DH and I are on vacay, and met up with our wedding photographer and took baby pictures today to turn into a sex announcement (ha! that sounds really fun, doesn't it) once we find out what we're having in Feb I'm so excited to see how they turned out and even more excited to really feel like a mama!
Well, I will say I had to drag my DH out of the house kicking and screaming with a promise we'd go look around the Gun Store after we were done registering for some stuff. The Men I know just don't really care about looking at cute little bibs and diapers. I will say once we got to the hardcore "man stuff" like strollers did he actually start trying to put in input and not just say "get what you want" I realize that really isn't what you want to hear, but DH went to my Baby Shower, he was all about the full baby experience. Just spending hours upon hours in a baby store is boring to them. So take a deep breath and relax mama, it will all fall into place. As far as the smoking goes, well he needs to understand that there will be issues with the baby. Even though he doesn't do it in the house, smoke will linger. Trust me I smoked for eighteen years until the day I found out I was pregnant with DS. Quitting sucks ass. I recommend mabey he ask his doc about a perscription somewhere.
Sorry about the typos, I got a baby asleep on my arm...
Post by LydiaDeetz on Jan 19, 2015 18:30:54 GMT -5
Thank you @mrsgeyser, deep breaths have been taken. I hope your pictures turn out beautiful!
andindria TBH I wasn't looking forward to ogling bibs and breast pumps either, but like you mentioned, really wanted him to be there to test drive a stroller etc. I know we have plenty of time, I just like to get the things we can decided on. I like lists, and like crossing things off lists even more. He's ignoring me, which is why I came here for some perspective.
I got a new water bottle with a filter inside it because the water at my work tastes like metal. H said it looks like a tampon in my water bottle, so now every time I look at it that's what I see.
I feel very self conscious walking around with it and filling it up. At least my water tastes good now!
I feel your pain @wineandwater. It sucks so bad to see LO sick. Ds finally is getting better from the sickness he got last week. I hope LO gets better ASAP!
Oh Disney and your movies that leave a million questions!!! For example: Exactly HOW many servants could the Beast Possibly have to have every piece of silverware and napkin be alive? Did they turn the kingdom wino's into the wine? And finally: wtf did they do for furniture after they were all turned human again?
Gah, I wish we were getting an elective u/s! I am so impatient to find out the sex. Our anatomy scan is February 12th. A part of my would like to do the thing where they write it down and put it in an envelope and we could open it at dinner on Valentine's Day, but I don't see myself being able to wait the two days.
I'm struggling hard with this. Our anatomy scan won't be until like the 17th or 20th which is a month away! They scheduled my next appointment at 17 weeks, so they're making me wait till 21 or 22 weeks for my next appointment. Grrrr!
Me too. There's no way we can pay for a bonus u/s though. So I'll have to wait until the 23rd. 4 weeks and 6 days to go...
I am feeling that way as well lol. And I think it will be happening. I bring it up daily to DH. Patience is not one of my virtues.
Mine has been scheduled. It will be combined with my next appt at almost 20 weeks. Its scheduled for the 26th. I'm sure I'll be one of the last to find out besides those that are waiting. I would love to know now, but I've found with my other two pregnancies that once you find out the sex there isn't much going on until the baby gets here. The later you find out the less time you have in between that drags. JMO.
*** Please excuse the typos, my phone hates me***
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TTC #1 August 2014
1st Pregnancy September 2014 - Chemical Pregnancy
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Post by kissandglow on Jan 19, 2015 19:51:05 GMT -5
LydiaDeetz Guys are amazingly uncomplicated. My husband is the absolute kindest and most generous man, but when I got pregnant with our first, he just didn't react how I expected. I thought he'd be excited at every pregnancy nuance that came up and even more thrilled at the thought of a registry and nursery planning and all those fun things. Truth is, he really didn't "get it" until DD was about six months old. Sure he was loving and helpful, but the connection women have to their babies isn't an instant thing for men. They flat out have nothing to relate to...and even when she was born, sure he loved her, but it wasn't until she started recognizing him for real and responding for real that I got the reactions I expected to get a year earlier.
It can be frustrating, but don't let it be a wedge. They do eventually come around.
Help me check myself before I wreck myself: **You've been warned, this will be a long one
I don't even know where to start and I'm likely to drive this post all over the place, but here goes... DH and I are having a disagreement/fight. He works 6 days a week, 10-12 hour shifts with Sundays being his day off. I told him last week that we need to make some big decisions, as MIL is foaming at the mouth for registry info. I told him I wanted to hit up BRU and BBB this Sunday. He started off by semi-dragging his feet, saying that he wanted to watch the football games that were on. Ok, that's fine, so we agreed that he'd just stay up after his shift (he works 2nds) and we would get an early start so he could be home to watch, so my deadline was 3pm. Store hours are usually 10-5 on Sundays, and when 11:30 rolled around yesterday, I'm ready to, like, go. He climbs in bed with a snack (not good, since that means he's planning to sleep) and goes off on me for not getting 40 lbs of meat the day before. 1) He asked me to PRICE the meat (he makes homemade jerky and sells it at work). 2) IMO he doesn't have the fucking time on Sunday to get it sliced and marinated and lastly, 3) He's already wasted $200 of meat that went bad before he got around to prepping it. I didn't buy what we usually get, because I just knew he wouldn't get around to it anytime soon and our freezer is already full. I told him it was going to take a few hours, so he knew it wasn't going to be some in and out excursion. So, anyways I get ready and by this time it's 12. I asked him 3 times, 3 TIMES, if he was going and he said "yes," but never attempted to get up. Finally, 12:15 I tell him I'm leaving and storm walk out the door. He then texts me not to drive crazy, since I peeled out of the driveway and said that all of this was my doing and "Ur choice I told u I would go but for some reason u wanna act like a complete bitch to me." I think I'm at my witt's end. I'm not trying to complain about him, because he works incredibly hard so I don't have to, but come on. I asked for help deciding what route we want to take with cloth diapering, sent him links and videos that he didn't bother to read or watch. I'm feeling overwhelmed about all these decisions that need to be made and it doesn't seem to me like he's taking any of it seriously. This "bitch" is seriously tempted to just make all the decisions, by myself, and the next time he wants to go to an appointment or ask me anything baby related just tell him I'll do myself since he apparently already did his job. But then I feel like I am being a bitch and feel incredibly guilty about it, while at the same time so very mad. I've been having really uncomfortable heart palpitations, which I told him about, and all day yesterday, as I browsed ALONE, they were one right after the other. Needless to say, it was not the experience I envisioned registering for this baby. I know you single moms do it alone all the time and you deserve a medal for it, but I just didn't expect that I'd have to. He's been lying about smoking too. I smell it on him and in his clothes and today I found an ashtray in the garage full of butts. He denies it when I've confronted him about it before, but I'm not stupid. That doesn't necessarily have anything to do with this rant, but I just feel a lot of anger right now, which always turns into me feeling sad and guilty. We're supposed to go to Myrtle Beach this weekend to meet his parents, they've rented a condo for a couple months. I was really excited about going, but not anymore.
Please help me out of this funk and tell me how to get a grip.
I can totally see why you would be upset. It sounds like you wanted to feel a sense of partnership with him in making some decisions about stuff for the baby. He blew you off. That would definitely hurt my feelings. But I also have to say that if I worked 10-12 hour days 6 days a week I would be cranky and exhausted pretty much all of the time, and very unwilling to do things I didn't like to do on my one day off. Maybe there is some way to meet in the middle? What if you came up with a top 3 list of the bigger ticket items you want his input on and then he just has to go with you to look at those 3 instead of spending all day looking around? And I'm sorry you're dealing with a situation that is upsetting you so much.
DD and I are headed in to the city with friends today. Going to Georgetown Cupcake (sluuuuuuuurp!), Chinatown and lunch somewhere. Excited!
I love Georgetown Cupcake! I used to work right next to one and they would have a free secret cupcake of the day that they would announce on FB and twitter. Not sure if they still do that anymore, but it really didn't help when I was trying to lose weight for my wedding!
Yes, they still do! I was bummed because today's secret flavor was Mint Chocolate. I tried the new Smores cupcake and it was delish! I should have gotten 2.
I just went to my 2nd class of prenatal yoga at a studio I've never been to before...and my phone alarm went off in the middle of savasana! And I couldn't turn it off! It kept going off and going off and OMG it was like that being naked in front of the class dream, but it was happening in real life. I would have been less embarrassed if I'd let out a big fart.
I usually leave my phone in my car, but my entire purse got stolen from my car a couple of weeks ago and I'm very paranoid about leaving things in there right now. And I had the phone on silent, but since it was an alarm, it went off anyway. I took a quick nap last Mon and set the alarm and I guess I set it to repeat every Mon and didn't realize it.
I was already feeling self-conscious through the whole class because the all the other ladies there were beautiful and fit and all lululemon-ed out with huge planet-sized wedding rings and I was feeling all gross and dumpy. And then this. The worst thing at the worst time in yoga class.
I was in such distress when I left that I drove right past my house. And after I explained to MH, I sat in my dark bedroom for like 5 min fretting about it. They probably put a note on my account or something. "This chick is an asshole."
I know I'll get over it eventually, but OMG I have never been so embarrassed.
1) I go in for 1st Trimester Screening tomorrow and DH can't come with me. I'm anxious and I know the test basically only covers the trisomy spectrum of disorders...so I don't know if I want to also go back and do a CVS. I have a feeling that when I go to the DR they will be very reassuring that i'm young and healthy and have no scary family history, but at the same time, I don't want to NOT do the tests and then be surprised later with a child with a disorder. DH has been very adamant that he is not on board with a child having special needs.
2) Points for DH getting y'alls sense of humor. I was making fun of "that other place we shall not speak of" I mean our old board and the chinese gender chart basically saying that everyone who got KU during October who is 27 will have a girl. I said "Of course, it's a 50/50 chance" and without missing a beat he said "OR It could be a velociraptor!!!!" I died with laughter.
Post by wineandcake on Jan 19, 2015 20:51:04 GMT -5
Varicose veins suck. My vag is looking terrifying because of them. If they were on my legs, I wouldn't care - support hose would be my friend. They don't make special support underwear so I'm SOL until this baby comes. Ugh so gross and uncomfortable.
Post by wineandcake on Jan 19, 2015 21:23:48 GMT -5
ladyannibal I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I had a horrible period of ppd/ppa and never want to feel that way again. Are you taking any meds? Talk to your doctor either way and see if you can start something or increase a dose. Zoloft has made the biggest difference ever in my life, I don't know where I would be without it.
I am feeling that way as well lol. And I think it will be happening. I bring it up daily to DH. Patience is not one of my virtues.
Mine has been scheduled. It will be combined with my next appt at almost 20 weeks. Its scheduled for the 26th. I'm sure I'll be one of the last to find out besides those that are waiting. I would love to know now, but I've found with my other two pregnancies that once you find out the sex there isn't much going on until the baby gets here. The later you find out the less time you have in between that drags. JMO.
I haven't even had mine scheduled yet. Mine probably won't be until beginning of March. I think the next baby we have I might wait to find out what it is but this one, I can't wait lol.
I just went to my 2nd class of prenatal yoga at a studio I've never been to before...and my phone alarm went off in the middle of savasana! And I couldn't turn it off! It kept going off and going off and OMG it was like that being naked in front of the class dream, but it was happening in real life. I would have been less embarrassed if I'd let out a big fart.
I usually leave my phone in my car, but my entire purse got stolen from my car a couple of weeks ago and I'm very paranoid about leaving things in there right now. And I had the phone on silent, but since it was an alarm, it went off anyway. I took a quick nap last Mon and set the alarm and I guess I set it to repeat every Mon and didn't realize it.
I was already feeling self-conscious through the whole class because the all the other ladies there were beautiful and fit and all lululemon-ed out with huge planet-sized wedding rings and I was feeling all gross and dumpy. And then this. The worst thing at the worst time in yoga class.
I was in such distress when I left that I drove right past my house. And after I explained to MH, I sat in my dark bedroom for like 5 min fretting about it. They probably put a note on my account or something. "This chick is an asshole."
I know I'll get over it eventually, but OMG I have never been so embarrassed.
Ack, that sucks! I've so been there. I was in a meeting with several state legislators and had an alarm go off on mine, and then my phone froze and I had to pull the battery. I have never been so red in my life.
I just went to my 2nd class of prenatal yoga at a studio I've never been to before...and my phone alarm went off in the middle of savasana! And I couldn't turn it off! It kept going off and going off and OMG it was like that being naked in front of the class dream, but it was happening in real life. I would have been less embarrassed if I'd let out a big fart.
I usually leave my phone in my car, but my entire purse got stolen from my car a couple of weeks ago and I'm very paranoid about leaving things in there right now. And I had the phone on silent, but since it was an alarm, it went off anyway. I took a quick nap last Mon and set the alarm and I guess I set it to repeat every Mon and didn't realize it.
I was already feeling self-conscious through the whole class because the all the other ladies there were beautiful and fit and all lululemon-ed out with huge planet-sized wedding rings and I was feeling all gross and dumpy. And then this. The worst thing at the worst time in yoga class.
I was in such distress when I left that I drove right past my house. And after I explained to MH, I sat in my dark bedroom for like 5 min fretting about it. They probably put a note on my account or something. "This chick is an asshole."
I know I'll get over it eventually, but OMG I have never been so embarrassed.
Ack, that sucks! I've so been there. I was in a meeting with several state legislators and had an alarm go off on mine, and then my phone froze and I had to pull the battery. I have never been so red in my life.
Post by cgiles120812 on Jan 19, 2015 21:41:39 GMT -5
This is a little gross so fyi.
Taco bell gave me major gas and I just want to fart but it's just giving me strong stomach cramps dh was laughing about it and then he started getting it too lol
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