worth it. Feel terrible for the rest of the day. I hate it. I just wish I could have coffee every once in a while without being sick for the rest of the day!! I hate it!

[wink568]

Went out to lunch and ordered a Kale Salad. The menu said: Chopped Kale Salad red cabbage, dried currants, chickpeas, vinaigrette. Sounded perfect to me. Shows up at the table piled high with chunks of chicken. The menu didn't even have an option to add chicken. Spent half my time picking out chunks of cold chicken. I hate cold meat in salads. Otherwise, it was a very good salad, though.

[wink568]

Mar 3, 2015 14:51:46 GMT -5 pbubblegum said:

Mar 3, 2015 14:15:28 GMT -5 wink568 said:

Send it back!

We only had an hour lunch, so I didn't want to get stuck waiting for them to prepare another salad.  I wish the place didn't have automatic gratuity for large groups, because I would have happily been stingy on that front.

[neongreen]

Oh my god, work today. I can't even. It was a deposition for a car accident case, and apparently they've been trying to track down this witness for two years. She didn't have any child care, so she had to bring her young toddler son (I'm bad with ages, maybe around 18 months?) in with her. She did the best she could with bottles and some toys, and the attorney from her insurance company helped out when he could, but there were periods of time where this kid was just screaming bloody murder. Screaming. Which, to be fair, I can't really blame him for since the deposition would have been a lot shorter if the plaintiff's attorney hadn't mentally been on another planet, but considering it's my job to get down a verbatim record of the proceedings...oy. At one point, my computer got hit by a flung bottle (mostly empty, thank goodness), and I also got hit in the leg with a flying toy.

My boss had been joking around with me when the kid was being a little fussy in the lobby while we were all waiting to get started, the standard "this is what you have to look forward to!" At the end of the deposition, when we all came out of the room (which is near her desk), she was just looking at me like . When everyone else was gone, she said if she had gold stars to offer people, she would have given me two, and apologized for not being able to give me hazard pay. It was THAT bad. I can only imagine what the people in the other conference rooms must have been thinking.

[veggiemo]

Mar 3, 2015 14:15:28 GMT -5 wink568 said:

Went out to lunch and ordered a Kale Salad. The menu said: Chopped Kale Salad red cabbage, dried currants, chickpeas, vinaigrette. Sounded perfect to me. Shows up at the table piled high with chunks of chicken. The menu didn't even have an option to add chicken. Spent half my time picking out chunks of cold chicken. I hate cold meat in salads. Otherwise, it was a very good salad, though.

Not cool! I don't eat meat, so I wouldn't have been happy. Although I've gotten into the habit of double checking when I order a salad, just saying "there's no meat, correct?" because a lot of times restaurants will add bacon on their house salad and not specify it's there. Buuuut...it's not the waitstaff's fault if the menu isn't clear so I probably wouldn't have held it against him/her. ETA: I know that you didn't OP, you just said you might have had you been given the opportunity.

[Deleted]

Ugh, new travel vent. There is a teenager sitting at the gate near me who keeps coughing without covering his mouth. I am thiiiis close to saying something. HOW do people not have common sense manners anymore?!

[tulips114]

TMI warning...

My 2 y/o has had diarrhea since Sunday morning, and someone at her daycare had shigella. So she can't return to day care without a Dr. note that she's clear of that. Also, shigella, gross. I'm so fed up with the toddler room at this daycare. My oldest spent pretty much her whole year in that room sick, and now this. As soon as DD1 was out of the room she stopped getting sick. DD2 has just about 3-4 more months. We'll be looking into other options for this LO. The thing is that all the other rooms and teachers, including the infant room, are really good. And this was the best place that is close to my house and my work. I even like the teachers in the toddler room, I think the problem is there are just too many kids.

[wink568]

veggiemo, valid point.

At least chicken is easier to pick off a salad than bacon. I hate bacon too (because I'm not human), so I'm always reluctant to order house salads.

[schnurette]

Mar 3, 2015 8:54:04 GMT -5 Joolschweets said:

Tuesday always seems to be my ranty day...but I thought I'd kick things off. Please come on in and moan away!

Mine is a medical rant, I'm just not having the best experience with Drs and hospitals right now. I'm a FTM and also a relative newcomer to Canada, so sometimes I don't find the healthcare system that easy to understand at the best of times. (whoa and I thought the UK loved their red tape!!) When I got my BFP, I didn't know where to go so I asked friends, in-laws etc and decided to stick with my doc and an OB. Biggest mistake I've ever made, really wish I'd gone with a midwife, but had no idea how to do this over here and didn't realize what a different experience it probably would have been. 

First off, at my BFP my GP told me he "didnt deal with pregnant women" so I went to my OB, who was lovely but I saw her maybe 4 times before she told me she "didn't deal with women past 20 weeks" so she "assigned" me (her exact words) to a Dr at the hosp. Now I go to see this Dr once a month who, again, is very nice but I see her for a total of 4 minutes, usually after waiting for 90 minutes (2 hours last appointment). She rushes everything and I have zero chance to ask questions, I wanted to ask questions about L&D last time and she told me to save it until a later appointment b/c it's not something we need to talk about yet. Er, ok, I need to talk about it soon for my sanity. I asked about hospital tours and nope, the hosps in this region don't do them. So how the hell do you find anything out?? To cap it off, at my last appt this week, she was supposed to do the GD test, but b/c the appt was 2 hours late, she gave me my 4 minutes, told me we didn't have time for the test and sent me to a lab this week to get it done instead. When I had my anatomy scan, there was a portion of baby's brain they needed to rescan (I was trying not to freak out - they just needed a better look) but I only just found out THIS WEEK that all was a-ok. The rescan was 4 weeks ago. She has no direct number to contact when you have an issue, want to find results etc...is this a normal thing?


I have no family over here, so no older female relatives to try and ask these questions to so I'm just starting to get so anxious about everything, to the point where I've been starting to have anxiety attacks. I know that I'm lucky to have the free healthcare and I get it, I'm not special and there's plenty of women in the same situation as me but I just feel like I can't really prepare for what's going to happen when I go into labour, even though I'm frantically trying to find out the information. The only thing I can say is thank god for signing up to prenatal classes, I'm learning way more from them and a least the nurse has a little more time to field my (and other) stooopid FTM questions and has helped me develop some ideas for a brief birth plan. Im just so bloody frustrated at myself for not doing more research into the kinds of care and so frustrated at being passed from pillar to post! This week it's just all come to a head and I feel totally alone and unprepared. (I'm also a little homesick so I think this makes it a little more acute this week...) Phew, I feel a touch better after ranting at least

Tl; dr - passed from pillar to post by drs, appointments are so short there's no chance to ask any questions. Feeling a little lost and not equipped with much knowledge for l&d.

This does not sound normal to me. I am in Canada (Ontario) and my general practitioner takes care of me until 30+ weeks, when I am referred to whatever doctor I want for delivery. I then meet with that doctor until it's go time. If I wanted a vaginal delivery I would have to take whatever doctor is on call but as I am doing a scheduled c-section I get to stick with the same doctor for my appointments and for delivery. Hospital tours are part of the registration process (I have to register with the hospital that I want to deliver with).

All of my blood work (including the GD test) are done through a lab. None of that is done by my doctors office. The only thing they do is check my urine every time I'm there.

I do feel like the wait time / appointment time are a little off - like I'm sitting here for over an hour to see you for 10 minutes. Thanks?

My doctors office was good to call me back about the follow up u/s that I had but I had met with my doctor the day before I went in for the follow up and he knew I was freaked out about it so he had the nurse call me once they got the all clear. With my GD test - which I was also freaked out about - I had to wait until I went in for my appointment to get the results (I called and asked and was told they would discuss it with me at my appointment...)

It seems weird that your doctor would refer you to a doctor who had to refer you to a doctor...that makes no sense to me. That said - when I was pregnant with DD my doctor referred me to the doctor I chose, who then went on holidays like a week before I was due and I ended up seeing a different doctor I had never heard of, and then was sent to another hospital to deliver my baby by the doctor who was on call the day I went in for blood work. So I ended up seeing 2 extra doctors plus all the doctors (4?) at the other hospital that I didn't have anything to do with until they sent me there as an emergency.

[schnurette]

Mar 3, 2015 13:47:23 GMT -5 junch817 said:

About every 2 or 3 weeks, I decide to splurge for a coffee (iced or frappichino - I don't like regular coffee) and tell myself that the taste will be worth the upset stomach I will inevitably get. And everytime after, today included, I tell myself nope, wasn't worth it. Feel terrible for the rest of the day. I hate it. I just wish I could have coffee every once in a while without being sick for the rest of the day!! I hate it!

Pizza. Pizza does this. I got some for lunch today and feel like death.

[Deleted]

I've got one more bitch for today...

I dropped my car off at the dealership over the weekend because the "check engine" light came on. I have a warranty on the car and today the service guy tells me that the *particular* service I need is not covered under the warranty. Then he proceeds to give me an outrageous price to do the repairs on the car. Thankfully my DH is confident in his auto repair skills, so he's going to try to fix the problem himself. But seriously - I am so annoyed with the car people right now. I feel like they purposely try to screw me over because I'm a woman and don't know anything about cars.

[Widget123]

Mar 3, 2015 13:40:19 GMT -5 veggiemo said:

pbubblegum, What. the. hell. I have never seen anything like that! I probably would have cried when I got that email! I'm so sorry!

My rant is a repeat rant. I can't find any boy names I like. I think I've heard every name on the planet and I don't like anything. I'm so frustrated!!!

Have you been over to the name board? I dont remember if ive seen you over there or not

[billyhorrible]

This is long, so feel free to skip.

Background: My inlaws are awful, disgusting people. I'll stick to the relevant parts. My FIL was a Catholic priest until he was almost 40 when he quit because he wanted a family. Honestly, I don't think he wanted a family as much as he vainly wanted to pass his name down, because he married my MIL who already had a 8 year old son and has made it clear he's never considered BIL to be "his son." (He was so excited for our child because it was his "first grandchild" even though BIL has 2 kids). So they had DH when my MIL had already checked out of the whole "mom" phase. They never paid attention to DH (according to his best friends who have said they always felt bad that he was dying for attention his parents never gave.) He admits the only time his father ever paid attention to him was when trying to get him into private Catholic school because DH's grades were too poor, so FIL worked with him to improve grades and brought them to the schools to help admittance. Things got worse when DH didn't get confirmed at 16 because he had some questions about Catholicism and the church. DH thinks the relationship with his parents got worse when he chose to go away to college instead of staying home. They definitely got worse when he started dating me, because I'm Jewish. When he told them he was going to marry me and raise our children Jewish they almost disowned him.

When my son was born, they came to visit and stayed at a hotel. We asked that they didn't come over every day before noon, to give us time to get some sleep, get adjusted and get prepared for visitors. They complained they were bored because of this. When they did come over they tried to "help" by cooking, but they don't do leftovers or use leftover ingredients, so they brought new ingredients every day and by the end of the week my refrigerator was filled with molding veggies. They never clean up after themselves, don't follow any of our requests, and broke a bunch of wine glasses I repeatedly asked them not to put in the dishwasher. My only post-natal breakdown was because of dealing with the two of them.

My FIL died in 2013, so now it's just my MIL, who is every bit as destructive and needy and unhelpful.


Vent: My MIL is planning on coming down when the baby is born and staying with us for a week. Because of the above background, DH isn't comfortable telling her no. He says she's afraid to stay in a hotel by herself. I've pointed out that although we have a guest room/nursery, we weren't really planning on using it as a guest room until the baby was a little older and sleeping through the night (so we can put the two kids together when we have company) and our house is small enough that she will be waking up every 2 hours when the baby wakes to feed. DH will be catering to her every need for the week she's there, which means he won't be available to help out with the baby (or me, or our kid). And DH is really really really upset he can only take off 2 weeks this time around (he took off 5 weeks with our son, but burned through all his vacation when his dad died and had to take 6 weeks to be with his family), so I pointed out this means he'll really only get 1 week home with the new baby. He agrees with all of this, but doesn't see a way out because he can't say "boo" to his mom.

TL/DR: My hateful, awful MIL is planning on staying with us for the first week of the new baby's life and DH doesn't want to say no because he's afraid of being more of a disappointment to her.

[bookninja]

My whine is that my ob keeps giving me side eye about my weight gain, and I have an appointment today, and I feel like a kid waiting in the hall for the principal to see them.

Not that I don't deserve it, I guess, since I started out so well at the start but the last few months have been... not so good. I'm at 24 weeks and 21 lbs up grand total, and on the heavy side to start with. I was up 7 lbs at my February appt, so I have been trying, cutting back (some, I could never claim sugar sainthood) on sweets, etc. then I got on the scales this AM, and have gained 2.5 lbs this week alone. Probably up 5 at least (especially since the scales at the Drs hate me) from last month. Definitely worse than I thought. Very frustrated right now, and also very hungry. <headdesk>.

I'm already at (weight wise) where I was hoping to be in June.

Okay, whine over, sorry, guys!

Edit: I also can't spell.