It's Saturday. Post your random thoughts here.

[shehulk723]

I definitely wish DH and I had more 'us' time before we had a baby. We got married when I was 4 months pregnant and moved in together just 1 month before we were married. But for all we've been through in our first 7 months of marriage, I think we're doing a good job! It helps that my mom lives close by and always wants to spend time with Aylah so we get date nights almost every week now.

Today the three of us went for a walk by the ocean. It was beautiful out! And I received an unexpected royalties check from a writing gig I had years ago. It's not much, but it's buying our dinner tonight. I may have to start writing again. It'll be nice to have some residual income while at home with the baby.

And in the last 24 hours Aylah slept long enough for us to DTD twice! She usually wakes up just in time to ruin it.

All in all I'm having a pretty good day. Now I'm snuggling on the couch with a sleepy baby and sipping some coffee

[kml218]

I went to the dollar store to pick up some chocolate and trash bags and the lady in front of me yelled at the cashier for counting back her change!?! Wtf?! That's his job!!!
She told him that he was making her a target to be robbed because now everyone knows how much money she has. :::eye roll:::
Oh yes, me and the 90 year old guy with the cane behind me can't wait until you get outside so we can take your dollar and twenty cents! Omg people are so stupid!

[shehulk723]

Mar 7, 2015 17:38:21 GMT -5 @bkmama said:

Ps, why is my profile pic not showing up? I uploaded one..?

I had to upload it from my computer. The profile pic on the tapatalk app is separate from the profile pic for this forum.

[nemomof2]

Mar 7, 2015 15:15:31 GMT -5 llambrose said:

Mar 7, 2015 12:55:37 GMT -5 nemomof2 said:

I got to give major props to all of the STMs. DH has been working nights and I have been having to get both DD (2 yr) and LO ready for bed by myself and it is hard. Will it get easier once LO is a little older? He's 7 wks now. We haven't tried to put him on a schedule yet but he just wants to be getting ready for bed by 8 or 830. That is the same time that DD goes to bed, it's really hard to read to her while LO is crying to go to bed. I've tried waiting with DD but she is on such a routine too. I know most everybody loves the weekends but that is when DH works so I can't wait for the weekend to be over!

Ok I'm done whining.

This sounds like us! Adjusting to a 2nd baby has been really hard and my h works nights so I am always doing it alone. We have yet to get to bed before midnight. I am super nervous for when I go back to work.

It has been super hard. We have been talking about be just staying home. I have not gone back and was on bed rest for 2 months before. Part of me wants to go back but the other part has really enjoyed being home with my DD

[megpie5]

Mar 7, 2015 17:37:58 GMT -5 @bkmama said:

Charlotte has been so sleepy today that DH and I DTD 3x and I was able to pump, wash dishes, make dinner, take a shower and shave my legs, and still have time left over! Hopefully she sleeps tonight...

I was just about to post how Fiona has slept ALL day... she went to bed at 9pm last night and since 8am she has only been up for two hours, one this morning and one this afternoon, and it's now 630pm.  You were WAY more productive than me though.  We DTD 0 times since we don't have any lube and I'm afraid to attempt it for the first time without any.  I haven't showered or done dishes, but I did make lunch and dinner and have a nap so that's pretty good right?  I just said to DH it almost feels like we don't have a baby today.  I'm a little terrified of what this will mean for tonight though.

[llambrose]

Mar 7, 2015 18:21:45 GMT -5 nemomof2 said:

Mar 7, 2015 15:15:31 GMT -5 llambrose said:

This sounds like us! Adjusting to a 2nd baby has been really hard and my h works nights so I am always doing it alone. We have yet to get to bed before midnight. I am super nervous for when I go back to work.

It has been super hard. We have been talking about be just staying home. I have not gone back and was on bed rest for 2 months before. Part of me wants to go back but the other part has really enjoyed being home with my DD

I really wish I could stay home longer! I quit my old job when dd was born and stayed home for 2 years, I loved it! I miss it! I miss the time with her, the freedom from a schedule of my own so that I could do what worked best for her, the ability to take her to do things and visit out of town family. When she was 2 I started working 20 hours a week which was perfect. It was nice yo get away for a bit and for her to get to be around other kids at daycare but we still had plenty of flexibility and plenty of time at home. When she was 4, a job opened up related to the part time job and it was too good of an opportunity to not pursue it so I did. I really like my job and am really lucky to have it, it is flexible, pretty good fit with my personality, I have freedom to work independently, have a private office and make pretty decent money so I feel like I have to go back, it is too good to give up. Plus we rely on my income as I make more than my h. I am so sad about it though, I am going to miss out on so much time with him, it is going to be so hard. I feel really guilty like he is not getting his mama the way his sister did and it isn't fair. I am totally different when I am working, I have to think of myself a lot more than when I am home, I need sleep to function, I need time to get ready, downtime, etc. Plus I don't get home until around 7 PM so I only have about 2-3 hours to do dinner, baths, spend time with both kids and then start bedtime and I have to do it alone. It is going to SUCK! I know myself and I know that I am going to be miserable and very unhappy starting very soon. I know for the U.S. 12 weeks is a long maternity leave but it is not nearly long enough! I am dreading April.

[tomorrowisanotherday]

Mar 7, 2015 17:15:01 GMT -5 shehulk723 said:

I definitely wish DH and I had more 'us' time before we had a baby. We got married when I was 4 months pregnant and moved in together just 1 month before we were married. But for all we've been through in our first 7 months of marriage, I think we're doing a good job! It helps that my mom lives close by and always wants to spend time with Aylah so we get date nights almost every week now.

Today the three of us went for a walk by the ocean. It was beautiful out! And I received an unexpected royalties check from a writing gig I had years ago. It's not much, but it's buying our dinner tonight. I may have to start writing again. It'll be nice to have some residual income while at home with the baby.

And in the last 24 hours Aylah slept long enough for us to DTD twice! She usually wakes up just in time to ruin it.

All in all I'm having a pretty good day. Now I'm snuggling on the couch with a sleepy baby and sipping some coffee

This sounds kinda like me and DH. We started living together after dating for like two weeks though; I spent the night and never left lol Got pregnant the first time we weren't careful (drunken first vacation @ 4 months of dating) and we got married when I was 4 months pregnant! The crazy thing is that we are happy and wouldn't have it any other way!

[llambrose]

Today is the day of sleepy babies I guess! My lo even let me put him in the swing for 2 extended periods of time. I was able to shower, fold laundry, make dinner, eat dinner, hang out with dd, and watch a movie and two shows. Yay!

[funinthenorth]

Yup - another sleeper here today. I was worried about what tonight would bring but so far he's out. If I was smart I'd be asleep too - must get on that...

[nemomof2]

Mar 7, 2015 19:15:23 GMT -5 llambrose said:

Mar 7, 2015 18:21:45 GMT -5 nemomof2 said:

It has been super hard. We have been talking about be just staying home. I have not gone back and was on bed rest for 2 months before. Part of me wants to go back but the other part has really enjoyed being home with my DD

I really wish I could stay home longer! I quit my old job when dd was born and stayed home for 2 years, I loved it! I miss it! I miss the time with her, the freedom from a schedule of my own so that I could do what worked best for her, the ability to take her to do things and visit out of town family. When she was 2 I started working 20 hours a week which was perfect. It was nice yo get away for a bit and for her to get to be around other kids at daycare but we still had plenty of flexibility and plenty of time at home. When she was 4, a job opened up related to the part time job and it was too good of an opportunity to not pursue it so I did. I really like my job and am really lucky to have it, it is flexible, pretty good fit with my personality, I have freedom to work independently, have a private office and make pretty decent money so I feel like I have to go back, it is too good to give up. Plus we rely on my income as I make more than my h. I am so sad about it though, I am going to miss out on so much time with him, it is going to be so hard. I feel really guilty like he is not getting his mama the way his sister did and it isn't fair. I am totally different when I am working, I have to think of myself a lot more than when I am home, I need sleep to function, I need time to get ready, downtime, etc. Plus I don't get home until around 7 PM so I only have about 2-3 hours to do dinner, baths, spend time with both kids and then start bedtime and I have to do it alone. It is going to SUCK! I know myself and I know that I am going to be miserable and very unhappy starting very soon. I know for the U.S. 12 weeks is a long maternity leave but it is not nearly long enough! I am dreading April.

That is too bad, I think that you will find a great balance though and it will start to feel like your new normal.
I felt what you are feeling now but with my DD. I went back to work immediately and felt like I missed out on so much. Now that my H is making more then I did we feel like it could work, but I think I am going to miss the adult time.

[littleb92]

Mar 7, 2015 8:44:17 GMT -5 tomorrowisanotherday said:

Mar 7, 2015 8:41:42 GMT -5 littleb92 said:

We have our first big outing today, a baby shower 2 hoirs away. Let's see how L does with the travel and how I do with the feedings.

Good luck! I have gotten better at BF while out and about but we haven't tried being in the car that long yet. Let us know how it goes!

L was a superstar! Only issue was he peed through two outfits but he was great in the car and ay the shower. I think timing the feeding right before we left helped.

[raven]

Mar 8, 2015 5:13:09 GMT -5 littleb92 said:

Mar 7, 2015 8:44:17 GMT -5 tomorrowisanotherday said:

Good luck! I have gotten better at BF while out and about but we haven't tried being in the car that long yet. Let us know how it goes!

L was a superstar! Only issue was he peed through two outfits but he was great in the car and ay the shower. I think timing the feeding right before we left helped.

I time feedings to be right before big trips, either shopping or a longer car ride. It helps ease my mind to know she's been taken care of and she will always fall asleep in the car.