Long Rant. So hurt.

[mmheartspb]

Today we decided to go to Barnes and Noble for story time and the first time in a long time I was excluded from a group of woman. I I introduced myself and tried to include myself in their conversations but in the end I would get the smile and then everyone was gone in a tight circle of conversion with out me. I never felt like an outcast where I live until now. Even Starbucks can't fix my mood. I don't dress up, carry expensive bags, do my hair fancy, or put on make up. 1. I'm not comfortable in those things 2. I can spend my money on things for Olivia and 3. I would rather spend my time taking care of my daughter so I don't miss the cute stuff like random smiles then spending 30 mind on my hair. I'm just so upset that these ladies didn't even want to try and get to know me and my wonderful daughter. Kinda heart broken right now.

[peggels24]

I'm so sorry - that is just awful. I have no words to make it better but have ((hugs)) for you.

[taberbtb]

mmheartspb I am so sorry those women were cruel to you. Some people never outgrow their petty b*llshit high school clique mentality. You are a wonderful person and a great mom. Don't let them back you feel down about yourself for any reason, screw them.

[docamy]

I'm so sorry they made you feel like this!! Sounds like THEY aren't worth your time! I am the same as you and a lot of the time even go out without showering lol!! Wish I could have been there so we could have hung out. I believe you are a better mother than they are cause you are hung up on appearances! Keep your chin up and just keep doing what your doing. Try not to let them get you down!

[puglife5869]

That's horrible! I'm so sorry that happened to you. Some people never grow up.

[oldbaylover1024]

Hmmm... sounds to me like it's their loss. I'm sorry you had to deal with that today. {{hugs}}

[ClassyMrsA]

I'm so sorry they made you feel that way. Their loss. Who cares what you wear or even if your hair is clean. We're moms! Ain't nobody got time for that. What matters is that you are a great mom and a wonderful friend. Seriously. Screw them. I wish I was closer so we could go together.

[yummmy]

I agree with everyone above, definitely sounds like their loss. You are an amazing mom who wants to spend time with her daughter and wanted to bring her to story time and they just can't grow up enough to get over the high school mentality. Keep your chin up and enjoy spending time with your little girl. So sorry that those other mom's were such jerks.

[honeylemon]

Ugh. I hate when people act that way.

I always try to smile at and chat with moms at playgroup/library/wherever, especially the ones with tiny babies. It can be such a lonely and isolating time anyway, and to be treated that way is just hurtful.

Big hugs.

[doglover31]

So sorry that happened! You and your daughter are awesome, they are missing out!

[wifey]

I'm sorry you experienced that today. Women who behave that way are among the most insecure. Hugs!

[lilmizsunshine68]

I'm so sorry that happened I can easily relate to that. That's why I'm so shy. I am always afraid of getting snubbed and getting my feelings hurt that I never even try. I would have been so happy if someone came up to talk to me! I'll be your friend!

[scimomma]

I am so sorry to hear you went through this. I'd say they did you a favor in that your daughter won't be exposed to their mean spiritedness. But of course it doesn't help the sting right now, I know. They are little people with low self esteem. Don't let them take you with them. I have a bunch of clothes with holes that I conceal/repair to save money and I just started being able to put makeup on again because I have a few minutes in the morning. But the first year and a half not so much, so you are not alone. I only do it because it makes me feel better but I didn't care a bit for 18 months. If that makes a difference to these women then forget them. They are not worth your time.

[dragonfly1809]

That is terrible. I'm so sorry you were made to feel bad - that's just so shitty. I have to admit I really hate those groups, and they're found everywhere. Hopefully you can find a different group at another place.

I totally agree with your lifestyle - baby first, make the real stuff count. My hair is always a wreck, and I wear whatever is comfortable.

You're doing it all right. Please don't let them get to you.

Big creepy hug.

[mmheartspb]

Thank you ladies for all your support. I really needed it today. Hugs for you all. On Thursday I am going to another new mom group. I hope it turns out better.

[mmheartspb]

ClassyMrsA thank you hugs! I wish we lived closer too I don't know what I would do without your friendship... it means a lot to me.

[mmheartspb]

honeylemon that is definitely nice of you. Being a new mom is hard enough without having ppl be rude to you. Hugs

[mmheartspb]

lilmizsunshine68 I'm sorry you have experienced this! Hugs to you friend

[meagpt22]

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I got kicked out of my BMB FB group and not sure what I did or said to piss someone off and I was so upset and that's an Internet group. So can't image how upsetting that is to be excluded by people in real life. Big hugs to you!

[mmheartspb]

dragonfly1809 thank you for the reassurance hugs

[mmheartspb]

meagpt22 your screen name looks familiar. Are you a January 15 mom? I'm sorry *hugs*

[mommaashley12]

So sorry for the way you were treated. Like pp said its their loss! I hope you have a better time at the group on Thursday. Hugs!

[luciddreamer]

I'm sorry you were treated like that. Their loss. Some women never grow out of the mean girl phase.

[meagpt22]

mmheartspb no O14 mom

[mmheartspb]

meagpt22 that is really rude of them! I was asking bc J15 had two Facebook groups so I was going to add you to the second one of you were a J15 mom. Hugs to you!

[kels09]

That is just horrible. I'm so sorry you were treated so badly as others have said I'm sure it's their loss.

[meagpt22]

mmheartspb ahh thanks! Yeah so not sure why it happened but oh well. Some women are just childish and still in high school maturity!

[cgiles120812]

I'm sorry you were treated that way, their loss and they probably did you a favor. I know that can be hurtful to be excluded

[madameovary]

so rude.

[meladorie]

I'm sorry you felt excluded. It sounds like they weren't worth your time. I know that doesn't really take away the pain of being left out but just know that the women who took the time to get to know you (us!) think you're awesome.